Other side of the gemini?

Is it like a Gemini trait or is he just weird? Well, I met a guy on a dating site. He was jokingly saying all the time that he wants a lot of sex all the time. I just took our whole conversations as a joke. He kept on pushing to meet me, I said no all the time, but finally met him. He was all different in real life, rather nervous I guess, we just talked in his car about an hour. He didn't leave any impression to me, had no intention to meet him again. However, he managed to talk me into it. So we had two more hour long dates, talking and kissing. We also chatted on messenger, he contacted me everyday all day, what am I up to and let's meet and he also talked a lot about sex, like what do I like when having sex and stuff. I was rather avoiding these topics. However I figured he is not the type for a steady long term relationship, but why not to just have sex, cause I was certain it's all he wants. So on our fourth date I was sure we just go to my place and do it, instead he drove us out the city, had a bit of snacks in a cafe, watched a movie on his phone, like a proper date. Afterwards we went to my place and had sex. So the next evening we met in his little cafe and he asked whether I'd like to meet his friends. Then his friends came, we had a great night, later the two of us went to his place. The next morning he insisted me to go to shopping with him for his cafe, then he insisted me to stay in his cafe while he was working. I stayed a few hours, then went home, later he came by my place, and when he left he asked whether I'd like to come to a event that night at his cafe. I said I think I have to sleep, so no.

Anyway, I have discovered he has many positive traits and I might develop feelings. I was not even considering it, thinking that according to his behaviour in the dating site and messenger, that he only looks for sex. But at the same time he has taken me out on dates, introduced me to his friends, treating me at his workplace like I'm his girlfriend infront of his colleagues... It's weird. Moreover, when he is out or at work, he is typical Gemini - witty, talkative, curious, smart, active etc (I've met a few Gemini and dated one once), however, when we were at mine or his place together, he wants to cuddle all the time, but we do not talk much, I don't know what to talk about and he is rather quiet, sometimes it seems like he is in another world or forgets that I'm there (just surfing on his phone or staring the ceiling, looking very comfortable like being home alone). Or he says we should watch a movie, then we watch it while cuddling. And then we have sex (which is a bit weird too, he seems rather selfish and wants to get over with it quickly). And then we continue the movie or whatever.

Basically it feels weird. He is totally different person being home alone with me, quiet, rather lazy, cozy, maybe even bored, selfish, childish.

It feels like he is coming to my place to just have sex but then again - he introduces me to his friends, treated me like a proper girlfriend in his work place, asking me to join their event. Why bother if he'd like the no strings attached kind of thing. I have not asked any of these, I have been rather hard to get and at the same I have not shown any interest in meeting his friends or anything.

Btw he is Gemini sun, Taurus Moon and Mercury, Aries Venus, Pisces Mars.

You do realize that a person can want sex all the time AND want a committed relationship. Those two aren't mutually exclusive.

This isn't a coin toss where either he only wants lots of sex OR he wants a relationship. In fact I certainly hope that the one would have the other...

If you want a relationship you need to tell him. To expect him to read your mind is beyond foolish.

Also you should've established your need for monogamy and commitment before letting him between your legs.

Basically all your issues stem from a lack of clear communication from your end. No one here can solve that for you. Talk to him and find out where you stand.

"It feels like he's coming to my place just to have sex..."

We'll do you or do you not invite him over to your place?

Do you or do you not have sex with him?

He's not the only one making these decisions and impressions, you've been there every step of the way.

To call him weird is to call yourself weird.

Actually you'd be the weirder of the two since your providing the place where he's fucking you...

I guess I should have pointed out, that my issue with the guy is that he is weird when we are just the two of us. I don't care whether we just have sex or we get into a relationship. I wanted an opinion about is it a Gemini trait that he is witty, talkative etc in public and with his friends, but so quiet, lazy and weird when we are together. Like two totally different person.

Posted by 11Aquagirl
I guess I should have pointed out, that my issue with the guy is that he is weird when we are just the two of us. I don't care whether we just have sex or we get into a relationship. I wanted an opinion about is it a Gemini trait that he is witty, talkative etc in public and with his friends, but so quiet, lazy and weird when we are together. Like two totally different person.

What is his moon?

Most people are different in public than at home. He feels comfortable around you that he doesn't have to be 'on'. Why is that weird?

Oh man my guess was Taurus Moon ?

If he doesn't have earth or water moon your screwed sorry

Posted by questionoflustquestionoftrust
If he doesn't have earth or water moon your screwed sorry

He has Taurus Moon. Why would fire or air Moon mean I'd be screwed? ?

Posted by 11Aquagirl

Posted by questionoflustquestionoftrust
If he doesn't have earth or water moon your screwed sorry

He has Taurus Moon. Why would fire or air Moon mean I'd be screwed? ?

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Gemini needs a more either grounding or emotional moon since they are soo flighty and that helps them be more loyal.