He was interested in me then, but is he now?

Hi all!

I need help people, cause I think I lost my chance 😢 ggr I'm so angry at myself....

I'm a Sag female. Met this Gemini man 3 years ago. He's 6 years older than me (37 now). Back then, my intuition was not working at it's best, but even then, I knew he liked me, not just liked but seriously interested in a committed relationship. Few months into our friendship he said he is seriously interested in me and admires me, thinks I'm very smart, and pretty... etc. and I turned him down. We remained friends after that for couple of months and then I met my now EX and this Gem just stopped contacting me.
Back then, when we met I felt scared of everything ..... how can I explain..... at the time I believed I wasn't very pretty, ok, I always knew I was smart, but pretty.....😢 I was also terrified of how naive I am, and how un-experienced ....etc... time has passed, things have happened, and I find myself being a mature Sag for real! Not shy at all, nor passive..... I feel amazing in my own skin, so energized!
Back then, he flirted all the time, but we never actually sat down and talked (you know, those intelligent conversations both gem's and sag's love). In the mean time, I had one long relationship, and by the time it was over, I was re-born!
This Gemini man just stopped contacting me when he saw I was in a serious relationship. 😢 We were good friends and I missed the friendship.
4 months after my breakup and 4 months of being HAPPILY single this Gem contacts me by FB, then next day by text messages and 2 days later he called. We always texted a lot, had long long phone conversations (up to 2 hours)but we were always with bunch of friends and he flirted too much.
But now!!!! He came to my town (1 hour drive)on a working day and we spent 3 hours just talking! He is just SO smart!!! I knew he was funny, and talkative, but he's just so intelligent, and serene and.... just to say I came home GLOWING!!!! and I was glowing the next day too.
But today I feel like crap because that's it - we just talked! And I wanted him to kiss me!

He did say 2 nights ago: You're the right women for me, when we talked about the ideal NY's celebration. He still remembers details what I said and when I said that, but he's a smart guy, I remember that stuff to. And when I was leaving his car he felt a bit sad, as he always is when we part, and mentioned something how rude I was last time we met (which I was cause he irritated me with his flirting) but that was 1

He's Sun, Moon and Venus is in Gemini, Mars in Leo, Mercury in Taurus.

ME: Sun Sagittarius, Mars: Aqua, Venus: Capricorn, moon: pisces, mercury:capricorn, Rising: Aries

I think you blew it sounds to me like he's just wants a fuck and someone who 'needs' and nothing more. --Friends is only the way to go with these ppl as they are very social butterflies
-need alot of stimulation of the mind and such to ever keep their interest or have anything that is --anything like a 'relationship' with them
-'Light' 'happy' 'fun' is what is good and lots of 'talking' aka conversations
If you like talking and are very 'good' at conversing and don't mind doing so and I mean talking not just the 'oh just met you talking'(where you waste time, up all night and say day, talking shit with them instead of doing your own thing) versus the 'actual talking'(so called 'meaningful conversations' no heavy talk) unless they are into that but too late to tell that isnt it heh?
I am sorry to break it to you but you blew it, it happens... I guess? But he will always be a social butterfly as he likes to converse with people and at least you now know that. Just people talks to you or listens to you or tells you what you want to hear, dun mean that they actually like you for relationship. OK. Keep it friendly because that is how it is and always will be like that. Er, Sorry? I had to break your Happy bubble but sometimes a good dose of reality is needed to how things really are instead of how you would like them to be. Goodbye!

You may have missed your window. With gems you have to strike when the iron is hot. When you have our attention. It is very hard to come out of the friendzone.

Thanks for the replies...

I was so sad when I read them.

Few minutes before I checked replies we were chatting, and I just had to tell him how impressed I was with his personality. And he was happy to hear that. Got few compliments myself 🙂

I checked the messages again now, and he's inviting me to a hike tomorrow (he'll drive to my town), if I'm interested.... Hm.....

I'm not sure what to expect, or if we'll click like we did few days ago, but I'll give it a try.

😉

Don't be too discouraged. Nothing's set in stone. Sounds like he might still like you. Just enjoy his company and see where this takes you. But if the opportunity comes again...better take it this time. Letting it happen naturally is best.

You must mean a lot to him for him to even come around again. Be careful though...we can be extremely friendly and that might confuse a lot of people of our intentions.

Ok people, I need help!
In the last 2 weeks things have happened.

After our friendly night out, he asked me out - not a "date" but just to hang out during the day. We walked and talked, hiked for 3-4 hours. He drove to my town to do that.

Then, every 2nd or 3rd day we ended up on FB chatting, for few hours. Once the toppic went from normal to the point where we talked about having someone to keep me warm in winter, and I replied I don't need a guy for a season (winter). He was all: I'm not a guy for just 1 season!

And these ambiguous conversations continued. One night I asked him openly - was he flirting or being friendly, because I need to know. He was all: do You want me to flirt with you? And then he was all like: do you want us to be together, I'm serious... etc.... I told him I hate jokes! And finished the conversation.
He called me the next day on the phone, to check on me because I was sick.
2 nights later on FB it was all hey-hey. Then he asked if i'd like to see him, invited me to visit him for the weekend, wich I said NO. we can meet another day, it's not urgent.

He called on monday, he was in my town, if I wanted to hang out. So I did. Few hours later, we wrer driving and he was all like: Who asks someone bluntly if they're flirting— He never ever said yes or no by the way

And then he said - openly, he came not as a friend but like he asked before: to get an answer If I want us to be together in a relationship, because he wants to.

