Gemini's I need your help again.

I have question, inwhich needs some honest feedback. I have been dating a Gemini for about 7 and half months now, and we have been living together for about three. So I guess you can say it is serious.

She went to a different city to meet up with some friends. One is a guy. They haven't seen each other in years so it's a big deal. I encouraged her to go, because I know good friends are hard to find.

But lately, she has texting me she is getting wasted (drunk) and she doesn't normally drink. Also apparently she has met another guy there too, because he left a message on her facebook about meeting again.

Now I am not the jealous type. I try to give my baby as much freedom as she needs to feel secure about me. But lately I just don't know how I should feel about this because it's the first time we have been apart.

So I need to ask the Gemini women here is this normal behavior for a gemini? Am I over thinking this? I am being too concerned?

Please tell what you guys think. The good, bad or ugly.

For real bro, this is a serious question but thanks for replying.

Hi Eric.

if it were me in the same situation.....

if i were living with someone for 3 mons. i would be totally committed to the one i live with. i'm not a drinker, either, but i do drink socially. in other words, i would drink so i wouldn't be the only one not drinking. BUT, i would not cheat on my SO. drunk or not, i would NOT cheat! if i had met a guy, it would just be in a friendly manner. if the guy were to think it was going somewhere else, i would let him know i'm happily in a committed relationship. AND it would have already come up in conversation cuz that early in the relationship, i would be just ga ga over who i'm with. hell, i've been with my SO for alil over 2 years and i'm still ga ga over him. lol!

i do agree with Dom. calmly let her know how you FEEL about the situation, but don't accuse.

i hope this helps and i wish you the best Eric!! 🙂

Hey Everyone thanks for your inpute, I appreciate it very much. She won't be back tell after the new year so I am thinking of texting her about it. Is this a good idea? Why do I feel this way? The idea of her drinking with friends never bothered me before. 😢

UPDATE***

I wanted to give you ladies and Domino :-) an update. Right now it's day 6 since she left. I have to pick her up from the airport tomorrow night, New Years day. Least to say I am looking forward to see her and also not. I don't know how to broach the subject that's been on my mind the last week but I have to confront her.

Since Sunday alot of red flags have gone up most notably my gut intuition which is usually at peace. This has never happened before an our entire relationship but since last Monday I knew something was wrong. And as I read a few of her facebook exchanges with her guy friends, it only affirmed my feeling that something was going down. And when she did send me an email which was far and few between, (sorry to say no phone calls yet) she was reluctant to tell me what has happened in Seattle. Another thing the time inwhich she emailed me was very strange. Most of them came in the middle of the night. I am sorry but this isn't normal even for a Gemini.

A few other things I left out in my first post. My girlfriend saves her money and only buys what she needs when she needs it, but a few weeks leading up to the Seattle trip I noticed she started buying alot more clothes and became obsessed about how her hair looked all the time.

I did some online research an all these changes in behavior are flags that she might have cheated or was thinking of cheating.

castorandpollux I knew what I was getting into by falling for a Gemini so I understand that they need freedom and I think I have given her that. But to be frank there is only so much a person can give before it puts a strain on a relationship. Trust is a very delicate thing and once its gone its gone.

Insaying that I haven't told her of my insecurity, I am playing it cool until I get a chance to talk to her inperson about by concerns. However I won't even need to do that. You can tell if some one cheated on when you see them.

Anyways I will let yall know what happened after New years.

All the best and the new year Gemini's!!

OMG, I'm soooooo late ... 😢 😢 😢

Crap! For crying-out-sideways, I need to give you another way to message me so I'd know to get back here when its important.

Based on all that I read, I seriously don't blame you for questioning her behavior because if she acting different and you can see that she seems to be hiding 'something', then you have a right to be concern. Plus, it seems like she is leading you to think one thing ... but on her facebook things seem different.

Also, this can all be a huge misunderstanding too. The fact that she acting different could be because she just feels like changing herself up a bit -- however, seeing her interchanges with another guy worries you. usually-- contrary to popular belief -- gemini women are faithful when they are in love, its when they fall out of love is when you should be worried. Also, gemini women seem to go crazy over capricorn men when they really like them ^_^.

