RoxyJ
@RoxyJ
12 Years
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Gem man is CRAZY
First, you can't lose something you didn't "HAVE" in the first place... And why in the world is he expecting you to change for him?? I know there's two side to every story, but it doesn't sound like he will be back. I could be wrong, but just based on him wanting you to change for him... You should just move on...
Be happy you're rid of him.
Posted by RoxyJ
I was dating this gem guy and man its so complicated. Like OMG i started to like him but i wish that I hadnt cus i feel stupid
but recently he ended with me telling me that he didnt want to mess with me anymore. But I was so confused to why hed say that b/c its not like we were on bad terms ... everything was fine and then he just said that. My feelings were REALLY hurt. me being a sensitive libra I always have to understand everything or else it will drive me nuts ! & im getting drove nuts now b/c I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY? but anhow he said " he did it b/c he didnt want to be in a relationship w. anyone right now and that he didnt want to hurt me or break my heart( kinda late) " he also said that it wasnt over and that he so called liked me more than ALL the other girls he "talked" to which is 4. he said he wasnt F*** any of them just talking. WHATEVER! he told me that it wasnt over he just didnt want to be in a relationship w. me! Oh and he told me he spent more time w. me supposedly than all the others i guess. My biggest fear is that id loose him forever and hed choose someone else that he liked better. he told me that he wanted me to work on some things b/c it was some things that he DIDNT like a/b me i guess.
do you think he will come back or no ? should i just give up
OMG. I went through the same thing with my Gem.
He is fine and loves to pursue you. When he senses that you are getting "attached" he will run for the hills.
The thing is that he will treat you wonderfully as long as he doesnt THINK you are looking for a commitment from him.
He wants it to be his choice and his choice to hang out with you, that he's not doing it because he HAS to because he is in a committed relationship. He means it when he says he doesnt want a relationship. And its not you. He doesn't want a relationship with ANYONE.
But, if you just let him be free and stop pressuring him. Make him feel comfortable like you dont expect anything from him (like for him to hangout with him, take care of u etc.) he will come to you on his own and will def NOT want to stop talking to you if he really likes you.
To a Gem guy , to want a relationship is like a marraige commitment and they feel soooo trapped. And they will think what they like! Even if you try to play it off as not a big deal his thinking will get the best of him.
And if youre the only one he does things with phys
And btw, you sould exactly like me. YES he is crazy lol. I went through the same exact thing. But all he wants is for you to like, accept him and like him... haha they know theyre crazy.
omg your stories sound exactly like mine.....
lol
if you think he's crazy, you don't have a problem. find something better suited for yourself.
if you think he's crazy, you don't have a problem. find something better suited for yourself.
Posted by misslissa
First, you can't lose something you didn't "HAVE" in the first place... And why in the world is he expecting you to change for him?? I know there's two side to every story, but it doesn't sound like he will be back. I could be wrong, but just based on him wanting you to change for him... You should just move on...
i swear all gems want you to change trust me sweety hes an asshole they take longer to develop than others. They do a lot of preaching allowing them to sound like they have morals but really and truly their just a walking double standard. Hes confused and hes a monster. Men use our sympathy for their tired sad ass then turn around and talk to someone else just because their of a male species. Geminis are suppose to be the most understanding but mines doesnt understand what an inch of respect of manhood is. save yourself sweety i promise you you deserve better dont let yourself fall deeper than you are else your not going to be treated pleasantly. I dont think you want to spend most of your time crying because if hes telling you he doesnt want the relationship even if you get him he will like forget what he told you and use it against you. These men hit so low its unbelievable how some mothers raised their man childs with such pity for a woman's heart, \\
Posted by misslissa
First, you can't lose something you didn't "HAVE" in the first place... And why in the world is he expecting you to change for him?? I know there's two side to every story, but it doesn't sound like he will be back. I could be wrong, but just based on him wanting you to change for him... You should just move on...
Chacha.... I'm going to say what should be said....
