Strange capricorn puzzle

Hi all,

I'd like to ask for a personal opinion on a veery strange capricorn I've been dating for 7 months now.

I am a Leo woman, 34, him Capricorn 46 born 22 December.

Since the begining we have rather strange relationship..if I can really call it that way..dating, hanging out. He's well traveled and there were many women in his past from various countries. He's very interested in European women...and that's what I am. Pretty, interesting, interesting and good style , well traveled...exotic for him. He is very good looking man (I really feel being lucky in this!!) with style I like, he's into music and bikes..just a perfect match on the outside. But...he's alao very strange (which I actually find attractive as well), he behaves strangely, awkward in many situations, have beautiful wild eyes, sometimes looking around as if he jist got ob this planet and I believe he might have a mix of some mental conditions...maybe Asperger's syndrome, maybe Autism, a bit of OCD..maybe. Anyway, he doesn't really show much his feelings..at least not the way I do it. Practically zero physical contact except when we have sex, no sweet words. I still can tell he cares about me though. He takes me out often, pays for me, once a while buys something practical for me (yes I do like practical presents, because he knows that I need exactly that thing at that moment), gives me advices on my career (because I am hopeless in this), he brings me medicine when I need it..

He said a few times (after I said that) that he likes me very much. But he also likes to use the words friends...no matter what happen to us, we will stay friends etc (also I need to mention we both are from different countries living in another one and don't feel the need to stay here or there forever).

I wanted to leave him many times, simply because he lied to me badly once or twice, because I'm scared he might leave this country or city one day soon anyway, but mostly because I don't get from him what I really need from a man but...yes I do have strong feelings for him, maybe we can find some compromise...

I iniciated an argument two days ago in the night when he didn't give me much attention (we see each other usually only in the weekend and so I wish he spends most of the time we are together exclusively with me), he said again something about us as friends, it ended badly and I left. I was hurt for a few reasons. And on the way home I texted him I loved him (for the first time I ever I said that to him)..and I thought it might be over between us. But he wanted to see me the next day (rather to get on sex we missed that night before...yes, sometimes I feel like it's rather about sex for him) and I agreed on coming over and then later in his bed before we had sex he asked me to not have anymore fights between us and ...he said he loved me. I got perplexed...and I'm not sure if I should believe him! Can he actually mean it? He is a big puzzle for me!

I feel like a teenager asking for help in this matter but I have never been with such a strange person.

Just go with it. It's okay that's he's eccentric if you both get along and are happy. Would you continue to date him if he has Asperger's syndrome?

Well I started getting used to his strange behaviour and I think I can deal with it, although it's hard sometimes. So it doesn't really matter to me what it is, if he would be diagnosed. It would be just better to have it clarified instead of just saying he's very weird 😉

Hhhmm Aspergers has some distinct symptoms. Quick search per mayoclinic shows this:

Behavioral: aggression, compulsive behavior, fidgeting, impulsivity, repetitive movements, social isolation, or persistent repetition of words or actions

Muscular: inability to combine muscle movements, poor coordination, or tic

Mood: anger, anxiety, or apprehension

Also common: depression, intense interest in a limited number of things, learning disability, nightmares, or sensitivity to sound

How many of those those and which ones does he have?

But regarding your relationship, he loves you and you love him so best step is communication. Express what you want from him in a confident and playful way without it seeming like a lecture. In general men need more encouragement to express their affections even more so cap men and even more so in your situation

ALL relationships take work and you have to decide if this one is worth the effort for you.

You know how some people say they married their best friend. I think that's what some guys look for first.

Thanks guys,

Regarding the Aspergers thing...it doesn't sound that much like him, also that's why I think it might be more conditions together or something completely different that I don't know...

He's very opiniated, judgmental, bossy, he knows better and likes to give advices, he's very organized and tidy and likes to let know others about it, he can be very impulsive and get easily angry for very little things, he needs to follow some patterns, he repeats himself a lot, even months later...saying thing I heard many times before. He's not very affectionate, he doesn't like much physical contact, often he has a problem to keep eye contact, often his eyes wonder around..

So far it sounds like...an asshole haha, but I'm sure there is more behind it.

So far it sounds like...an marker haha, but I'm sure there is more behind it.

I mean sounds like an asshole..ha, not a marker..??!!

Ahh haha...a*shole...mm this forum doesn't like swear words

If his behavior is odd but something you can live with, then do. It's not likely to change. My Aquarius man does similar things. Maybe your Cappy has some Aqua in him (mine has some Capricorn). We've been together a long time and while sometimes it's irritating, I know I do things that drive him up the wall too. It's all about acceptance on both sides, and if you have that, the nit-picky know it all stuff becomes kind of a funny thing instead of a reason to fight. Choose your battles wisely, and try not to let your ego get in the way of a good thing.