Advice needed... Should I..

April will be our seventh month. Lately,the relationship's turned really sour and it's sad to say this, but i am thinking of breaking up with my gemini girlfriend.

She's a sweet girl and all, but it seems like her dark personality or shall I say her twin sister, is too much for me, a little pisces 🙂 to handle and she's ruining it all for both of us...? 😢

Don't know much about astrology, but hey, a little advice from her gemini brothers and sisters on how I should approach this break up or even dealing with this relationship will be good. She's sitting for her big exam soon and I wouldn't want to cause any dramas in her life at the moment.

they don't care

Taken from my own personal experience,Geminis can appear to be so in to you one day and flip the script on you the next day,leaving you scratching your head and wondering was it just an illusion.They need constant mental stimulation or they will get bored and lose interest in you.

Without knowing much about your relationship I can only offer general advice. Don't end it unless you truly mean it. Don't use the threat of breaking up as a way to try and get her to act how she used to. If and when you end it, be clear and cut all ties. Don't check up on her periodically because that can pull you both back in. If she rants at you, ignore it. She will get over it. She may already be ready to cut the ties herself if she's changed a lot recently.

Posted by neptune0313
Taken from my own personal experience,Geminis can appear to be so in to you one day and flip the script on you the next day,leaving you scratching your head and wondering was it just an illusion.They need constant mental stimulation or they will get bored and lose interest in you.

im sick and tired how all gems say this whole "bored and lose interest" that applies to everyone and all signs. all relationships. FROM my outsider take and analysis of all the gems i've met and friends family and analysis on this site...

here is something more for non gems to get:

they will always do and say the right thing. NOT necessarily the way they feel. Hence what they really feel is inside. SO if you messed up with a gemini and woke up one day and they are gone? its because prior before the disappearance they have thought of all the possibilities all the resolutions of the problem they have with the other party. what they did wrong. what they didnt just EVERYTHING. when they do make the decision to leave its either sudden or a slow drift. its not that they don't care at all. IN the back of their minds they have a safety net. a list of possible exist strategies. just depends on what the other person does to push them over.

As for you situation...

🙂 just break up with her. best way is to say nothing and just leave. why talk about it? or tell her? it defeats your decision. saying too much just takes away from it anyways. 🙂

Hey guys, appreciate the feedbacks.

well, there are just too many series of events that led to me thinking like this.

A little background of her personality - Let's say her twin sister, the one who's acting too manipulative, plotful and too matured for my liking, and then the next second YES the next immediate second, she's back to normal and acting all sweet, dependent and cute again. what— I don't get who she is sometimes. Trust me it's quite a big deal, words can't really describe how bad and fast the change is.

So maybe this is no biggie as I felt I need to be accepting and love who she is, I am putting all the blame on the stars up there. I do cherish her and treat her right.. so it hurts me seeing how her personality swings around so much.

Things got worse from here on. I found out from a friend that she started hanging out with her ex again back in January. She told me nothing about it and I didn't want to make it seem like a big deal so I pretended I know nothing about it... So, this was back in February when they were all out to a bar for drinks in a big group she told me nothing.. My friend who was there told me the next day that my girlfriend and her ex was sitting next to each other, cuddling and flirting with each other like she's single! They left together and her ex was SUPPOSED to send her home. She wasn't back that night so yeah, I don't know what happened next.. My pisces fin snapped and I knew we had to talk about it. After asking her about what I heard, she admitted staying over at his place as it was too late and it wasn't safe to drive, and said she fell asleep when they were watching a movie together, promised me nothing happened. She was acting like it's all fine, saying she's just being friendly with her ex, asking me to quit all the dramas. Yes, what you hear might not be what actually happened, but hey, how should one supposed to feel in this situation? Nothing because you were just being friendly and cuddling with your ex?

Please tell me, what is right, what is not.

If you were in my shoes, would you have ended it already..... What's the best way to end this so it would not be too awkward for us to become friends in the future. She's sitting for a big exam soon so I don't want to mess around with her head at the moment.

P.S. I hinted about us breaking up a few weeks ago, she told me that she loves me and not going to let me go anywhere, telling me how emotionally breakdown she will becomes if I ever leave her. She's a real sweetheart and down-to-earth girl when her twin sister is not out to play. But hey, I don't know, what more can I do?

