Deja Vu

As you may or may not be aware, apparently my ex gf was a Gemini and i only realized that today because i remembered that her birthday was on 31st. I Just spoke to my Gemini ex girlfriend, and she turned my mind upside down.. that's right this is the continuation of my journey to get my geminie girl, however this time,I am going back and starting everything from the beginning, I'll try to explain why.

my Ex Gem knows me better than anyone, we used to date for 2 years, we texted each other for about two hours now, and she really opened my eyes, and took me out of the denial state i was in a little, or lets say i just had a wrong impression on things, she told me whats going on, she told me that Gems dont have a bf just to have one, they have one because they like them (and my ex said she prefers funny over smart for some reason) she also told me not to get too attached because ill scare her off, she said that all those texts look like a friend talk (but i only sent her one picture of my gems and mine conversation where my gem was forced in the corner and had to play cool lol, ill mark that picture XXX) regardless, my ex said that they date guys because they like them not because they want to have a boyfriend, so if she has been liking her bf for 4 years - it doesn't matter, she just kept liking him because there was nothing better found yet, so if she finds something better - like my ex said she keeps her options opened - my gem will lose interest in her bf and will become interest the new one, so we can assume her life was full of idiots and stupid people as shes with her bf since highschool...

I asked my ex i said "I'll just take it slow, hoping they break up"
and my ex says
"Dont hope that"
"Hope that she starts to like you"
"Because if they break up she might need a rebound guy and that means desperation"

So guys we go back to where we started, how do i get her to like me?
and my ex told me not to rush anything, and she also said that if she liked a guy she would ask him out herself, she told me to let her come to me..

There is the convo i sent to my EX:

And this is convo of my gem and me - about my gem ex gf:

hahaaa thadda boy. you've improved alot i can tell by the convos. if we're back too square one i stand by what i think is most important: soft charm. not too heavy but just the casual kind that will leave em wondering nawmean. if you accomplish that youll grow on her and work your way up from there.

lmao okay alright, our convos are not like that, its the only time i typed that much, she is a texting type she texts all the time, and we text equally, she got an iphone thats why she has those incorrect lols and i think she was driving at the same time lol

I think you lost the new Gem girl...sorry...but that out pour about your ex to me would be a major turn off and sign of weakness as in: you are still to invested in it" even if it's "just memories" for a Gem, or at least for me, when things are done, they are DONE - nothing to talk about nothing to reminiscent about, and going back to it, even as sharing past is a turn off. It's past. Who cares. It's done. And if you are still talking about it - than it's NOT done for YOU...see what I mean?
I'll agree with jannettam - the convo you are getting from her is detached and not really interesting...unless it went somewhere after that...and she was just letting you talk.

well i said, i havent talked about it, and i said that i keep her on the distance, and that WE both got over it, and that im looking for something new because im picky.. ugh, well good i wont talk to her for days now until she misses me and talks to me again

i see where your coming from roamingfree but i dont think its like that, maybe if he was a complete stranger and she had no initial interest in him then it would probobly be like that, but they are friends.

I suppose...but, idk, maybe I'm more animated and my responses are always more involved. Her's just seem dry, even if she may be just actually listening...you know, we could both be right 😉 😄

her responses weren't dry if they were i wouldnt continue, im not stupid

update, Is she starting to like me or not :/ ??

Friend zone. If you want her attention, you're going to have to be a big boy and man up to the game. Get your guns out. FLEX!

Your girlfriend has a nice name though 🙂

lol my screen was tilted it looked colored-_-
so were probably in friends zone, i have her trust, and i hugged her today because i was happy to see her..
now i need to get her to like me:/

im gonna have to agree with dazedscorp, your bein a puss man, but fuck the rest of what he said, shes got a bf so you NEED to step that shit up im talkin get fucking INTIMATE with that woman. her having bf is gonna make everything so much harder than it has to be and that sucks but im still rooting for you mano.

Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by DazedScorp

Plus, if she leaves her boyfriend for you, what does that say about her? If she's with you, she's just going to leave you for someone else.

What about this part west?

