Why do Capricorn's leave you, even if they like yo

Hello,

I was dating a Capricorn man for 2 months, and I really fell for him, maybe I showed him that too much, but I thought that is what they like to be sure that you do like him. I did not do anything wrong to the Capricorn man- I mean there was no argument between us, and he broke up with me without saying anything. I called him to see how is he doing he did not answer. I am not sure what to do now, should I just move on, or should I give him time? I don't want him to think that I do want to move on, but also I don't want to be a doormat. Do Capricorn man break up with a reason, or do they run away if they are unsure of the relationship? Everything was fine, and then he stopped talking to me. I am so confused. I am not sure if this is astrology related at all, but I am just hurt by his actions and how he treated me,,, I would like to have an explanation but he is not giving me one. I am so confused and hurt, I even told him that I am not up for games, and he reassured me that he is not playing. I mean we are 30 years of age, I don't understand this high school attitude.

Thank you for your help!

AquaaGirl

There does not have to be an argument, or big blow up, or anything really wrong with you for a Capricorn to leave. I have left people without any kind of dramatics or fight happening. It's just that as soon as I figure out the person is not right for me, I figure, why bother? I do not like confrontation, so I will make up an excuse that has nothing to do with the person- not the right time, etc. I cannot fake it if I don't see a relationship going somewhere.

It could be any number of things he noticed about you or the relationship that made him feel that way. But, it is definitely not for no reason, he just didn't share his reasons with you, because he probably didn't want to get into it with you.

^^^^^ agreed. there is definitely a reason and he was probably thinking about it for a long time. if you want to find out you must reach out to him because he probably wont.

In my younger days, I have been known to disappear. It's hard to talk about our feelings and it's hard to tell someone why you don't like them. I don't like to hurt people's feelings. With age, I've learned its better to tell them so they know and it's cruel to just disappear.

What makes me to this with someone now is if I've tried to explain why I'm breaking up and they are not hearing me or refuse to accept the reason. It happened with a cancer guy. He just wouldn't listen and kept arguing with me about staying together, but my mind was made up and I ended up ignoring him.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I suppose he is just hoping you'll get the hint.

The reasons I would break up with someone is if I didn't see the relationship going anywhere, I felt smothered, I felt like I had to answer for everything I did, I felt like he wasn't the person I thought he was, he irritated me in too many ways, or a number of things.

Believe me, I'd consider it a long time before I actually broke up, but there would be no changing it once the decision was made. I don't like to hurt people's feelings. I don't like confrontation and if I thought they would be too emotional or pissed or start crying, I might have to lie about the reason (or in my youth, I'd avoid it altogether and just disappear).

Posted by truecap
With age, I've learned its better to tell them so they know and it's cruel to just disappear.

+100 to you for realizing this. With age comes wisdom, through experience, when we're willing to listen to it.

I went on a date with a Cap Sun and things went exceptional; the next day he texted me his E-mail. I E-mailed him a pic from that day and never heard from him again. All the overly analytical parts of me kept thinking I must have done something wrong. Maybe an ex got back with him. Maybe he was even HURT! Never found out. Had he said something, I'd have been able to let go much more easily and quickly.

Posted by truecap
I don't like to hurt people's feelings. I don't like confrontation and if I thought they would be too emotional or pissed or start crying, I might have to lie about the reason (or in my youth, I'd avoid it altogether and just disappear).

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Next guy I met and liked had Cap Moon. Synchronicity, anyone? We dated for over a month and he was already talking marriage, which worried me some. I liked him A LOT, though. Then he decided I was the wrong image for him, and when he decided to leave me, it was through text. *Cluck*! There was at least the reasons given, though, which was nice. But alluding to you above, he couldn't handle confrontation at all.

We're still young, though, in Cap terms. Both may wisen (and become stronger) with age. ^_^

Thank you for all of your comments. 🙂 I am confused because we just saw each other last weekend, and everything was great,,therefore I am not sure why would he decide to leave me. I am not sure did this got too serious too soon for him and he is running away, or what happened. I am not thinking about taking him back, I am moving on, but I would like to know "WHY"??