I told him honestly: no male friend spends hours with a female friend walking talking, driving and having these silly conversations if he's not interested. That's why I assumed he was interested. I apologized If I was wrong.

He took my hand, held it, talked like crazy..... next thing I know he caressed my ears, cheeks, and kissed me!

The kissing part lasted for over an hour........

That was 3 days ago. I got the feeling all was amazing. I do need my space though, but 3 days not even a message.......... 😢
I don't get it. just that.

You blew it. You keep making mistakes, and thinking this guy still loves you unconditionally will be the biggest one.

You only get one real chance with a Gemini, one chance to make a solid impression and you dropped the ball. Dont be fooled by him suddenly appearing when the other guy didnt work out, it means nothing at this point. You had your chance to own this man, you were meant to strike when the iron was hot and now his mind frame in regards to you has likely shifted.

If this man is anything like me, I know exactly what he is thinking and what you should do.
Gemini are fast thinking, obsessive thinkers when searching for a solution and can be very insecure and paranoid caused by excessive thinking, or overthinking and over analysing a problem.
Now trust and loyalty are coveted by Gemini..they really value trust and being able to trust people. His brain has calculated and factored in many scenarios and elements and it has already told him you cant be trusted.

There are 3 main characters in this saga..The Gemini man, you and the other dude.

It takes us a while to tell a woman we actually like that we like her, and this can leave the door open for other men to displace us while youre figuring out our ambiguity. When we like you, we are with you all the time and end up behaving or the women thinking we are just great friends. We have other ideas. We take a long time to reveal our emotions cause we want to be absolutely certain we are right. Even when we do finally tell the woman we love her, we are such great friends at this point she thinks its a joke. As people think we are so fast, but we are very slow when emotions are strong. If we dont feel anything for you, we are the fastest men around.

Lets talk about the other dude. Ive been in a similar position to your Gemini man, infact I posted here about my issues with a Cap woman that was friendzoning me and I notice very similar patterns here as well. If you had rejetced him, but had remained celibate or single he would have stayed with you, even for years.

The problem with Gemini men is that they dont fight or compete with other men over women. Once he likes you, but you reject him for another man you have committed a sin. Gemini man doesnt want another man near his property, or what he sees as rightfully his. If a Gemini man likes you, and he catches you flirting with another man its basically over. This is why we say you only get once chance with this guy. A Gemini man will con

Posted by Onephatkittykatt
You may have missed your window. With gems you have to strike when the iron is hot. When you have our attention. It is very hard to come out of the friendzone.

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GemiGem - Very well written your last retort. That is exactly how us Gem females are too. I personally won't compete. If there is someone else around I walk. Simple as that. But that whole paragraph even though you were talking about men is exactly how I am.

Ill be honest this is why I dont really like Sagittarius her whole persona is exactly how they are. Just shifty and all over the place talking to several people just fucking around, dragging shit out but never giving a definitive answer. Im annoyed by the whole issue with her dating another guy but never being fully invested because when she broke up or they broke up she's already got one foot out the door for plan B which is the Gemini guy. If I was him id just fuck around with you too (nothing serious) seeing you like to keep your options open.

He kisse you for over an hour? tehn disappeared for 3 days? I do that. Makes you want us more. He'll be back.

He's mating, foreplay. He sounds hot.

kissed* then*

I have news! And most of you were wrong!

An hour after my post he called, and asked me out (for whole afternoon next day). So yesterday we spent 5 hours together (no sex).

He came to my town in the morning, and he misunderstood I won't be finished with work till evening and went on a trip to another city... I was mean on the phone, and texted him I moved mountains to finish earlier to be with him. The moment he saw the message he turned his car over and drove 2 hours to make it 🙂

The date was..... hm..... I had no idea he broke the speed limit to come to see me, he sort of mentioned that at the end of the evening because he was worried about his driver's licence.

But he's not so affectionate. Well, he is when we're alone, and no one in the sight....

We walked at first and he kissed me few times, hugged me few times, and that was that. Few hours later, when he mentioned the speed thing, I asked him: Why were you diving so fast!?
He: To see YOU.

So I replied: you drove all the way to see me, won't kiss me, won't hug me, won't talk....
He: But I did kiss you, huged... etc.
ME: I's not enough..... 🙂 I want more of that 🙂

And the making out began....
Evening finished strange... he parked his car near my building and wouldn't walk with me for 2 mins... he was surprised I even suggested him to walk me to the building. He pulled for a kiss, but I just turned around and went home

Sometimes I have the feeling he wants a girl to hang out and make out weather it's me or someone else, and there are few moments where I think: he wants to be with me.

So strange.

He: Sun, moon, venus: GEMINI, mars: leo
me: Sun: Sag, mars: aqua, venus: cap.

Hope someone will find this story helpful... because I'm confused myself. Not to mentioned I feel less into him right now.

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Posted by Onephatkittykatt
You may have missed your window. With gems you have to strike when the iron is hot. When you have our attention. It is very hard to come out of the friendzone.

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People, there is no other dude!!! And both of us know that. We're single. And he knows I'm single and happy for 5 months now!

he didn't want to walk you to your building because he didn't want to have sex with you...just yet. lol

and no we're not wrong...we're just not convinced. still not convinced after that makeout date you had. hah