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haha you dont understand gems man

i mean regaurdless of any situation that could always happen,anyone knows this. the trick is to not let it happen-all simple stuff.

haha askin for some tips from west? i dont blame ya man, peep this, if a lady likes you, then she wont leave you, so you make sure you keep her satisfied in whatever way makes her happy. i feel like this is common sense tho.....why are you here scorpio? state ya purpose brah, you tryin to piss people off? eh?

westside ignore them they are blocked i dont even know what they are saying, what do you mean get intimate with her?? i spoke to my ex she told me that if i show that i like the girl, she will push me away, i dont want that! im not being a puss we are talking on daily bases now, waht are u suggesting i make a move and kiss her? or fukc her??

it sounds like all you want to do is sit here and argue and going to any extent to prove your point, this is just the internet man..you dont really know if what you have said is true(They were satisfied in every way by their boyfriends.)quit the bullshit, and did they all leave them for you after they made the obvious mistake? haha god damn i amaze myself,anyway, back to the point, you're thinking on your level, while my comments are on the level of pertaining to the love bird im trying to help, in short im helping a friend and your that douche over who is arguing for no purpose and wont shut the fuck up. getting it now? dont forget to desperately pull the age card when you respond brah.


He's asking for trouble if he's trying to steal her from another man. Even if he manages to nab her, she's going to leave him also.

alright i know you think you're fully understanding the situation, but you're not.

i wont be able to respond to this till later so if you're refreshing the page, its time you find something else to do while you're bored.

best of luck koa

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westside ignore them they are blocked i dont even know what they are saying, what do you mean get intimate with her?? i spoke to my ex she told me that if i show that i like the girl, she will push me away, i dont want that! im not being a puss we are talking on daily bases now, waht are u suggesting i make a move and kiss her? or fukc her??

well yea shell push your ass away if you doesnt like you, but if she does then youll actually start getting somewhere. time to man up!

west just block the scorp, its not worth your time

fine ill just find a good time and will kiss her, i expect a slap, but ill go until she pushes me away then say that it was worth a slap, would be awesome to do it tomorrow because jewish holidays college is closed on wednesday and thusday.. so its either tomorrow or next week, or maybe ill get her to go to the beach with me and will do it there

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fine ill just find a good time and will kiss her, i expect a slap, but ill go until she pushes me away then say that it was worth a slap, would be awesome to do it tomorrow because jewish holidays college is closed on wednesday and thusday.. so its either tomorrow or next week, or maybe ill get her to go to the beach with me and will do it there

ummmm just kissing her off the bat is the type of thing that would get you in some kind of trouble like dazedscorp said earlier. a kiss is what you work up too. like i said man her having a bf is just a fuck. just think it out cuz if you do make a move you dont want to blow it.

Posted by DazedScorp
You really are an idiot aren't you?

They were happy with their boyfriends. Due to certain situations, mainly alcohol being involved, their mind wasn't where is should have been and they made a mistake. None of them were happy with what they did because they had a boyfriend whom they loved dearly.

You have simple thoughts. Period.

Just because, as you said, she likes her man, doesn't mean she won't leave him. And yes I'm using your age against you again. Yes, maybe you have had a girlfriend. But both, you and her, are mentally incapable of understanding certain things because you haven't fully developed yet.

"trick is to not let it happen-all simple stuff."

Maybe with the preteens you're used to dating. But let me tell you, a woman is going to do whatever the fuck she wants. You're aren't going to be able to stop her.

Posted by DazedScorp
You really are an idiot aren't you?

They were happy with their boyfriends. Due to certain situations, mainly alcohol being involved, their mind wasn't where is should have been and they made a mistake. None of them were happy with what they did because they had a boyfriend whom they loved dearly.

You have simple thoughts. Period.

Just because, as you said, she likes her man, doesn't mean she won't leave him. And yes I'm using your age against you again. Yes, maybe you have had a girlfriend. But both, you and her, are mentally incapable of understanding certain things because you haven't fully developed yet.

"trick is to not let it happen-all simple stuff."

Maybe with the preteens you're used to dating. But let me tell you, a woman is going to do whatever the fuck she wants. You're aren't going to be able to stop her.

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They were happy with their boyfriends. Due to certain situations, mainly alcohol being involved, their mind wasn't where is should have been and they made a mistake. None of them were happy with what they did because they had a boyfriend whom they loved dearly.

i said if you keep them happy, they would stay with you, not stay fully committed and not make any mistakes. if anything you just helped further prove my point so i dunno where you're going with this, but knowing you this isnt quits yet.



You have simple thoughts. Period.
ill fess to that, ill admit i do try to keep it simple

You have simple thoughts. Period.
ill fess to that, ill admit i do try to keep it simple so you can follow, but it seems ive failed miserably at that.
think of the "simple thoughts" as a game of connect the dots- special olympics version tho, just for you.


Just because, as you said, she likes her man, doesn't mean she won't leave him. And yes I'm using your age against you again. Yes, maybe you have had a girlfriend. But both, you and her, are mentally incapable of understanding certain things because you haven't fully developed yet.

now you're just coming off stupid. dont assume, makes an ass of out both of us.

