Pleeesa GEMS interpret what he Means by this?!

I just had coffee with my guy friend and he was walking me to my car, when he started talking about the power women have over men...then we stopped at my car and even though I was the only one in front of him he started talking out loud(like to himself) he said "A woman can take everything from a man and leave him with nothing, I just hope you don't do that to me." I'm kind of baffled by this comment since we are only friends...what would I possibly take from him? Is he talking about a possible future with me as his GF? Does he secretly have feelings for me? Gems, please translate! lol.

Posted by Moonbutter
I just had coffee with my guy friend and he was walking me to my car, when he started talking about the power women have over men...then we stopped at my car and even though I was the only one in front of him he started talking out loud(like to himself) he said "A woman can take everything from a man and leave him with nothing, I just hope you don't do that to me." I'm kind of baffled by this comment since we are only friends...what would I possibly take from him? Is he talking about a possible future with me as his GF? Does he secretly have feelings for me? Gems, please translate! lol.

Looks like he asked you out in a Gemashion (Gem's own fashion 😛)

Posted by Moonbutter
I just had coffee with my guy friend and he was walking me to my car, when he started talking about the power women have over men...then we stopped at my car and even though I was the only one in front of him he started talking out loud(like to himself) he said "A woman can take everything from a man and leave him with nothing, I just hope you don't do that to me." I'm kind of baffled by this comment since we are only friends...what would I possibly take from him? Is he talking about a possible future with me as his GF? Does he secretly have feelings for me? Gems, please translate! lol.

Are you two flirting or anything? Have you done anything? I wouldn't say that, unless, I was trying to open that door to start seeing a person.

Ask me out in Gemfashion...opening the door to seeing a person..Good Lord, what he said would probably be considered a proposal in some countries! lol. But yeah, he's admitted we are more then friends but after 5 years we still going around in circles...and the crab dance continues...Do you think hes' just scared to get feelings for me? Im a Cancer btw 😉

He is playing into what you like / want.
Saying romantic things like that can almost be entertaining in a weird how-do-they-react type of way.
I don't think he is scared.
I am sure you've been seeing other people as it seems cancers are prone to dating multiple people..
and that can put up a non-serious only block in some gems head. Some of us like to go in head first curiously and desire someone who we know is into us. Hes has made it clear, but it sounds like you havent done the same

Is it so weird to just ask him ?
I don't understand some cancers and their feeling the need to 'not be the one'

Go ask wim way he said that :-)
I do that when i want to see how people react and want to bring a topic to the table :-)

I would have put it back on him such as 'what makes you say that?'.

You Gems are so good with logic, thank u for the different perspectives 🙂 I think it's hard for me to initiate anything with him because I've felt for him soo long and I feel I know him(but maybe that is illusion?)plus when I first met him he was talking about how he can't get into a relationship because of his kid, etc..but again, he did that in the same way talking to himself out loud, but I was sitting across from him. Was that his backwards way of getting me to chase him? If you tell me no to something(and it is valid reason) I'm going to respect your wishes.
@Geminems...what do you mean playing into what I like/want? Like he is not being genuine? Playing me? Also, usually I can tell when someone is lieing/deceiving but he was so serious and acted concerned.

I have done that before, and i do it on purpose, so the other end hears me hoping they put the topic.
You can ask him about it even if it was few days ago, trust me, we like that as it shows you were paying attention.
And as truecap said, ask him what makes him say that.

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I have done that before, and i do it on purpose, so the other end hears me hoping they put the topic.
You can ask him about it even if it was few days ago, trust me, we like that as it shows you were paying attention.
And as truecap said, ask him what makes him say that.

We are all asking her to ask him, lol... How old is this guy?

He is early 30's...Gem w/Cancer Venus.

He digs you. I just started dating a gem guy and he's older but still says the weird "thinking out loud" statements. They used to throw me off a bit but now I get it. For instance last night on the phone "I havnt had a seriouse girlfriend in years" and he keeps repeating "you are pretty cool..one of the coolest chicks". we've only been talking a month or so. He'll just randomly say the above in the middle of a convo. I asked him "so I'm your girlfriend now?!" Long pause then...."your ads is mine". lol...it was charming.

If your gem guy goes back and forth about dating it means he wants you. Be brave and next time you have him alone tell him you desire him. He'll melt 🙂 Just open that door and give him permission to step in.

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Thanks GemJenBaby 🙂 Your guy sounds like my friend...he has also sent me random "You're awesome, cool chick" haha but he knew I was with another Gem at the time...The talking out loud thing is kinda a sneak peak into their subconscious...do they even realize they do it? I'm not sure how to handle it but I guess you are right he is thinking about being with me he just hasn't made up his mind yet, I guess :/

@moonbutter
It isnt that he is being disingenuous, I think he just wanted to see how you would react.
I also have my venus in cancer, and I'm a romantic at heart... But I'm not just going to make it sound TOO serious when I say dramatic over-the-top romantic things because I'm too insecure in love. So throwing out a lovey statement painted in a goofy or joking light, is really my way of putting an idea in the air and seeing how that person chooses to take it.
If you're anything like any of the cancers I know or have 'seen' you don't make it too obvious that you're into someone.. Not on any real "let's be more than friends and/or exclusive" level and thats what someone with their venus in cancer wants: Someone who is going to be exclusive with them.
I'm unsure as to why he would say he doesnt want a relationship because of his kid. Maybe he was insecure about it and wanted to see where you were at// maybe he thinks that isnt what you want.
That's how I'd break it down if it were me at least.
I base much of what I say/do on what I think the other person wants.

