On the shit list- Need Gemini Man's advise

Hello. Need advise on what to do with Gem Ex. Here are the key points and please advise.
- I am a Cancer gurl
- We were together 11 yrs ago in college (broke up cause I moved away)
- We've been friends ever since
- We started hanging on reg basis
- We crossed the friendship line, told him that day i still have feelings
- He agreed to his feelings.
- Asked him where this was going, he said IDK
- In Dec, he started being distant, Have not seen him at all in Dec
- We talk everyday
- He answered the phone and said he's at another chick's house watching football
- He called on his way to pick up another chick to braid his hair
- Told him that I went on a date for NYE
- He said "whatever" when I told him
- He's been an asshole ever since
- I am trying to get outta the dog house
- He used to anwser all calls and texts in a timely manner. As of Saturday I am on ignore, he's never ignored me in 11 yrs.

I know im on his shit list. He's says he won't be seeing me for a while. How can I get back into his good graces.

Are ya'll hearing this?

Mind- do you have any insight—

I have plenty of insight, sweets. But, anybody that knows me, knows that I am thoughtful in my responses.....unless you piss me off. Give me a minute, I have questions.

Okay. Ask as many questions you want.

Give me the details about this girl and her house he was at watching 'football'.

He told me her name and that she lives near him.

She was having a football party. He said that not many people showed up, 4 or 5 chicks and 2 dudes (including him)

He did call after the game and he was home.

Why is it an issue with you?

That's not the issue.

The issue is that since I told him I went on a date with another dude he's been acting like a complete asshole. He's been distant, not anwering call and text's.

I was trying to give a brief summary of things that occured to lead up to being on his shit list.

He's done sweets, sorry. Even if you do see him again, it won't be the way you want it. I was with a Cancer lady for about a month, and I had to bounce.

Asking him where this is going is the last thing you want to ask any Gemini, male or female. It'll go where it's going. Just sit back, enjoy the ride, and don't try to put it in a box. But, that's not what you do, now is it? :::shakes head:::

The "OTHER" chick is a raised eyebrow thing to me. Are you his woman? Were you his woman? Did you have that commitment? Does he, or did he know that you "claimed" him as yours?

Yet, after all of that you tell him that you went on a date on New Years Eve. Wow! For real? Now, tell me, what's wrong with this picture?

You obviously know that you did something dishonorable or you wouldn't FEEL the need to get back in his good graces, Si? Now, be honest here. What do you FEEL that you did wrong? Don't bullshit me, I'm warning you.

Mind ya bidness!! She knows exactly what I'm saying.

FlirtyCancer, it may very well be over like GM said. If anything, why don't you just ask him straight up? Tell him you still like him and see where he's at. You've known eachother for 11+ yrs now. I don't think there's any harm in checking in with him. It may not be what you wanna hear, but you should respect his wishes. Hah! This seems to be my strategy for everything nowadays. Open & honest. I'm over nonsensical mindfuck situations.

I know, right LL?? WTF??

Posted by TasteOfChaos

Posted by GeminiMind
Don't bullshit me, I'm warning you.

Why are you threatening her?

FC - Dont worry about him, he aint scary!

HA!

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If you're not in Law school, you really should consider it, seriously. I tell that to all my Libra friends.

I don't know. But, I got rid of mine! I think I drove her crazy....and she's a psychiatrist. But, she was nice. Wish she'd stop calling me though. I told her explicitly why I couldn't cope with the whiny and the clingy thingy. All of it was emotional selfishness. Well, I didn't have to play, so I didn't. So I....BOING BOING BOING BOING!!

I seriously think it's Gemini and everybody. *shrugs* A fish just posted something. I don't EVEN want to go there.......AGAIN!

^^^ Word! Well, at least the Gem board is getting some action. haha. 😛

ROFL!!

Me neither......wait! Hacker Pschorr here I come.

Hold on! What was the topic again—?

Some chic got Gem probs. Oh well, I hope we helped her! Damn, go to the water boards (HaHa! I said 'water board') and they all watery and murky and shit! No wonder MoFo's be out! Lighten up! Dayum! It's always about "ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME!!!" squared. No wonder Octopi, fish, and crabs are washing up on shores and shit! Just because you live in an element doesn't mean you understand it. I used to tell a Pisces that all the time. She be like: "You don't understand water!" I say: "Yeah I do! It ain't hard" Yo ass is the one that don't understand water! That's why you be drownin in it!" HaHa!!

Okay, now I'm sittin in the hot tub drinkin. HaHa!! Let's hope my laptop don't fall in....Again!

I'm tellin ya, I didn't think I could move that fast! But, wait...I got something for ya'll..

My boy Laurent doin the Chi-Town House thang in D.C.

Now, sit back with whatever relaxes you and groove. 😉

~GM

Ya'll are hilarious.

Mind- The only unhonorable thing that I did was tell him I went on a date.

At the end of the day, he isn't going anywhere.

