Capricorn91
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Stop blowing her off....And maybe then, you guys can get the ball rolling..But don't swoon over her, because a gemini will use that to their advantage...Remain a challenge.
Just to add. We speak different languages apart from the common denominator English.
Posted by Easha23000usIt is non romantic. Yes even I felt that(not swoon over her) as it generally gets taken for granted.
Stop blowing her off....And maybe then, you guys can get the ball rolling..But don't swoon over her, because a gemini will use that to their advantage...Remain a challenge.
Posted by blackphaseYes I should have been clearer. And she also found me near that area with my junior that day. But I don't know what to do now except just to be patient. I don't control her feelings and thoughts. She lives quite near to me but we hardly meet. Could she be mad at me because I spent a lot of time with my juniors instead of with her. My isolation phase did cause me a lot of problems and I don't expect anyone to understand. Today I did have lunch with her at Subway (I know should have had it then at least she would have felt extremely happy that day).
Okay.. Your mistake was blowing her off then going out for lunch with someone else.. She's gonna give you the cold shoulder after that. We are pretty understanding and open minded.. Next time maybe tell her why you don't want to go somewhere in-specific cause I bet 10 bucks if you had of said that you don't like Subway she would have asked you where you wanted to go instead..
We are good communicators and maybe if you open up to her and explain some of the things you just told us she would be a bit more understanding.. She can't just guess how you feel. I imagine she really did appreciate the letter, so when you denied having lunch with her, that would have been very confusing for her. She is older than you and she likely doesn't want to play games.. So just be upfront and open with her is my best advice.
Welp, The Geminis I know(And I know many) gets bored easily, and do not like it when a person is too much in love with them. It turns them off actually...
Posted by blackphaseJust to clarify once more it is a non romantic relationship. She is not mad at me but just that she has become distant. Before she would never forget to ask me for tea at least. Now am not even on her mind. I know it is a bit immature but it hurts. We work together. She knows I have difficulty in expressing myself and I do try to meet her every weekend (we stay quite near). She is very close to me. She does not have problems with physical touches or anything. She understands me quite well. But the problem is I don't know her mother tongue(not sure if it is the correct way to say it). And even though we converse in English she is more comfortable in her mother tongue (Tamil, we are Indians ). I truly care for her and yes it did take me a lot of time but now I am attached to her.Posted by Capricorn91Well she has had lunch with you since so that is a good thing. I honestly would explain to her why you didn't go last time though.. We appreciate knowing there was in fact a reason for it that was not related to us.. haha. Being patient doesn't hurt, but we do like it when you reciprocate. If she is giving you attention and making time to spend with you then give it right back to avoid getting the cold shoulder. Most women in general appreciate openness, so if you are having a bad day or not feeling like yourself maybe make her aware of that so she isn't taking it personally and getting the wrong msg.Posted by blackphaseYes I should have been clearer. And she also found me near that area with my junior that day. But I don't know what to do now except just to be patient. I don't control her feelings and thoughts. She lives quite near to me but we hardly meet. Could she be mad at me because I spent a lot of time with my juniors instead of with her. My isolation phase did cause me a lot of problems and I don't expect anyone to understand. Today I did have lunch with her at Subway (I know should have had it then at least she would have felt extremely happy that day).
Okay.. Your mistake was blowing her off then going out for lunch with someone else.. She's gonna give you the cold shoulder after that. We are pretty understanding and open minded.. Next time maybe tell her why you don't want to go somewhere in-specific cause I bet 10 bucks if you had of said that you don't like Subway she would have asked you where you wanted to go instead..
We are good communicators and maybe if you open up to her and explain some of the things you just told us she would be a bit more understanding.. She can't just guess how you feel. I imagine she really did appreciate the letter, so when you denied having lunch with her, that would have been very confusing for her. She is older than you and she likely doesn't want to play games.. So just be upfront and open with her is my best advice.click to expand
Posted by blackphaseHave you heard of platonic relationships? She is like a mother figure to me. I know Gemini are always young at hearts and so is this woman and so she can be friendly as well as motherly.Posted by Capricorn91It may not be a romantic relationship.. but it seems like that's what you want it to be.. So I have been giving advice based on that. So what is it that you want with this woman? If it's nothing more than friendship then don't sweat any of this.. but I get the feeling that's not what you are after..Posted by blackphaseJust to clarify once more it is a non romantic relationship. She is not mad at me but just that she has become distant. Before she would never forget to ask me for tea at least. Now am not even on her mind. I know it is a bit immature but it hurts. We work together. She knows I have difficulty in expressing myself and I do try to meet her every weekend (we stay quite near). She is very close to me. She does not have problems with physical touches or anything. She understands me quite well. But the problem is I don't know her mother tongue(not sure if it is the correct way to say it). And even though we converse in English she is more comfortable in her mother tongue (Tamil, we are Indians ). I truly care for her and yes it did take me a lot of time but now I am attached to her.Posted by Capricorn91Well she has had lunch with you since so that is a good thing. I honestly would explain to her why you didn't go last time though.. We appreciate knowing there was in fact a reason for it that was not related to us.. haha. Being patient doesn't hurt, but we do like it when you reciprocate. If she is giving you attention and making time to spend with you then give it right back to avoid getting the cold shoulder. Most women in general appreciate openness, so if you are having a bad day or not feeling like yourself maybe make her aware of that so she isn't taking it personally and getting the wrong msg.Posted by blackphaseYes I should have been clearer. And she also found me near that area with my junior that day. But I don't know what to do now except just to be patient. I don't control her feelings and thoughts. She lives quite near to me but we hardly meet. Could she be mad at me because I spent a lot of time with my juniors instead of with her. My isolation phase did cause me a lot of problems and I don't expect anyone to understand. Today I did have lunch with her at Subway (I know should have had it then at least she would have felt extremely happy that day).
