Post first date

Last week a gemini guy (40) asked me (33) out for casual drinks..on Valentine's Day. We had such a great time having some drinks, listening to some live music, until like 3am. Before he got out of the taxi he mentioned a definite second date..but we've barely spoken since. I sent him a message on Tuesday, and although he responded almost straight away, he didn't seem interested in much conversation. He's travelling for work this weekend so I sent him (i know, another one) message saying have a great weekend. He replied but didn't so much as suggest we meet up or be in touch when he gets back. It's really annoying being an air sign and not understanding another!!! ut in fairness I have seen that Gemini men are sloooowwwww, and don't appreciate too much contact so maybe I should just forget about him. Thoughts?

Cool, i can leave it..I just like to be sure that the door should stay firmly closed 🙂

Im definitely not desperate, but thanks for suggesting it. I actually don't know any Gemini people so was wondering what their usual style was, that's all. Some men actively pursue..like Leo and Aries (personal experience), other are so slow its hard to tell if thats their way, or simple uninterest.

Your user name caught my eye because that's my name! It's not everyday that I see it 😄

Anywho. To answer your question; I believe you may have been a romantic "place holder". Someone who is neat to be around and is willing to entertain him into the wee hours of the night.

He might have been not that interested in the beginning. He may have decided the day after that he felt different about you/a relationship the next day. He may just be really busy and you testing him is annoying. He could also just be busy and not able to talk much OR hates small talk.

There are many factors here, all that you have no control over, because you can't read his mind and emotions.

But you can read your own. Is this current behavior something you want to deal with? Would you rather pursue than be pursued? You may be on "cloud 9" at the moment but sit down and really think; if a guy was really into you... Would he act in this manner?

No excuses for him. Just give yourself a simple yes, or no question. Then you can decide if you want to move on now, before becoming emotionally invested, move on later after you try to become emotionally invested but he rejects you, or wait and be confuses for who knows how long and eventually (maybe) have some type of relationship with that person.

Don't put your life on hold for a "maybe".

Hey Sola!!

I know he is busy and that's absolutely fine! What made you say "i was testing him"..to be fair I don't think two messages is aggressive. Maybe if he hadn't answered the first I could see that might be the case, but if that's how it could seem then I will take my texts to hell!!

My experience tells me to just wait it out, if there's something to be had it will happen in it's own time. I think I made my point..i'm interested but it's as "out there" as im prepared to be.

Posted by Sola
Hey Sola!!

I know he is busy and that's absolutely fine! What made you say "i was testing him"..to be fair I don't think two messages is aggressive. Maybe if he hadn't answered the first I could see that might be the case, but if that's how it could seem then I will take my texts to hell!!

My experience tells me to just wait it out, if there's something to be had it will happen in it's own time. I think I made my point..i'm interested but it's as "out there" as im prepared to be.

Sorry, I meant "texting" not testing, that was a typo! I don't think you're testing him on bit. Aside from the "Are You a Decent Human Test" which is natural and needed.

You seem to have your emotions in the right place. I'd do the same. Wait it out with no expectations. There's no shame in having hope either, just don't get crushed if things don't happen your way.

I believe everyone here is worried that you, like so many others, will fall into that dark hole of pity and frustration (usually do their their own actions), but by your responses, you seem more emotionally mature than that.

Have fun and do you! 😄

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Posted by Sola
Last week a gemini guy (40) asked me (33) out for casual drinks..on Valentine's Day. We had such a great time having some drinks, listening to some live music, until like 3am. Before he got out of the taxi he mentioned a definite second date..but we've barely spoken since. I sent him a message on Tuesday, and although he responded almost straight away, he didn't seem interested in much conversation. He's travelling for work this weekend so I sent him (i know, another one) message saying have a great weekend. He replied but didn't so much as suggest we meet up or be in touch when he gets back. It's really annoying being an air sign and not understanding another!!! ut in fairness I have seen that Gemini men are sloooowwwww, and don't appreciate too much contact so maybe I should just forget about him. Thoughts?

My goodness, you are showing signs of desperation and it's not even the end of the week yet...

Why do some women and like their whole lives are dependent on a man /date.

If you were intelligent, smart, attractive enough and there was chemistry then the gem will pursue you when he is good and ready. Air signs pursue.

So continue to live your life (if you had one in the first) or take chill pill but do not pick up that phone to message him again...

Desperation stinks!

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Not all Air signs chase. You need a healthy dose of Fire for an Air Sign to chase. Fiery Air chases, Earthy Air does as it pleases, Watery Air lures you in, and Airy Air has to be clubbed over the head like a baby seal.

I deleted his details because i just KNOW i'll get an itch!!! I can't help it..im a Libra!!

I forgot this whole dating game stuff..damn!

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Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by Sola
Last week a gemini guy (40) asked me (33) out for casual drinks..on Valentine's Day. We had such a great time having some drinks, listening to some live music, until like 3am. Before he got out of the taxi he mentioned a definite second date..but we've barely spoken since. I sent him a message on Tuesday, and although he responded almost straight away, he didn't seem interested in much conversation. He's travelling for work this weekend so I sent him (i know, another one) message saying have a great weekend. He replied but didn't so much as suggest we meet up or be in touch when he gets back. It's really annoying being an air sign and not understanding another!!! ut in fairness I have seen that Gemini men are sloooowwwww, and don't appreciate too much contact so maybe I should just forget about him. Thoughts?

