I betrayed my best friend who's a Gem...

I do that when i'm still processing what happened and deciding how to feel about it.
For Gems loyalty is a big deal, it is for me, and when someone dear to me breaks it I can get deeply wounded.
If she reached you with that info is cause she still cares about you, Cause when someone hurt me and i want them out of my view it is final, no contact in any way.

I had a best friend who betrayed me long ago, and she is out. She tried to make amends, but i couldn't forgive her, i haven't heard from her in a long time.

Give her time and space, if she cares, she will come around slowly, but don't expect her to openly discuss her feelings, she will talk when the time is right and she has it all figured out in her head.

Ok, I will. Thank you do much for your input.

Depends on what you did. She'll probably go through a ton of different emotions. You could be dead to her as a friend however you are a human being so she might not wish you physical death. Her being civil is the general concern for another (your daughter) as it would not be fair to visit her issues with you on another especially one so young and who has nothing to do with your actions as an adult.

You need to apologize and explain why you did what you did. Write a letter if you have to, and she will come around when she has processed it and if she still wants you in her life. If you push you might find out about parts you didn't know you had if she lashes out. Gems aren't generally mean and vindictive. I leave a lot to karma, which can do a much better job and I won't have to sweat revenge. That ish can consume you and is way too negative. You will usually get plenty of rope to either enjoy your space or to hang yourself. But when that rope runs out. Well.....dust. There are mistakes and then there are MISTAKES.

I lost my leo bestie because of her betrayal...over 2 decades gone. Oh well.

You have a point: she didn't say anything that would even possibly hint toward rekindling our friendship. Her concern was definitely for the children. I'm fairly certain I've lost her forever, which is no less than I deserve. Thank you for your insight.

For me if you did something serious and broke loyalty and trust, the friendship would be dead. I might be pleasant to you but it won't go much deeper. I think it really depends how serious the situation is.

That totally goes the same with me to as WateryGem put it. I don't seem to have many close relationships either and especially if someone broke my trust. I would be nice but that's it for me.

Ok, so Moonchild got with her best friends ex she was with for 7yrs with whom she shares a child with as well. Yeah, that friendship is done. She will always be in his life. She will never forget that betrayal.. That is WAY up there on the betrayal level, all the men in the world you would go for her daughters father, her man of 7yrs.

I dropped my bff over lies about my childrens father, I don't play when it comes to family. I understand why you were not reaching out to her.

What's her Sun, Moon, Venus, and Mars?

If that's the case. Oh that is Nasty. Cancer, figures. Don't and won't ever trust them. Loyalty....what a joke.

OP knows that the friendship is done and actually prefers it that way or else she would not be sleeping with her former best friends ex. VILE if that is the case. She only wants to know if the gem will try to get revenge. OH BOY you will eventually reap what you sow. That is despicable.

She probably told you so many things about him, their relationship and your used that information to get with him. Nasty. Your daughter has a swell role model. Uncle is now daddy and how would the kids interact.....My daddy is now your daddy.....

You are a COWARD. VILE. I hope you get what you deserve if you actually are sleeping with your best friends ex. There are boundaries, but you being a water sign probably wouldn't know that because it's about emotions and feelings. Deep, yeah right. Shallow as hell. The clock is ticking and I hope that the gem is there to see witness it.

When we first meet someone, and develop a friendship, we approach it with childlike innocence. We are with you because we enjoy your company, you make us happy, we make you happy. We just like being with you. No alterior motives. Once we're betrayed, the innocence is gone. We divorce ourselves from the warm and fuzzy origins of the friendship's original terms. The detached logician steps in. It takes us a while to process what happened. We may disappear during this time. If we do resume the friendship it will only be because there's some advantage to it for us (perhaps a colleague or old boss who can provide a reference, for example). We will act like everything is back to normal if we have "forgiven" you, all the while filing your transgressions away in a file, next to the file where your use to us will be pulled out when the moment is right.

I agree with all the posts made here.

