Poor Geminis

Why must we be so mISunderSTood!?! lol

I LOVE EWE !

Gems are only misunderstood because the people don't understand your dual nature and how to use if for the good of themselves....🙂

I have come to the conclusion that dispite how my gem can be at times he is a very sweet and sensitive man that just needs a lot of love and affection and I am the one that will give him what he needs and always wanted. He just needs to open up more and maybe when him and his twin finally agree then I guess he will. Until then I will love him and treat him like the KING he is because I know I am his QUEEN. 😛

WELL SAID......... & YES POOR US... pity party welcomes you 😉 hehehe

that is good to hear scorplady

dward417

So hows it go with you and your gem.

My relationship went to another level but we are moving along slowly we are not in a rush 🙂

are you guys living together?

No he just started spending the night...🙂 and leaving clothes at my house

Read the thread on the Scrop board titled (Gemini Blows me again)

I also just started feeding him from my home...

He is very slow...

I am not ready for living together right know....

I like my freedom just as much as he does not to mention we both like I space....So living together will take some time

I really love cooking for my man!

I don't mind cooking it's just not one of my many favorite things to do....

Never had to cook but one time when I was young.


I love it when a man cooks for me also GemGal

dward417

so I guess you and your gem are just moving right along in the love world.

ME TOO!!!!!!!!!!!! people don't realize, that even though how people think of us, i think we are extreme people pleasers. i know i am. so anything i cna do to please my man.. it's done. and being the bull he is.. food is very important. so i even pulled out my apron and bake...lmao i haven't lost my touch either! 🙂

BaBy-GrL414, finally someone has highlighted the one thing I consider myself to be that I don't see many Gems speaking about, a people-pleaser! And I need to clarify that there's a difference between being a people-pleaser and a kiss-ass. When I love and care for someone, I will bend over backwards to see them happy. If I don't care deeply for you, you can forget about it. In my relationships, I always want my man to be happy with me and US... but of course there's no such thing as a perfect relationship. I just try to let small things go, and handle the bigger things in a smarter way.

I think most Gems are this way, as were are changeable. If I want you to be happy, and only a specific something will do that for you (and I don't lose myself in becoming that something), I have no problem with pulling out the other twin and being that for you. My Cap loves to be in control, and I'm usually the one in control... So now I push that dominating twin down into my pocket and let him hold the reins most of the time, but she always comes out when he gets too carried away and reminds him that she's still there lol. I love my ability to change to meet whatever needs may arise. It keeps me sane... If looking at myself as multiple people is equivalent to sanity lol.

My closest circle of friends are 1 female Gem (we're like quadruplets lol), 2 female Pisces (they crack me up), 2 female Aquarians (I LOVE them!), 1 male Cancer (whose emotions I can only tolerate for so long), and 1 male Aries (total Alpha male who I respect/admire)... Scorpios always come into my life with drama, and I quickly leave the room. My most consistent friend is my Taurus mom, and my Cap heart is amazing. The earth signs are the ones I run to for everything, good and bad.

GEM -

what you just described is ME. I had to learn the hard way about controlling the "people pleaser" in me. i was used and abused. So i definitely have toughted that up and you really have to earn that side of me. There are so many dimensions to geminis it's insane. i so beleive when a man marries us, they are getting a hand full of wives.. LMAO i know this makes us truely attractive to most men. but most can't deal with us and they take are kindness for weakness. big mistake. lol

with my bull.. he gets frustrated because he is well (and i crack up about this) domesticated. he cooks cleans blah blah blah.. but i don't want my man doing that kinda thing. he pelases me in every way i need to be pleased. he has me fluttering around the house and to keep me grounded, i clean and take care of things. he offers to help but, i usually have things done before he gets home. he says he has never had someone care for him like i do. for me it's easy. you give me more then what i need. i in turn will do everything in my power to make sure you feel loved and comfortable. I know how important a HOME is to a taurus. I make sure his home is right. People don't get how imporant it is to me, to meet my needs mentally. i truely don't think i ask for a lot out of a man. But if you need anything mental.. good luck finding a man that is willing to put that kind of work in. Glad i found one! lol

Circle of friends:

Taurus - female... We are like opposites but meld to help each other. we have opposite weaknesses and have come to rely on one another.
Leo - Female - She is insane and she if phenomenal
Libra Male - we so get each other

scorpios and Pisces - they make me go nuts. they are so dramatic. I can only take them in small doses. lol My neice (Scorp) she calls me evil auntie mellie hahaha cuz i don't take her whining and dramatic episodes. OMG i could smack her. she drives me nuts!! i know alot is she is 17... but MY GAWD i know i wasn't like that at 17. well.. my mom woulda kicked my ass all over the house.. but thats another topic

i never thought of myself as a people pleaser...but i guess that could b true. Interesting observation.. ill accept that but a push over..never.

