He just drunk called me

My Gem just drunk called me saying he knows I deserve better but he loves me and he regrets cheating on me. He said he would rather have our friendship then lose me for good and he still wants to work on being my husband because a connection like ours comes once in a lifetime. I was making him laugh and we were singing in drunk voices in the phone though I wasn't drunk. I miss him but I know that if I took him back I will always remind him that he cheated rather I let him go then bring misery in his life. The 5th dec was going to be out wedding day. For my birthday last week he bought me 3 perfumes timbalands a hoodie and an ipad with an iPhone. He sometimes pretends like he doesn't love me but his actions say otherwise and he tells me a lot.
Oh well that's water under the bridge I just want to have sex with him so I can also say I had a great wet experience with a gem lol.

p.s I only wrote this because it's been 12 hours since someone posted.

He cheated because we had agreed to wait for marriage but he got too thirsty. Basically in the 10 months we were together he couldn't keep his toy in his pants until mommy wants to play.

We friends and I understand him he still has to evolve into the Loyal gem and I still have to evolve into the forgiving scorpio that doesn't bring it up ever and move on from an issue.

Nigga has been cheating since after the accident when he ignored me for 5 weeks. Basically Trust issues from my side started then but I continued making excuses because damn gems and being good with words.

@littlemegabyte I agree. I can't go back I do deserve better. I'm an all or nothing type of girl. hate sharing even with my body when I'm not in a relationship. I can be celibate For 2 years without even getting horny. chuckles

@scorpx3 I forgave him the 1st time he confessed. We friends now because that's how our friendship started off. But I think I'm a lesson for him that when you find something good don't play with it. The next time he falls in love she's going to be so lucky. .

Posted by littlemegabyte
OP deserves better

People deserve what they have earned.


You have no clue what the OP actually deserves. to say that is equivalent to talking out of your ass.

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Posted by phoenixrises
He cheated because we had agreed to wait for marriage but he got too thirsty. Basically in the 10 months we were together he couldn't keep his toy in his pants until mommy wants to play.

We friends and I understand him he still has to evolve into the Loyal gem and I still have to evolve into the forgiving scorpio that doesn't bring it up ever and move on from an issue.

Nigga has been cheating since after the accident when he ignored me for 5 weeks. Basically Trust issues from my side started then but I continued making excuses because damn gems and being good with words.

@littlemegabyte I agree. I can't go back I do deserve better. I'm an all or nothing type of girl. hate sharing even with my body when I'm not in a relationship. I can be celibate For 2 years without even getting horny. chuckles

@scorpx3 I forgave him the 1st time he confessed. We friends now because that's how our friendship started off. But I think I'm a lesson for him that when you find something good don't play with it. The next time he falls in love she's going to be so lucky. .

You deserve way better, but this whole waiting to marriage thing is a fuking joke!

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well clearly it was a joke since he didn't take it seriously. . Next time he agrees to waiting he should tell me he's going to wait but we will be having a side chick in the side. ..

Posted by phoenixrises

Next time he agrees to waiting he should ..

Of course when you make reference you say "next time" ...... because stupid is as stupid does.


and you think in terms of being with him, in order to even have a "next time" ... because that is what stupid does


I don't feel sorry for you. You're the one choosing to give credit to a cheater, and act like he's the prize since you came to ask people how to keep it.


You deserve a cheater, since here you are talking about next times with him.

Not with him. How can I breath 'I deserve better and next time' in 1 breath.... As gullible as I am, I am also selfish with myself. To me him cheating said I'm not enough and I'm not worth the wait and also 4 all the times I assumed he was cheating and he made me feel like I was insecure or crazy all because of his actions, mentally the Trust is gone. He can lie deny and cheat how do you recover from that.

As much as I value and love your input in this situation you are wrong dear. I once let the love of my love because when I ran into him in the street with another girl he just gave me the peace sign and went along with her. Later he n said she was a classmate.

Next time is meant for the 1... for him. Once he evolves he's going to a 10.

@sei123 the way I fall for words damn to already calling me Princess is making me feel ncaaaw such a sweet guy where do we get such. so imagine a gemini and their wicked tongue how they always getting me melted. ..