Thanks Mind and Kleo

....Dueces

He's not going anywhere? Hmmmm..... Okay! Good luck with that! Be safe! Now, back to the party!!

~GM

^^^
For Cancer and Gemini women....yes. For Gemini and Cancer men.....Outy 5,000! 😄

LOL @ GM's & Libraluv's conversation.

Original Poster,

The reason you told him you went on a date is because you got defensive because he was at a girl's house watching football, therefore, you wanted him to react, get jealous, and he did by ignoring you. You made one simple mistake, Geminis don't get jealous, we get irritated because we see through your intention.

A lot of water signs do this and it only pisses us off when you use this immature, emotional, manipulative tactic towards us.

Now he's not going to even go near you with a yardstick.

Grinch,

That is a rare case when a Gem really loves you, he'll display occasional bouts of jealousy.

However, we hate emotional manipulation, especially ones that lean towards purposefully-inflicted jealousy, this does not work on us and will truly piss us off and more than likely pushes us away.

Wineaux!!!!!!

When I get a weiner dog of my own, he'll be up in an instant! 😛 Too much temptation when I see his picture everyday but don't have him. 😭

Posted by MedullaOblongata
Grinch,

That is a rare case when a Gem really loves you, he'll display occasional bouts of jealousy.

However, we hate emotional manipulation, especially ones that lean towards purposefully-inflicted jealousy, this does not work on us and will truly piss us off and more than likely pushes us away.

You know, the more I try to explain this shit to people convinces me that 80% of the population is dumb as all fuck! Then they wonder why I snap their heads off. Stupid is an epidemic. I think there's a factory where they make these folk.

Another order of silly, please. 😉

GeminiMind,

I know exactly what you mean. It pisses me off even more when they "pretend" like they didn't do anything. Perhaps they DIDN'T know they were being manipulative, but it doesn't change the fact that water signs are always *unaware* of their own evil and self-fulfilling prophecies. Astrology says, "Oh, water signs are so in touch with emotions and blah blah blah..." Yeah, sure. There should be a distinction between "being in touch with emotions" vs. "full of emotions." Being in touch says that you are very aware of your own self and understand the emotions you have and exert; however, being full of emotions is just always feeling without processing or filter. From what I've witnessed from Water signs, they're really out of touch with their emotions, making them extremely deficient in the self-awareness aspect because they don't even understand most of the time why they feel that way, why they feel they have to do or say something, and it's quite simple, it's because they are overruled by full of tactless impulsive feelings and nothing more.

UGH!

HaHaHaHaHa! Too polite indeed!

Posted by MedullaOblongata
GeminiMind,

I know exactly what you mean. It pisses me off even more when they "pretend" like they didn't do anything. Perhaps they DIDN'T know they were being manipulative, but it doesn't change the fact that water signs are always *unaware* of their own evil and self-fulfilling prophecies. Astrology says, "Oh, water signs are so in touch with emotions and blah blah blah..." Yeah, sure. There should be a distinction between "being in touch with emotions" vs. "full of emotions." Being in touch says that you are very aware of your own self and understand the emotions you have and exert; however, being full of emotions is just always feeling without processing or filter. From what I've witnessed from Water signs, they're really out of touch with their emotions, making them extremely deficient in the self-awareness aspect because they don't even understand most of the time why they feel that way, why they feel they have to do or say something, and it's quite simple, it's because they are overruled by full of tactless impulsive feelings and nothing more.

UGH!

Truly out of touch with their emotions. They tend to use them as weapons. The more I understand them, the more I'm starting to dislike most of them. Sad, but true. I hate emotional manipulators, and I CRUSH their feelings if they pull that shit on me. It truly makes me horny! HaHa! I know, I'm evil.

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I know, I was just giving them the benefit of the doubt. That in the end they're still completely clueless and immature about themselves. But in brief, yes, they are all liars when confronted about their emotional black mail, they will play dumb and deaf, make pretzel excuses to deny it. It's really just unbelievable.

Grinch,

Glad you can see your own faults, that's what I call self-awareness. You're a Cancer, even though you're full of emotions, you're by far more honest than your sister signs, especially the Pisces. When I speak of said obvious emotional black mail it it less about Cancers but more about Pisces.

I've dated a Cancer guy for 2 years, boy was he full of emotions! He could cry for days until I literally have to forgive him no matter how upset I am with him; but never ever in our entire relationship was he dishonest or sneaky with his emotions, he was an honestly emotional man, but not a conniving man.

