Pluto-My plutonian chart meets Pluto conj my Descendant w/ SR pluto venus and mars conj ascendant

So I've dabbled in astrology, but these past couple of years I've really started digging deeper and trying to understand myself. I find it funny that a lot of signs I ridiculed when I thought I was only my Sun in Aqua are major players in my natal chart (the I dislike you cause its what I dislike in myself dynamic)

Specifically my sister, a scorp, who is a bit unstable put me off ALOT. But the more I look into my chart I see that I have a lot of plutonian aspects that create these crazy dynamics with women AND men in my life (I have a Sun Square Pluto daddy issues and Moon Opposition Pluto so overbearing control freak mom) and I have a Cancer ascendant so I'm a lot more moody and sensitive then I would like to admit around others.

I have been working on these aspects of my character and I calmed down alot. I was really thinking I had this under control, but towards the end of last year a lot of feelings started creeping back up, starting with the re-appearance of my son's father who has a sun and mercury in my 12th house (Cancer Sun Gemini merc) as well as mutual pluto aspects (My merc is square his pluto. At first I felt exposed by him, then I felt like I was falling in love all over again. Then when I didn't get the reactions I wanted there is a growing bitterness/obsession I keep trying to keep in check. Combine all this with a Pluto transiting my 7th house in Capricorn where my natal Jupiter and Merc are (it's within a 1 degree orb to my asc/desc line) and a Solar Return chart with Pluto Venus and Merc Conj my Asc which is overlaying my 7th house. I have also realized that my 7th house Aqua sun is on the cusp of my 8th house, so I carry a lot of plutonic energies into my Sun expression....oh and did I mention my Pluto is in scorp? LOL. I have Pluto Saturn and South Node in Scorpio. I'm starting to feel like all the progress I thought I made is minor and I'm approaching some major overhaul. Anyone with a little more experience into these things, can you offer some insight?

I also had a scenario where my friends dad kept asking me out. I agreed to a lunch and we had a good time but the more he kept wanting my attention the more put off I was. And it felt like I was reversing the role I usually play where I chase after someone and do all these things with the expectation of...owning them. Maybe my own "love" nature is being thrown in my face...

Natal

Sun 8°57' Aquarius
Moon 6°30' Taurus
Mercury 24°41' Capricorn
Venus 25°49' Pisces
Mars 26°23' Pisces
Jupiter 27°59' Capricorn
Saturn 26°57' Scorpio
Uranus 16°47' Sagittarius
Neptune 2°28' Capricorn
Pluto 4°44' Scorpio
Chiron 3°20' –¯ Gemini
Ceres 13°57' Taurus
Pallas 21°01' Pisces
Juno 13°13' Libra
Vesta 0°02' Scorpio
Node 24°11' –¯ Taurus
Lilith 17°09' –¯ Aries
Fortune 14°06' Libra
AS 16°33' Cancer
MC 4°58' Aries


Solar Return 2016
Sun 8°57' Aquarius
Moon 9°45' Libra
Mercury 15°41' Capricorn
Venus 6°53' Capricorn
Mars 13°41' Scorpio
Jupiter 22°31' –¯ Virgo
Saturn 13°55' Sagittarius
Uranus 17°04' Aries
Neptune 8°23' Pisces
Pluto 16°01' Capricorn
Chiron 18°38' Pisces
Ceres 0°15' Pisces
Pallas 2°25' Aquarius
Juno 12°19' Scorpio
Vesta 15°02' Aries
Node 22°32' Virgo
Lilith 21°42' –¯ Libra
Fortune 27°59' Aries
AS 28°47' Sagittarius
MC 14°09' Libra