Scorpio needs help w/cap (little long sry)

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Scorpio88
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I met this capricorn (I'm a scorpio) about a year ago at my friend's house and we hit it off. Something happended so we never got to exchange numbers. So a couple weeks ago, our mutual friend came and I ended up getting his # from him. We've been talking ever since and he told me he has a girlfriend. I was bummed! I continued talking to him as just friends. I do like this guy though, and me being a scorpio I tend to fall too hard too fast. So I told him that I need to stop talking to him because someone will end up getting hurt...his gf or me. (and I'll be damned if it's me lol) He said that if I stop talking to him it'll kill him. He says I'm a good person, funny, smart, fun to be around. I've asked if he's happy with his girlfriend and he says yes. But he says he doesn't have fun with her. My friend and I met up with him one night and just talked. Later on that night he said he "felt the connection." I got freaked out because I don't want to hurt his gf.(his gf told me she's ok with it if we talk) The more we've been talking, he expects me to open up and I don't want to because he has a gf. And it's even been said that it's not like if he did have feelings for me, he'd break it off with his gf. He said, "You don't know that so yea" The other night I went to his work to hang out with him and we just listened to music and talked. He gave me hug when I left and then he admitted to having feelings for me that night. I know capricorns need security, but I don't want to have to wait for him. His girlfriend is all wrong for him too. He was filling me in on some stuff in which she didn't deserve a second chance, but he gave her one. He told his older brother about me and his brother wanted to talk to me. As time progresses our feelings for each other do too. I just don't know if I should stop talking to him, but I don't want to give him an ultimatim between his gf and me. I also don't know that he might end up breaking up with his gf. Is it too early to tell? I don' t know what to do. Any advice will help! Thanks!
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I have to agree with gingerscorp, emotional cheating seems epidemic and if he is emotionally cheating with you he will do it to you as he's now doing with her, most emotional cheaters will not leave there significant others no matter how bad there mate is behaving

unless your prepared to deal with the drama that comes with taking someone elses man/secretly being involved with him beyond friendship and not prepared to deal with it then I would personally if it were me back off

the girlfriend claws haven't came out just yet right now she's not being possessive because she most likely is confident about herself and him but if she figures things are getting way beyond friendship, slashed tires, name calling begins, friends take her side, you suddenly have no more mutual friends...can get nasty

you do realize your chasing someone elses boyfriend although not intentionally, karma will come back and bite you in the ass, if you have a smidgen of self respect you will back up and back off and find someone else to play with,

if he really feels deeply then much of those feelings will be the same when he becomes single, plus being the other woman, it's not realistic that what he's saying is completely true, the other woman always seems to get more than her fair share of ego stroking which is misleading.

I'm not saying he doesn't like you but you may just look like the better option because he's bored and sick of his girlfriend, being a scorpio you most likely oooze attraction which makes it hard for him to NOT be attracted to you yet it doesn't mean much of anything if he's still involved with his now girlfriend.
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I disagree with Gingerscorp. Most people at a young age don't know what they want in a relationship so finding Mr. or Miss right happens when you least expect it to. Yet he has to choose which girl he wants. Through your cards on the table and let him pick it up.

Now if you can't just be his friend without getting emotionally attached, then sister you got to leave or you will do some serious damaged that you will regret. If you can be his friend, STOP chasing after him and START looking for love somewhere else. Life is too short.

This guy must make up his mind and stop being such a pussy. Caps are fence sitters until we stand a chance to lose something. Your a scorpio, you have a magnetism that alot of guys will flock to. Flash your net out and see what you catch. The sea has plenty of fish.

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Posted by sagigoat
"Caps are fence sitters until we stand a chance to lose something"

bingo!!!

if you dare to drop us, we will understand and do what it takes to have you if we want you.

😉 On a totally different topic, my chickfriend invited me to her house. We were drinking and went out for Indian food. We have great chemistry as friends at times I a wonder why we never went out.