However, I don't know whats going on so I can't say whether or not she's cheated. Just becareful not to mistaken playful teasing with friends as something more, good relationships get ripped apart that way.

So you two share facebook accounts or you just check hers?

aye eric was good this G.L A.K.A da Gem -in- I. I would say just say Talk 2 her face 2 face & let her know that you care for her but @ da same time let her know what da real deal is & how you feel.. but jus be secure with yourself & read between da lines with what she's saying because i know y'all cappy's dont't like mind games esp from a gem.. but all in all there's nothing we like more than open face 2 face convo's & there's nothing we hate more than someone that's not talkin & being rigid...🙂 hope Everything Cool with you & ya lady.. 1ne

Eric11, i feel your pain. my ex was a taurean, and he couldnt deal with this either. was his suspicion entirely unwarranted? no. we tend to love to feel "like we belong". and when we catch up with college friends, we will relive our college days...if this means drinking like we havent in a long time, so be it.

first of all, the "new guy" means nothing. she's practising, ensuring she hasn't lost her ability to attract new ones. and she does, so the guys facebooking her. she'll probably be the first one to call and tell you about him, just to show off a bit. but he means nothing. she is probably having more fun with the older friends, catching up with old times.

they will flirt. they will aim to get the guys to love her. not sexually necessarily....at some level, all gem girls love being "one of the guys". if she is very feminine, she will underplay it to fit in. drinking is part of it. but unless there is already a gap or she feels she is missing something with you, she will never feel the need to cheat. she knows how to say no, but will not do so until the very last point, when there is no option except to be rude to the guy.

but gem girls are smarter than you think. they will never drink to a point of losing control. unless they completely trust the people they are around. she will also enjoy the idea of being drunk, so when she is calling and saying she had "such a GREAT time", she is just showing you she has such an awesome life. its not to make you jealous. she will love you more if you trust her and say "im glad you're enjoying yourself, i wish i could meet these guys too, they seem to be really nice".

to me, that would make me sure that this is the right guy for me.

id be happy to provide any more info if you need. i can sense you care for her very much - it is hard to give gem girls freedom, and i am glad your ladylove enough to do so. be rest assured she is aware of it.

Dear Eric11,

I am a gemini female, married to a Capricorn. I love him deeply 100% with all my heart, but I notice when I give him my all... he backs off, treats me like crap, manipulates me, becomes bossy and rude...

So, to talk to a cappy about feelings is IMPOSSIBLE, he doesn't get how he hurts me. Instead, I will hurt him for hurting me. Doesn't mean I am cheating or doing something sinful, just making him wonder about me and forcing him to understand what he has, and unless he appreciates it and gives it 100% , he will lose it.

Posted by GoldenRose5
Dear Eric11,

I am a gemini female, married to a Capricorn. I love him deeply 100% with all my heart, but I notice when I give him my all... he backs off, treats me like crap, manipulates me, becomes bossy and rude...

So, to talk to a cappy about feelings is IMPOSSIBLE, he doesn't get how he hurts me. Instead, I will hurt him for hurting me. Doesn't mean I am cheating or doing something sinful, just making him wonder about me and forcing him to understand what he has, and unless he appreciates it and gives it 100% , he will lose it.

Hi GoldenRose5, there are moments when there is something bothering us, it may or may not have anything to do with you. So we distance ourselves inorder to deal with our emotions. We become distant and aloof. Cut the cords of communication. We sometimes expect other people to know what we are thinking. A foolish expectation, but an innate character trait of the goat.

My only advice to you is to talk to him about how you feel. You don't deserve to be bullied or minipulated so let him know that. A gemini and capricorn can go great together provided that they respect each other from the beginning. Because we are so different, respect is paramount. My and my gf seldom fight if at all and we have been living together for about 5 months now, dating for 9.

Hey Eric11, can you reply to my post on Capricorn board please?