NOT ALL GEMS, and not all gem men are like that... Or, you can continue to base all your answers on ONE FREAKING GEM MAN..... It makes everything you say irrelevant, bcuz you really only have the experience of one man... Really, your animosity towards gems is very annoying!
There it has been said.
NOT ALL GEMS, and not all gem men are like that... Or, you can continue to base all your answers on ONE FREAKING GEM MAN..... It makes everything you say irrelevant, bcuz you really only have the experience of one man... Really, your animosity towards gems is very annoying!
There it has been said.
Posted by ChachachaPosted by misslissa
First, you can't lose something you didn't "HAVE" in the first place... And why in the world is he expecting you to change for him?? I know there's two side to every story, but it doesn't sound like he will be back. I could be wrong, but just based on him wanting you to change for him... You should just move on...
i swear all gems want you to change trust me sweety hes an asshole they take longer to develop than others. They do a lot of preaching allowing them to sound like they have morals but really and truly their just a walking double standard. Hes confused and hes a monster. Men use our sympathy for their tired sad ass then turn around and talk to someone else just because their of a male species. Geminis are suppose to be the most understanding but mines doesnt understand what an inch of respect of manhood is. save yourself sweety i promise you you deserve better dont let yourself fall deeper than you are else your not going to be treated pleasantly. I dont think you want to spend most of your time crying because if hes telling you he doesnt want the relationship even if you get him he will like forget what he told you and use it against you. These men hit so low its unbelievable how some mothers raised their man childs with such pity for a woman's heart, \\click to expand
Are you dating my ex?? Sounds just like him.
Posted by misslissa
Chacha.... I'm going to say what should be said....
NOT ALL GEMS, and not all gem men are like that... Or, you can continue to base all your answers on ONE FREAKING GEM MAN..... It makes everything you say irrelevant, bcuz you really only have the experience of one man... Really, your animosity towards gems is very annoying!
There it has been said.
like ive said before im dealing with a gem leo mix so just minus all thhe leo traits ive put on gemini that could be wrong,
Posted by misslissa
Chacha.... I'm going to say what should be said....
NOT ALL GEMS, and not all gem men are like that... Or, you can continue to base all your answers on ONE FREAKING GEM MAN..... It makes everything you say irrelevant, bcuz you really only have the experience of one man... Really, your animosity towards gems is very annoying!
There it has been said.
then shut your trap hole about how i am coming off to you because your coming off as another know it all gemini who just judges who cares if im coming off AS an annoyance to you do you represent all geminis? are you insecure or something? or did i forget that you were god? since when do you call the shots and label things? if you want to be a critic go try out for american idol
I would say he sounds just like my guy...the best Advice that I can give you because Im in the same situation is to just play it cool and aloof..not mean but just act like you are friends be fun and continue to do you..because he will see others and that is so he doesn't get to attached to just one..defense mechanism...my guy is also a taurus/gem so maybe a little diff but def sounds like my guy...good luck
Posted by ChachachaPosted by misslissa
Chacha.... I'm going to say what should be said....
NOT ALL GEMS, and not all gem men are like that... Or, you can continue to base all your answers on ONE FREAKING GEM MAN..... It makes everything you say irrelevant, bcuz you really only have the experience of one man... Really, your animosity towards gems is very annoying!
There it has been said.
then shut your trap hole about how i am coming off to you because your coming off as another know it all gemini who just judges who cares if im coming off AS an annoyance to you do you represent all geminis? are you insecure or something? or did i forget that you were god? since when do you call the shots and label things? if you want to be a critic go try out for american idolclick to expand
Smh... Pot meet kettle....
Chachacha, your presence here, and your attitude, are becoming tiresome. If you're so clever, why are you always here looking for advice on how to handle your man? You need to be doing more sitting down, shutting up, and listening if your intent here is really to learn. Instead, you always end up coming out swinging at the very people who have been trying patiently to help you (just like a typical Aries who hasn't had enough trips around the sun to have gained any maturity). Misslissa is correct: stop using your personal relationship issues to put down our fellow Gems.
