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Capricorn: Dark Sides
Understanding the Dark Sides of Capricorn
Capricorn's darker traits include stubbornness, excessive caution, and a tendency toward pessimism. They may also become overly controlling or secretive when stressed. Recognizing these tendencies helps in managing relationships and supporting their emotional well-being. Learning to communicate openly and giving them space can help navigate these challenging moments.
depression, destructive tendencies, tearing down to build up again, fear of abandonment, fear of being broke and or unable to take care of ourselves, over-work, unable to relax, fear of not being successful, anxiety, perfectionist tendencies, not feeling worthy of love. we need someone to give us a back rub and say baby, everything's gonna be ok, i got your back 😛
Dark side? What dark side?
It's not like Cap Men have a sadist mode or anything. Nope.
Won't see us tormenting our wannabe harems with our aloof indifference.
Crushing ad bankrupting everything in our way.
Humiliating anyone that dares stands against us.
Drinking the tears of our crushed foes.
Being a sociopathic success monster that unleashes their hatred on the world and through hardcore mating in their office and boardrooms. Nope.
...if you see him where leather pants and a silly tie, I'd run if I were you. Cause Goofycorn might get you.
Posted by CluelessCancer
Closet homosexuals.
Just because we make other me kneel before us, kiss and shine our shoes and address us as "Sir/Master/God" doesn't mean were in the closet.
We just like crushing their hopes, dreams, pride, dignity, self-respect and image like the cold hearted sadistic bastards we are (not). 😄
Posted by CluelessCancer
Closet homosexuals.
lmao wth ahah
Posted by KittenLaRouge
depression, destructive tendencies, tearing down to build up again, fear of abandonment, fear of being broke and or unable to take care of ourselves, over-work, unable to relax, fear of not being successful, anxiety, perfectionist tendencies, not feeling worthy of love. we need someone to give us a back rub and say baby, everything's gonna be ok, i got your back 😛
omg lol that's so very human of you guys 🙂 I think I can deal with that, so long as it's not an every day thing... or is it?
Posted by SirHorns
Dark side? What dark side?It's not like Cap Men have a sadist mode or anything. Nope.
Won't see us tormenting our wannabe harems with our aloof indifference.
Crushing ad bankrupting everything in our way.
Humiliating anyone that dares stands against us.
Drinking the tears of our crushed foes.
Being a sociopathic success monster that unleashes their hatred on the world and through hardcore mating in their office and boardrooms. Nope....if you see him where leather pants and a silly tie, I'd run if I were you. Cause Goofycorn might get you.
"Drinking the tears of our crushed foes?" lmao I enjoy your humor but wow ahaha will you share the cup of tears at least?
Posted by CluelessCancer
Closet homosexuals.Just because we make other me kneel before us, kiss and shine our shoes and address us as "Sir/Master/God" doesn't mean were in the closet.
We just like crushing their hopes, dreams, pride, dignity, self-respect and image like the cold hearted sadistic bastards we are (not). 😄
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lmao!! It's funny but I'm kinda scared now ahah
Posted by KittenLaRouge
depression, destructive tendencies, tearing down to build up again, fear of abandonment, fear of being broke and or unable to take care of ourselves, over-work, unable to relax, fear of not being successful, anxiety, perfectionist tendencies, not feeling worthy of love. we need someone to give us a back rub and say baby, everything's gonna be ok, i got your back 😛omg lol that's so very human of you guys 🙂 I think I can deal with that, so long as it's not an every day thing... or is it?
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OMG =noooooooo haha! we experience that over a lifetime!!! 😛
Control freaks
Cold, can appear heartless
The worst for other people to deal with is the times of depression. Because there is nothing other people can do about it and that mood really affects the people around them.
Coming of as cold and heartless is another one.