Posted by AquaaGirl
Thank you for all of your comments. 🙂 I am confused because we just saw each other last weekend, and everything was great,,therefore I am not sure why would he decide to leave me. I am not sure did this got too serious too soon for him and he is running away, or what happened. I am not thinking about taking him back, I am moving on, but I would like to know "WHY"??

you need to ask him. there IS a reason. we never leave for no reason. for example he could have just seen you talking to another guy or misinterpreted something. We DO NOT bounce for no reason.

Posted by AquaaGirl
Thank you for all of your comments. 🙂 I am confused because we just saw each other last weekend, and everything was great,,therefore I am not sure why would he decide to leave me. I am not sure did this got too serious too soon for him and he is running away, or what happened. I am not thinking about taking him back, I am moving on, but I would like to know "WHY"??

If you saw him last weekend, why would you assume he's left you??

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Cap men are emotionally repressed and limited, I don't know why anyone would want to be with such a stoic person.

Comfy to earth signs. Stable, dependable, capable, hard working, practical, ambitious. Strives to be strong and the best provider. The rock in the storm. Can be stingy. Hates to be comforted in times of stress. I read somewhere that finding a Cap in his 30's or later is the best time, because he's finally settled into his life and his place and has lost a lot of the stress. So he'd be calmer and more stable.

Posted by AquaaGirl
Thank you for all of your comments. 🙂 I am confused because we just saw each other last weekend, and everything was great,,therefore I am not sure why would he decide to leave me. I am not sure did this got too serious too soon for him and he is running away, or what happened. I am not thinking about taking him back, I am moving on, but I would like to know "WHY"??

Sorry to hear this. How do you know he's not just busy..?

Hello,
Because I called him and he doesn't want to pick up, and he wrote something on his twitter that mentioned him breaking up with a gf.

😢 Should i just forget him, I really like him but I am not sure if there is any point of trying.

Wow..what a dick.. How old is he?

Forget him, you deserve someone who will respect you way more than him!

Capricorn girl

I just did the same to a Taurus guy.. ahh.. I like him so much.. but we cannot be together, he lives in a different country. We spent such a good time togehter and I would love to have something more serious with him, but it is not possible.

It hurts me, and he still doesn't want to let me go, wants to stay friends.. I tried to be friends for a few weeks, (I tried to explain my feelings that to be only friends too much) but damn it is just to hard, so I disapeared.

I guess he is hurt now, as I disappeared without explaining him why, althought I tried.

I am confused, and I just would like to know why. I was thinking about going to his house and asking him WTF? 😢

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Posted by truecap
With age, I've learned its better to tell them so they know and it's cruel to just disappear.

+100 to you for realizing this. With age comes wisdom, through experience, when we're willing to listen to it.

I went on a date with a Cap Sun and things went exceptional; the next day he texted me his E-mail. I E-mailed him a pic from that day and never heard from him again. All the overly analytical parts of me kept thinking I must have done something wrong. Maybe an ex got back with him. Maybe he was even HURT! Never found out. Had he said something, I'd have been able to let go much more easily and quickly.

Posted by truecap
I don't like to hurt people's feelings. I don't like confrontation and if I thought they would be too emotional or pissed or start crying, I might have to lie about the reason (or in my youth, I'd avoid it altogether and just disappear).

Next guy I met and liked had Cap Moon. Synchronicity, anyone? We dated for over a month and he was already talking marriage, which worried me some. I liked him A LOT, though. Then he decided I was the wrong image for him, and when he decided to leave me, it was through text. *Cluck*! There was at least the reasons given, though, which was nice. But alluding to you above, he couldn't handle confrontation at all.

We're still young, though, in Cap terms. Both may wisen (and become stronger) with age. ^_^

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I have cap moon, too. 😢

If a man disappears like this, it means he wants out and is probably taking the cowardly way out. A man who digs you isn't going to disappear on you. Plus, you've only dated for 2 months. Bottom line is, I'm sorry to say, he's just not that into you. You are hurting now and think hearing the truth from him will give you closure. It won't. You'll just feel like crap about yourself. It sucks getting disappointed in love but it happens to us all.

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Posted by AquaaGirl
Thank you for all of your comments. 🙂 I am confused because we just saw each other last weekend, and everything was great,,therefore I am not sure why would he decide to leave me. I am not sure did this got too serious too soon for him and he is running away, or what happened. I am not thinking about taking him back, I am moving on, but I would like to know "WHY"??

