I'm a virgo female who's posted before about this Cap guy, how we met on social media, and live in different states. We hit it off instantly. Always talking on the phone, texting, and skyping for almost a yr and a half. So, recently we decided to have a compatability chart done.(his idea initially) We discussed the details ad nauseam. During which the topic of his aloof, hot/cold behavior came up, I told him that, I felt like I ruined the 'vibe' and 'connection' that was seemingly building by revealing that I was "feeling" him a little too soon. he was like: "No, you aren't to blame, it was all my fault." I responded with "Yeah, guess I just got a very wrong impression." It's been two weeks since that exchange (longest we haven't spoke)But we are still "friends" on social media and I've been noticing little subtle 'jabs' thrown my direction. It's really odd, since there wasn't any friction between us during that last convo. Even his post/updates have seemed a little 'out of character' lately. So it's like, WHERE is ALL this pseudo aggression coming from?!! Can any Cap guys (or women) shead some light on this bizzare behavior.
The f**k is wrong with this cap guy?!?!

What do you mean by this: by revealing that I was "feeling" him a little too soon. he was like: "No, you aren't to blame, it was all my fault." I responded with "Yeah, guess I just got a very wrong impression."

Dang, I didn't copy it all. That sentence, though.

He's running for the hills. Go chase him!!!
Posted by SureShotCap
He's running for the hills. Go chase him!!!
Maybe that's best
I don't get cap men at all. They're too confusing to waste time on. Leave him alone and let him come to you if interested.
Posted by ruffles
I don't get cap men at all. They're too confusing to waste time on. Leave him alone and let him come to you if interested.
In 100% agreement with that @ruffles. I've never seen so much ridiculousness and wishy washy behavior displayed in anyone till I met this cap. It all just seems so unnecessary! But unfortunately I can't seem to get him off my mind. Looking forward to the day I no longer anticipate contact with him.
Posted by truecap
What do you mean by this: by revealing that I was "feeling" him a little too soon. he was like: "No, you aren't to blame, it was all my fault." I responded with "Yeah, guess I just got a very wrong impression."
@truecap I confessed to him that I was really starting to like him. And told him, I felt as if it was a little too soon to disclose that. I brought up his hot/cold behavior saying that I felt like I ruined the 'vibe' that was building; he said "No, it was his fault." so I said "Yeah, guess I just got the wrong impression." Meaning that I once thought the feelings were mutual but, once he started behaving differently, I knew that wasn't the case.

Please explain your meaning to HOT/COLD...

You're reacting out of anger right now. It's possible those jabs are in your mind.
I feel some details aren't being disclosed here.
If someone is really "feeling" you on the vibe/connection..there isn't awkwardness when either one brings it up. It's more of a "fucking finally" happy vibe. It does depend on timing though.
You wanted to go with the flow then your feelings got involved so you panicked over the outcome.
"No, you aren't to blame, it was all my fault." I responded with "Yeah, guess I just got a very wrong impression."
^^this is typical earth-earth avoidance, dancing around the topic.
On the other hand his reaction was pretty lukewarm. If I was you I'd bring the topic up in a non aggressive, non panicky manner. Just honesty.
"Look I meant what I said, I do feel a connection with you and I'm unsure whether it's reciprocated. What say you, think we can pursue this? ๐"
I feel some details aren't being disclosed here.
If someone is really "feeling" you on the vibe/connection..there isn't awkwardness when either one brings it up. It's more of a "fucking finally" happy vibe. It does depend on timing though.
You wanted to go with the flow then your feelings got involved so you panicked over the outcome.
"No, you aren't to blame, it was all my fault." I responded with "Yeah, guess I just got a very wrong impression."
^^this is typical earth-earth avoidance, dancing around the topic.
On the other hand his reaction was pretty lukewarm. If I was you I'd bring the topic up in a non aggressive, non panicky manner. Just honesty.
"Look I meant what I said, I do feel a connection with you and I'm unsure whether it's reciprocated. What say you, think we can pursue this? ๐"

If you don't take any action and just keep on with the passive aggressiveness while he distances himself further..it will reach a stalemate soon. And then you'll be left wondering "what if?"
taking a chance > "what if?"
taking a chance > "what if?"
Posted by SureShotCap
Please explain your meaning to HOT/COLD...
At times he'll have me feeling like, there is DEFINITE potential for something to develop more seriously, He'll call, we text through out the day... He'll just be really sweet and endearing. THEN... in the blink of an eye, he'll act completely indifferent towards me! Lol...it's like, WTF just happened?!? There are times he comes off as so disinterest that, I have to question WHY do we even bother to stay in contact?!
Before you two actually meet in person, everything that you consider "connection" or chemistry or whatevver is of a very fragile and "make believe" nature, everything is about assumptions and ideas in your mind at this point, things you can only test the realness of by having good old fashioned personal interaction.
sounds like a nice way of telling you "NO"

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Before you two actually meet in person, everything that you consider "connection" or chemistry or whatevver is of a very fragile and "make believe" nature, everything is about assumptions and ideas in your mind at this point, things you can only test the realness of by having good old fashioned personal interaction.
THIS... big time.