Sounds to me like she might be over you?... I mean with the whole ex thing and going back to his place. As a gem girl I can tell you that if i was REALLY in love/loved my man I wouldnt be doing what she did. Yes I might be talking to my ex and being friendly but I wouldnt be cuddling and going back to his place even IF nothing happened.

Do u know her placements?

When you mentioned about breaking up.. and she said she wouldnt let you go.. hrmmm.. I dont know I feel as though she wants to keep you there but is over you.. and I for one HATE being broken up with I cant STAND it (unless I wanted it too then its perfect because it takes the pressure off me doing the dirty work) but its a massive blow to my ego and I dont like it so maybe thats why she said she wouldnt let you go BUT her actions arent reflecting that she really wants you to stay and wants to be with you.

I think just act a bit distant and see how she reacts. If she comes running and she's all like whats up with us? i love you lets fix things to how they were etc etc, then your on the right track BUT if you become distant and shes just like yea whatever doesnt really chase much, etc etc and you feel things are dying down then I think its because she's over it and she's just waiting for a good escape plan.

Just end it now if that's what you want. She sounds rather young and immature but she is who she is right now, as are you. Geminis are good at mirroring others so I would caution you against testing her love or lack of because you may not get a genuine reaction/response. That in turn can set you two up for continued on-off status. It's your life, you make the call on whether or not to end it based on how you feel. I still stand by my other post about no contact after ending it. Clean break.

Why do pisces dislike when someone isnt dependant on them and has a lot of independance? Does that make you fishies insecure?

Nats, do you know I don't think I know any pisces in real life. Weird huh.

I am fine if she is being independent, I am just not quite alright with her personality switching from one to another. One second, she's treating me like my mom, and the next second, my baby girl is back. Are all geminis like this?

Posted by GeminiDahl
Nats, do you know I don't think I know any pisces in real life. Weird huh.

lol well u should be glad. stay away 🙂

Im surrounded by them and we can only stand each other for so long.

Posted by sammuelhip
I am fine if she is being independent, I am just not quite alright with her personality switching from one to another. One second, she's treating me like my mom, and the next second, my baby girl is back. Are all geminis like this?

Were the sign of the twins. If you cant put up with her sudden mood changes and personality switches then your not fit to handle a gemini. Find urself a cancer or a scorp... you will get along much better and they will probably be able to provide you with the emotional security you need.

When she's her sweet self, she's always telling me how incompatible our personalities are yet she loves me for who I am. Nats, just wondering, what is it about pisces that you dislike and can't stand around them for long..? 🙂

All in all, what's the best way to end this? I am expecting some dramas if we are to break up. I am just afraid how it may break her emotionally based on what she keeps telling me not to leave her. Aren't geminis supposed to move on really quickly? I do hope we can become friends someday though.

She's really close to my circle of friends and family and I know she(OR her twin lol) is pretty good in manipulating the fact to make it sounds like I am the bad guy doing the dirty job. Not many close ones really know what happened to us in detail.

Posted by sammuelhip
April will be our seventh month. Lately,the relationship's turned really sour and it's sad to say this, but i am thinking of breaking up with my gemini girlfriend.

She's a sweet girl and all, but it seems like her dark personality or shall I say her twin sister, is too much for me, a little pisces 🙂 to handle and she's ruining it all for both of us...? 😢

Don't know much about astrology, but hey, a little advice from her gemini brothers and sisters on how I should approach this break up or even dealing with this relationship will be good. She's sitting for her big exam soon and I wouldn't want to cause any dramas in her life at the moment.

I see why. You state that it's all HER fault, without realizing that your emotional selfishness is working full force, nor have you admitted to any blame. Listen to yourself. You are full of shit, and she just started to recognize it, I hope. This is what Gemini's do when we peep a persons "Game". "Little Pisces" my ass. How many times have you cheated on her, little Pisces? You won't have to leave her, she's already gone, thus her "twin sister" has reared its warrior smash and grab head. Yup, when we see that emotional manipulation, self-centered, self-righteous, self-serving, emotional blackmailing bullshit that Pisces (especially the dudes) pull, we turn cold and verbally abusive towards you. As it should be. No, you ruined it all for the both of you, based on how you view your situation, as you being the weak victim and now you're trying to setup your martyred exit. Maaaan, you may fool her, or some of the Gemini's here, but you don't fool me with your bullshit, son. Swim away, before she breaks you, and if she won't, I will. How's that for an answer? The Gems on here don't usually bite, I always do.