If you saw him last weekend, why would you assume he's left you??

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Oooh, I missed that part.

He may just be playing it cool for now. Like it's not cool to call too soon.... Maybe there are things going on....maybe he's not that serious about you yet and doesn't feel the pressure to call so soon.....maybe he's just been hanging with his friends.....

She's right. He might not have left you yet.

Is he just not responding or just hasn't called?
I'd give it a couple more weeks before you right it off.

Posted by AquaaGirl
Hello,
Because I called him and he doesn't want to pick up, and he wrote something on his twitter that mentioned him breaking up with a gf.

😢 Should i just forget him, I really like him but I am not sure if there is any point of trying.

You're jumping to conclusions without any facts. How long have yall been together?

If you're new, it could be he has some unfinished business to take care of before he feels comfortable starting a new relationship.

I have been dating Capricorn man for about two months. The last time I saw him was for the 4th July weekend, and everything was great!! Since I came back he became distant, and he wouldn't answer my calls — On his twitter page he stated that he broke up with his girlfriend- and this is how I am sure that he doesn't want to be with me. I just want to know why, but he will not tell me. I asked him about his ex while I was with him for the weekend, and he got a little upset. I just wish that we had better communication because I really like him.
Now I need an advise from you as a Capricorn man, why do you think that he just stopped talking to me, if everything was going well? I don't want to seem desperate looser, but I still want to know if I did something wrong, what would he think if I went to visit him and try to talk to him. And if I did what would I say? I know they don't like confrontation, but at the same time I want to know what is going on. — Please help me, any advice is valuable! Aqua Girl.

When I was leaving on Sunday he was really sad and he said he wanted to see me again,, and then he stopped talking to me. I am confused — He doesn't want to talk to me on the phone, do you think he would talk if I went to see him in person?? I don't want to seem desperate, but I kind of am because I really like him.

You're sounding extremely insecure and desperate.

If you don't think you did anything wrong then you didn't. But if you came across insecure and desperate and all needy sounding that weekend, then that's what did it.

Your fear of losing him could have sunk the relationship.

No, don't go see him. Stop trying to contact him. Those are desperate actions. Yes, you want closure but you don't even know if he's breaking up with you. You're jumping to conclusions. It's only been a week. Geesh!

Besides, two months, you don't have that much invested. He doesn't have that much invested. Since there is no commitment in this relationship, and you're only just seeing each other, in all reality, he actually doesn't owe you any kind of explanation at all. If he wants to see you again, he will make it happen. If he doesn't, he won't. At this point, TWO months, you should both have other options available and stop worrying about whether he's going to call you or not. At this point in a relationship, you should just be getting to know each other and trying to decide if they are someone you want to continue with or not, meanwhile, you should still be talking to other guys.

However, in the mean time, your desperation and insecurity is sinking/maybe already sunk this relationship.

I'm not trying to be mean or rude to you, but go back and read your posts. They scream of fear. Fear of losing a man will lead to desperation and I'm afraid your posts are dripping in desperation.

If he contacts you then great. I hope he does.
If he doesn't, then keep entertaining other options and move on to someone else.

Regardless, he isn't worth all this internal agony.

And, if he decides, at this two month venture, that you're not someone he wants to continue with, then it's not personal. It just means you're not his perfect match. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or that you did something wrong. It's no big thing and go out and find your perfect match.

It usually takes about three months to decide whether you want to continue or not.

That's all I'm really trying to say. I know maybe what I said was hurtful, but please take it as constructive and helpful.

Thank you for your help! 🙂 🙂

Wrong strategy. Tell him he is an asshole who does not deserve you and you have him forever, cannot get rid of him.

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Posted by Draumstafir

Posted by truecap
With age, I've learned its better to tell them so they know and it's cruel to just disappear.

+100 to you for realizing this. With age comes wisdom, through experience, when we're willing to listen to it.

I went on a date with a Cap Sun and things went exceptional... Had he said something, I'd have been able to let go much more easily and quickly.

Posted by truecap
I don't like to hurt people's feelings. I don't like confrontation and if I thought they would be too emotional or pissed or start crying, I might have to lie about the reason (or in my youth, I'd avoid it altogether and just disappear).

Next guy I met and liked had Cap Moon. ...