Okay.. Your mistake was blowing her off then going out for lunch with someone else.. She's gonna give you the cold shoulder after that. We are pretty understanding and open minded.. Next time maybe tell her why you don't want to go somewhere in-specific cause I bet 10 bucks if you had of said that you don't like Subway she would have asked you where you wanted to go instead..
We are good communicators and maybe if you open up to her and explain some of the things you just told us she would be a bit more understanding.. She can't just guess how you feel. I imagine she really did appreciate the letter, so when you denied having lunch with her, that would have been very confusing for her. She is older than you and she likely doesn't want to play games.. So just be upfront and open with her is my best advice.click to expand
Posted by Capricorn91Posted by blackphaseHave you heard of platonic relationships? She is like a mother figure to me. I know Gemini are always young at hearts and so is this woman and so she can be friendly as well as motherly.Posted by Capricorn91It may not be a romantic relationship.. but it seems like that's what you want it to be.. So I have been giving advice based on that. So what is it that you want with this woman? If it's nothing more than friendship then don't sweat any of this.. but I get the feeling that's not what you are after..Posted by blackphaseJust to clarify once more it is a non romantic relationship. She is not mad at me but just that she has become distant. Before she would never forget to ask me for tea at least. Now am not even on her mind. I know it is a bit immature but it hurts. We work together. She knows I have difficulty in expressing myself and I do try to meet her every weekend (we stay quite near). She is very close to me. She does not have problems with physical touches or anything. She understands me quite well. But the problem is I don't know her mother tongue(not sure if it is the correct way to say it). And even though we converse in English she is more comfortable in her mother tongue (Tamil, we are Indians ). I truly care for her and yes it did take me a lot of time but now I am attached to her.Posted by Capricorn91Well she has had lunch with you since so that is a good thing. I honestly would explain to her why you didn't go last time though.. We appreciate knowing there was in fact a reason for it that was not related to us.. haha. Being patient doesn't hurt, but we do like it when you reciprocate. If she is giving you attention and making time to spend with you then give it right back to avoid getting the cold shoulder. Most women in general appreciate openness, so if you are having a bad day or not feeling like yourself maybe make her aware of that so she isn't taking it personally and getting the wrong msg.Posted by blackphaseYes I should have been clearer. And she also found me near that area with my junior that day. But I don't know what to do now except just to be patient. I don't control her feelings and thoughts. She lives quite near to me but we hardly meet. Could she be mad at me because I spent a lot of time with my juniors instead of with her. My isolation phase did cause me a lot of problems and I don't expect anyone to understand. Today I did have lunch with her at Subway (I know should have had it then at least she would have felt extremely happy that day).
Okay.. Your mistake was blowing her off then going out for lunch with someone else.. She's gonna give you the cold shoulder after that. We are pretty understanding and open minded.. Next time maybe tell her why you don't want to go somewhere in-specific cause I bet 10 bucks if you had of said that you don't like Subway she would have asked you where you wanted to go instead..
We are good communicators and maybe if you open up to her and explain some of the things you just told us she would be a bit more understanding.. She can't just guess how you feel. I imagine she really did appreciate the letter, so when you denied having lunch with her, that would have been very confusing for her. She is older than you and she likely doesn't want to play games.. So just be upfront and open with her is my best advice.click to expand
If you are not interested in her, what is it that you want from her?
Posted by blackphasePosted by Easha23000usYeah, I guess I am not a typical Gem. And I guess that's why I like to give my two cents, cause we aren't all the same, just like every other sign and I hate to see someone mislead based off what the majority are like, ya know.