Posted by May31BabyPosted by ChachachaPosted by misslissa
Chacha.... I'm going to say what should be said....
NOT ALL GEMS, and not all gem men are like that... Or, you can continue to base all your answers on ONE FREAKING GEM MAN..... It makes everything you say irrelevant, bcuz you really only have the experience of one man... Really, your animosity towards gems is very annoying!
There it has been said.
then shut your trap hole about how i am coming off to you because your coming off as another know it all gemini who just judges who cares if im coming off AS an annoyance to you do you represent all geminis? are you insecure or something? or did i forget that you were god? since when do you call the shots and label things? if you want to be a critic go try out for american idol
Chacha everything you say to misslissa applies to you. Since when do you call all the shots and label everything? Are you god? Everything you say is gospel? Or are you just a know it all who thinks that way?
It is kinda stupid to base everything you think you know off one person. Maybe you ladies just attract weak, asshole douche bags. Ever think of it that way? What type of mother did you have to raise you to be so simple you cant walk away from a shitty relationship? Are you insecure??
Ijs...
On a side note... Maybe gem guys do suck. So maybe stop fucking with them. Sheeshclick to expand
i dont mess with no gems lol and i am entitled to defend myself. How do i do that with the knowledge i looked for. You shouldve done your research too if you wanted to be right. I specialize with anything to do with olgy and the study of things so astrology is baby food I know it so well i can spit you the whole greek mythology in every form of story it was written in.
Posted by Whimsy
Chachacha, your presence here, and your attitude, are becoming tiresome. If you're so clever, why are you always here looking for advice on how to handle your man? You need to be doing more sitting down, shutting up, and listening if your intent here is really to learn. Instead, you always end up coming out swinging at the very people who have been trying patiently to help you (just like a typical Aries who hasn't had enough trips around the sun to have gained any maturity). Misslissa is correct: stop using your personal relationship issues to put down our fellow Gems.
i dont look i give it you need to reread some post sweety any other reason is for entertainment to feel some emotional attachment through engaging myself in literature i dont need the state the obvious not every one is here for the same reasons in which is still would be none of your business. Do you own this site? i dont think so so if you dont agree with what i say you and your online possy can either close your eyelids while scrolling down. Your dealing with a highly defensive person who is sensitive to stimuli even clever people still need to improve.
Sweet. Now go study grammar and punctuation.
Posted by GeminivixennPosted by misslissaPosted by ChachachaPosted by misslissa
Chacha.... I'm going to say what should be said....
NOT ALL GEMS, and not all gem men are like that... Or, you can continue to base all your answers on ONE FREAKING GEM MAN..... It makes everything you say irrelevant, bcuz you really only have the experience of one man... Really, your animosity towards gems is very annoying!
There it has been said.
then shut your trap hole about how i am coming off to you because your coming off as another know it all gemini who just judges who cares if im coming off AS an annoyance to you do you represent all geminis? are you insecure or something? or did i forget that you were god? since when do you call the shots and label things? if you want to be a critic go try out for american idol
Smh... Pot meet kettle....
Lol... Wow.. Chacha's still talking.. I thought she was done, with putting Gems down haha..click to expand
did you fix your problems yet girl? lol issues issues
Posted by Whimsy
Sweet. Now go study grammar and punctuation.
no friends? still trying to create some in forums?
Ouch...I am hurt beyond all repair. You needed schooling, young thing, and that's what you got. You're getting a good lesson in Gems right now.
Posted by May31Baby
What? Lol...Youre on some other shit. Idk what youre even talking about.
First of all, you came in attacking not defending. And what research can make me think i know every single person of a particular ANYTHING is the same? None, hunny boo boo. But oh well, have fun with your assumptions.
