Update on Capricorn

So I was right... She did bring it up to my supervisor. Thank you guys for all your interest in resolving my situation- @perspicacity, @beowulf, @tiziani @truecap @inana @cluelesscancer and more.
Honestly I'm mostly disappointed in myself... I shouldn't have trusted her... Trust no one should really be the motto...
I just have to say that walking over people in the course of ambition will eventually backfire. But I know that most integral people know that.

What was said and who told you?

I'm sorry this happened to you. 😢

Im sorry, but I still don't understand, and it's maybe because a few details are missing for me.


I can't speak for every Capricorn or act like I know them all, but if she(Cap) was also being considered for the position, telling the supervisor something that was confided in her(Cap) seems like a dumb move, especially considering appearances and how it could possibly look to the supervisor that the Cap can't be trusted, even if it is good information. I know I personally would never take that type of risk, and unless the Cap and the supervisor are extremely close, I don't see why she would either.

Also, when we are sneaky, we are just that. Making it obvious that she was staying after to talk is like she never ever considered you a friend. Then who told you what was said in that private meeting? The supervisor? I'm not getting it, but if is true then..

If this Cap is a snake like that, then I don't see how her character was hidden to you or anyone else. That's a little too grimy for me, and I don't know any Caps like that but I guess they exist.

Good point Inana.

However, taking information that is dumped in your lap and using said information to build yourself up as the better candidate is not unethical. She wouldn't have to tell the manager what was said to her or who said it. She could keep the information private. Discovering the competition's weakness could enable her to promote her strengths as a counter measure in contrast to the opponents weaknesses.

As in:
Says to self: Opponent isn't comfortable doing this or this, but I have no problem with it.
Says to manager: "I'm the better candidate for this position because I have this ability."
(which the other doesn't).

Not unethical at all.

Management has most likely already identified strengths and weaknesses in each person they are considering for the position. It is likely that whatever the capricorn said had no weight in their selection.

Furthermore, you told cap that you probably wouldn't take the position anyway. That gave her your full permission to go after it. So loyalty, ethics, friendship shouldn't be questioned.

Lesson to OP: Never, ever, never admit your weaknesses to a co-worker. It can and will be used against you.

Keep your weaknesses to yourself and work privately and silently to improve upon them.

I don't really understand how you had trusted her as you know her since a little year. Even if she makes you a smile doesn't mean that she is a reliable trustworthy and full of good intentions person, after all we live in a world where people are more and more individualists 😢 ! Cappy or not.
Good luck, and beware !

Thats a good point too Truecap.

Im starting to wonder if the OP slightly sabotaged herself out of fear that the cap would be selected and now need someone to blame, or a reason why the Cap was or will be chosen instead of her.

Something just doesnt sit right.

Like maybe deep down she knew she couldn't do the job, was afraid to take on the responsibility (fear of failure) and let it "slip" to someone who would let it slip to the boss? Or knew deep in her heart the cap would get chosen instead, so know its a defense mechanism to place blame? It would definitely be a subconscious thing she might not be aware of.

?? shrugs

Basically what Inana said. 🙂