Posted by KittenLaRouge
depression, destructive tendencies, tearing down to build up again, fear of abandonment, fear of being broke and or unable to take care of ourselves, over-work, unable to relax, fear of not being successful, anxiety, perfectionist tendencies, not feeling worthy of love. we need someone to give us a back rub and say baby, everything's gonna be ok, i got your back 😛
Yep. But not many dare rubbing backs, do they?! It's hard to tear down the Stoic Wonderwall of a Capricorn and many just give up.
Posted by TigerCap
The worst for other people to deal with is the times of depression. Because there is nothing other people can do about it and that mood really affects the people around them.Coming of as cold and heartless is another one.
Do you guys mean to be cold and heartless? Or is it only during depressing times?
Posted by TigerCap
The worst for other people to deal with is the times of depression. Because there is nothing other people can do about it and that mood really affects the people around them.Coming of as cold and heartless is another one.
Do you guys mean to be cold and heartless? Or is it only during depressing times?
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I don't think we necessarily 'mean to', but we aren't the most empathetic of people -- especially if you've landed yourself in a compromising position due to your own stupidity.
Pessimism, realism taken too far, depression, we can have a very demented sense of humor, cold, some can appear cruel, kinkiness, negativity, overly ambitious, crushing others fingers as we climb the ladder, workaholics, nonemotional, brooding, nonexpressive, worry, fear of failure, etc.
I think the worse is the depression. When it hits me, I want to be alone, to waller in it. I can get very irritable during this time when someone interupts my thoughts. There is nothing anyone can do. It's nice to be checked on, though I may not answer, at least I know you tried. Sometimes humor helps but nothing can force it out of me. Taking me out and about won't work because I will make it clear I obviously don't want to be there (if I go at all). During this time, I will analyze it, figure out what set it off, think it over and come up with a plan. Once I have a plan, I will feel better and climb out of it. It could last an hour, a couple of days or a week. Climbing out can't be forced and it has to be on my own.
Most people don't understand it and why we get like that because caps usually have the suck it up, do what needs to be done, deal with it and keep moving mentality (but that's for other people. lol!). No really, we tell ourselves that too, but we have to make a plan to get out of it.
A variety of things can set it off and the severity and length of time depends on the situation. For instance, a slight by a friend could set it off but it won't last long. Losing our job would take a lot longer to climb out of it.
Posted by TigerCap
The worst for other people to deal with is the times of depression. Because there is nothing other people can do about it and that mood really affects the people around them.Coming of as cold and heartless is another one.
Do you guys mean to be cold and heartless? Or is it only during depressing times?
I don't think we necessarily 'mean to', but we aren't the most empathetic of people -- especially if you've landed yourself in a compromising position due to your own stupidity.
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Well, I mean it when someone asks for advice over and over on the same problem, and they haven't done anything I've told them to do to fix it, well, I'm done helping and offering advice. I will get impatient and irritable, eventually telling them point blank exactly what I think and that they're a screw up and why and how they screwed up.
It takes a lot, though.
But if they're trying to help themselves, I'll help them all day long until it takes to fix it. I'm not heartless, just get fed up with those that just want attention for their problems.
Posted by TigerCap
The worst for other people to deal with is the times of depression. Because there is nothing other people can do about it and that mood really affects the people around them.Coming of as cold and heartless is another one.
Do you guys mean to be cold and heartless? Or is it only during depressing times?
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We basically have a shut up, suck it up, deal with it, do what needs to be done and keep moving philosophy. We expect it of ourselves and we expect it from other people.
Like, people that just want to get attention from their problems, I have no patience for. Either do something about it or quit bitching. I'll help them make a plan to solve it, but if they don't follow through, I'm done listening. I'll be flat out honest about it too. Not at first, but eventually.
Posted by TigerCap
The worst for other people to deal with is the times of depression. Because there is nothing other people can do about it and that mood really affects the people around them.Coming of as cold and heartless is another one.
Do you guys mean to be cold and heartless? Or is it only during depressing times?
We basically have a shut up, suck it up, deal with it, do what needs to be done and keep moving philosophy. We expect it of ourselves and we expect it from other people.