@littlemegabyte please please can I be your student. .. How do you catch them out and call them out on their... This I have to know because the Gem had mastered defending himself even when I caught him it on lies. I just chose to believe him

Posted by phoenixrises

The next time he falls in love she's going to be so lucky.

jesusfuckingchrist

I get I get you P gees I see the best in people. I'm not a saint myself. Look at you I think you awesome. insultingly awesome but still if someone asked me about you I would say your children especially daughters will be so lucky to have such an insightful mother. We hardly have those who not only calls a spade but sees a spade as a spade. Actually the fact that you even have time to respond and point out such not obvious signs on most threads shows that you actually care. ncaaaaawwww

so muthafuchher came over last night gave me lots and lots of money. saying is money he saved for the wedding. Since its not happening he wants me to keep it and take myself and my son on a vacation on that weekend. He cried and then he asked me not to contact him ever again because he can't do this friendship thing. Fine today some girl we both know calls me and asks me to mute my phone. so we had a conference call but he didn't know that. so they were talking of hooking up and then she mentioned me randomly and he said. .. That girl was too fat for me look at me I'm too skinny. The girl was like but she's not fat and she's beautiful. I'm even surprised you talking to me after she set the bar. He said no she was never my type. I felt like I was doing her a favour when we were together and that's why we not even getting married anymore. yoh I was fuming when I heard that straight from his lips. By then I got over it when I remembered the pain in his eyes last night. Then I knew he said those things out of hurt. Still I find it childish and now I'm going to not feel guilty by chowing his money.

Take the money and run.

Posted by phoenixrises
My Gem just drunk called me saying he knows I deserve better but he loves me and he regrets cheating on me. He said he would rather have our friendship then lose me for good and he still wants to work on being my husband because a connection like ours comes once in a lifetime. I was making him laugh and we were singing in drunk voices in the phone though I wasn't drunk. I miss him but I know that if I took him back I will always remind him that he cheated rather I let him go then bring misery in his life. The 5th dec was going to be out wedding day. For my birthday last week he bought me 3 perfumes timbalands a hoodie and an ipad with an iPhone. He sometimes pretends like he doesn't love me but his actions say otherwise and he tells me a lot.
Oh well that's water under the bridge I just want to have sex with him so I can also say I had a great wet experience with a gem lol.

p.s I only wrote this because it's been 12 hours since someone posted.

Gem men say a lot of things they don't mean. Oh, they mean it when they say it, but tomorrow, they will say something different.

I totally agree. already weaved up and looking like a doll. even used it to sign up for gym since I'm now being called fat. The irony is last night he called me telling me how much he loves me. How him cheating on me is still eating him up. I just kept quiet and not entertained him because I think he's a psycho now. He doesn't know that I know behind my back he says shiiiit like that. By the end of the conversation just told him I respect the fact that he can't be friends because he doesn't want to hurt himself so from my side I won't be in contact with him.

yoh babe literally had I married this guy I was going to go mental. Thought we were terminating contact Now his mom calls asking me to spend christmas with them. I woke up to 8 missed calls from him I know he was drunk again. The psycho twin is coming out to play now. It's a good thing we moving in January to start a new job and life or I doubt this was ever going to end.

Thanks though bittersweet but now I realize I've dodged a serious bullet

A drunk man tells no tales. Girl, you better stop acting silly and marry your husband! Do you think you are the only woman who has ever been cheated on? Married women have been dealing with this for centuries, most of the married women I know get revenge in the pocketbook. You need to pull yourself together and get married and stop tripping. You will get over it! I mean quite frankly I think your expectations of a human being with whom you withheld sex are a little naive. Men can literally get physically sick if they don't release. Who a man screws and who he wants to marry is as different as night and day. Boys will be boys, you two aren't even married yet. You are expecting him to honor vows you have not legally made. What the hell? Well girl if you won't marry him with the shortage of men and marriage-minded men at that, someone else will. You sound really really young, and naive. I would have a talk with your God first before you dismiss a man who wants to marry you. Also take advice from all you want, but pay special attention to married members words of advice. All of my neck rolling finger snapping friends who won't take no butter from a man, are all single, sleeping alone at night and spending the holidays alone.

Posted by Lust
Married is a serious business. If she does not feel comfortable with him acting like an uncontrollable animal, then she should not be forced to marry him. A man who is in love and serious with her will wait for her. She thinks that she deserves better and she is right.

So what's wrong with sleeping alone at night? No one stop anyone to spend holidays with friends, neighbours, and perhaps donate the time at homeless shelters. No exscuse for a weak person, man nor woman. A person with a high standard will not tolarate cheating, nor cheat.

What sign is your husband?

Posted by flowingwater
Yeah but 10mos. Of no sex? That's extreme lol

Seriously, peace.

I agree. .What did she expect?