You asked, I'm telling you the truth. How does that make you feel? 🙂

Betcha didn't expect that response, did ya?

The whole world is waking up to the Fish illusion. Just go over to the fish boards, you'll see. This makes me so happy! 😄

AMEN GM! HA! that rhymes. I should start spitting out some lyrics 😉 lol

You were right I certainly did not expect that response, GeminiMind. lol.

Back to the topic, what's the best way to end this? Maybe a cooling down period for her to think things over instead of breaking it clean. What do you mean by a clean break, geminidahl?

Posted by sammuelhip
When she's her sweet self, she's always telling me how incompatible our personalities are yet she loves me for who I am. Nats, just wondering, what is it about pisces that you dislike and can't stand around them for long..? 🙂

All in all, what's the best way to end this? I am expecting some dramas if we are to break up. I am just afraid how it may break her emotionally based on what she keeps telling me not to leave her. Aren't geminis supposed to move on really quickly? I do hope we can become friends someday though.

She's really close to my circle of friends and family and I know she(OR her twin lol) is pretty good in manipulating the fact to make it sounds like I am the bad guy doing the dirty job. Not many close ones really know what happened to us in detail.

Okay I'll list a few about pisces.

1. They are OVER sensitive.
2. They take out their anger/personal issues etc on everyone else who doesnt deserve them.
3. They drown themselves in a glass of water. i.e. the smallest problem can arise but they turn it into WW3 & act like
its the END OF THE WORLD
4. They are vindictive. If someone has hurt them, they feel the need to hurt that person back because they dont think
its "fair" for the person to get away with hurting them.
5. They are kid of naive to what goes on around them (they live in a dream world - but everyone already knew that)
6. They dislike the TRUTH being told them and they dislike when someone tries to OPEN UP THEIR EYES to the REAL WORLD and
then they get angry.
7. The ones i've met... cant do ANYTHING for themselves. The men and the women alike. There is always someone helping
them sort out their issues whether its their finances, or anything personal (finances specially)
8. They are emotionally manipulative.
9. They think everything is everyone else's fault but theirs and they're quick to blame others but never quick to look
inside and reflect on their own shortcomings.
10. The men LIE LIE LIE (and geminis get the wrap for lying.. HA! yea rite) and when they get caught out they act all
innocent and try and be all sweet hoping the person will get over it.
11. They think only THEIR problems matter and they make such a big deal out of it (im pretty sure i already mentioned
this).
12. They say geminis love drama, involve themselves in drama and create drama, b

oh damn!!! it got cut off!!! 😢

now i cant remember everything else i typed & i had like 5 more points!!!. lol shit! 😢

Clean break = no manipulation and games just an end to the relationship. No cooling off time, just over period. Seriously, why does she need a cooling down time to think things over....you are the one who wants to end the relationship so just end it and be done. She will be fine, I promise you.

LOL because its the pisces manipulation at work geminidahl. He obviously wants her to change to suit his needs BUT knows he cant get her to change so his going to try the "i cant do this anymore,lets break up" card. Emotionally manipulate her because he knows he has her emotionally hooked to some degree, hurt her by breaking up and hope that she comes running back telling him how she will change her ways to be with him.

If he REALLY wanted to end it with a clean break, he would. Simple. You leave and cut contact.

This isnt the case.

My pisces ex would do the EXACT same thing to me when he wasnt "pleaseD" with how I was treating/behaving towards him.

He would break up with me and believe me, in about 8 months together, we broke up (and im not lying) literally about 15 times. Each one was thanks to him. He'd come and say its over I cant do it anymore bla bla and then end his speach with "but i still want us to be friends/"we can be friends...we're better as friends" and because he got to me, and I opened my heart to him like I hadnt'd done to anyone else, he knew that I couldnt stand him leaving me high and dry and he knew how deeply I felt for him so id promise to change myself and not be so this and that and try to make him happy.

I could only do this for so long until my REAL characteristics and nature returned and I came back to my normal self then he'd break up with me again and the cycle would continue until I finally opened my eyes, pushed my emotions to the side and thought logically, grew some balls and told him to FK OFF.

