Advice from female caps pls

Why is it so hard for me to make female friends i try so hard to fit in and i still get a vibe like they dnt want me around them or they act funny?

tbh im not sure im real and im myself im not stuckup or prissy im dwn to earth sometimes i come off kinda mean looking in the face but idk im not a mean person at all

Posted by eight67530nine
Because you're really a man.

u can kiss my a** and i have a masculine trait the hell u expect aint nothing physically manly about me

Posted by caliber

Posted by highlyclassified
tbh im not sure im real and im myself im not stuckup or prissy im dwn to earth sometimes i come off kinda mean looking in the face but idk im not a mean person at all

haha mean looking in the face 😆 lemme guess... scorp rising? i read we apparently have "bitch face".

i have the friend issue.. but i also have some trust issues when it comes to women. so when they invite me in, i drift away because i feel like i'm going to get stabbed in the back eventually.

i dunno if i care to fix that issue honestly.

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lol scorp is somewhere in my chart my rising is aries or cap i forget

yea trust issues about being crossed i do i been burned my females before in the past so im cautious

I think the older we are, the harder it is to make friends.

For me, it's easier to volunteer or do some kind of "work" together. That throws you in a situation that keeps you busy, but allows for interaction - takes the focus off the having to make a friend aspect.

Perhaps at work invite some women in your proximity to go out for lunch.

Building friendships is a slow process for me. My two best friends I've known for 15 years and I have made friends with other women I met through them.

Tips:
Smile more.
Don't try too hard.
Be sweet, kind and thoughtful.
Find interesting tidbits to talk about - current news events, odd news feeds, etc.
Don't talk bad about people.
Be positive. Don't complain or be negative.

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Posted by truecap
I think the older we are, the harder it is to make friends.

For me, it's easier to volunteer or do some kind of "work" together. That throws you in a situation that keeps you busy, but allows for interaction - takes the focus off the having to make a friend aspect.

Perhaps at work invite some women in your proximity to go out for lunch.

Building friendships is a slow process for me. My two best friends I've known for 15 years and I have made friends with other women I met through them.

Tips:
Smile more.
Don't try too hard.
Be sweet, kind and thoughtful.
Find interesting tidbits to talk about - current news events, odd news feeds, etc.
Don't talk bad about people.
Be positive. Don't complain or be negative.

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ok ill try it

Posted by caliber

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Posted by eight67530nine
Because you're really a man.

u can kiss my a** and i have a masculine trait the hell u expect aint nothing physically manly about me

LOL!

highly, don't mind him. he's trying to rile you up.

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lol trust me i never take capinc serious .....besides @capinc u r a man women advice only lol

umm my communication style is more intellectual most people call me lame lol and most girls are girly stuck up or prissy thats not my thing im free spirited wild kinda (under influence only tho) and my demeanor is more tomboyish but i still get my hair and nails done i just hate dresses or skirts i only dress like that for certain occasions

Posted by caliber

Posted by highlyclassified
umm my communication style is more intellectual most people call me lame lol and most girls are girly stuck up or prissy thats not my thing im free spirited wild kinda (under influence only tho) and my demeanor is more tomboyish but i still get my hair and nails done i just hate dresses or skirts i only dress like that for certain occasions

you're just like me!! ^_^ i know exactly what you're going through then..

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lol now that i look at it no wonder

Posted by caliber
when was the last time you had a close friendship with a girl?

i'm wondering if you're like me.. my best friend (since we were 7) lives across the country and i only see her once a year.. talk to her every few months. other than that, the last time i had a reaalllyy close friendship with a female was YEARS ago.

i've had guy friends ever since and i guess i forgot how to act around girls? is it like that for you at all, or no?

last friendship was in 95 she stabbed me in my back so bad i started hanging around mainly men even as a child i had guy friends even a guy best friend so yea maybe i forget to be girly idk im just not an emotional overly makeup escessive take hrs to get ready type of chick lmao

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umm my communication style is more intellectual most people call me lame lol and most girls are girly stuck up or prissy thats not my thing im free spirited wild kinda (under influence only tho) and my demeanor is more tomboyish but i still get my hair and nails done i just hate dresses or skirts i only dress like that for certain occasions

so are those girls you are trying to get along, "girly stuck up or prissy" or are they mor ethe "intellectual and tomboyish" type?

