Gem Men capable of slow sensual sex?

Im a Taurus so I LIVE in sensuality. From the covers on the bed to the food in the fridge its about texture, color, taste, smell, and sound. I love slow sensual sex for it is a beautiful experience that in its own way gives certain enlightenment...a certain feeling of being super sensory. Anyway...I've been trying to get my Gem guy to slow down and enjoy the ride, every sensual aspect of it, but he seems more interested in the climax... interested in how many times me can get me to that point, but its like....he wants to see how fast he can get me there, almost ravaging me...when I really just want to savor and be savored...is there any hope...or should I bide the time until I can move on? Its not all about sex, but as much as he likes having it, Im going to need it to be more enjoyable at some point. Its not a matter of him rushing through it because at my request it can last quite a while...but who wants to ride a roller coaster for an hour...I'd rather a cruise.

How old is he? lol..

hmmm well maybe try to set the mood first? make a nice dinner at home, ask him to bring a nice bottle of wine, then later perhaps a nice candle, dim lights, sexy undies and bra....you start it out slow and set the pace and don't let him start touching or kissing until he adjusts to the slower pace. you touch him slow first. a gemini is usually very good at picking up on your lead

He's 25, but this is his first long relationship. He's used to a lot of primative sex so Im not sure if he knows how or if it just isnt in his nature to go about it tenderly. When I suggest a different pace he either gets flustered or acts like he didnt hear me. I hate just saying nevermind because he feels rejected. I know he's a results based performer and he doesnt understand what the problem is if Im getting off may times so I dont even know how to explain it to him.

Its not so much that he rushes it, its that its always so rough and feverish. It doesnt matter if its a quicky or we do it for a couple hours the pace is the
same. Break neck speed.

Well I cant drink right now, but I try to set the mood, dinner, steamy showers and luscious body butters it just seems like he only has sex in one speed. Its not that I want it to last any longer I just want it to be slow and sensuous instead of feverish. I dont want him to drill me I want him to thrill me lol.

get on top lol!!! haha that way you're in control. i'd probably cover his eyes with something too so that way he won't know whats going on and he won't try to move 😉

sweetest do you enjoy having sex with him? I guess you need to feel some passion with sex. Sometimes my gem can be the most passionate person. Then sometimes he can be a little rough. no matter what. I love it!

But your gem being 25 he still has a lot to learn. You can teach him. I mean are you guys in love? I feel thats the only way to create passion within sex.

I certainly enjoy sex with him but I would love it if he attempted to switch it up sometimes. But you're absolutely right, the passion is lacking. I dont know that we're soulmates, as it seems like that would be a foreign concept to him anyway (it seems like he tries so rigidly to stay logical), but I dont recall it every really being what I'd call passionate. Steamy, yes. Maybe sex at a feverish pace is passionate for him, he feels as if hes ravaging me and bringing me to the most eruptious (i think I made up a word) climax, when I feel more as if hes plummeling me. I guess passion for me is more scenic, savoring.


Ive tried the on top and it certainly allows me to choose the pace, but he just cant go as long when I have him in my clutches lol.

Any suggestions for discussing it with him without offending him?

Can't think of any advise.. but the gems I've been with recently have been quite 'slow and sensual' oddly.. perhaps because we liked each other a lot. My current gemini bhoyyy is verrrry passionate & whatnot, could be all the water in his chart.. venus, moon in cancer.. maybe maybe?

Tie him up?

"Im going to need it to be more enjoyable at some point."



At some point?

Sounds like a plan, rather than a passion ... I would suggest a break up with this man, and when you find a man to whom sex is enjoyable and passionate, then at that time put forth your energy into bonding.

"Any suggestions for discussing it with him without offending him?"


Blunt Truth .... Joe, this isn't right for me. I love being with you, but, sexually I need something else. Can we talk about it?



If you beat around the bush and try to give signals ..... you leave yourself open for misinterpretation. If he is offending about having a discussion on a topic that is important to you .. then he's a loser anyway, so what difference does it make?

And if you don't discuss this with him, Sweet, and he finds out 'eventually' then he'll feel like slighted and offended that you didn't trust him, and his intelligence enough to discuss it.



If it were the other way around and your partner really needed to have a convo with you, but just pretended like everything was ok ... wouldn't that be more horrible than the truth of what was the matter —?

You can't just pretend you're ok with something when you're not ..