After I broke up with him we were done. Completely.

Yeah I figured that out after my first post. That's why I keep telling him to just end it.

Word of warning to OP, that kind of stuff will backfire on you with a Gemini. Trust me on that. Also trust me when I tell you that you have already shown your hand to your gemini and she knows what's going on. Anything you get from her now isn't emotionally genuine.

Posted by nats
My pisces ex would do the EXACT same thing to me when he wasnt "pleaseD" with how I was treating/behaving towards him.

He would break up with me and believe me, in about 8 months together, we broke up (and im not lying) literally about 15 times. Each one was thanks to him. He'd come and say its over I cant do it anymore bla bla and then end his speach with "but i still want us to be friends/"we can be friends...we're better as friends" and because he got to me, and I opened my heart to him like I hadnt'd done to anyone else, he knew that I couldnt stand him leaving me high and dry and he knew how deeply I felt for him so id promise to change myself and not be so this and that and try to make him happy.

I could only do this for so long until my REAL characteristics and nature returned and I came back to my normal self then he'd break up with me again and the cycle would continue until I finally opened my eyes, pushed my emotions to the side and thought logically, grew some balls and told him to FK OFF.

After I broke up with him we were done. Completely.

I'm 37 and my Libra ex (41) tried that crap with me too. I broke it off and he's still trying to pop back in my life through emails every few days. He even goes so far as to send me break up emails still...even though I already ended it. His last email he actually said "its all or nothing". I really try to be nice but I've had it so I replied, ok, its nothing, glad we are in agreement!

Lol it's a long list, nats. I hate the fact that pisces can get very emotional sometimes too 😢 guess pisces and geminis are just not meant to be in astrology. Though, in reality, we are only human and not stereotype zodiac signs, it's normal we hope that things will work out regardless.

GeminiDahl, this is what I think. When you are emotionally involved and truly care for that person, it's easier said than done to just break it clean and disappear right after that. She's sitting for an exam soon, which is why I was thinking a cooling down time will be good for both of us to think things over if it's worth staying or should we just end it without any hard feelings. But you are right, I just hope she will be fine though I gotta admit I will miss her but hey, isn't that for the better? 😢

Dayum you guys are just awesome in reading the situation! I really want to fix the relationship and hope that she connects better with me rather than just ending things once and for all. I am hoping to work something out between us before making the final decision. If it's still not working out or her twin sister keeps appearing, I will have to break it clean 😢 and hope someday we still be friends..

Darlin' she is a gemini, she will always have a twin. Unless you can love that about her and see the good side of both twins its better to leave her alone. When my dark side used to come out it was absolutely reckless. Now that I am older it still comes out but I'm not reckless. If you stay in the relationship and want to minimize the wrath of her dark side then don't manipulate or play games. Let her be who she is. If you can handle it and embrace it, its a hell of a fun ride! But you will just end up hurting yourself if you stay and try to mindfuck her to get her to be who you want. It'll never happen, even if for awhile you think you have succeeded in getting her to behave how you want...it'll just be an illusion.

Posted by GeminiDahl
Darlin' she is a gemini, she will always have a twin. Unless you can love that about her and see the good side of both twins its better to leave her alone. When my dark side used to come out it was absolutely reckless. Now that I am older it still comes out but I'm not reckless. If you stay in the relationship and want to minimize the wrath of her dark side then don't manipulate or play games. Let her be who she is. If you can handle it and embrace it, its a hell of a fun ride! But you will just end up hurting yourself if you stay and try to mindfuck her to get her to be who you want. It'll never happen, even if for awhile you think you have succeeded in getting her to behave how you want...it'll just be an illusion.

DING DING DING!!!!! Spot on!!!

And let me please add, don't be an ass and pull some mindgame before her exams. Its obvious you don't really want to end the relationship so don't put her through any tug of war over control before she takes her exams. You know its wrong deep down because you have mentioned it several times. If you do, she'll never forgive you. Hell I still hold a grudge over someone who upset me right before I had a 10 hour road trip. Now, knowing all this, man up and be supportive to your lady before her exams.

If you read my previous post of how she's acting around with her ex and saying like it's all normal being friendly, you will understand why I feel the need to come up with a verdict so quickly, even when her exam is up soon. On the other side, when she's her normal self, she keeps acting sweet and clingy telling me how much of this and that in our relationship.