Posted by liyahsavirgo83
I'm a virgo female who's posted before about this Cap guy, how we met on social media, and live in different states. We hit it off instantly. Always talking on the phone, texting, and skyping for almost a yr and a half. So, recently we decided to have a compatability chart done.(his idea initially) We discussed the details ad nauseam. During which the topic of his aloof, hot/cold behavior came up, I told him that, I felt like I ruined the 'vibe' and 'connection' that was seemingly building by revealing that I was "feeling" him a little too soon. he was like: "No, you aren't to blame, it was all my fault." I responded with "Yeah, guess I just got a very wrong impression." It's been two weeks since that exchange (longest we haven't spoke)But we are still "friends" on social media and I've been noticing little subtle 'jabs' thrown my direction. It's really odd, since there wasn't any friction between us during that last convo. Even his post/updates have seemed a little 'out of character' lately. So it's like, WHERE is ALL this pseudo aggression coming from?!! Can any Cap guys (or women) shead some light on this bizzare behavior.
When I first ready, "So, recently we decided...", I thought you were going to say, we MET! What's the point of a chart like that when YOU don't even really know this person in the flesh? Should you not try to meet after all this time?
Posted by gvccihvcci
sounds like a nice way of telling you "NO"
Telling me "NO" to what exactly?!...lol I mean, I've never asked this guy to be 'exclusive' we haven't even met in person!
Posted by FVME
Lol, does he have an aqua venus?
No, a cap venus with a virgo moon.
This sounds very similar with a story I had with a capricorn man, the same hot/cold acting that I definitely didn't get it and even if he said he likes me and complimented me, text me etc at time he would act as if he doesn't even care about me, be sarcastic and even mean.
After a last conversation that went very well imo and he acted sweet and caring, he just disappeared..
I asked him what happened and to be honest because I can understand and he knows I'm not a drama queen , I just wanted to know the big "why", but no answer...
This happened over a month ago and he didn't come back or said anything.
I think you should just move on and forget all about him, they definitely don't deserve it.
And it seems like this kind of story repeats over and over again with capricorn men, I even read about a woman who was married with one for a couple of decades and he left with no word.Damn, then I'm so glad this happened before we got into a relationship and suffer more, they seem to have issues and they're also very bad at communicating, that's not the type of man we should want in our lives.
Just let those capricorn men be miserable in their little world and pull the disappearaing/silence treatment/acting aloof with women with low self esteem that will tolerate them!
After a last conversation that went very well imo and he acted sweet and caring, he just disappeared..
I asked him what happened and to be honest because I can understand and he knows I'm not a drama queen , I just wanted to know the big "why", but no answer...
This happened over a month ago and he didn't come back or said anything.
I think you should just move on and forget all about him, they definitely don't deserve it.
And it seems like this kind of story repeats over and over again with capricorn men, I even read about a woman who was married with one for a couple of decades and he left with no word.Damn, then I'm so glad this happened before we got into a relationship and suffer more, they seem to have issues and they're also very bad at communicating, that's not the type of man we should want in our lives.
Just let those capricorn men be miserable in their little world and pull the disappearaing/silence treatment/acting aloof with women with low self esteem that will tolerate them!
Posted by Keyra
This sounds very similar with a story I had with a capricorn man, the same hot/cold acting that I definitely didn't get it and even if he said he likes me and complimented me, text me etc at time he would act as if he doesn't even care about me, be sarcastic and even mean.
After a last conversation that went very well imo and he acted sweet and caring, he just disappeared..
I asked him what happened and to be honest because I can understand and he knows I'm not a drama queen , I just wanted to know the big "why", but no answer...
This happened over a month ago and he didn't come back or said anything.
I think you should just move on and forget all about him, they definitely don't deserve it.
And it seems like this kind of story repeats over and over again with capricorn men, I even read about a woman who was married with one for a couple of decades and he left with no word.Damn, then I'm so glad this happened before we got into a relationship and suffer more, they seem to have issues and they're also very bad at communicating, that's not the type of man we should want in our lives.
Just let those capricorn men be miserable in their little world and pull the disappearaing/silence treatment/acting aloof with women with low self esteem that will tolerate them!
I couldn't agree with you more @Keyra!!! And thanks for sharing your story. I STILL haven't heard anything from him! But he continues to follow me on twitter and we're still 'friends' on Facebook. Just ignores me. smh, lol. Also, the subtle 'jabs' keep getting thrown.
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