Tolerating Human Weakness (Personality-wise)

Does tolerance for the stuff come with age?
How does one go about gaining more tolerance towards this?

I find myself struggling with this, I suppose either my personality or my Neptune aspects make me react adversely towards it.

Either I view the other person as a child throwing a tantrum and pretty much useless until they calm down and can be rational

OR

Help them in a detached fashion and keep things above surface and professional, then after I'm done, be curt and to the point in all further more interaction. Basically no SillyCappiness for them.

Posted by Koniucha
What do you consider a personality weakness?

Inability to handle a situation properly due to indignant attitude. Like say someone flips out and needs time to cool off, but instead of doing that or saying that, give in to triggers that makes them throw more tantrums or spazz out even more.

I understand as humans, we all have weakness, should perhaps I should re-phrase it by asking how to I tolerate people who don't know how to handle their own weakness?

Posted by SirHorns

Posted by Koniucha
What do you consider a personality weakness?

Inability to handle a situation properly due to indignant attitude. Like say someone flips out and needs time to cool off, but instead of doing that or saying that, give in to triggers that makes them throw more tantrums or spazz out even more.

I understand as humans, we all have weakness, should perhaps I should re-phrase it by asking how to I tolerate people who don't know how to handle their own weakness?

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Aries woman once exploded on me, I don't care if you're a fire sign, if you can't stop being all dramma in public you are weak and lost my respect.

I kinda get where you're coming from

It really depends. With age I have developed some tolerance of certain things, yet with other things I have zero tolerance.

For instance, with more life experience, I'm more able to understand some people's situation and can be a lot more tolerant with their frustrations, problems, etc. Take someone that got laid off and is working at half the pay they are used to bringing home and now they are struggling financially. They are trying to sell some things to get out from under payments, but are having a hard time finding a buyer...I an empathize with that and be extremely compassionate. I'll listen to them vent and try to be supportive to their situation.

However, at my age, I expect 40+ year old people to act like adults and take responsibility for their problems. Like debt mentioned above, for example. Someone whining about how they can't pay their bills, but they're buying designer clothes, or getting their nails done weekly, financing a new car every two years...I have no tolerance for listening to their whining because they are the ones who got themselves into the situation and aren't making efforts to fix it.

Not sure if that is the kind of thing you were talking about, but I just wanted to mention with age you probably do develop some tolerance in certain areas, but lose tolerance in other areas as your priorities and values change.

Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Have you guys ever considered others accept your ways too? Because, you know, Caps ain't perfect either.

Sure. No one said caps were easy. We're opinionated and rigid and non-emotional and "cold" in some people's eyes. There are a lot of people who don't want to tolerate us. It goes both ways.

People who show emotional distress lack understanding, feelings of acceptance/security or are poor communicators. Everyone at some point in life will show these symptoms, some way more than others. Capricorns DON'T show these actions in public unless because of a catastrophic event.

I see people with these issues as immature. These are baby tactics because it works for babies with these issues. To see adults act like babies shows they are not mature enough to handle their problems.

This is one reason people say that Capricorns are stubborn. We do not tolerate baby behavior, we DO NOT change our minds when adults act in this manner.


I assess the situation at hand in the following manners:

When people act this way I look for the meaning of this action. What do they want, even if it is not up to my standards, I understand everyone is different, so I try to understand. Most people with these issues want the same, to be heard, understood and accepted.

I still cannot tolerate know-it-alls and people that just don't care or don't listen to advice!!!

TrueCap and SureShot got it!
Also, Capricorns can be read as harsh when it comes to stuff because we're so firm with it and fully accept the consequences for our own words/views/actions. Where half-heartedness or hesitation would lessen the blow, our way of communication could be taken as an attack for someone jugular.

We know Caps aren't perfect (which is why Saturn gives us spankings all the time), but owning up to your weaknesses instead of being owned by them, I think if one could know how to due the former, they'd have a Cap's respect no matter what their status in life would be at the given moment.

Kudos to you, SureShotCap! Those are my thoughts exactly and couldn't have put it any better myself. I've been thinking about 'baby tactics' lately as my friend (Leo rising, Mars in cancer=super moody when upset) causes these types of scenes regularly when things are not going her way. I just instinctually ignore her behaviour then.

I do understand the stubborness part too, but then again I'm almost a hermit myself 😛 At times it's much more convenient to go solo than cater to every whim people pull out of their asses, just because "they feel that way".

Posted by champranger
I'm glad you try to understand, SureShotCap. 🙂 I see more and more of where people put high importance on the delivery and less on the intent of the person doing the communicating. 😢

Just so you and the rest of our readers understand my train of thinking.

Self-preservation is behavior that ensures the survival of an organism. It is almost universal among living organisms. Pain and fear are parts of this mechanism. Pain motivates the individual to withdraw from damaging situations, to protect a damaged body part while it heals, and to avoid similar experiences in the future.

You must evolve in response to avoid a damaging environment, if such an environment exists. Which it does! So you must have...

Self-control the ability to control oneself, in particular one's emotions and desires or the expression of them in one's behavior, especially in difficult situations.

in alliance with

Self-esteem confidence in one's own worth or abilities,
And
Self-respect pride and confidence in oneself; a feeling that one is behaving with honor and dignity.


They teach this in school, but Capricorns are born with these rules engraved in their souls!
On another note, they are also the foundation of a maturity and the standards of the Gentlemen...

I just try to accept people for who they are.
I try to be patient.

But there does come a time when I either walk away or say, "Get the bleep off your ass and do something about it." I just can't stand whiners and excuses. Don't expect me to enable you forever.