What are they so afraid of?

Ok, I'm "flipping the script" a little here ... since this is a day where people's hearts seem the most vulnerable.

I am not trying to be mean. But seriously, capricorn men are not the only ones who have ever been hurt in love. We have ALL been disappointed and hurt in love. BOTH hearts should be considered, respected and treated with care, not just one person's. It's like the general concensus is that we must always consider HIS heart more than our own ... Now why is that again? Is his heart more fragile than ours? Do we not hurt and cry and get depressed too? We are trying to be understanding, yet we get "locked out" [thanks, CapGirl1225] b/c a)we may get emotional, b)we are afraid to get emotional b/c he won't listen or c) we act like everything is ok.

This is unacceptable. I'm sure there's more reasons, depending on the circumstances and relationship level. But in a nutshell, our hearts should be considered just as precious as he considers his. Just b/c he can come off as a hard-azz, doesn't mean we can or should.

I know it takes time to get to know these guys. But I am just so affected by what is happening to our "newbies" today...

There are some great topics on the board today, and I am not trying to take away from any of them by starting another one, but I just had to say something in defense of the women on this board whom I have grown quite fond of, yes, our new ladies too! I was new here once and I appreciate you all being here for me.

So, again, WELCOME!!! And HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!! You and your heart is SPECIAL HERE!!!

Amen Sister!!!

yes amen, enough is enough, i totally agree, we've all been hurt and i for one, want to stop letting these guys walk all over me and if all of us (and i mean all the women in the world) did it, there would be no women left for these guys. and welcome to the newbies also, i know for me this board has been a life saver/and great sounding board. thank you all you ladies, i think it's time we start loving ourselves as much as we feel they should love us

I agree APW....couldn't have said it better!

I think everyone is right... but what me must remember here is that everything happens for a reason EVERYTHING!! And HEARTS are just as special as his...but i feel as if maybe God has chosen strong women with strong hearts to help the men we are in love with!! God will never give you something you cannot handel 😉 and yes it sucks and yes its b/s but you know something.... LOVE IS NOT EASY!!he he just keep loving it does not even matter if you dont feel it back...


love always
Brandy

p.s I love you
happy Valentines day my valentines!! 🙂

I believe Cappy men are afraid of love and rejection, period. That's how I see it.
And I've done "flipping the script" and it's actually working. He calls me everday now and initating plans to go out. Alot of change when you act as if you're busy with a life, :o)

LeoAw/Cap

I am usually afraid of Leo women (my mother is one) but you sound wonderful! I love, love, love your talk with your cappy! It sounds like my life, I talk, he agrees, or blinks....I will tell you sister this man can express himself though touch though, he holds me and touches me with such tenderness and love it BLOWS my mind...he touches me and I instantly forget all...
happy vday Leo lady! keep up the good work

WTML,

Thanks! To be completely honest with you, I am not a fan of Leos at all. I have yet to meet a Leo that I like. I think what balances me out is the whole moon in Cancer bit. :-)

I feel you on the Cappie affection. It can be a beautiful thing.

Well, since we are talking about Leos ... my first love was a Leo -- not the jerk who used to pick petty arguments w/me[mentioned on another thread] -- he [my first love] was Leo/cusp Virgo. WhattaMan, whattaMan, whattaMan, whatta mighty good man, yes he is! (sings Salt-n-Pepa)

What is "flip the script"—...Newbie...

On this thread, I'm using "flip the script" to change direction, or perspective of an issue. In general it may several meanings. To name a few:

.Do unto THEM as they DO unto you (Give them a dose of their own medicine)
.Change your mind with the intent of changing your direction.

Someone else on this board explained it well, but I don't remember the post.

That was me. I have been dealing with Caps for a very long time and my closet friends have Cap husbands of almost 20 years, So they tell me all the time how to handle thses knuckleheads. I have a band member who is a Cap (47) and he talks to me all the time about why he is like he is.

Please flip the script on them. It works!! Ladies I can't tell you how IMPORTANT it is to be strong with Caps. But you see, I have gotten TOO strong for these men and the old ones can't handle the new and improved ME, so they get frustrasted and run. I DON"T CARE, let em do what the heck they feel they need to do.

CONFIDENCE is key with Caps. If they threaten to walk out the door, SO WHAT tell em to go ahead. I'll bet ALL THE MONEY IN MY BANK ACCOUNT THEY WILL BE BACK. I know from experience. So the more cocky you are with them, the more they have to step up on there game and then after a while it becomes routine and boring. Then you can call him every name in the book!!! LOOOOLLLL!!!

I'm not saying I'm an expert, but I know enough to call these fools out. For some reason they are just receptive to me. I HATE CAPS! Why can't I find a nice Gemini or Sexy Sag. Or better yet a Cap who is sincere and honest and THAT HASN'T BEEN FREAKIN ABUSED!!

Peace

Correction "the more cocky you are with them the better"

Good afternoon ladies I hope today was a good day for you

I just like to say a few things:

PF- I used the pharse Flip the script. I have been trying to tell yall that for a while know. I am glad a lot of you know that now.

My meaning was if he is expecting you to call all the time flip the script and don't call, to me it was any and all things that I used to do I basically STOP.

taurus36- I see you are training your Cap men well,LOL when I read all the info you gave about how to handle them and I was doing a lot of them it made me feel good. I have a confidant that has helped me along the way a lot.

And I would actually date another Cappy just for the fun of making them sweet. (I LOVE IT, because I can be very vindictive and again to have this much information about those type of men and the women who allow them to disrepect them makes me SICK.


Mcshaker- I am really sorry you lost your job I pray that you find a new one real soon. I am happy that you see the light about Cappy's know. KEEP THAT LIGHT ON

MyCap- Please leave him alone, no offense but he has done enough damage to you. And I am glad you see that. You need to Flip the Scrip BIG TIME.

GEG - You are a beautiful women..Please don't sweat over that man I am quite sure you have other men who want you, go get them it is OK, it just might help you get your mind off him just remember if he calls DON'T Answer flip the script

Shaie- Good for you, I am glad you are happy know, don't change

Well ladies if I mised anyone, my prayers are with you I wish you all the blessings that you can carry.

WTML - I wish you all the best with your Cappy I know you have enough information to be able to handle him if he decides he needs some space and time alone.

Ladies continue to be strong because strength comes from within and had it not been for the strength in me to say F this man, flip the script and move on I would have been a basket case right know.

Thanks for your support and encouragement.

Have a nice day

thank you SL~ I hope all is well with you sweetie and and then you return we have moved into capgirls~ come here first section!!


lots of love to you!!

love, GEG

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