Maybe that could explain..while eVERy Single ex boyfriend i have eVEr had..has relentlessly tried to get me bac. Even after years of seperation...

maybe the term u dont kno whatchu got till its gone should b changed to ...u dont know what youve got till ur geminis gone. lol..corny i kno..srry..

lol
poor geminis... really.
i dont understand how people always question my intentions...
especially the ladies.
Really... the planet is filled with them! I hear they outnumber males 4 to 1.
and really... i ONLY want ONE!!
yet they dont trust me one bit and are always 'playing' hard to get. or maybe they arent playing at all and really have no intentions of being 'gotten'

really. i want to commit to someone already, lol
poor us. i mean my twin and I... but i guess that could also envelop the whole Geminian species... YES, Species! lol

We r not misunderstod, they r just stup1d

well said seascape haha! I needed that today so thank you 🙂

Bleeck, really? 4 to 1? Jesus, thats scary o_o. It seems to me that every gemini (especially woman) can NOT get around being talked about. Even when we are playing it down low we're in the swirl of gossip. Also, something that reminded me of what you guys were talking about, I always loved this because it described the way I have felt so many times before to a T:
"Love at first sight, for the zodiac's Juliet, invariably morphs into the unrequited variety, amid a cyclone of variables. Since she's typically so young, falling hard for an equally callow fellow, there isn't much chance outside of sixteenth-century Verona that she'd be considered old enough to marry. There's that familial disapproval. Perhaps ensuing gossip surround her "fast" Mercurial nature. Her mind becomes a whirl of every possible opinion others might have of her. Sometimes, as is human nature, rejection by an inamorato sends her reeling into a need for validation. Ironically, taking on what (she thinks!)are others' projections, she might fall into a sort of sexual perdition, looking for love in all the wrong places. More gossip. More neurotic thoughts. Of any female, she is most easily targeted by often older snakes who see her an opportunity to assert a sexual agenda. More wanting to please; seeking validation, Gemini flirts with disaster. Drugs might ease the pain, silence her thoughts. She's sending signals of vulnerability. It can become a feeding frenzy, Helen's forsworn suitors breaking their oath to protect her. There is a parallel pattern: When the gemini is creatively gifted, she often has such divine talents, theat they, like her capability for love, are immortalizing. The zodiac's precious cargo, thus, is likewise haggled over and exploited by the world of men as a near analogy of the dynamic her love life can take. More gossip. More derision. Guilt. Self-loathing. Nervous anxiety. The gathering storm. The ensuing cyclone: And like Dorothy Gale (her surname a symble itself of mutable air) she gather up her all (Toto, in translation) and longs to get away, to fly away, like that happy little bluebird. But before you can say Eve: Portrait of a Teenage Runaway, such an exodus of biblical or made-for-TV proportions, we realize, is strictly a metaphorical one.

Gemini girl never gets to Oz. Her world is the black-and-white experience of good-versus-bad duality expressed by familial Kansas; as we'll see, Leo woman, drawing on the Huntress archetype, embodies the Technicolor chase along some golden path or another, while for the Twins it will rightly remain a dream.

Which was all supposed to be in quotes, but there is no edit button and I got a little too lost in my own thoughts to remember.

tsk !!!!!!


Seriously, what difference does it make if another person "gets" you?

So long as you get yourself.

Another person cannot make you ... you can only make yourself.


I've not read much of this because it goes on to pity yourself for people not understanding you .... and the thing is that I dont' understand you is the pity, in itself.

You make yourself .... yourself.


But, I still love you guys anyway 🙂 .... even if you are self-pitying.

I like being misunderstood. People think I'm nuts. Those that appreciate my nutty behavior are fun and worthy of my time. Those who just think I'm crazy leave me alone, which works for me, because I'm lazy and don't feel like dealing with people who don't like me.