Like, people that just want to get attention from their problems, I have no patience for. Either do something about it or quit bitching. I'll help them make a plan to solve it, but if they don't follow through, I'm done listening. I'll be flat out honest about it too. Not at first, but eventually.
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^^^this.
Also, I can be very black and white, matter of fact, and blunt about things.
Actions have consequences. So if you were In the wrong, I won't back you up. Too bad for you.
If I love you, I will tell you the blunt, honest truth. Sometimes you need to hear it.
If I don't, I will stay as far as I can from you. You will be left wondering why I'm not your friend anymore.
Posted by DarkFire
I think their dark side is more along the lines of you not being a good asset anymore. It could be depression, their own ambition to succeed, or simply the fact you suck. This is what makes them come off as cold or emotionless. Ice will thaw over time, even in a elusive hard headed sign like Capricorn. If you really matter to them, they will come back as their charming passionate self. Most likely with more money and power as well.
It is more of an internal process and has nothing to do with whether people are an asset to us. On if someone does something to us to knock us down, it could trigger it, but, still, it's internal because we're dealing with our own short comings.
^ Agreed!
My Cap tends to be gloomy alone and says it's not good for him to be left on his own for too long because he could easily become a recluse.
Posted by TigerCap
The worst for other people to deal with is the times of depression. Because there is nothing other people can do about it and that mood really affects the people around them.Coming of as cold and heartless is another one.
Do you guys mean to be cold and heartless? Or is it only during depressing times?
We basically have a shut up, suck it up, deal with it, do what needs to be done and keep moving philosophy. We expect it of ourselves and we expect it from other people.
Like, people that just want to get attention from their problems, I have no patience for. Either do something about it or quit bitching. I'll help them make a plan to solve it, but if they don't follow through, I'm done listening. I'll be flat out honest about it too. Not at first, but eventually.
^^^this.
Also, I can be very black and white, matter of fact, and blunt about things.
Actions have consequences. So if you were In the wrong, I won't back you up. Too bad for you.
If I love you, I will tell you the blunt, honest truth. Sometimes you need to hear it.
If I don't, I will stay as far as I can from you. You will be left wondering why I'm not your friend anymore.click to expand
^ True
Especially the actions have consequences part..you won't get backup.. Unless they are in on it with you 😉
Thanks everyone for sharing your dark secrets 🙂
It doesn't sound too bad, I think I can manage it lol I like to give plenty of space and I have a hard time talking about emotional things, I rather avoid it... I am also the type who would rather not talk about it, spend time thinking of a plan, then get over it... it's always short-lived though. So if a Capricorn just needs time to think to him or herself then I have no problem doing that 🙂
Also I love to give plenty of support but only when asked... I rather not probe or provoke, maybe I have my Aqua mars, Virgo moon, and Scorpio venus to thank for that 🙂
Posted by Sugarfoot
Are these bouts of depression common to all caps? Is there anyone here who doesn't go through this?
we do have that backwards aging going on.
Crying cause you can't work at 6.
Mid life crisis at 16.
I'd think a fiery Cap might be able to avoid that.
Posted by Sugarfoot
Are these bouts of depression common to all caps? Is there anyone here who doesn't go through this?we do have that backwards aging going on.
Crying cause you can't work at 6.
Mid life crisis at 16.I'd think a fiery Cap might be able to avoid that.
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I have a Moon in Aries ( as fiery as it gets )and even thought I've managed to control the bouts by not doing anything stupid, and reducing the time they last to an hour max, those bouts are just a part of who I am. It helps me see where I'm not being congruent, where others are taking advantage, and what needs to change. ALL CAPS GO THROUGH THIS. Its Fucken Saturn punching us down.
Posted by Sugarfoot
Are these bouts of depression common to all caps? Is there anyone here who doesn't go through this?we do have that backwards aging going on.
Crying cause you can't work at 6.
Mid life crisis at 16.I'd think a fiery Cap might be able to avoid that.
