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How to help my Gemini friend?
Capgirl69, you are a good friend. What a spineless piece of work her man is. If he didn't think she would mind if he moved out, then why did he SNEAK away? If he felt unloved, then why didn't he discuss it, like an adult, instead of taking the passive-aggressive route? Sounds like he wanted out and needed to make it her fault.
I don't think there's a lot you can do besides what you're already doing. Grieving takes time. It's more than just a "funk"...it's a process. Grief also causes physical symptoms. It's a pretty common Gem reaction to forego food in favor of substances at times like these. She'll eventually work through it and put herself back on her feet.
Gems don't run around being highly emotional all the time, so sometimes when something triggers deep emotion it's as if the floodgates have been opened. For instance: the night a particular boyfriend dumped me, I was so overcome with anguish that my housemate had to pick me up off of the ground outside my house. Now, couldn't give a crap about that ex if I tried, and am even ashamed I dated him! Just keep being awesome and keep supporting her.
I don't think there's a lot you can do besides what you're already doing. Grieving takes time. It's more than just a "funk"...it's a process. Grief also causes physical symptoms. It's a pretty common Gem reaction to forego food in favor of substances at times like these. She'll eventually work through it and put herself back on her feet.
Gems don't run around being highly emotional all the time, so sometimes when something triggers deep emotion it's as if the floodgates have been opened. For instance: the night a particular boyfriend dumped me, I was so overcome with anguish that my housemate had to pick me up off of the ground outside my house. Now, couldn't give a crap about that ex if I tried, and am even ashamed I dated him! Just keep being awesome and keep supporting her.
Posted by Whimsy
Capgirl69, you are a good friend. What a spineless piece of work her man is. If he didn't think she would mind if he moved out, then why did he SNEAK away? If he felt unloved, then why didn't he discuss it, like an adult, instead of taking the passive-aggressive route? Sounds like he wanted out and needed to make it her fault.
I don't think there's a lot you can do besides what you're already doing. Grieving takes time. It's more than just a "funk"...it's a process. Grief also causes physical symptoms. It's a pretty common Gem reaction to forego food in favor of substances at times like these. She'll eventually work through it and put herself back on her feet.
Gems don't run around being highly emotional all the time, so sometimes when something triggers deep emotion it's as if the floodgates have been opened. For instance: the night a particular boyfriend dumped me, I was so overcome with anguish that my housemate had to pick me up off of the ground outside my house. Now, couldn't give a crap about that ex if I tried, and am even ashamed I dated him! Just keep being awesome and keep supporting her.
+1
You know im not surprised he snuck out like that. Totally how other air signs are. I like Gemini's but male Aqua's and Libra's are the biggest cowards I have EVER met in my life. Much respect for being there for your friend. Gemini's already are embarrassed by strong emotions (well in my case) and when I lean on someone heavily like that they are usually a very, very good friend. I keep my emotions to myself and withdraw for a while when getting over a break up.
As far as the falling on the ground thing totally hear you on that one. I never make a display like that though (kinda figured it was your watery placements in your chart), but I will ball my eyes out alone, dry my tears, and vanish almost like a ghost to my safe place where ever that may be.
So sad.... I agree with Whimsy and Xin. It just takes some time.. Keep being the great friend that you already are! 🙂
Thanks, ladies!
I just- I don't know. He's a nice guy and everything but I just never thought they worked well as a couple. She was always complaining and he would just pick up and disappear for a day or two sometimes when he was upset. He never would argue about anything with her nor put his foot down about anything.
I understand loving him and wanting to work it out, but I don't know how you can work things out with someone who just would pick up and leave you. I don't think she would be half as upset if he had just said something about it, but the fact that it seemingly came out of nowhere, that's what really is upsetting her.
He is just so wishy washy even still- he's calling her one day and then forgetting the next. Bleh. It's such a mess. All of this is still going on while they are trying to "work it out" so it's also making it almost impossible for her to get over.
I just- I don't know. He's a nice guy and everything but I just never thought they worked well as a couple. She was always complaining and he would just pick up and disappear for a day or two sometimes when he was upset. He never would argue about anything with her nor put his foot down about anything.
I understand loving him and wanting to work it out, but I don't know how you can work things out with someone who just would pick up and leave you. I don't think she would be half as upset if he had just said something about it, but the fact that it seemingly came out of nowhere, that's what really is upsetting her.
He is just so wishy washy even still- he's calling her one day and then forgetting the next. Bleh. It's such a mess. All of this is still going on while they are trying to "work it out" so it's also making it almost impossible for her to get over.
Yeah Im not sure why. I think it just takes us a minute to rifle through all the emotions and file things away logically. Gemini's well we don't take emotions very well. So its like how do I say it...a hot damn mess? LOL! I get all fucked up and just comb over everything with a magnifying glass and inspect every single little detail. I rationalize the SHIT out of why something doesn't work. My mom calls it "rationalizing the irrational" which is basically insanity in her book I guess LOL!