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i dont but they way your speaking i can intuitively figure you out even with the conflict resolution you are utilizing right now lets me know who i am dealing with. I dont care who you are i will never know thats you and your gift but if your going to come at me i would like to figure out what your about because i do not possess and ill intentions.
Posted by auriqa
Oh, looks like that rabid Aries is back on our forum.
you need some other form of channeling calling people by their sun signs shows how much you really know about astrophysics
Posted by RoxyJ
I was dating this gem guy and man its so complicated. Like OMG i started to like him but i wish that I hadnt cus i feel stupid
but recently he ended with me telling me that he didnt want to mess with me anymore. But I was so confused to why hed say that b/c its not like we were on bad terms ... everything was fine and then he just said that. My feelings were REALLY hurt. me being a sensitive libra I always have to understand everything or else it will drive me nuts ! & im getting drove nuts now b/c I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY? but anhow he said " he did it b/c he didnt want to be in a relationship w. anyone right now and that he didnt want to hurt me or break my heart( kinda late) " he also said that it wasnt over and that he so called liked me more than ALL the other girls he "talked" to which is 4. he said he wasnt F*** any of them just talking. WHATEVER! he told me that it wasnt over he just didnt want to be in a relationship w. me! Oh and he told me he spent more time w. me supposedly than all the others i guess. My biggest fear is that id loose him forever and hed choose someone else that he liked better. he told me that he wanted me to work on some things b/c it was some things that he DIDNT like a/b me i guess.
do you think he will come back or no ? should i just give up
its not his sun sign causing him to act in such a way you should figure out his moon venus and mars or the best accurate way to find out what he wants and where your troubles are can be discovered in a davison synastry chart. people need to resort back to someones blueprints and foundations. asking others for advice will simply not work in a relationship a mature being with experience knows that everyone is different with different wants and needs so stop painting everyone with the same brush and figure out what brush you should be using
Posted by auriqaPosted by ChachachaPosted by auriqa
Oh, looks like that rabid Aries is back on our forum.
you need some other form of channeling calling people by their sun signs shows how much you really know about astrophysics
Sorry Doris*.
*I don't actually know you're name, so I'm using this as a placeholder. You seem like a Doris. Or a Helga.click to expand
you seem like a thot
Classy.
Chachacha, I have nothing against you per se, but I'm sick of the way you're handling yourself here. You fly off the handle when we try to answer your questions, disregard our advice, act like you're smarter than everyone else, verbally abuse people, and then have the audacity to give your opinions on Gems to people posting for help (after you never even listened when YOU came here for help). Sheesh, if you can upset Misslissa, the most chill Gem on the planet, you really are on a roll and need to check yourself.
I really, really want to know what your problem is...for real. If you were to stop being so defensive and reactionary all the time, so would the people around you...like us, for instance.
I really, really want to know what your problem is...for real. If you were to stop being so defensive and reactionary all the time, so would the people around you...like us, for instance.
Posted by Whimsy
Chachacha, I have nothing against you per se, but I'm sick of the way you're handling yourself here. You fly off the handle when we try to answer your questions, disregard our advice, act like you're smarter than everyone else, verbally abuse people, and then have the audacity to give your opinions on Gems to people posting for help (after you never even listened when YOU came here for help). Sheesh, if you can upset Misslissa, the most chill Gem on the planet, you really are on a roll and need to check yourself.
I really, really want to know what your problem is...for real. If you were to stop being so defensive and reactionary all the time, so would the people around you...like us, for instance.
+infinity!
I'm not the kind to speak out, becuz I do understand "to each their own"... But, when it goes to leading the mass in a bitter, crazy direction I just have to say something....
Posted by Whimsy
Chachacha, I have nothing against you per se, but I'm sick of the way you're handling yourself here. You fly off the handle when we try to answer your questions, disregard our advice, act like you're smarter than everyone else, verbally abuse people, and then have the audacity to give your opinions on Gems to people posting for help (after you never even listened when YOU came here for help). Sheesh, if you can upset Misslissa, the most chill Gem on the planet, you really are on a roll and need to check yourself.