I have a Moon in Aries ( as fiery as it gets )and even thought I've managed to control the bouts by not doing anything stupid, and reducing the time they last to an hour max, those bouts are just a part of who I am. It helps me see where I'm not being congruent, where others are taking advantage, and what needs to change. ALL CAPS GO THROUGH THIS. Its Fucken Saturn punching us down.
Ok thanks. I asked because I've been with my bf for a year and I haven't ever noticed him get depressed or need space. He does have a gem moon and a sag mars which could account for that. He's also told me that when he was younger he would lock himself in his room and listen to sad music for days at a time. So maybe he's learned to shorten it like Lucriu said? A year isn't a very long time. Maybe this will only happen to him once every blue moon and I just haven't been around long enough yet.
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I didn't realize we had been dating for a year?
I have all the same placements. Is he a Sag Rising as well? LOL
Posted by CluelessCancer
As a Crab who generally has bouts of depression, what kills me about Caps is you don't do anything about your depression or your status, i've lived with a cap with pisces moon most of my life (my brother). I even researched and wrote up places he can get free therapy...and he just ignored it.anyways i heard st johns worts helps in improving your mood, i'm going to try and see what happens
That's probably more about the pisces moon.
Thank you everyone for letting us know 🙂
In my experience, the "dark side" is indeed real...It's when my Cap needs to be alone for a while to think. So far (10 months), it's been about a night or so that he needs to be on his own until he can get out of the funk. When other people are around he will act sulky, negative and take it out on them. Bad company, I don't think he can help it 😢 It's odd because when I get in a mood, I try to be nice to other people because I'm aware that I'm in a bad mood, and don't want to shit all over them. I guess Caps and Saggies are just different. Perhaps I should take a cue from you guys...and retreat to plan my course of action.
My Caps dark side is triggered by work stress and relationship doubts. In the future, I will try to make myself scarce in those times, and check in from afar to reassure him that it is OK. There really is nothing anyone can do.
I guess I'm always dark and brooding. My dark side is activated when I'm not secure financially, when I don't get a job that I want, when a female annoys me during my dark times, and when lazy people are more prosperous than me.
Posted by SunMoonStars
Thank you everyone for letting us know 🙂In my experience, the "dark side" is indeed real...It's when my Cap needs to be alone for a while to think. So far (10 months), it's been about a night or so that he needs to be on his own until he can get out of the funk. When other people are around he will act sulky, negative and take it out on them. Bad company, I don't think he can help it 😢 It's odd because when I get in a mood, I try to be nice to other people because I'm aware that I'm in a bad mood, and don't want to shit all over them. I guess Caps and Saggies are just different. Perhaps I should take a cue from you guys...and retreat to plan my course of action.
My Caps dark side is triggered by work stress and relationship doubts. In the future, I will try to make myself scarce in those times, and check in from afar to reassure him that it is OK. There really is nothing anyone can do.
I'm getting worried... a lot of Caps are saying they get depressed... it must be common as the flu... I don't ever know what to do in those situations... 0_0
^ There's not much you can do, just keep a full life and be patient if you want to make it work. Sad to say but I think you should find your emotional support elsewhere when he's in a dark place 😢
Starting to see why Cancer is Cap's opposite sign... They just don't wear their moodiness on their sleeve unless forced to be around people when what they want to do is take refuge for a while.
Posted by SunMoonStars
^ There's not much you can do, just keep a full life and be patient if you want to make it work. Sad to say but I think you should find your emotional support elsewhere when he's in a dark place 😢
Starting to see why Cancer is Cap's opposite sign... They just don't wear their moodiness on their sleeve unless forced to be around people when what they want to do is take refuge for a while.
Thank you for the heads up, I will take heed when the time arises. Ah! 0_0
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I keep hearing about the "dark sides" or "bad sides" of a Capricorn, but I know now that you guys can be very secretive.. tricky tricky lol
What are the dark sides of a Capricorn? We know the good sides, but I'm more interested in seeing what I'll be getting into. Is the other side so scary? And if so, what are ways to cope with it? How should your SO act when you're in visiting this "dark" place? Thank you!