Anyway, you are right, geminidahl! I cared for a part of her (not her twin sister). 😢 So I will leave the matter till her exam's over at the end of this month, though this one will be quite a tough ride.

You are awesome, geminidahl for the great and sincere advices. 😄
*swims happily*

The more you try to emotionally manipulate her and play head games the more she is going to resent and hate u and grow distant from u. Sooner or later she will open her eyes and drop you. So just stop. Exactly like geminidahl said.

nats, I may need to clear this up a little bit.. I don't think I am trying to emotionally manipulate her in any way. In fact, I care for her emotional wellbeing which is why I will leave the matter till after her exams and I am seeking advice to reduce the impact if we ever break up. I decided I will have a good talk with her about our future after her exams.

I don't think this breaking up will threaten her to come back to me a changed and perfect woman to suit me. I am just hoping that both of us will clear our minds and decide if it's still worth our time staying together and walk the road ahead. I want to know what she thinks. If not, we have to decide and move separate ways, though I hope we can still be friends someday. How am I manipulating her emotionally...

Dude, why are you here? You obviously have a listening problem, which is why she's turned on you. You're still here trying to get us to believe that you don't know how to break it off. See what I mean about some Gems being nice? If you read my posts with thought and not clumsiness, you'd have a clue. Yet you don't. *smh* This must be one weak pathetic Gemini, if what you say is true. What she should do is dump your cheating ass and come to dxp and tell us all about you. You know, the REAL you, and not this nice guy lie that you're trying to sell us. Get.the.fuck.out!

This guy is full of shit people! This is his game, and some of you are falling into it. His last comment is manipulative to say the least. Have you really ever met a Pisces that actually "Cared" for the well being of other peeps emotions, really? First, they'd have to get past themselves to do so. Even the kind gesture of caring is only shown in order to make them feel good about themselves, thus the selfishness and the head stuck up the assedness. My Pisces family does that shit to no end. It gets BORING! If you read his posts it all about HIM. HIM. HIM. He's not listening, he's in la-la-land! If he wanted so badly to know what she thinks, then why is he on dxp, and not having a open, communicative, emotional conversation with her? So he can justify his b.s. of course! Re-read his every word, and you'll see what I mean. Fuck this dude.

It very much came across as manipulation, make no mistake. I just wanted the fella to cease long enough for his girlfriend to take her exams so she wont be distracted.

I'm feelin you, GD.

GM: Sometimes you sound very bitter. You were involved with a PISCES for 4 years am I right? She oviously hurt you and thats why you are so down on all Pisces.You're being unfair to say the least.You always have some enlightening things to say but, you need to give us Pisces a break. All Geminis are not genuine either!

No dear, not only did she not hurt me, she bored me to tears. I found her juvenile in thought. I speak the absolute truth about the fish. It's easy to say the I must be hurt by an ex, that's just clumsy. Haven't you been paying attention? If I was hurt by an ex, you'd never know about it. Wise up! My ex was the Pisces that (like you) thought out of her own pocket. i.e. She'd think that a person would feel a certain way because that's what she'd feel it were her. She never dug the fact that I'm a Gemini, and couldn't give less than no fuck about those things. I'm very capable of moving on. The problem has always been getting her out of my life, so no, she didn't hurt anyone but herself. I'm still me while she's still trying to pull the I need emotional support b.s. Delusional being that one. But, I made her a woman, and any man that can get with her better come strong or stay his ass at home. I helped her conquer her fears, or at least some of them. She was a fish that found security in an aquarium, I threw her ass in the Ocean and said go out there and bring me back some information that I can process. She was a professor in Theater because she was too much of a coward to go out there in the world and hit the stage. She found security in a box (sound familiar?). Now she's on Broadway doing her thing, finally!! I paid ALL of her expenses to get her the hell out of Dodge. If you were her, would you be hurt? Hmph.

Neptune, Instead of assuming, you should ask a question, I'll give you an honest, thoughtful answer, promise.


If there is a Pisces that has to be this influence of pain you speak of, it would be my grandmother, the family matriarch. She sucked the life out of our family, along with my fish cousins, my fish uncles and so on. I loved that woman. But, the day she died our family could actually start to grow, and not focus our energies on her. She was an evil with a smile on her face and a helping hand, like Pisces are, right? When I speak about Pisces mostly it comes from my Gemini observation. We tend to pay attention to our surroundings because we hate being blind-sided.

