Need hep w/ Genini man

I'll try to make this short...

I met a gemini man on a black "social networking" site (NOT a dating site, but they do have a dating section).

Our relationship was everything you read about scorpios & geminis. From the time we met it seemed like at least once a week there was a disagreement between us. Nothing too serious. I guess it was more of me being too picky & having an 'if you can't make me happy, I'll just be alone' kind of thing, cuz I've been 'single' for about 3 1/2 years. There have been guys here & there, but nothing serious.

anyway, when we first started talking I never initiated contact, because I was talking to a few other guys. Then when we met, I felt like I didn't want to meet anyone else & stopped taking to all the other guys except one. (We almost didn't meet cuz he kept canceling-one of those times my dog died). The other guy I was still talking to I really had no interest in meeting because all he talked about was sex. Now I should have said something to him about talking to someone else, but I never did. Gemini had asked me a few times if I was talking to anyone else. At first I told him the truth, then after a while I said no. Don't really know why.

Gemini deleted his page from that website, and asked me to do the same. I didn't want to, but did it anyway, since it doesn't get that busy & has a lot of scammers. I guess he felt I wouldn't meet guys if I no longer had an account. (although he commented a few times that he thinks I get hit on a lot when I'm out). I hated that he went out to bars/clubs/lounges, cuz I feel like the main reason people go is to meet people (and I'm a jealous scorpio & the thought of him dancing with some girl doesn't sit right with me), but I never asked him to stop going, cuz I felt like I had no place to.

About 2 weeks ago I broke up with him, cuz he made me mad & I felt like he was playing games & lying about going out (that night). We still continued to talk though, for the next week. He would call me names, like Sweetie & Baby etc. When I told him to stop he got offended & was like, "Don't you want to be special to me? Or do you want to be just another girl I know?" I figured since we broke up it was final. Even though I didn't want it to be.

Somehow Gemini found out about the other guy. He said he saw something on that website about the conversations between me & this guy, but I think he may have knew him. When we broke up I went back on that site & created another account.

A guy messaged me a few days after I created the account & I got a funny feeling about him. I felt like he knew my gemini. (and it turns out I was correct).

He got mad @ me when I told him I created another account, even though we were broken up. He kept threatening to create another account , so we would be "even"... I told him to go ahead because I wasn't bothered with him having an account.

This past sunday, he came to the shopping center where I work. Told me, and had me walking around looking for him, in the cold for 45 minutes. Just to say, 'Oh I don't want to see you today'. (Cuz apparently he was still upset, and wanted to see me the next day, but he said that when it was too late). I cursed him out, because here in NY, it is freezing & him making me look for him when he had no intention on seeing me pissed me off.

some nasty things were said, by both of us. So I said it's really done this time. He even went so far as to block me on his cell phone. I said 'okay. fuck you too'. Went to an anonymous text website & sent him some texts. (which I cant even remember what I wrote now) (he did respond, but I never went back to the website to read what he wrote). I feel like to be done with him, I have to be completely done, or else it'll be a back & forth kind of thing. He also threatened to have his sister come to my job to fight me.

So A few times Monday, I get a bunch of private phone calls, where everytime I answer they hang up. The same thing Tuesday morning/afternoon. Tuesday night & today, I get the same private phone calls, but when I answer (or let it go to voicemail) it is love songs. One of the particular songs was a girl singing about it being hard to get over the person she was just with. A few other songs were NeYo...

I don't know what to make of this. One of my friends says that it means he wants to get back together. And one of my friends thinks that he's crazy. I just don't know. A part of me is thinking that he is doing this to annoy me, or to make sure that I am still thinking of him. My guess would be that he is mad, which is understandable. But why keep calling me especially since He blocked MY number?

