why are cap men poofing—?

My cap tells me he loves me alot.We,ve been together 9 mos. long distance right now. He talks about marriage alot, I don't say much about it. I let him bring it up and I just smile. We see eachother often, we cuddle,cook together, great sex, we laugh alot, etc. but he has a problem with poofing and that's when I start to wonder what's up with him or is it me? I give him space, i don't blow his phone up, nor do I argue alot. I'm just cool over half the time. Everything will be fine and then POOF. He gets quiet. It makes me mad cause I have no idea what's up with him. He says he gets depressed but I don't understand how he can go days without hearing my voice and not call.What's wrong with cap men and disappearing and coming back like "HEY BABY" I broke up with him and he came running hard!! Why do u guys do that?

Hey gem6/11;
Nine times out of 10 it has nothing to do with you. I'm not a Cappy male, but I am a Cappy female and I can kind of relate. Us Cappies, as you will read on many other posts on this board, tend to go into "brooding" moods where we would rather be alone. We tend to need our space sometimes to purge, get over or rationalize something to ourselves, or to just BE ALONE. We can come across as moody, and at times we don't necessarily like to show it to our loved ones, so we'd rather go off and deal with our emotions by ourselves. Although we are grounded on the outside (earth sign)...we are water on the inside (emotions) and we don't show this to many people, if at all.
Some Cappies tend to lean more towards depressive moods if they don't control it, which seems to be the case at times with your Cap. Try and be understanding of his space when he gets this way, although I know it's easier said than done. I think it helps a heck of alot to be w/ someone who can understand these moods...
Try not to take it personal. Hang in there!

Some Cappies tend to lean more towards depressive moods if they don't control it, which seems to be the case at times with your Cap. Try and be understanding of his space when he gets this way, although I know it's easier said than done.

Yes we cappies can go through some really harsh moods, it has nothing to do with the people they love and care about but it's really more of our defense mechnisms going into over drive. Contrary to popular belief, we cannot be strong all the time.

Give him some space gem6 🙂 or if it doesn't seem that he coming out of it, be there for him the best way you can. It makes a cappy feel better when some they value is right there with them and willing to assist 🙂

It makes a cappy feel better when some they value is right there with them and willing to assist 🙂

I agree!! 🙂

okay that makes since but when is he gonna ever think about what it's doing to our relationship? Being silent and disappearing makes people think they don't care at all. It's like it's there way or no way at all. I won't call him because the last time we talked it was nothing but I love u's. And now............quiet as a mouse, almost as if he doesn't know me. When he's with his family he really gets quiet! He could atleast text and say "baby I'm okay, just got alot on my mind". It's hard to let my love for him grow because I am afraid that one day he might reappear. He is soooo sweet and hugs and kisses me so much when we're together. It's almost like he stays away on purpose to get over me cause when we are together he is soooo mushy and sensitive. Will a Cap stayy from a love to protect themselves and risk the relationship?

How is he risking the relationship just because he doesn't feel like expressing himself at the moment ?

That shouldn't be cause to end a relationship just because the doesn't want to talk to you right now. Chill out

Disappearing on someone who loves you is mighty cold and it breaks the love down. When do they realize that, or do they ever? Everyone has problems with these men. My cap begged for this relationship and now he is acting like he forgot that he wanted it and made it happen

Hey, I disappear too ...

The Dreaded Cappy Disappearing Act

As long as he keeps some form of communication, it should all be .... well. nevermind. It's hurting you so there a problem regardless of the motives.

cappysweetie, what about plain ole' respect. I never know what's wrong, is he dead or alive? I worry about him, not just our relationship. It's just rude to do it all the time with no warning. I wonder if caps could handle it if others did them that way. But I will chill out, thanks

Hahaha, in all honest .... no we can't 🙂 You are absoluately right, we cannot take our own medicine.

Yes, this is a problem and you should speak with him next time you are alone together. If he loves you then he will compromise 🙂

Lol..You tell them Gem!..

Well, there's a difference between cappy women and men. Cappy women concern their partners feelings ... the cappy men don't, I've gone out with them too, so I know 😢

my mom is a cap and I feel the same way about her. She is cold most of the time but she show other people so much love. But when I say" ma, u act like you don't really care about me" she gets upset and think about it. Then she buys me something or fix me dinner. But after that she's a stick in the mudd again. She makes me mad alot but I can't stay away from her at all. She's just like him. I know they both love me but they don't know how to express it.

Well if cap men are not really concerned why do they want relationships? OH it's so weird and I feel sorry for them cause they will miss out on a wonderful life with someone

Gem~~ they seem to do this... come after you in the beginning in full pursuit and then it changes... I won't try to psycho-analyze it but it's exhausting chasing them around. I refuse to have to consistently put in 2,3,4 calls to get a response. You're right- they will miss out time and time again on great women, because I believe this is how they act in general, no matter the woman, after the initial courting stage has passed. They're into work/career - what they do best- and aren't good at maintaining an intimate relationship.