Gemini people do value Friendship greatly. It is a way of living life for them. Any form of cheating does not go well with them and they probably may never forget that. Things may seems like they are back to normal, but they never do get back.

The best thing you can do is try talking to your friend. Maybe, it can have an effect. But, it has to be genuine. But again, it may be too little too late now. Am sorry to say this.

It is too late. And everyone here will be delighted to know he's going back to her. She wins. I lose and get what I deserve: a broken heart.

Nobody can win if a good friendship breaks. Who knows she may have been hurt too at the time you betrayed. She may still be sad about it today.

Don't feel bad, try reaching out to her. Who knows what's in store.

No one is happy about someone getting hurt. But you crossed a line by taking advantage of a situation that you had inside information about.

You seemed desperate for someone in your life and decided that it could be him because it made you feel special. The chosen one. Who doesn't want to feel special, but not at the expense of someone you are supposed to care about and with young children involved. It turns out that you really didn't have your friends back. If the roles had been reversed YOU would have been devastated and yet you claimed to be worried about her and how she was handling the betrayal by the two people closest to her. How kind and thoughtful of you. No really, it was because your life must have been really dark to do something like that.

It was emasculation and sex dear, you being an aggressive nymphomaniac and all should understand that. To know someone and to LIVE with someone is entirely different. You were privy to your best friends story but not the whole story.

Yes, I'm a nymphomaniac, but you don't know the story. I didn't get close to her or use inside information to get him. I had no interest in him whatsoever, and wasn't the least bit attracted to him. The night he told me he likes and wants to date me, I told him I don't feel the same way. And I did tell him my friend means too much to me, and that I don't want to hurt her. At first, I did have her back. But he was on a mission to change my mind. Needless to say, he succeeded. Before I knew it, I liked him and wanted to be with him too. Yes, I had a choice to either do what's right by my friend or myself. I chose to be selfish and do what would make me happy. He was happy too. For the first time in a long time, we were both happy, and my friend paid the price for our happiness. Even when they were together, she would always say he and I should get together because we're "perfect for each other," "soulmates," and so alike. Well, she's a Gem and he and I are both Cancers. She knew he and I are more compatible than they are, and she was right. Not that it matters anymore... It's time for me to pay for what I did, by losing not just her, but him as well...

Again you took advantage of a situation and justified it by using her words against her about being more compatible with him. Are you kidding me, a literal translation. A reprieve from daily life was required and then reality set in for him.

So you aren't sounding too bright about your decision, but you would probably do it again if he came back when things got tough for him in his daily life. Wow, you daughter is soaking this all in too and god knows what the gems daughter has overheard or witnessed. Do you know that story too?

Anyway makes no difference to me if you want another's seconds. He might tell her at some point how you tried to lure him away from her...

Typical water sign, selfish and needy and uses aggressive means to satisfy their wants at any cost, thank god I keep them at a distance now.

Our daughters are only 4 years old, and know nothing about the situation.
I did not "lure" him away from her. I can't help that he liked me when he was with her. I had NO interest in him. HE turned the charm up to 11 and made me fall for him. Not that any of it matters now. They're back together. It's done.

Posted by M00Nchild
Our daughters are only 4 years old, and know nothing about the situation.
I did not "lure" him away from her. I can't help that he liked me when he was with her. I had NO interest in him. HE turned the charm up to 11 and made me fall for him. Not that any of it matters now. They're back together. It's done.

No one can make you fall if you never allow the door opened. You had an attraction to him BEFORE, that is how he knew he could get with you. What confuses me is you being a Cancer knowing he has a child and so much history with this woman, how you didn't see him going right back to her?

I'm a Gem Sun, Venus in Cancer, I struggle to not be with my daughters father b/c I want that "home" feeling. I want us all to be together as a family. He may say he was unhappy or she may have but that's not something you use to justify sleeping with him when he is needing a bed to lay in.

I feel so sad for your friend, she trusted you with all that personal info about her relationship and you secretly had a thing for him. 😢 You won't acknowledge that on here but trust me, my friends man would know that I was off limits and that I would go right to her to let her know what he was up to.