I really, really want to know what your problem is...for real. If you were to stop being so defensive and reactionary all the time, so would the people around you...like us, for instance.
i know its probably most likely my fault. i literally go from emotional to serious at the drop of a hat and right back to emotional whether it be happy or sad. reading the post was serious and sad, at least thats how i felt. but then reading some of the advice that clearly can not solve it leaves me far from serious. im too impatient to handle things gently. its soooooooooooooooo boring i was blessed with a very wide understanding and i understand that you misunderstood me. I was not being serious and therefore i was not taken seriously and i am receiving what i have projected. my biggest concerned is how blind sighted one is to my obvious emotions. i do not do well with emotions to be honest. I am quick to nurse someone back to help but the fact that i get less love than i give is what allows me to perceive everyone as entertainment pawns you either are entertaining or you become the entertainment. life is too short to be sad and when one person is sad it causes an emotional nest where it brings the moods of others down. so why cant we just laugh off the situations instead of making people feel bad about their choices. it takes time to learn. You can sugar coat things for people or you can be brutally honest excuse me if my balance is both. The truth is gemini is a manipulative sign if you scheme if you lie if you deceive or con and you do a greatjob of it chances are its your mercury gemini rules mercury theres a reason i generalize astrology is based on the stars yes but also an astrological myth just like the bible so for you to say geminis are not like this your denying astrology. i wasnt generalizing the person i was stating the mercurial energy. its arr
Posted by misslissaPosted by Whimsy
Chachacha, I have nothing against you per se, but I'm sick of the way you're handling yourself here. You fly off the handle when we try to answer your questions, disregard our advice, act like you're smarter than everyone else, verbally abuse people, and then have the audacity to give your opinions on Gems to people posting for help (after you never even listened when YOU came here for help). Sheesh, if you can upset Misslissa, the most chill Gem on the planet, you really are on a roll and need to check yourself.
I really, really want to know what your problem is...for real. If you were to stop being so defensive and reactionary all the time, so would the people around you...like us, for instance.
+infinity!
I'm not the kind to speak out, becuz I do understand "to each their own"... But, when it goes to leading the mass in a bitter, crazy direction I just have to say something....click to expand
maybe if you spoke of something positive you would have received something positive. two wrongs do no make a right remember
O_o
Maybe you should reread your first post....
Sn: Wow. I'm done.
Maybe you should reread your first post....
Sn: Wow. I'm done.
Sorry, let me be alil more clear.... Your first post in THIS thread...
Posted by misslissa
O_o
Maybe you should reread your first post....
Sn: Wow. I'm done.
your on a site with people that need help and this is how you type to me
LOL @ chachacha.
I'm also very intuitive and specialise in verbal vomit, which school did you study douchebaggery? Unfortunately you're still a single celled amoeba compared to me so I'm better.
Why so mad bro? Don't hate it if your mercury is ruled by dumbass.
and that is how ridiculous you sound.
I'm also very intuitive and specialise in verbal vomit, which school did you study douchebaggery? Unfortunately you're still a single celled amoeba compared to me so I'm better.
Why so mad bro? Don't hate it if your mercury is ruled by dumbass.
and that is how ridiculous you sound.
