Please Help!!!!!!!

I am a Cap....My Gemini boyfriend came over Friday and spent Xmas Eve with me since he was going to have his kids for Christmas....which was okay with me. He showed me and my kids much love for Christmas(he bought us so much)....let me add. I recieved one text from him on Xmas telling me Merry Xmas and that he love me. It's Monday and I haven't heard from him since Christmas(and that was by text) I have all kinda of thoughts going thru my head, but at the same time I have no facts and I don't want to jump to any conclusion. What should I do? I starting to think he might of spent it with the kids and their mom.....HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLP!

I am a gem May 31st. I'm a little confused here. Are you suspicious of the text or that he may have spent Christmas with his kids and ex. Either way, he spent Christmas Eve with you and your kids. The children's interest should be the main focus, always. Gems can't take jealousy at all. If you accuse him you better be 1,000 percent sure that its true. He sounds like he has his priorities in order. We like our freedom. If you are concerned just keep your eyes open. Also, have you been introduced to his children and ex? This might help with your suspicion.

I HAVEN'T MET THE KIDS ARE EX...

I wouldn't have done that much. He must really like you. Support that man and continue to encourage him to spend time with his children. So what if his ex is there. He is with you.

I SUPPOSE TO BE HIS WOMAN AND I HAVENT HEARD ANYTHING FROM.....THAT ISN'T STRANGE TO YOU GUYS

He turned his phone off and it's going straight to voicemail....why would you turn your phone off?

If my man has kids, I want to meet them. Don't rush into a relationship until your foundation is solid. If your thinking long term,meeting his children and their mom is a good idea. Parent must work together for the sake of the kids. That means communication, cooperation and visitation!

I asked to met the kids, but he said that she trip and he dont want to go thru that.... but he has met mines

Lol! He may just be working. Just relax. It'll be fine. 🙂

Just let him know why meeting them is important. He may not want to deal with her but let him know hat you are by his side and call a meeting with all the adults. If you want to be around for a while, be sincere about it when you go to him.

i have tried this already..... so your saying just leave it alone basically

Umm...I am not sure what the fuss is all about and you don't give much information....
How long you guys have been together? Are you an item for a significant amount of time?
Spending Christmas eve with you and your kids is a huge step. Now, if you aren't together for a year or two,
I wouldn't worry about your not meeting his kids. Family is the most important thing of all, and Gems are great parents
for or our other weaknesses...
You should be glad he's not neglecting his kids or he hasnt got serious issues with his ex. That would be a bigger red flag..!
Just relax and don't fret over a couple of days!! That would be a huge turn off!!
I would start to worry if there were other signs - CONSISTENTLY elusive and non-committing/not keeping his word/disappearing acts would rouse suspicions...
But a couple of days, during which he surely wants to spend time and share with his family - and since he hasn't intriduced you yet, it would be less tactful and tasteless to get phone calls/speak to you in front of them - is not an issue.

Wait to hear from him AND if you have some clue on sth different going on, we re here to help 🙂

Thank you! I just thought it was strange that he would have his phone off and that he wouldnt even have text me or call once the kids were asleep.

But when I igonre him he gets all upset. A whole weekend without talking to your mate doesn't sit well with me.

Just let him know why meeting them is important. He may not want to deal with her but let him know hat you are by his side and call a meeting with all the adults. If you want to be around for a while, be sincere about it when you go to him.

Patience....You telling me if you talk to you mate everyday and go awhole weekend without talking to them...it's ok! He had his phone turned completely off. What if something happen and I needed to talk to him.

wow, you are one crazy cap

do you also follow him to the bathroom?

okay nevermind......do I allow him to go to the restroom....what about me telling you that he gets upset when i dont answer my phone or text messages.

Thanks alot!!!!!!

him getting upset with you is fine...

the difference is, he isnt the one posting about why his girl isnt answering her phone..is she with the mailman, the postman, the cable guy, her ex, etc

im tellin you like it is.

you sound selfish. he spent xmas eve with you and brought YOU and YOUR KIDS gifts. and he told you were he was going to be on xmas day, with his kids. so whats the deal?

you want him all to yourself 24/7 OR is it that your insecurities are getting the best of you and you are threatened by his baby mama.

he even sent you a text saying that he loves you..

what more do you want?

He's avoiding you because your grammar is atrocious. I'd stop texting you too for fear I'd catch your stoopid.

In essence, he's smarter than you. He's chosen to be a good, responsible father and not bring random women around his children. He knows that a revolving door of potential mommies will scar his children and therefore, he keeps his hoes away from home. Frankly, he had no business meeting your kids either but hey, we've already established you're stupid so couldn't expect much from you now could we?

finally "reason and logic" has eneterd the building

are you mad that you didnt get Christmas Day?


some jumpoffs get mad over that..they think they deserve Christmas Day

you dont have the confidence of a girlfriend of 3 years..if you did, you wouldnt be worrying where he is 24/7

*lol*

THREE years and you still haven't met them? And you're confused?