Moonchild, can I ask what your Moon, Rising and Venus are?

I DID NOT HAVE AN ATTRACTION TO HIM! I DID NOT HAVE A THING FOR HIM! I HAD NO INTEREST IN HIM WHATSOEVER!
I've been honest about everything else, why would I lie about that? I am not a liar. I always tell the truth. I didn't just have sex with him, we were a couple, as in dating. I would never give up that friendship for sex. We were in a relationship. And I didn't see him going back to her because this isn't the first time they've broken up, and he told me he wants to be with me. Apparently if I want it to be true, I'll believe it. He just grew on me, to the point where I was suddenly getting excited every time he messaged me when I used to feel annoyed. I wanted to be around him all the time when I used to only go to their house to see my friend and their daughter. I cannot emphasize enough that before this happened, I. Did. Not. Want. Him. But he wanted me.

My moon is in Cancer, rising is Capricorn, Venus in Gemini, but when it comes to relationships I'm very Cancer. The only Venus in Gemini description that fits me is my love of fun in any relationship.

Posted by M00Nchild
I DID NOT HAVE AN ATTRACTION TO HIM! I DID NOT HAVE A THING FOR HIM! I HAD NO INTEREST IN HIM WHATSOEVER!
I've been honest about everything else, why would I lie about that? I am not a liar. I always tell the truth. I didn't just have sex with him, we were a couple, as in dating. I would never give up that friendship for sex. We were in a relationship. And I didn't see him going back to her because this isn't the first time they've broken up, and he told me he wants to be with me. Apparently if I want it to be true, I'll believe it. He just grew on me, to the point where I was suddenly getting excited every time he messaged me when I used to feel annoyed. I wanted to be around him all the time when I used to only go to their house to see my friend and their daughter. I cannot emphasize enough that before this happened, I. Did. Not. Want. Him. But he wanted me.

My moon is in Cancer, rising is Capricorn, Venus in Gemini, but when it comes to relationships I'm very Cancer. The only Venus in Gemini description that fits me is my love of fun in any relationship.

Please, don't take this the wrong way but I knew there had to be a strong Gem placement. The Cancers I know that don't have clear boundaries and real loyalty to their friends have Gem, Moon, Venus or Rising.

I'm sure you are hurt by this with him but I wouldn't be shocked. What you are going to have to sit back and live with is that you are now the other women. It makes me really sad, I can't imagine how she must have felt, the betrayal with him and you. Can I ask, how old are you all?

I just can't imagine my best friend sleeping with my ex that I share children with. It's a sad situation that could have all been avoided.

How long were you two dating?

Also, what is your friends Sun, Moon, Rising and Venus..

What's the guys info??

I don't know their info beyond he's a Cancer sun and Leo Venus and she's a Gemini sun, Cancer Venus. We're all in our late twenties. We were together a couple of months. I will not be the other woman. If he goes back to her, I'm out.

The truth is, I don't know for sure that he has gone back to her. That's just what I believe because he's been staying at her place over the last few days because their daughter is ill and I haven't heard from him, which is unusual.

Oh my God. Would you people lay off? The reason for this thread has NOTHING to do with him and EVERYTHING to do with my conversation with her that left me confused and wondering what to do. I am not vile. Yes, I dated my friend's EX-boyfriend. I didn't steal him from her, I didn't do anything with him while they were together, and HE started this whole thing. HE liked ME. HE pursued ME. And you know what? For the first time in a very long time, I was happy, and I will not apologize for that. But of course after getting me to like him and telling me he wants to be with me over the past couple of months, suddenly he's MIA. I don't hear you people calling him stupid names. Yeah, I'd like to know what's going on with him. I'd like him to man up and tell me if he's decided to go back to her. I'd like to know why I haven't seen or heard from him in days, but I'm not "using" her to try and get answers, just like I didn't use her to get to him. The only way I'll get the answers I want is from him, but unfortunately he doesn't seem to be feeling all that chatty right now.

It had only been about a month, maybe a month and a half. Not long, I know...