Also, he created another account on the website & saw my page. (On this website it shows you, who viewed your page). My page was on private, so he only saw my main picture. Before all these calls, I blocked him from contacting me. I don't know if he is aware of that because he is working 16 hour shifts this week tue-fr

run from this gem....fast!

this man is looney. he's giving you so many mixed !@# $ ing signals. man needs to be less passive aggressive. this is dramatic, i would drop him in a heartbeat . . . unless you like masochism.

She's a Scorp, of course she likes a little bit of masochism, Kleo. 😛

But, all bullshit aside. You did show a bit of deception, right? All it takes is once, then....see ya!! At least that's how I am. You stated that he asked you several times if you were talking to anyone else. Well, I know this one!! HaHa! I usually don't ask questions that I don't know the answers to if I'm feeling a persons 'honor' out. I think that's what was going on with him. I could be wrong, but, I can only speak for myself as a Gemini. Never, EVER, try to pull the wool over a Gemini's eyes. That's when we mind fuck you. At least I do. I look at it as an insult to my intelligence, then I play stoopid, and disappear. *shrugs*

I've been with 2 Scorpio women and man, it was fun! But, ya'll are a bit to masculine, aggressive and probing for moi. Very similar to Aries women. But, Aries women aren't emotionally tormented like the Scorpio women that I've hung with. Both Scorpio women tried to do some manipulative b.s. But, it was all good because I saw it coming. I know that Scorpio's have problems with wording their feelings and it comes out as gibberish. But, I don't hold that against them. What I do hold against them is that it has to be their way or the highway. Yeah, good luck with that one with a Gem.

What attracts the two is intelligence. But, both Scorpio women went through great lengths to dig deep into my soul. Well, like a stated above, I was way ahead of them. I know that Scorpio women like to look for chinks in peoples armor. The problem with me is I'll give you a chink, let you sting it, while my twin will step on you in the process. The Scorpio look at me with bewilderment and never see it coming. But, I did warn them that I will be more than happy to be forthcoming with any feelings or thoughts that I may have, as long as you don't do the 'sneaky Scorpio probing thing'. But, maybe I'm just a different kinda dude. *shrugs*

How old are you two Sistah? Sounds like dude's got your nose open. Is it sexual yet? If so, how would you describe it, Scorpio?

~GM

I'm 27 & he is 30.
We have had sex. Although I will admit on my part, it was for the wrong reason. It wasn't 'I want to have sex, because I feel so strongly for him.' it was 'I want to have sex because it's been soooooo long.' :/
we had sex twice, the first time it was CRAZY. I thought that I was good in bed before I met him, after we had sex the first time, I had to go look on the internet for some tips....
the 2nd time it wasn't crazy because I wasn't into it. And after like 10 minutes it started hurting. So that made me less in the mood.
GM I as deceptive, but the thing is, I kind of feel like he knew from the beginning, or he at least knew for a while, so why would he stick around? And yes, I was an idiot & I shouldn't have been talking to the other guy. But I actually prefer to have male friends over females.

I will also say that with the argument that we had I said a lot of things to make him mad (like I told him he was ugly & that I am the only girl that would want to be with him).

I do miss him, but I guess I'll let him make a move, if not, then it is what it is.

Oh C'mon. Who are you kidding? You know as well as I do that if you know you did wrong it will never sit well with you. I mean, you do have a DEEP pain in your heart that you never really can explain, right? So why would you add to this mans pain, huh? At least, I hope that's not who you are. You don't seem to be 'that' person.

But, it sounds like the 'relationship' started off on some bullshit anyway. But, there's obvious feelings there on your part. I know the infamous stubbornness of the Scorpion, and if you don't swallow that little pride of yours you could be missing out on an opportunity (which I've never met a Scorpio to do).