Welp, The Geminis I know(And I know many) gets bored easily, and do not like it when a person is too much in love with them. It turns them off actually...click to expand
I guess... But I can most definitely comment on my experiences with them..I have seven Geminis in my family, including my son and his father, and that is the common trait that all of them possess. True, no two people are alike, but this similarity is certainly worth noting.
Posted by blackphaseI am not denying there are deep feelings but not in that sense. And when am not close to someone then I don't worry about those things. But that is not the case here.Posted by Capricorn91Haha, yes I have heard of platonic relationships.. but generally in those sort of relationships you don't worry if the other person is not thinking about you all the time like you are.. You are over thinking and worrying about things in a matter that is not platonic. So if you only see her in this sense, then stop fretting.. there is no more to it. You completely gave me the impression that you have deeper feelings for the woman. hahaPosted by blackphaseHave you heard of platonic relationships? She is like a mother figure to me. I know Gemini are always young at hearts and so is this woman and so she can be friendly as well as motherly.Posted by Capricorn91It may not be a romantic relationship.. but it seems like that's what you want it to be.. So I have been giving advice based on that. So what is it that you want with this woman? If it's nothing more than friendship then don't sweat any of this.. but I get the feeling that's not what you are after..Posted by blackphaseJust to clarify once more it is a non romantic relationship. She is not mad at me but just that she has become distant. Before she would never forget to ask me for tea at least. Now am not even on her mind. I know it is a bit immature but it hurts. We work together. She knows I have difficulty in expressing myself and I do try to meet her every weekend (we stay quite near). She is very close to me. She does not have problems with physical touches or anything. She understands me quite well. But the problem is I don't know her mother tongue(not sure if it is the correct way to say it). And even though we converse in English she is more comfortable in her mother tongue (Tamil, we are Indians ). I truly care for her and yes it did take me a lot of time but now I am attached to her.Posted by Capricorn91Well she has had lunch with you since so that is a good thing. I honestly would explain to her why you didn't go last time though.. We appreciate knowing there was in fact a reason for it that was not related to us.. haha. Being patient doesn't hurt, but we do like it when you reciprocate. If she is giving you attention and making time to spend with you then give it right back to avoid getting the cold shoulder. Most women in general appreciate openness, so if you are having a bad day or not feeling like yourself maybe make her aware of that so she isn't taking it personally and getting the wrong msg.Posted by blackphaseYes I should have been clearer. And she also found me near that area with my junior that day. But I don't know what to do now except just to be patient. I don't control her feelings and thoughts. She lives quite near to me but we hardly meet. Could she be mad at me because I spent a lot of time with my juniors instead of with her. My isolation phase did cause me a lot of problems and I don't expect anyone to understand. Today I did have lunch with her at Subway (I know should have had it then at least she would have felt extremely happy that day).
Okay.. Your mistake was blowing her off then going out for lunch with someone else.. She's gonna give you the cold shoulder after that. We are pretty understanding and open minded.. Next time maybe tell her why you don't want to go somewhere in-specific cause I bet 10 bucks if you had of said that you don't like Subway she would have asked you where you wanted to go instead..
We are good communicators and maybe if you open up to her and explain some of the things you just told us she would be a bit more understanding.. She can't just guess how you feel. I imagine she really did appreciate the letter, so when you denied having lunch with her, that would have been very confusing for her. She is older than you and she likely doesn't want to play games.. So just be upfront and open with her is my best advice.click to expand
Posted by blackphaseThank you for your time and energy ☺. Your inputs are much appreciated.Posted by Capricorn91I guess all of this is foreign to me.. As I never fret or worry about people unless they are someone I am with or intend to be with.. I don't get hung up on platonic relationships or friendships AT ALL.. So I am sorry I don't have much to add in that regard 😢Posted by blackphaseI am not denying there are deep feelings but not in that sense. And when am not close to someone then I don't worry about those things. But that is not the case here.Posted by Capricorn91Haha, yes I have heard of platonic relationships.. but generally in those sort of relationships you don't worry if the other person is not thinking about you all the time like you are.. You are over thinking and worrying about things in a matter that is not platonic. So if you only see her in this sense, then stop fretting.. there is no more to it. You completely gave me the impression that you have deeper feelings for the woman. hahaPosted by blackphaseHave you heard of platonic relationships? She is like a mother figure to me. I know Gemini are always young at hearts and so is this woman and so she can be friendly as well as motherly.Posted by Capricorn91It may not be a romantic relationship.. but it seems like that's what you want it to be.. So I have been giving advice based on that. So what is it that you want with this woman? If it's nothing more than friendship then don't sweat any of this.. but I get the feeling that's not what you are after..Posted by blackphaseJust to clarify once more it is a non romantic relationship. She is not mad at me but just that she has become distant. Before she would never forget to ask me for tea at least. Now am not even on her mind. I know it is a bit immature but it hurts. We work together. She knows I have difficulty in expressing myself and I do try to meet her every weekend (we stay quite near). She is very close to me. She does not have problems with physical touches or anything. She understands me quite well. But the problem is I don't know her mother tongue(not sure if it is the correct way to say it). And even though we converse in English she is more comfortable in her mother tongue (Tamil, we are Indians ). I truly care for her and yes it did take me a lot of time but now I am attached to her.Posted by Capricorn91Well she has had lunch with you since so that is a good thing. I honestly would explain to her why you didn't go last time though.. We appreciate knowing there was in fact a reason for it that was not related to us.. haha. Being patient doesn't hurt, but we do like it when you reciprocate. If she is giving you attention and making time to spend with you then give it right back to avoid getting the cold shoulder. Most women in general appreciate openness, so if you are having a bad day or not feeling like yourself maybe make her aware of that so she isn't taking it personally and getting the wrong msg.Posted by blackphaseYes I should have been clearer. And she also found me near that area with my junior that day. But I don't know what to do now except just to be patient. I don't control her feelings and thoughts. She lives quite near to me but we hardly meet. Could she be mad at me because I spent a lot of time with my juniors instead of with her. My isolation phase did cause me a lot of problems and I don't expect anyone to understand. Today I did have lunch with her at Subway (I know should have had it then at least she would have felt extremely happy that day).