If I sound bitter to you, it means that you are not listening. What's new? *sigh* I try hard to keep my comments about Gemini's the focus of myself, with the exception of Gemini common traits.

But, this Pisces guy is full of shit, and I stand by my comments. Fuck em. 🙂

I don't know you so all I can do is assume.My thought was if you were with a Pisces for 4 years it couldn't have been all bad.My relationship with my Gem is not without issues but,what relationship is?

Alright it was really bugging me that I didn't think I had ever known a Pisces. It would have helped if I had known the time range for a pisces correctly lol....yeah I blame my easily distracted Gemini nature. Ok that's total bullshit, because I am mortified to have to admit that not only do I know a Pieces, she is one of my dearest friends. Her birthday is March 15, and she is one of the most anxious nervous people I know. What's even more rediculous is that I never thought of her as a Pisces, and she is the one who first told me I was guilty of thinking my emotions instead of feeling them. Of course I told her she was an emotional mess. We get along great though and I get to call her every year on her birthday and say, "Beware the Ides of March" in a creepy ass voice. So, no one tell her I never bothered to correlate her birthday with her astro sign, please.

Damn stupidphone. *Pisces

GM:Why am I not surprised at your response to my comment("you sound bitter")when I say something to my Gem that he doesn't like he over reacts to it.Could it be that you Gems are sensitive too? And GM leave your Grandmother out of this...my grandmother was tough on us (my sibblings and I)but,I learned alot from her.She was very wise.

Posted by neptune0313
GM:Why am I not surprised at your response to my comment("you sound bitter")when I say something to my Gem that he doesn't like he over reacts to it.Could it be that you Gems are sensitive too? And GM leave your Grandmother out of this...my grandmother was tough on us (my sibblings and I)but,I learned alot from her.She was very wise.

Again, you're not listening, Neptune. It's not about me not liking what you said. If it were true and you struck a nerve, so be it. But, you didn't, and that's not the point. You're just wrong on that particular issue is all. *shrugs* I brought up my grandmother to draw your needed parallel to my sensitivities about Pisces. I simply gave you an example of where my observations come from, accept that truth or stay where you are mentally. The latter is one of those "consistencies", and it's starting to piss people off. Like I said: People are just waking up to the Piscean lie (illusion), is all. Don't shoot the messenger, defend yourself, take the message, do with it what you will, know that I'm not the only one that sees through the b.s. People are saying what I've been saying about Pisces sun signs for years. Sorry if it didn't suit your argument, but that's the truth. 😐 If you're 'special', yay for you. But, yes, if you are a Pisces then you have some very evil consistencies, and there's nothing you can tell me to change the view of what my eyes have witnessed over the decades of dealing with the fish. I do find it interesting that you have yet to say where I'm incorrect in my assessments. Very interesting, indeed. Whilst when you're incorrect about myself, or Gemini's I back my shit up and show you, or try to explain to you your mistakes, so you won't make them again. An infamous fish once said: "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over again expecting a different result." 😐

LMAO! Seriously, who's this GeminiMind dude? He is like the boss of Geminis who "thinks he knows it all" in level 10 of a video game lol

Well...if you are whta you describe yourself to be a true gemini, I can only say..I pity your friends, ex lovers, grandmother, wait you married? and your kids and wife for you being the gemini you are 😢
Please don't be the one bad apple that spoils the whole basket of gemini apples. 🙂

^^^

Spoken like a true bitch. 🙂

Also, at least try to be grammatically correct if you're going to insult whilst exposing yourself and proving my points, thank you.

😄 *sigh of relief* lol it's really just enough that the points are getting accross to your Gemini Mind.
Don't treat it as an insult, bro. Take it easy, it's an advice so you cherish and treat the important ones around you better 🙂

Peaceee

Maaan, fuck you manipulator. Next time you come to the Gem boards come correct, and I won't have to whip your ass, boy. Seems a common theme here on dxp. You are dismissed; You have been exposed. It's you that has to take it easy, son. I am who I say I am. You are just a clock ticking. But, you're still a bitch. 🙂 Okay, I gotta go celebrate a b~day. Be easy, youngsta. 🙂