My goodness, you are showing signs of desperation and it's not even the end of the week yet...

Why do some women and like their whole lives are dependent on a man /date.

If you were intelligent, smart, attractive enough and there was chemistry then the gem will pursue you when he is good and ready. Air signs pursue.

So continue to live your life (if you had one in the first) or take chill pill but do not pick up that phone to message him again...

Desperation stinks!

Not all Air signs chase. You need a healthy dose of Fire for an Air Sign to chase. Fiery Air chases, Earthy Air does as it pleases, Watery Air lures you in, and Airy Air has to be clubbed over the head like a baby seal.

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Omg too funny. Clubbed over the head like a baby seal made me really LOL ‚‚‚‚­­­

Yeah, i have a sag moon..its a killer combo!!!

"i like to share good intimate connections one on one where we both come on to each other. but not too strong".. high 5!!!!

We chatted briefly earlier today, I wished him a good weekend, he told me he had to travel for work and asked what my plans for the weekend were. And that was it, he's not nasty or curt..but i definitely get a friendly vibe rather than anything with romantic potential. No way, i'm not sending any photo's!

He took some selfies of us when we were out, so I know he can remind himself if he wants to!!!!

In my experience, Gemini men move ANYTHING but slow in the early stages (if they are perusing you).

Still, he is probably just busy with work. You've done enough to show your interest (letting him know to have a nice weekend, etc...so that shows you've thought of him)..leave it up to him now.

If he is interested, I am sure he will call or text when his work isn't consuming him.

But the ones who come on the fastest and strongest are the ones who crash and burn the quickest..i've noticed that a lot

Posted by Sola
But the ones who come on the fastest and strongest are the ones who crash and burn the quickest..i've noticed that a lot

Red flag if they move too quickly.

Well yeah, I mean he's 40 with no kids and never married. I think he said his longest relationship was only a little over a year..he's definitley not a man who wants to be tamed!

Not a peep to be heard from the guy, my instinct was right that he didn't see any kind of potential from the date, damn!

Air signs such as Gemini and great with Libra. My two longest relationships - Libra. They do tend to smother a bit, mine I had to get used to... But I always gave them chase, mostly cause they are so physical and I found that to be super hot - how passionate it was with them. Gemini needs to find you intriguing and feel like you don't love them anywhere as much as they love you. Once the scale is tipped Libra, you lost your Gemini

Posted by Sola
Hey Sola!!

I know he is busy and that's absolutely fine! What made you say "i was testing him"..to be fair I don't think two messages is aggressive...

Really?

gemini men aren't slow in any shape or form imo from my experience they go from 0 to 100 right away!

Two texts in a week is NOT intense, maybe two in an hour. (Montgomery)!

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Posted by Gennie

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by Sola
Last week a gemini guy (40) asked me (33) out for casual drinks..on Valentine's Day. We had such a great time having some drinks, listening to some live music, until like 3am. Before he got out of the taxi he mentioned a definite second date..but we've barely spoken since. I sent him a message on Tuesday, and although he responded almost straight away, he didn't seem interested in much conversation. He's travelling for work this weekend so I sent him (i know, another one) message saying have a great weekend. He replied but didn't so much as suggest we meet up or be in touch when he gets back. It's really annoying being an air sign and not understanding another!!! ut in fairness I have seen that Gemini men are sloooowwwww, and don't appreciate too much contact so maybe I should just forget about him. Thoughts?

My goodness, you are showing signs of desperation and it's not even the end of the week yet...

Why do some women and like their whole lives are dependent on a man /date.

If you were intelligent, smart, attractive enough and there was chemistry then the gem will pursue you when he is good and ready. Air signs pursue.

So continue to live your life (if you had one in the first) or take chill pill but do not pick up that phone to message him again...

Desperation stinks!

Not all Air signs chase. You need a healthy dose of Fire for an Air Sign to chase. Fiery Air chases, Earthy Air does as it pleases, Watery Air lures you in, and Airy Air has to be clubbed over the head like a baby seal.

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Omg too funny. Clubbed over the head like a baby seal made me really LOL ‚‚‚‚­­­

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Baby seals... 😭 *sniff*

Posted by Sola
Last week a gemini guy (40) asked me (33) out for casual drinks..on Valentine's Day. We had such a great time having some drinks, listening to some live music, until like 3am. Before he got out of the taxi he mentioned a definite second date..but we've barely spoken since. I sent him a message on Tuesday, and although he responded almost straight away, he didn't seem interested in much conversation. He's travelling for work this weekend so I sent him (i know, another one) message saying have a great weekend. He replied but didn't so much as suggest we meet up or be in touch when he gets back. It's really annoying being an air sign and not understanding another!!! ut in fairness I have seen that Gemini men are sloooowwwww, and don't appreciate too much contact so maybe I should just forget about him. Thoughts?

Girl too soon, esp for a Gemini. He maybe likes you but he's got job, other cares. You must have become connected on emotionally-intellectual level with those ppl for them to run back desperately craving for more company of yours.
Too soon
And he should have contacted you first IMHO

Its okay!! He's already history, i've been on another couple of dates since. But I just reallllllly liked him, a lot.