But let me tell you, a woman is going to do whatever the fuck she wants. You're aren't going to be able to stop her.

naw shit brah. this is why you keep them happy- so when they make mistakes with losers like you, they go right back to the real men with principals.

on another note,
"So explain why then, why a lot of the women I have slept with, have had boyfriends whom they liked very much."
this has provided alot of insight to who you are and how you look upon subjects like this. this proves my theory that you are a joke of a man. its clear now just how far it will get you making assumptions of my opinions based on my age. now that i know you're a joke ill stop taking you so seriously.

"CONFIRMS my theory" is the better choice of words.

scorp i read your quote, it might be true but my goal is not to sleep with her my goal was to get her

others i dont even know what to think now or do, i just dont know how to work my way up to the kiss with her, im losing hope she is an amazing girl and stuff but if they been together for 4 years i dont think i stand a chance.. maybe she needs to get to know me more but then again i dont wanna get stuck in the friend zone, i just entered it, and i was hoping to use that and go further, but then again even if i got her i wouldn't have reassurance that she wouldn't do the same thing to me.. and i cant read her mind and know what she thinks of me in that way, i make her laugh a lot when we text each other, i feel like its the only thing im capable of doing.. i can start flirting with her but she might just not take it to consideration and will treat it as if im just kidding - like my ex had a flirting buddy.. i just dont know, i really dont want to move on she is one of a kind, and my ex told me that she would never cheat she would just break up with the guy first and before dating a new one.. so idk i really dont know, the last thing i can do is stop from getting pulled more into her friend zone somehow without making myself look like an @sshole and show her that i like her so that she doesnt think that i look at her just as a friend..

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Posted by DazedScorp
That has nothing to do with astrology.

If a chick leaves her boyfriend for you, what makes you think she's not going to do the same thing to you?

Best point made.
If someone likes to chop and change they shouldn't really be in a relationship really.

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This can be true, guys. But, then again, it's hard to fully know the situation, ya know? I had a boyfriend who was a real butthead to me, and I was staying with him longer than I should have and trying to make it work. I also had a "fun buddy"- a mutual friend of ours who would do fun things that my bf wouldn't and who would listen to me endlessly compain about Butthead. He was FULLY in the friend zone, but was always sweet and kind and supportive. One day, another friend couldn't hold back anymore and told me that my fun-buddy had developed feelings for me. I had never even considered him romantically, and he had kept his feelings well-hidden. I thought hard about it, and then decided to give him a shot. I broke up with the douche, who couldn't have cared less, and went on a date with Fun Buddy, to whom I'm now married. Long story, just to say you never know what's going on behind the scenes, and that just because a girl would break up with her guy doesn't mean he didn't need to be broken up with.

😢 Are you doing this just to win? You know I always had your back on this, but I do think messing with her when she's dating someone is a bad idea. If not for any reason other than respect. What happens when she breaks up with him because You're more exciting? Most likely, she will not have moved on and separated herself properly. When you DO make very human mistakes, she'll constantly think about him and how comfortable she was with him. If she's really been in a relationship for that long a separation period will be needed so she can wash him off of her so to speak. Wouldn't it be better to be the one to pick her back up after she's cleansed herself like that? Yes, being the one she runs to when he lets her down would be dirty too, but that's what I would recommend the most.

Yeah, we're great at moving on and moving on quickly, but we're still human. You wouldn't want her if she didn't have the capacity to love the person you are and miss you, but if she has that capacity then she does for this other guy too.

Crazy thing about us gems, we might keep a handful of prospects at all times, but we aren't so easily taken. All of that sucks (and I know its not what you want to hear), but I truly believe its best that you at least keep it in mind.

i am not doing it for a win, i decided to move slowly, i will be there for her when shes down, yesterday she told me that the day before yesterday when i was out with girls having fun she was upset with her bf, she didnt want to tell me why she was sad but i insisted, then i changed topic and we talked about kitties and laughed, ill just do what WHIMSY said, clearly this is the second time i know of that they are fighting, so things aren't perfect, ill just be there for her and then i'm sure our mutual friends will notice that i like her because i'm bad at keeping these kinds of secrets and whatever happens - happens, but i'm done trying to impress and make her like me because she unconsciously puts me in her friend zone, but trusts me more than than just a friend so i don't know.. meanwhile ill just party around and study

Sickesweet is right about needing some time after a relationship to regroup. I jumped right into that new relationship without a separation phase, so my future husband had to go through the separation phase with me. It has to happen one way or another. Sucked for him, but he stuck it out. Be ready for that to happen if she decides to go out with you.