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im not gonna lie girly prissy types i guess i wanted to hang out to study them understand what makes them so stuckup and how they interact so i could learn frm them

most females look at me like im crazy or something so it makes me wonder whats wrong with me or why they are looking at me that way

Posted by caliber
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yep... same here. i HATE going clothes shopping too.. haven't gone in an embarrassingly long time. i hate gossip, talking about trends or celebrities.. that kinda stuff bores me. i apparently don't know how to share with girls either, like tips n stuff. i hate telling people where i got something (probably more personal than anything).

i think stillwater is right... maybe the girls you're choosing are just not on your level. you have to find girls that are like you, with similar interests. we're few and far between though, sadly :/

lol i wished u lived in miami we would be good friends

Posted by stillwat3r
I don't think being girly or wearing excessive make up has anything to do with friendship style .

I've had girlfriends on both side of spectrum of "girliness".

I'm pretty girly in my appearance and enjoy mental stimulation as well. I don't think one has to negate the other.

It is a sad stereotype though.

ive had chicks of all kinds as friends its the maintaining the friendship i have issues with im very loyal will give u the coat off my back they r not ive even sacrificed my moods to do things i didnt wanna do to hang ou tjust to get outta the house soon as i have an idea its nothing they want to do i got sick of it i bottle alot in so when i finally voiced myself i guess it came out over the top

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Posted by caliber
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yep... same here. i HATE going clothes shopping too.. haven't gone in an embarrassingly long time. i hate gossip, talking about trends or celebrities.. that kinda stuff bores me. i apparently don't know how to share with girls either, like tips n stuff. i hate telling people where i got something (probably more personal than anything).

i think stillwater is right... maybe the girls you're choosing are just not on your level. you have to find girls that are like you, with similar interests. we're few and far between though, sadly :/

lol i wished u lived in miami we would be good friends

aww 🙂 agreed!

we can be long distance friends! lol

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sure u have my seal of approval

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umm my communication style is more intellectual most people call me lame lol and most girls are girly stuck up or prissy thats not my thing im free spirited wild kinda (under influence only tho) and my demeanor is more tomboyish but i still get my hair and nails done i just hate dresses or skirts i only dress like that for certain occasions

so are those girls you are trying to get along, "girly stuck up or prissy" or are they mor ethe "intellectual and tomboyish" type?

im not gonna lie girly prissy types i guess i wanted to hang out to study them understand what makes them so stuckup and how they interact so i could learn frm them

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Ask them where they get their hair done. Ask them where they bought their clothes. Ask for advice on where to go for a makeover or an outfit to where on a date, something like that. Maybe they will offer to go with you. Obviously this is something they like to do. People like people who let them talk about themselves.

*flashbacks from Clueless where they take the girl in and help her out*

Not saying you're like that girl or anything.

And find some girls who like to do what you like to do. 🙂

@trucap i hang with like two that does the same things i do but they work so much

I make friends the most when I don't give a damn and just be myself or when I actively seek others out for advice or help with something they know more about than I do.

A lot of caps don't make friends easily, because most of us are fairly quiet or shy. For that reason some people find it challenging to relate to us. But when we do make friends, we are one of the most loyal, trustworthy and reliable friends anyone could ask for. And for most that's what counts.

Well i have an idea on what to do now

Posted by CreativeCap
I make friends the most when I don't give a damn and just be myself or when I actively seek others out for advice or help with something they know more about than I do.

A lot of caps don't make friends easily, because most of us are fairly quiet or shy. For that reason some people find it challenging to relate to us. But when we do make friends, we are one of the most loyal, trustworthy and reliable friends anyone could ask for. And for most that's what counts.

those reasons an sometimes i tend to get funny looks to

It's in your nature. Caps (of both gender) remind me of the dark Archangel Azrael. They give off a cold vibe upon first meeting them. Few people get to see the more adventurous & incredibly humorous side of them. The females also have that stern stare ( Mrs Obama).