i know its probably most likely my fault. i literally go from emotional to serious at the drop of a hat and right back to emotional whether it be happy or sad. reading the post was serious and sad, at least thats how i felt. but then reading some of the advice that clearly can not solve it leaves me far from serious. im too impatient to handle things gently. its soooooooooooooooo boring i was blessed with a very wide understanding and i understand that you misunderstood me. I was not being serious and therefore i was not taken seriously and i am receiving what i have projected. my biggest concerned is how blind sighted one is to my obvious emotions. i do not do well with emotions to be honest. I am quick to nurse someone back to help but the fact that i get less love than i give is what allows me to perceive everyone as entertainment pawns you either are entertaining or you become the entertainment. life is too short to be sad and when one person is sad it causes an emotional nest where it brings the moods of others down. so why cant we just laugh off the situations instead of making people feel bad about their choices. it takes time to learn. You can sugar coat things for people or you can be brutally honest excuse me if my balance is both. The truth is gemini is a manipulative sign if you scheme if you lie if you deceive or con and you do a greatjob of it chances are its your mercury gemini rules mercury theres a reason i generalize astrology is based on the stars yes but also an astrological myth just like the bible so for you to say geminis are not like this your denying astrology. i wasnt generalizing the person i was stating the mercurial energy. its arr
I appreciate that you tried to put down your sword for a minute to make this post to explain where you're coming from. I want to say something about your original relationship issues. I'm being real, based on what you just said, and seriously don't mean to attack you at all.
Geminis don't do well AT ALL with explosive emotions. Even though some of us might like people who are exciting or energetic, we also like to know that we can expect them to remain somewhat emotionally calm. A volcanic personality is jarring and really very to take. A reason that your Gem might have kept trying to leave was that he loved you, but just couldn't deal with your temper. I'm not saying that's fair to you, but AM wondering if that might have been a big factor. Do you think it could have been
And the reason Misslissa is so frustrated is because it appears to her that YOU began the negativity with your first post on this thread, prompting her to say something. In YOUR eyes, HER post was the first negative thing said. It's like you slapped someone who then slapped you back. So, you slap the person a third time and say, "I wouldn't have had to do that if you hadn't started it". Do you see why your first post might have come off as a slap? Do you see why she's exasperated? You may not agree, but please at least see it.
Posted by Geminivixenn
Laugh out loud, at this whole topic.
LOL- We're working it out! It will all come to good, eventually.
Gemini men, like all men, will commit at the right time to the right woman (maybe). But they will commit. If a man tells you he doesn't want to "mess with you anymore," that's your cue to BOUNCE. This isn't a zodiac thing. This is a "he's just not that into you" thing. It sounds like you're caught up in wanting him more now because you can't have him. That's kind of normal to feel that way in your youth. The trick to finding love is to choose among the men who are hot to trot for you and to let go of those who aren't. If a man tells you it's not working out for him, for any reason, believe him and let him go. You will love again but will you repeat this pattern or choose more wisely. Sorry it did not work out but he's not the only fish in the sea.
Posted by simplysaggitarius
He said allll this shit to me pushing me away and he was also afraid of what we could become... now he's the cutest... i tihnk he just doesnt like to feel the pressure of being expected to do anything. when u dont expect anything from him thats where he will thrive. basically if you want a relationship dont ever let it be known he wants the freedom to chooose and not feel obligated to hangout =] if you let him just come to you and he does, hes yours! if he really likes you he wont want you to let him go
Lots of fears about messing up....and when you always have two conflicting thoughts.....oh hell 😢
Acceptance is a really big thing with gems and they are often very accepting of others in the beginning. But things can go south sometimes very quickly once a gem starts seeing things that they don't like or don't want to deal with.
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but recently he ended with me telling me that he didnt want to mess with me anymore. But I was so confused to why hed say that b/c its not like we were on bad terms ... everything was fine and then he just said that. My feelings were REALLY hurt. me being a sensitive libra I always have to understand everything or else it will drive me nuts ! & im getting drove nuts now b/c I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY? but anhow he said " he did it b/c he didnt want to be in a relationship w. anyone right now and that he didnt want to hurt me or break my heart( kinda late) " he also said that it wasnt over and that he so called liked me more than ALL the other girls he "talked" to which is 4. he said he wasnt F*** any of them just talking. WHATEVER! he told me that it wasnt over he just didnt want to be in a relationship w. me! Oh and he told me he spent more time w. me supposedly than all the others i guess. My biggest fear is that id loose him forever and hed choose someone else that he liked better. he told me that he wanted me to work on some things b/c it was some things that he DIDNT like a/b me i guess.
do you think he will come back or no ? should i just give up