I have cap moon, too. 😢

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Why so sad? You're such a nice person. 😄 You're not an immature kid any more. You're so grounded. And you know what? From what I can tell on these boards, you never slip back to that stage. Some of us can definitely slip back there time and time again throughout OUR ENTIRE LIVES.

And if we're going by elements, double-earth-Cap means that if you're being nice, it's not because you're trying to persuade others to feel good, or make yourself look good through charm. It's just the practical thing to do because you yourself are quite stable. And thank you. Truly.

Just think of all the posters who attack, strongly, anyone on these boards whose opinion differs even slightly from their own. So much negativity always carried around with them. Why? Because highly emotional (a fine thing), but too immature to deal with it on their own. So they come here and make people feel bad just for asking questions.

Yes, I have a few aliases in mind.

These Caps I met weren't mean people. They were just highly stressed, and afraid of confrontation. Let them sort themselves out... you know they eventually will. But I never once saw them take out their anger in all directions, against all people. Leave that to the less stable folk.

Posted by AquaaGirl
I have been dating Capricorn man for about two months. The last time I saw him was for the 4th July weekend, and everything was great!! Since I came back he became distant, and he wouldn't answer my calls — On his twitter page he stated that he broke up with his girlfriend- and this is how I am sure that he doesn't want to be with me. I just want to know why, but he will not tell me. I asked him about his ex while I was with him for the weekend, and he got a little upset. I just wish that we had better communication because I really like him.
Now I need an advise from you as a Capricorn man, why do you think that he just stopped talking to me, if everything was going well? I don't want to seem desperate looser, but I still want to know if I did something wrong, what would he think if I went to visit him and try to talk to him. And if I did what would I say? I know they don't like confrontation, but at the same time I want to know what is going on. — Please help me, any advice is valuable! Aqua Girl.

Posted by AquaaGirl
When I was leaving on Sunday he was really sad and he said he wanted to see me again,, and then he stopped talking to me. I am confused — He doesn't want to talk to me on the phone, do you think he would talk if I went to see him in person?? I don't want to seem desperate, but I kind of am because I really like him.

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It's possible the 'gf' he was referring to was his ex. Someone could've asked why she wasn't with him. Or she could've been trying to get back together with him, and he may have entertained the idea shortly, then said no.

Thinking about past breakups can make us sad. Even something unrelated could've made him sad. Some sad people (Caps and Scorps, namely) like to 'hole up' while dealing with sadness. Poking and prodding just makes these folks dig further in... unfortunately.

Ya just never know. But like the Caps here have been saying, forget about him for awhile. If he wants you, he'll be in touch. If he doesn't, you can't make anyone like you. And agony is just so painful... go distract yourself with something splendid! The weather is beautiful in the summer. Take advantage of it.

Thank you for all of your support! 🙂

Thanks Draumstafir. I appreciate it.

OP: I know how you feel because it's the sudden stop in contact especially when you left off without any indication that something was wrong. Along with that, he should at least say something when you reached out just out of politeness..? Even a "I'm sorry, been so busy, get back to you soon" etc.
This is kind of cruel imo 😢

My Cap FWB has gone m.i.a before, and it has never been without reason. It's either something on his end, or he's mad at me for something. I think it's highly annoying because my style is to talk about it.

However, I've come to see that Cap guys are not like that. Case in point, this weekend, we had plans, he called me 45 minutes before we were supposed to meet to tell me that he had a crazy week/day at two jobs and to top it off his building lost power when he got home so everything is spoiled in the fridge. He said he's not seeing anyone that night, I pressed, and he said if he saw me he would not be bearable. He said he would cancel his jam session the next day to make it up to me. I was pissed because it was so last minute and for a moment...thought he might be making it up. The next day, he contacts me and we hang out...lo and behold the building loses power again when I'm there. He apologizes for being an "asshole" the night before. I think Caps know when they are at their breaking point and don't want to shit on others. They give and give until there's nothing left...even then they just need some sleep and they're back at it again...very admirable..but requires a lot of patience for their partner imo. However, when they're time is for you, the level of effort they make to please you is more than most other signs.

Since you've already tried to talk to him and he's ignoring you, I would leave it alone. If he contacts you again, definitely talk to him about it and let him know it's not acceptable.

Thank you! 🙂

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