Again she is a fence sitter, but then again I don't mind. 🙂 I love my Cappy Chickfriend. Cappy girls are awesome!

BTW how are you sagigoat?
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I'm back and I'm here to disagree. It's what I'm good at.

I'd like to start by saying that it's really nice to hear about a scorpio squirming over a capricorn. Scorpios have a tendency to put people through drama and undue stress and with caps they finally meet their match. How does your own medicine taste? hmm?

I know what you want. You're a scorpio. You want him to fall madly in love with you, grab your face and stick his tongue down your throat and tell you how beautiful you are and how he can't stop thinking about you when he's with that stupid girlfriend of his who pales in comparison to your charm and sexiness. You want to be swept off your feet and make love for a few hours, then bang like beasts for a few more. You want to realize all that potential that your relationship could have if he would stop being so stupid and realize how wonderful you are. How could he not?

Therein lies the rub. I've said it a million times, specifically to scorpios: sometimes, it's not all about you. Yes, we caps do get stuck in the earthy mud and sit on the fence. I know caps that stay in abusive relationships (emotional, physical, whatever) because leaving said relationship can feel like absolute failure, one of our biggest pet peeves and worries.

He told you he has feelings for you. At the risk of a backlash, that's a big deal. He's not taking it lightly I'm sure and is probably thinking about it a lot. Will he leave the girlfriend, probably not. I'm sure whatever she did was horrible enough for anyone in their right mind to leave them, but we caps have the bad habit of coming up with our own logic to negate the problem at hand.

This is the only weapon against the infidelity that the commentary talked about: sure it sucks (especially for a scorp with their trust issues) to be with someone who left someone else for you, but you clearly stated that this chick totally sucks and isn't right for you. Women have a tendency to be extremely competitive when it is totally unnecessary, focus on the guy, not the other girl, we're all mammals here, get over it. Love is love. And there's nothing like it. Especially with this cap/scorp combo. It's fucking intense.

Just keep doing what you're not doing.
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Scorpio88
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thanks for all your comments!! i have told him that I ahve feelings for him more than a friendship and that it's not fair to his gf or me and the it's a good idea if we stop talking. he got offended or whatever by saying, "thats messed up tho" but o well shit happens lol If he wants me badly enough he'll do something about it. Otherwise, I'm moving on. There's more fishies in the sea lol
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Posted by Scorpio88
thanks for all your comments!! i have told him that I ahve feelings for him more than a friendship and that it's not fair to his gf or me and the it's a good idea if we stop talking. he got offended or whatever by saying, "thats messed up tho" but o well shit happens lol If he wants me badly enough he'll do something about it. Otherwise, I'm moving on. There's more fishies in the sea lol

Good for you Scorpio88! Let him squirm for awhile. Maybe next time he won't by such a tard!
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Posted by warholian
I know what you want. You're a scorpio. You want him to fall madly in love with you, grab your face and stick his tongue down your throat and tell you how beautiful you are and how he can't stop thinking about you when he's with that stupid girlfriend of his who pales in comparison to your charm and sexiness. You want to be swept off your feet and make love for a few hours, then bang like beasts for a few more. You want to realize all that potential that your relationship could have if he would stop being so stupid and realize how wonderful you are. How could he not?



Oh my God Warholian - either you're psychic or I just never realised what kind of basic Scorpio I am... this describes more accurately than I could have done, how I felt about my own Capricorn friend. Who, by the way, made me squirm like no man ever had, and after six months I walked away. No, he didn't come running after me, so it was the right decision. I'm definitely a Scorpio girl - I HATE having met my match!
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I haven't talked to him since that night. It's probably because his phone broke, but I'm glad. I've actually found someone better than him. I ran into a couple of my friends like a week ago and they said that he is a good guy, but when it come to girls, he'll do anything to get with him. But he never tried to get with me because I made it clear that I wasn't going to do anything because he has a girlfriend. I'm glad I got rid of him, but he was just so effin hott!!