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Bella79
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Ok, My Gemini send me a message that he is no longer coming home 5th December and that he is only coming 15th December..

He is away for work. And I am ok, with its cause it is a great opportunity for him. Of course I am disappointed .But this is the 3rd time that he is postponing. And I read on FB that he is going to watch some football game with his friend on the 5th or the 6th December (I think it is a redskins or a Dallas cowboy game).

I mailed back saying if you can't make it to me then I hope that you let me come visit you. He replied —trust me; I will make it to you. We will see each other .xoxoxoxoxoxo??.


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Sorry, didn't log in again yesterday. Had to finish up some documentation for work.

I really don't know what is going on with him. But something is up. I am trying not to act crazy. And I know how he is .He is 34 and has been a playboy all his life. Believe me he is not the type to mince words. He would tell you straight up if he doesn't love you or want to be with you.

He tells me he loves and wants to be with me all the time. He has to make a lot of hard life choices. And I know it is not easy for him to leave everything behind and move to another country for me. If I had my way we would be staying in the US.

My contract is almost up and I have to leave the US.

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it is what a person DOESNT SAY and DOESNT DO that gives you the truth..the answer..

what he isn't doing is keeping his promises...especially to someone he "loves and needs " to someone he "wants" to be with. If anything it reflects conscious or subconscious his feelings towards you. If he isn't making time to see you often even after being away from each other then there is something wrong. YES he loves you and yes he wants to be with you. he is confused with what is about to come...how would he handle you leaving? how would he handle himself if your gone? is it worth the long distance? he is definitely thinking..

one thing for sure i get from gemini is that you'll never know what they are TRULY thinking or feeling but rather only the result of their decisions and a scratch of what it is.

You need to tell him that it hurts that he bailed 3 times.

to me it seems a lot of games to find out

a) is she or am i ready for the fact we'll be in different countries?
b) will i move with her? is it worth it?
c) should we break up (logically long distnace is very difficult to deal with)
d) if we dont how would it work
e) if we do , it will hurt but there are plenty of fishes in the sea.
f) what is best for her? and for me?
g) how does what i want correlate with all of the above questions?
i) i like her a lot, i want her with me but i dont think i can deal with it. But if i can how would she deal with it?

etc etc etc it can go on forever the way he could be thinking. which are all "possibilities" possibilities that need validation.

best thing to do is ask him and address yoru concerns. than talk about the fact whether or not you two should continue this relationship.that is the core issue that needs to be addressed.

you both are stepping around that core issue....he needs to feel how life without you feels perhaps...distancing himself preparing for the fact you will be leaving.


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candi3bb, if he does go with me he is giving up a lot. I know that is freaking him out..That he is leaving behind his life.

And I do try and talk to him ... but he always side steps the conversation. I tried calling him yesterday , But didn't get hold of him.

Iam a leo and I need a lot of reassurence and attention.It is not always easy dating a free spirt and letting him go off doing his thing.

I will be going home in 3 months.With or without him.
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bella79,

i hope it all goes well and stay strong 🙂...how long have you guys been together?

Im pretty sure he is feeling horrible inside...i feel geminis seem to be great externally but internally they seem to be thinking a lot...crazy on the inside. I guess the best thing to do would be to back off and wait for him to contact you~ ugh i could only imagine the anxiety i would feel if i were in your position. but be strong and let that gemini have his freedom to think and trust yourself the bond you guys have and see where it goes.
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OK. Sat-day morning, I was chatting to friends from home (Africa) on face book about 07:00am. I couldn't sleep. He wrote me a private message I love you, baby (about an hour ago). And told me how drunk he was etc.

I wrote I love you too and I would so have taken advantage of you if I was there. xoxoxoxoxoxo

Then his status pop up and it was a "girl's name". Then another status update "the girls name again". So, while I was going through his friends to look for her. I felt so shitty and when I went to his page and the updates were gone.

So, being the coward I am left it. Then when we texting each other a bit later in the day. I asked him about all the women that are flirt with him. And he said that he wants to settle down with one woman. I replied. She would be lucky have you.

He wanted to know what is up with me... I told him I saw the updates about the girl and that I felt shitty. But it is ok. I am leaving soon. And what he did with his life is not my business.

He didn't respond back.... I am trying not to let it mess me up.

So, that is that.