I'm one of those "m/f can be JUST friends" people though >_>
Unless there is a mutual friend, common dudely interest or one person (usually the man) is interested...
Most guys don't just hang out with a girl because they like her as a friend though.



Sorry for the book 😄 lol

Haha thanks for the advice Geminems, I loved the book btw, is the sequel coming out soon? 😛 You are right though...I being a Cancer tend to go every which way except forward and that I bet is not too reassuring for someone like him. Sigh...then his lil comments confuse me even more..."I don't date girls I could get feelings for." What does that MEAN?? haha oh boy.

PART 2 INCOMING?! lol

Translating that for you:
"I am a snobby stage infinite clinger in love, and if a person I care about leaves me I go crazy and am genuinely hurt for a disgustingly long time... So I'm telling you I don't date people I catch feelings for but that is obviously just completely fucking false."


This was mostly a picture book

Posted by Moonbutter
He is early 30's...Gem w/Cancer Venus.

Ok, so just ask!! 🙂 He should be mature.. 🙂

Awesome translation Geminems...now where is that app on my phone>...Gemini translation please...oh well. haha.
I am getting a clearer pic, thank u 🙂

@WateryGem...you are pro right, maybe I will...

Posted by Moonbutter
Haha thanks for the advice Geminems, I loved the book btw, is the sequel coming out soon? 😛 You are right though...I being a Cancer tend to go every which way except forward and that I bet is not too reassuring for someone like him. Sigh...then his lil comments confuse me even more..."I don't date girls I could get feelings for." What does that MEAN?? haha oh boy.

I, also, think we do speak in code at times, like we are testing people. I,think, I do, hoping someone will give me a direct answer as to what they are really feeling or thinking. I do have my Venus in Retrograde so maybe that is my problem. lolol

I struggle to be direct if someone isn't giving clear cut reassurance that they are feeling me the same. I can't imagine I would say the exact opposite of what I feel, though. Once, I feel comfortable, I will tell someone how I feel openly.

I haven't been in a relationship in so long. I need a man!! lol jk I want one, though. 🙂

ahaha
Well.
If you ever need any more translations I'm here

Aww WateryGem you seem like a sweetheart, and I hope you do find that special someone 🙂 You guys do speak in code, and I love puzzles, so maybe that is why this guy has hooked my mind lol.

Thank u Geminems...Oh, I got one more.."I care for you, which is why we can be friends only."

Posted by Moonbutter
Aww WateryGem you seem like a sweetheart, and I hope you do find that special someone 🙂 You guys do speak in code, and I love puzzles, so maybe that is why this guy has hooked my mind lol.

lol Thanks!! I look forward to following the puzzle you are trying to figure out. 🙂

haha...I'm sure more to come...He is my favorite puzzle though

When did he say that?
Was it out of no where?
That sounds like something a person says after someone confesses that they want more
and sounds like a cheesy way of letting someone down easy afterwards
Do you value his friendship? Are you sleeping together?


A fool proof way to knowing if a gemini REALLY cares is by ignoring them for a day or two.
If a cancer ex of mine stopped talking to me, even for a short amount of time, all bets were off and Id turn on my chase mode.

But once again, you could just ask. I doubt it would harm your friendship if thats what you're worried about

Well he said that before the other phrases...It was a day after our first kiss(4 years ago) and I just started to realize my feelings for him. He asked if I enjoyed it and I said "It doesn't matter anyways" and he said "well, I really enjoyed it, so it matters to me." and I said "It just sucks because I like you" and he said "I like you too" "I care for you, which is why we can be friends only." :/ Never slept together...Just several lunches/dinners alone with him.

Posted by Moonbutter
Well he said that before the other phrases...It was a day after our first kiss(4 years ago) and I just started to realize my feelings for him. He asked if I enjoyed it and I said "It doesn't matter anyways" and he said "well, I really enjoyed it, so it matters to me." and I said "It just sucks because I like you" and he said "I like you too" "I care for you, which is why we can be friends only." :/ Never slept together...Just several lunches/dinners alone with him.

You guys kissed 4yrs ago and he hasn't done anything since? Was he still married?

4 years ago, gosh
That's too long ago to be relevant, no?
be forward with him and if he does the same thing move on.
He sounds a bit flakey

No..he was in a complicated situation with his baby mama...We were both single, but then I started dating someone..and so on..He just got married to his baby mama a few months ago so I'm crying on the inside lol. I would never try to break up a relationship, however he doesn't sound happy and his happiness matters to me.

Well yes, Geminems I agree with you... however he was raising a kid by himself and now shes getting older. Plus I was dating others(due to his mixed msgs) So maybe it just wasn't the right time? I dunno but he's had problems dating because of being a single dad so that is why he said he couldn't do relationship...maybe that's why all the cryptic mixed msgs? What did you think of that conversation, you think he was still letting me down gently?

How is this information just coming up? 😢
He just got married??
Ughh 😢
find yourself a leo

A Leo? Well he did marry but only out of duty so I don't think will be for long...anyways I dunno I was just curious because I never felt resolution or closure from the back and forth.

Ugh...he's married. Period. Value yorself enough to love an available man. period.

Yeah, you are right it just happened so unexpectedly, I'm still trying to get used to the idea. Sometimes the idea of being with him is more attractive to me then actually being with him so I wouldn't cross any boundries. Can't blame a girl for wondering 🙂