Hes a fucking coward. I already have disdain for him and I hardly know this person just going off what you say. Im telling you hands down Aqua and Libra men are the BIGGEST cowards in the world. Oh and Sag's are jackasses who are all over the map who want to sling their weenie to 100+ women. Yeah just had to add that in there >:\
Hes a fucking coward. I already have disdain for him and I hardly know this person just going off what you say. Im telling you hands down Aqua and Libra men are the BIGGEST cowards in the world. Oh and Sag's are jackasses who are all over the map who want to sling their weenie to 100+ women. Yeah just had to add that in there >:\
Posted by capgirl69
Thanks, ladies!
I just- I don't know. He's a nice guy and everything but I just never thought they worked well as a couple. She was always complaining and he would just pick up and disappear for a day or two sometimes when he was upset. He never would argue about anything with her nor put his foot down about anything.
I understand loving him and wanting to work it out, but I don't know how you can work things out with someone who just would pick up and leave you. I don't think she would be half as upset if he had just said something about it, but the fact that it seemingly came out of nowhere, that's what really is upsetting her.
He is just so wishy washy even still- he's calling her one day and then forgetting the next. Bleh. It's such a mess. All of this is still going on while they are trying to "work it out" so it's also making it almost impossible for her to get over.
This reminds me of my ex libra... Always the..... Lets say "an opportunist". If he left her that easily, most likely he didn't love her to begin with. Mine saw me as something of use, and when I was of no use to him he made life extremely difficult... The calling every other day is to see if he still has that power over her. And what better revenge than to keep her hanging on in her misery.... So sad... A lesson I had to learn as well.
Just keep being that shoulder/sounding board. She will get it. And if she doesn't, it just means she's not done learning her lesson.
I agree with Misslissa took me a while to learn my lesson and smarten up with men. And I definitely don't want to hear what lesson I have to learn at the time but eventually I came around and figured it out.
Posted by Xin
Yeah Im not sure why. I think it just takes us a minute to rifle through all the emotions and file things away logically. Gemini's well we don't take emotions very well. So its like how do I say it...a hot damn mess? LOL! I get all fucked up and just comb over everything with a magnifying glass and inspect every single little detail. I rationalize the SHIT out of why something doesn't work. My mom calls it "rationalizing the irrational" which is basically insanity in her book I guess LOL!
That, right there, is such a perfect description!! Lol!
I KNOW HOW THE POOR BASTARD FEELS,
GEMINIS SOMETIMES JUST BREAK YOUR HEART.
I KNOW ONE WHO TOLD HER TRUE INTERNET LOV THAT SHE WAS GOING TO MARRY SOMEONE ELSE.
JUST TOOK HIS POOR HEART OUT AND STOMPED ON IT.
RIGHT IN FRONT OF EVERYONE ON DXP.
3 OR 4 HOURS LATER HE WAS IN THE PUB AND STILL NOT OVER IT.
OH THE SHAME OF IT ALL.
I MUST GO I MAY WANT TO DO MYSELF IN BY JUMPING OFF A CURB.
GEMINIS SOMETIMES JUST BREAK YOUR HEART.
I KNOW ONE WHO TOLD HER TRUE INTERNET LOV THAT SHE WAS GOING TO MARRY SOMEONE ELSE.
JUST TOOK HIS POOR HEART OUT AND STOMPED ON IT.
RIGHT IN FRONT OF EVERYONE ON DXP.
3 OR 4 HOURS LATER HE WAS IN THE PUB AND STILL NOT OVER IT.
OH THE SHAME OF IT ALL.
I MUST GO I MAY WANT TO DO MYSELF IN BY JUMPING OFF A CURB.
SHIT I FORGOT YOUR A CAPRICORN SEE HOW YOU FUCKED ME UP.
Awww.... *big hugs Mr. Tate* 🙂
Posted by james tate
I KNOW HOW THE POOR BASTARD FEELS,
GEMINIS SOMETIMES JUST BREAK YOUR HEART.
I KNOW ONE WHO TOLD HER TRUE INTERNET LOV THAT SHE WAS GOING TO MARRY SOMEONE ELSE.
JUST TOOK HIS POOR HEART OUT AND STOMPED ON IT.
RIGHT IN FRONT OF EVERYONE ON DXP.
3 OR 4 HOURS LATER HE WAS IN THE PUB AND STILL NOT OVER IT.
OH THE SHAME OF IT ALL.
I MUST GO I MAY WANT TO DO MYSELF IN BY JUMPING OFF A CURB.
aww. I am sorry Mr. Tate!
YOU COULD COME OVER AND KISS TO MAKE IT FEEL BETTER.
Hello please tell me her moon,venus sign, then it will be more easy for me to help
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