getting over heart break

Im not an Aquarius but all my friends are. You guys are good with detaching yourself how do you get over heart break. How do you detach when dating others. Help me

good god there is no detaching from loved ones in my book, I go through a very intense grieving period that never ends

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
good god there is no detaching from loved ones in my book, I go through a very intense grieving period that never ends

Same here... just because we don't vocalize or share our grief doesn't mean we aren't internally dying.

Most Aquarians disappear and go distant as a coping mechanism. Still waters run deep.

See the thing is it just appears as if we detach because we hide it all. Very few are those that see THAT side of us. I grieve as well, because an ending of a relationship usually means end of a friendship as well and welp we LOVE our friends.

That being said, i invest my time and energy into things that will distract me, sometimes it works, sometimes it does not.

Reading, writing, games, working out, taking long drives ( that can have bad side effects cause thinking) Just stuff that takes my mind off it or whatever is bothering me ( if its not heartbreak). Reorganzie my entire house after cleaning every inch has happened a few times as well!

Another thing that has helped is to go out of my way to help others.. that takes me out of self and any self destructive thoughts i may have.

The reasons i go distant is to recuperate and get "okay" again. And usually to shut off the feelings completely

What happens if someone apologizes from their heart, understanding the mistake, and tells you that they want you in their lives? And are ready to give you space and time to think about it and also time for themselves to change whatever they have to change about themselves to be able to be there for you more? Would you consider trying again? :/

Its funny u mention this because thats something i need to learn in life. For giveness and allowing myself to be vulnerabilities again after someone is ready etc. Not everyone is mature and ready to settle down.. but as u said what if they come back and do the things to prove and win my heart..i dont know what to say its hard 4 me to go backwards. This lady got her heart broken he came back they r now married happily with kids..what if she said no to him? This is all true @workingirl

I do cry a whole lot, but I make sure nobody sees me ,even my friends or family members. If a guy wuld say they saw me cry for them, I must have been really hurt by that same person !

But I get over it, atleast I force myself to. And yes once you are out of my brain completely, you are never coming back, even if you can offer a bag full of money, no chance!

I would hate to force myself to people who don't want to be with me cause when I love , I love!

Realize you are literally giving that person energy every time you think of them.

Know they are most likely not thinking about you at all.

Understand people come and go and no one is ever obligated to stay with you.

Once those things are cemented in your brain, things will get easier.

GL

Outwardly we may not exhibit emotions but (at least for me) I'm a mess on the inside.

I just tell myself "whatever" and move on.

The problem with Aquas is that you guys can spiral yourself into negativity. It wasn't me who broke up. I asked for time and he interpreted it as if I wanted to end things. Ie. he may have thought that I deep down think he's not good enough. And in a matter of seconds he said he didn't want to spend time with me anymore. And I'm not even sure that he realizes that, that he got scared that I would leave. He said he won't spend time with me anymore because I annoy him. So maybe he'll understand what he's been going through and maybe he'll be able to put himself in my shoes and see that I was just trying to figure out how to be a cool girlfriend. : )

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Posted by Westsidekodak

Posted by Flo
I hit rock bottom when I'm heartbroken. Words don't make sense, cry myself to death clutching my heart, shut down friends and family, slowly destroying myself.. I'm just good at hiding it.

guess aquas are actually emotional

I dont want people to know about my suffering..

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I drank a bottle of wine and half a bottle of Whiskey and Coke after my last break-up. I spent the weekend in bed, clutching a stuffed bear and getting him soaked through with tears; while tearing the photos off the wall in a fit of rage. Aquas suffer alone and in silence. And we'll lie our asses off about having never done it. Except anonymously on the internet.