Posted by Lust
Married is a serious business. If she does not feel comfortable with him acting like an uncontrollable animal, then she should not be forced to marry him. A man who is in love and serious with her will wait for her. She thinks that she deserves better and she is right.

So what's wrong with sleeping alone at night? No one stop anyone to spend holidays with friends, neighbours, and perhaps donate the time at homeless shelters. No exscuse for a weak person, man nor woman. A person with a high standard will not tolarate cheating, nor cheat.

Who is forcing her to marry him? A Scorpio is going to do what she dang well wants to do. She is fixed; very fixed in love! You, nor me, will change a fixed sign's mind.

There are volumes of people with high self-esteem like the comedian Monique who openly choose polyamory. Or a lifestyle where she openly allows her husband to cheat. I know 2 wealthy women who prefer a lifestyle of luxury than to trip off their husband's indiscretions. Famous women we all know that tolerated their husband cheating; Jacqueline Kennedy, Hilary Clinton, Coretta King, Camille Cosby to name a few. It's all relative! 🙂 YOUR VALUES are not Everybody's VALUES! YOU think someone with high standards would not tolerate cheating, I think someone with high standards wouldn't use the name Lust to represent herself to the world. Others may feel the same about shrewd. What one considers high standards may not constitute high standards for another. For instance I think a person with high standards would use spell check when presenting their commentary, but correct spelling is not a high standard for you. No biggie it's all relative. 🙂 A colleague of mine is known for high standards regarding organization however she allows the dog's shit and piss to stay on the doggy pads for days. So the shit and piss are on the floor while the salad dressings, ketchup and jelly are all meticulously lined up. Weird. LOL🙂

What a dumbass .. along with all of those who told you to keep the ring.

Apparently, you all must be opportunists ... who only consider what you can get, rather than what is logical.



On second thought, maybe your angle was to keep the drama coming towards you. And so keeping it would surely bring you the joy of all your drama.

Posted by phoenixrises

.... in the 10 months we were together he couldn't keep his toy in his pants until mommy wants to play.

Posted by Shrewdsharp

.... your expectations of a human being with whom you withheld sex are a little naive.

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I doubt that she is clueless ...... in fact, considering Scorpios play head games rather than secure a sincere connection, I'd be inclined to believe she was withholding sex on purpose, to manipulate him.

And viola ..... she still strings him along by taking money from him. You can rest assured that a person isn't going to give that amount of money away to a bitch he doesn't even want to marry ..... without having some sort of promise.

People are so easily played .... look at how many responders in here were gamed by her, when she told this ridiculous story.

Posted by Shrewdsharp
A drunk man tells no tales. Girl, you better stop acting silly and marry your husband! Do you think you are the only woman who has ever been cheated on? Married women have been dealing with this for centuries, most of the married women I know get revenge in the pocketbook. You need to pull yourself together and get married and stop tripping. You will get over it! I mean quite frankly I think your expectations of a human being with whom you withheld sex are a little naive. Men can literally get physically sick if they don't release. Who a man screws and who he wants to marry is as different as night and day. Boys will be boys, you two aren't even married yet. You are expecting him to honor vows you have not legally made. What the hell? Well girl if you won't marry him with the shortage of men and marriage-minded men at that, someone else will. You sound really really young, and naive. I would have a talk with your God first before you dismiss a man who wants to marry you. Also take advice from all you want, but pay special attention to married members words of advice. All of my neck rolling finger snapping friends who won't take no butter from a man, are all single, sleeping alone at night and spending the holidays alone.

What a crock of sh*t.

I wish I could tag @rockyicecream thread in a relationship about marriage. It opened my eyes. I seriously don't want to be in a relationship with someone who won't give out the best because I'm willing to give out 100% . Star signs aside I was updating here as situations happened and yes I chose to keep the money. And the ring. And my vagina intact. I'm not playing mind games with him I've been real with him all the time. I'm just going to toast to his cheating and live my life. Maybe marriage is not cut out for some of us but oh hell to the no am I going to stay with a man because they are scarce. What a joke. Well loyalty is scarce too so I will keep mine until someone deserving comes along.

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Posted by flowingwater
Yeah but 10mos. Of no sex? That's extreme lol

Seriously, peace.

I agree. .What did she expect?

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I could have given it up in 10 days. a cheat is still a cheat. He confessed to cheating all the way back to when we started dating. Then he stopped until recently when I caught him. Well in my opinion I'm glad that I didn't give it up because had I given it up and he cheated I wouldn't have the strength I have right now to move on. I would be bitter and not happy and at peace. so i'm happy I held out