If he went as far as he did with you it could only be for one reason, and one reason alone.....you have value! I bet he'll be in contact with you again to see if you are receptive to the 'message' (whatever it is). If so, apologize (without unnecessary emotion or weakness) then see how it plays out. If he's a jackass, then it'll be obvious and you'll know what to do from there. If not, give it a spin and have some fun. The worse that can happen is that you both will use muscles that you never knew that you had. *shrugs*

Posted by GeminiMind
Oh C'mon. Who are you kidding? You know as well as I do that if you know you did wrong it will never sit well with you. I mean, you do have a DEEP pain in your heart that you never really can explain, right? So why would you add to this mans pain, huh? At least, I hope that's not who you are. You don't seem to be 'that' person.

that's funny that you say that. Because when I admitted to lying to him, he said something similar. He said the world would come to an end if he lied to me.
Oh wait, did I read what you wrote wrong?
Well anyway, I don't necessarily think what I did was wrong, because to me I was looking at this other guy as a friend *only*. Not a potential boyfriend, or fuckbuddy.

I'm hoping he contacts me tomorrow, but I'm not counting on it. It is a holiday after all.

GeminiMind, if this were you in this situation how would you react? Like, would you want to be with a girl if you knew she was deceiving you? I know if we do end up talking again, he won't trust me, which is understandable. But how do you get over/past that?

I'm going to answer your questions in the only way a Gemini could:

It depends.

If I were him, I wouldn't be in that position. But, for the sake of conversation I would do something similar if I've been dishonored. Honor is a very big word to Gemini people sweets. For me, honor means honesty, fairness, and integrity. I'm attracted to people who emit this. But, the moment that they prove otherwise, they are just another fraud trying to be something that they're not. So I respond accordingly (mutable).

I would be with the girl if there was a physical and mental connection. But, if she was as I stated above, I already know that it's not real anyway so I would continue to get out of her those mental and physical stimulation until they ran out. But, don't be fooled Scorp! You absolutely can not deceive a Gemini! You can only deceive yourself into thinking that you did. At the end of the day, it will be you wasting time on something that the Gem has dismissed long ago, really. Which gives way to the old adage that "First impressions are everything!".

Now, because of the ages you two are young, and an undeveloped Gemini male can quite a dangerous thing. Tread lightly. Do your full charts and see what comes up.

Now, do you want him to 'trust' you? If so, there might need to be some hoop jumping involved, seriously. Would YOU trust you? If not, then you have to deal with that first, and fix it. To thine own self be true, right? Maybe he knows this, which might have something to do with the aloofness. It sounds like you have a few men that are playing the "Be her friend first, then the poon tang will cum later" act. So, it could be anybody calling you and hanging up. Handle your business baby, and handle it fast!

~GM

As for the calling & hanging up, I'm 1000% sure it is the Gemini. The calls all came @ a time where he would have been going to work, on break or going home. As for the 2 other guys I mentioned, 1 has never called me (and I never called him, it was only texting), and the other guy didn't have my number.

I know he was upset about me lying, because he kept calling me a liar. (And a cheater, even though I never met the other guy).

If I were him, I wouldn't trust me. But I don't really trust people to begin with. When I first met him, I told myself I was going to 'Go against my judgment & trust him'. But he isn't like me, and said he likes to give people the benefit of the doubt.

How long should I wait for him to contact me? I'm impatient & want to hear from him ASAP, but I know he is probably thinking things over. As I said, some pretty harsh stuff was said. We haven't spoken to each other in a week, and this is the longest time we've gone without speaking since I've known him. (we have spoken just about everyday)
Part of me is saying to wait as long as it takes, another part of me is saying a week should be long enough.

About doing his chart, I know he was born in Puerto Rico, but I don't know what part, so would I still be able to do one?

I also don't know what time he was born

I don't know.

how does it sound the relationship started on some bullshit?? We met online. Was it because I was talking to a few other guys besides him?
As of right mow, I'm not 'talking' to any guys. I would have been content with just being with the gemini.

so sometime yesterday he text me to let me know that he unblocked my number. Then today he texts and asks if I called him.
Is this him trying to see where I'm at (in terms of him)?
I gave simple answers, because I finally made up my mind that I don't necessarily want to be with him. (A lot of things would have to change)