Ha!

Yeah, you stoopid.

naw, the gemini bf was at my crib last night...

i confess

Oh, I'm not the one who is fucked...literally.

your reactions must me that some truth has been shared with you...

the first step is always denial..

he sure did...

i gave it to him all Christmas day...

i even told him to text you so that you wouldnt get too worried..

i saw your number pop up a few times when i was calling takeout from his phone...so your right about one thing..i ignored your calls, he was in the shower

Denial is that hair color. It doesn't compliment your skin tone 😢

Maybe that's why he's avoiding you? Or it could be that he likes to go to the DMV on his days off 😛

Caps are so emo.

Post hiding ignant ass mofo.

LMAO...

@caligula...

no pun intended

the world has gone crazy


jumpoffs no longer know their place..

real girlfriends get Christmas Day. Jumpoffs get Christmas Eve

so that there is no confusion for New Years..

Real Girlfriends get New Years Eve till 6am. Jumpoffs get New Years day starting whenever he wakes up from his alcohol induced coma.

Ha!

Preach!!!

So uhm, here's what's really sad. I was thinking this was just another crazy cap who got laid wide open and in a matter of weeks is trying to reign some dude in. But no, she professes "THREE years" and yet seemed thrilled by an "I love you" via text msg...as if it's brand new.

The reality is, you're an attractive woman (sans that hair color) and I'm sure you're a good mother otherwise (hire an English tutor). I know you like-ded him but THREE years of your life...gone. This isn't a matter of patience and understanding. THREE years in and dude shouldhave already gotten down on a knee, moved in, saved up for a ring...somethin.

How long are you willing to wait to receive what you deserve? Normal love doesn't keep you guessing. Normal love doesn't send you to the internet in despair. Normal love doesn't make you question your worth...

Now being someone's ho-on-call and not recognizing it...

Awwww. I hope this thread was helpful. My fellow twins really were blunt with you but it was done in order to shed some light on your situation. You see Cappy's like to be in control. Trying to control a gem is nearly impossible. Its probably best Cappy's anD Gems don't mix for this reason.

i told her she was controlling and she didnt believe me.

Oh wow...didn't realize you have been with him for three years. That is not a good sign that you haven't met his kids. Maybe his not texting you for two days is not the issue you should be worried about. I posted on the other thread but that didn't have that info. I know the Geminis are putting it to you bluntly but you must realize they are Geminis and would have some clearer insight into how he may be.
😢

im a sag...

i just know when something doesnt sound right

LMAO

Posted by TheGift
I wouldn't have done that much. He must really like you. Support that man and continue to encourage him to spend time with his children. So what if his ex is there. He is with you.

True dat! It took my ex 2 years to meet my family. Why? Because I don't trust easily, and time to me is a matter of mortality. But, like the true Gem that I am, I do indeed test peoples loyalty. If you show me ANY type of fear in your heart, it shows a major 'chink' in your armor. That 'chink' is fear. 'Fear' is an emotion that leads to the negative side of the equator. And we can't have that now, can we?

~GM

Posted by mebeme
okay nevermind......do I allow him to go to the restroom....what about me telling you that he gets upset when i dont answer my phone or text messages.

Because we're hypocrites. There, I said it! But, our hypocrisy only goes so far.

~GM

Posted by geminiwizard
when you start a topic titled "Please Help!!!!!!" you better be fukin dying or something, jesus.

No shit!! Made me come off of my branch! Had a nice spot too!! Overlookin some some cows! 😉

i dont see the big issue...

unless he told you he loved you forever and ever. that your the love of his life and he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. HE isnt lying in that sense. It is true at the moment..but not necessaryily a lie in a general sense.

Imagine the possible factors he could be going through..

he doesnt want his kids to be raised in thinking marriages and love are bogus, he has kids in mind...to keep their purity as long as possible...just saying....it has nothing to do with you relationship with him

i understand it could mean he ISNT as interested as he states, then that should leave you with options

a) leave and get what YOU want and NEED
b) understand his position..live and let live. be yourself and dont over thinkin all their actions. for they will never be the same
c) partake in your own pain 😢

i definitely see certain similarities with my bf...

a) likes his space
b) he communicates "need to know" basis keeps it general..unless asked (not necessarily he is witholding) m
c) dont ever let him figure you out

i always ALWAYS leave 30% of my thoughts to myself...

i say relax hun! be more optimistic...so what you haven't met his kids.doesn't mean NEVER.

enjoy the good you'll miss it when its gone~