With a Pisces, not only will he deny he did anything wrong but he will use manipulative techniques to turn it around on me. For example, couple years ago during midterms week, Pisces & I had gotten into a huge argument, he went out with his friends and I was home trying to study for my exams. At 3:00 a.m. I got a phone call from him, however, the person on the phone was supposedly a "policeman" who told me, "Your boyfriend got really drunk at the bar and we have taken him back home. He says he can't find the key to his apartment but that you have an extra key so if you would please come to his place and let him in. He is very intoxicated and really needs to be taken care of." Unbelievable, right? I should've known better. Against my better judgment, I was still worried. I drove 45 MINUTES at 3:00 a.m. to his place. Was there a cop car when I arrived? NOPE! I called 911, and guess what? There was NO REPORT of any policeman giving a drunk guy a ride home. I ran upstairs to his apartment and guess what? The conniving bastard was dressed in pajamas in his bed. I go, "WHAT THE F*CK are you doing? Is this one of your sick jokes?!" He looks at me like, "Uhh... Why are you here? What are you talking about?" I was soooooooooooooo f*cking livid with his *deaf and dumb* bullsh*t. I showed him the phone call I just got from HIS PHONE by a "POLICEMAN" who told me to come to his house even though I have a test at 7:00 a.m. in the morning! You know what his response was, cool and casual, "Ha ha, my friends were probably just drunk and got a hold of my phone and played a prank." I stared at him in disbelief, a blatant, shameless liar. I stormed out of his apartment, I got home at 6:00 in the morning, exams at 7:00 a.m... He continued to deny what he did. And I thought, fine, you know what... I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt. I observed him like a ha

And just think, about the women who are supposed to be compatible with these morons. Cancer women are ok, to a point. But the men—? Uh good luck! Never met one that wasn't a secret playa from the Himalayas! Sorry wineuax. Gotta stay consistent here. Cancer men are whores, they just use emotion the way the octopus uses ink, as a distraction. I challenge anyone to show me different. Isn't it strange that Cancer men can't look you in the eye when you are being direct? Hmmmmm..... :/ Pisces? I'm still looking for one that actually has some balls and who love themselves. :/

Grinch,

YES! But he was one of the most devoted lover I've ever encountered!

I completely feel you on the Pisces. Especially on the part, "doing things with other girls and then telling me about it." And I'll tell you why below...

Sorry I left the story half way through, my laptop has been acting up and refuses to connect.

Anyway, so as I was saying...

I watched him like a hawk since. I'm an extremely forgiving person, as most Geminis are, but we definitely do not like being treated like a fool.

Come Finals week. We got into another argument and he hangs up on me. He basically did the same thing, not with pretending to be a cop to rile me up, but playing deaf and stupid and selfish all the same.. I told him we needed to talk. When I came over to his apartment, he was acting tough and I knew this manipulative technique, acting like he's cool and he's tough to try to break me down. We got into arguing and instead of apologizing, punned me with this remark, "So you want to talk. You know what we should talk about is that it seems you are unhappy with me, maybe we should just break up..." I glared DEEP into his eyes to burn a hole right through him so he knows that I can see his dirty intentions... He completely turned green and his tough guy fascade melted like ice--he no doubt knew he had pushed me over the edge. I said nothing, got up and gathered all of my belongings in his apartment. When I was about to leave, he bellows, "You know once you walk out that door you're not allowed back, right?" I turned around and told him, "You make it way too easy for me."

That was that. About a month later he contacted me to come by and pick up the rest of the stuff. The second I walked into his apartment, he had his laptop WIDE OPEN with a background photo of him making out with another girl. LOL (he really thinks he's so clever...) So before I left, he asked me to play a round of video game with him. I thought I'd amuse him at this point because I knew he was plotting one of his emotional black mail BS again. I asked him, "So, I see that you're moving on these days..." He goes, "Psh! Of course! I've been partying so hard. You know my bestfriend is a promoter so he knows all these hot girls and we've just been partying our a $ $ es off, living up the single life. Going on dates without worrying about commitment... blah blah blah." I was so sick of his sh1t and decided to humor his transparent dumba $ $ . In my puppy-dog sadface, I go...

"Seems like you don't miss me at all... Do you? I think about you everyday." INSTANTLY, his tough act diminishes and he gushes out all the gag-reflexing feelings he has for me. I wanted to throw up in my mouth at how disgusting a human being can be so darn manipulative. He was so oblivious to how cunning he is; I felt glad to further confirm his intentions even to the very day. I left it at that. Never even explained to him my point of view when he kept asking me. I don't need closure when I've found enough viable evidence to end things. That's how a Gemini is, people think we disappear for no reason but that's far from the truth; while you're too self-absorbed with yourself own selfish desires, we sit dormant, quietly observing you then when it reaches to the point when words cannot redeem meaning, actions cannot produce results--we leave. And that's that.

Sorry for the long winded story. XP

This is nothing compared to the Pisces guy at my old workplace whom I almost sued his butt to thy kingdom come...

I have only once been involved with a cancer man and boy was he a fake one...

One day so nice and then the next day a backstabbing asshole..
He lied to me once..i told him game over and fuck off

After a week he texts me "miss you" i thought what a dork,he makes a fool of himself and then misses me,he couldnt even admit that he had lied..

He still texts me trying to talk as usual,i play along and are pollite and sometimes flirt with him and send sexy texts to get him all going,but thats just because i know he thinks im an idiot and will fall for his bullbutter..Poor boy he will be hopelessly in love with me for a long long time now but he will never ever get me in any way..


Thats a cancer underestimating a gem..