Okay.. Your mistake was blowing her off then going out for lunch with someone else.. She's gonna give you the cold shoulder after that. We are pretty understanding and open minded.. Next time maybe tell her why you don't want to go somewhere in-specific cause I bet 10 bucks if you had of said that you don't like Subway she would have asked you where you wanted to go instead..
We are good communicators and maybe if you open up to her and explain some of the things you just told us she would be a bit more understanding.. She can't just guess how you feel. I imagine she really did appreciate the letter, so when you denied having lunch with her, that would have been very confusing for her. She is older than you and she likely doesn't want to play games.. So just be upfront and open with her is my best advice.click to expand
Posted by blackphaseYes reciprocation thats all we need?Posted by Easha23000usAs a Gemini I don't completely agree with that.. I will give up if you make it a challenge for me. I want reciprocation.
Stop blowing her off....And maybe then, you guys can get the ball rolling..But don't swoon over her, because a gemini will use that to their advantage...Remain a challenge.click to expand
Firstly, a woman 8-9 years older than you is NOT a mother figure. Have you heard of Emmanuel Macron?
Even if "platonic", you need to stop acting like a child and be the gentleman. Meaning YOU need to invite her, not just wait to get invited. Stop being a pussy!
Even if "platonic", you need to stop acting like a child and be the gentleman. Meaning YOU need to invite her, not just wait to get invited. Stop being a pussy!
Posted by UndineI am doing that. But she is more interested in being with the other person. So even if I am there I am essentially not there for her 😢 when we are all together at the table.
Firstly, a woman 8-9 years older than you is NOT a mother figure. Have you heard of Emmanuel Macron?
Even if "platonic", you need to stop acting like a child and be the gentleman. Meaning YOU need to invite her, not just wait to get invited. Stop being a pussy!
You mean....you two are together alone, but you "are essentially not there for her"? What stops you?
You are a bit like my new friend and dancing partner, who is 14 years my junior. Initially, he believed I was younger than him and wanted to date me. However, the man I'm interested in (my Gem ex) is dancing in the same room as us once/twice a week. So although I'm talking and dancing with my young "admirer", my attention belongs to my ex.
It is what it is. Of course I like my admirer and would like him to gain more confidence into pursuing his dream career. There is not too much point in him pursuing me, lol. Even if I did not have my ex on my mind, I would not date a much younger man.
You are a bit like my new friend and dancing partner, who is 14 years my junior. Initially, he believed I was younger than him and wanted to date me. However, the man I'm interested in (my Gem ex) is dancing in the same room as us once/twice a week. So although I'm talking and dancing with my young "admirer", my attention belongs to my ex.
It is what it is. Of course I like my admirer and would like him to gain more confidence into pursuing his dream career. There is not too much point in him pursuing me, lol. Even if I did not have my ex on my mind, I would not date a much younger man.
Are you a Gemini?
I know it is as it is. I don't want to date her. I don't have those feelings. The thing is if it had been like this from the start it would not be a problem for me accepting it. But now since I got attached to her it pains. I know I don't control her feelings but after knowing someone for four years these things kind of hurt.
I know it is as it is. I don't want to date her. I don't have those feelings. The thing is if it had been like this from the start it would not be a problem for me accepting it. But now since I got attached to her it pains. I know I don't control her feelings but after knowing someone for four years these things kind of hurt.
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