Ha so what i am spoiled! I know how to act and I am not a brat, I just want some respect. I understand him over half of the time, my only problem is him poofing. Like I said I give him space and I give him respect, I love him but I love me too. I have faults and he gets on me too. I was just asking those who understand me, not you SB. If I didn't want to understand I wouldn't be up her talkin about it. Oh and if they didn't spoil me I would not be spoiled. Being spoiled is not bad. It fun, oh SB nobody spoils you? Thanks for the advice capgirl

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What the heck is going on here?? SB... you know these guys are the worst communicators and that it's frustrating! It's alot easier to deal w/ and relate to someone who is open and available to communication and who is responsive, than it is to try to understand an iceberg or a rock!

SB have you ever dated a cap man, and if so did he poof on you?

I'm not up here attacking caps.

SB, something strange is going on with you today... It's just a sunsign for goshsake; it's not like someone is knocking an ethnic origin, religion or something more personal. Capricorns are a pain in the ass! I can't stand myself half the time- and hide out, hole away and don't return calls to family and friends. I don't blame others for getting fed up w/ us.

I don't necessarily think that a Cap man is going to miss out on a good woman. I think the woman that's meant for them will end up with them because she'll have the qualities necessary to stick it through the tough parts. If a woman can't deal with that type of man, then she can find another one that comes with another set of flaws. :-)

You Caps are definitely frustrating people but there's something quite endearing about the lot of you. As mad as you can get with one, the fact is...you can always rely on a Cap to help you through your toughest times and to be your soundboard for logical advice.

The men can be frustrating but what man isn't, right? Haha. Gem, you have a guy that obviously digs you and just because he poofs for a few days...well, you'd have the lot of us laughing with that timeframe. You have it good. 😄

He probably feels the same about me. I know I get on his nerves. I was just telling yall about what's going on because other caps give good advice. SB if you read at the beginning I said me and my cap enjoy eachother and I said I love and care for him. I just have a problem with poofing. I understand that you don't understand me, but I do want to understand my man. In order to get advice you gotta say what is up. I didn't mean to get you all bothered SB. have a nice day

What is your deeeaaal— Some has got you on a tirade, and it didn't start here! I have self-respect! Just because I choose to talk about stuff and hash it over on here doesn't mean I don't have selfrespect. Some prefer to do it that way, rather than denying the existence of feelings and anguish.

I don't know who bashed you SB but it wasn't me. I didn't think anyone would take it personal. I was talkin about my mom and my man but not in a bashing way. They are very fun and loving people. I just noticed that my man is like my mom in alot of ways.But I love them so what's the big deal. Just wanted some advice

you are one bossy cap for sure

pms?

hehehe...he has a poofing problem

It's okay. regardless of the sign, we are all people who act the same in many ways.It's just that people don't understand eachother clearly and this is what happens. You get on the boards and talk to people and hope they give good advice.

Thanks

you are right

Whew- has the firing stopped? TGWC?

SB- come on- what's w/ the gemini-hating?!? LOL I am no "above" any other caps. here! I just have more well-rounded perspective bc. I know that I am not ALL Cap. and know my natal chart. There's other stuff going on and it's more complex than the sun sign. And I'm getting into vedic astrology too! 😉

Branh..,. are YOU in there?? Let SB come back please! Do we need an exorcism??

SB, lighten up. What can I do to make you laugh?

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Okay- and that didn't work at all... as far as configuration...

Hey sb! I'm your ally girl 😉 I was just working ... still am actually ....

Don't worry, I got ya covered, let me at em! GRRRRRRRRR!!!!!

LOL!!! It been proven, if there's anything a December born cappy can't stand, it's someone who is condescending. Who was the accused sb ?

HI DB, how are you ———??

You didn't get a chance to put in that box and ship me to that special location LOL!!!

😛 @ DB

*** gasps ***

*** cappy will not comment ***

Yes, DB you must go home and unwind 😉 Afterwards, come back ... sb and I will be waiting 😄

SB- are you a December Cap- 1st decan? What are you Csweetie? I'm 1/5 - I think that was 2nd decan (the best). LOL 😛

I am ......... 1st Decan 😉 😉 😉

Ah... so I am of another faction.... what are you all again, the mercury decan? Or isn't that the 3rd decan? I'm venus, I know that and I like it!!! 🙂 Maybe that's why I'm such a love focused Cap...?? LOL

Oh... the big heavy... iron fist... LOL LOL

YEPPERS, the "take no shyt and no frills" cappies 😄 However, deep inside we believe *** how does that song go sb 🙂 ***

"OOOOOOOOOOOHHHH LOOOOOOVVVVVE ))))Never knew what I was missing but I know once we start kissing I foooooooooounnnnd .... LOOOOOOOVVVE!

"Never knew what I was missing but I know once we start kissing I fooooooounnnnd .... I found yooooouuuuu"

"Now your gone, what am I gonna do. Soooooo deep in my hurt and in my soul ... can't go on. Go on without yoooouuu, my rainy days fade away when you come around please tell me baby ... why you do so far awaaaaaaaaaaay ...."

"Why you go? LOOOOOOOVVVVE )))))... Never knew what I was missing but I know once we start kissing I fooooooounnnnd .... I found yooooouuuuu"

"Who would've known ... I find you .... oooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhh ...." 😉

LOL, tell me a cappy didn't write such a song 😄