What to do ?

I made a huge mistake with my gemini man......i told a fib because i was scared....he knows now....and after i said i am sorrier than he would ever know...he just said, me too, he is sorry....but didnt elaborate, and left it at that.....i am a leo woman....and am freaking out, we talked about a life plan together....will he be back? should i lay low? what to do?

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Posted by slickcat
I made a huge mistake with my gemini man......i told a fib because i was scared....he knows now....and after i said i am sorrier than he would ever know...he just said, me too, he is sorry....but didnt elaborate, and left it at that.....i am a leo woman....and am freaking out, we talked about a life plan together....will he be back? should i lay low? what to do?

That's what we do. For me, I recognize things like this are patterns in people. I'd be willing to bet that you've done this before. I'm not judging you, just trying to understand. People who are "Fear" based emotionally usually do things like this. Pisces, Cancer, Capricorn, along with people who have been burned emotionally before they could develop a outer shell. What's your sun and Venus signs?

i dont know what my venus sign is...but i am a leo july 30th, 1973...how do i find out my sun and venus sign? anyways, it was a lie that i told to prevent myself from getting ditched, hurt, effed over.....a red flag popped up when he said something to me and that is why i told the lie.....omg, he is the most amazing man i have ever met....i am going through some really tough times with my husband, looks like we may separate, gemini and me made life plans, he lives in another country, he said he would come to where I am....my red flag popped up because a similar situation happened in my family and when she brought over her husband to be he left her ass high and dry with one kid......scared me.....so I told him I was going to give marriage one last try,,,,he was so supportive, then he started acting cold towards me, understandably so...i was surprised he was even talking to me. How do i get him back geminis...is there hope?

he didnt say he never wanted to see or talk to me again......i am desperate and flipping out....

thanks 🙂

thank you for the link...very interesting and eerily accurate! My sun sign is Leo and Venus is Virgo....hope that helps...

Venus in Virgo people marry forever. However, you said that you are married and that you "may" separate from your HUSBAND, right? Hmmmm..... Double whammy! He knows that the relationship is on a foundation of sand. You're married, you live in a different country, and you lied to him. Ouch! I feel you on your reasoning. But, C'mon, what would you do if you were in his position, honestly? How, where, and under what circumstances did you meet this Gemini?

He's known i was married all along, and that we(current guy and I) are on really rough ground...we met online, and for me it was instant attraction. I did the pursuing, which is very unlike me, but he was willing and able. You are right, it sounds ridiculous even to me, there are obstacles..which he didnt seem to mind, he said as much.....is it done?

To answer your previous question...yes lay low, for now.

Wait, have you two met in person, been intimate, or had an arrangement to meet from time to time? I've was involved in an oversees relationship, and it wasn't that difficult since we had certain honor codes, so to speak. But, I don't know what you two have in place. Is it done? I honestly don't know. I don't know what his thoughts are, or how he thinks. So, I cannot say. However, one constant in Gemini men is that we tend to disappear for a while as a way of testing or punishing someone that has done something to "blind-side" us. We do forgive, but never EVER forget. Be careful sweets. We tend to use that as a weapon in the future. I know it sucks, but is very, very true.

We have just seen eachother on webcam. I am ready to go see him....believe it or not, that is what I was going to do just before all this happened. We did talk about me coming to see him before and he was all for it. Ok, I will lay low, we are soulmates. Do Gemenis see the other persons point of view...like why I did it in the first place? Thanks for your help.

Posted by slickcat
We have just seen eachother on webcam. I am ready to go see him....believe it or not, that is what I was going to do just before all this happened. We did talk about me coming to see him before and he was all for it. Ok, I will lay low, we are soulmates. Do Gemenis see the other persons point of view...like why I did it in the first place? Thanks for your help.

Gemini's see the other persons point of view before they do, really. The advantages of being an air sign. He'll be back though, unless he hasn't been straight up himself. It does seem fishy, to me. If he lives in a nice country where you can have some fun, surprise him. If he turns out to be a douche, then stat at a nice hotel and PARTY UP!! At least you can kill two birds with one stone. 😄 (typical Gem) Hope this has helped you! Good luck!!

Gemini Mind....you read my mind!! 🙂 think i will pay him a visit...thanks for the input everybody! I do feel better about things...wish me luck!

haha!!! this leo will never be understood im afraid! very complex!! thanks 🙂

Oh, one more thing...how long should i lay low before contact again...or should i just wait for him to contact me....

Wait till he contacts you. He'll wonder if you've lost interest. But, for me, it would be contingent on how I felt that day.

sounds like an exciting time for you slickcat! 🙂 I'm ready to find someone like that myself. Have you known each other for long?

hey, noregrets....since last october, but it feels like I have known him forever..its scary 😉

Since you are still married, may I ask what is going on with your hubby? You don't have to answer if you would rather not. Im just always curious to compare notes about my ex!!

rapidly heading for the big D.

I love Ya'll, man. 😉

Ooh ooh...let me guess....treats you badly? Mean? Perhaps affair?? I think I'm getting carried away!!

ok...geminis... still haven't heard from him yet...i am laying low..but jeez..this waiting for him to contact me is brutal!!! Gems?

oh dear....you fibbed to a Gemini—?? You lied to a bastion of honesty— Shame on you.

They don't like that. Of course it's ok for them to lie to you.
Gemini - one set of twins, two sets of rules.

thats not helping!!!! 🙂

lionessess hate waiting!!!...maybe he's moved on...😢

ok...and thank you....damn this is hard!! sorry for your situation..😢

Please be careful about hitching your heart to a Gemini.

again, im sorry for your situation, and thanks for your advice...

ok.....its been, 4 days...and nothing...this may sound stalkerish, ( i assure you its not) but I know when he is online, and yes he is talking to others,,,thats fine, but, still no word from him......I was going to go see him, but we left things badly and surprising him sounds really really odd to me...Geminis what do y'all think I should do?

boy i am one impatient Leo...🙂

Posted by slickcat
ok.....its been, 4 days...and nothing...this may sound stalkerish, ( i assure you its not) but I know when he is online, and yes he is talking to others,,,thats fine, but, still no word from him......I was going to go see him, but we left things badly and surprising him sounds really really odd to me...Geminis what do y'all think I should do?

That's a hard one for me to answer not knowing his feelings about you. I can tell you this, if the guy I loved flew to see me during a time where we were experiencing difficulties, it would have meant a lot to me and we would possibly still be together. But if a guy I didn't truly love or have strong feelings for did that it would scare the crap out of me. But havng said all that, I didn't find out until many years later this guy tried to find me again several times througout the years. If I would have known that we would have at least given it a shot years ago when we were both able to be together without the distance keeping us apart. I do regret that we didn't try years ago.

If you do go there I would do it with the mindset of meeting him in person, and keep it light.

Thanks for the input, still undecided....think I may wait a bit longer to see if I hear anything..then decide, its not cheap either! 😄

You're a Leo you have options.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Please be careful about hitching your heart to a Gemini.

I'm actually thinking the opposite. I think the Gemini in this situation should be very careful not to hitch his heart to a married woman. Especially one who was interested until he got shot down when she said she was giving her relationship with someone else another try. He is being wise to disappear for now until her situation changes.

I say: If you really don't want your husband, then go ahead and get the divorce. Then, you'll be free to see anyone you want without having to cheat, fib, or tear yourself up emotionally.

^^^ just like Aries girls shouldn't hitch their heart to Geminis who say they are single but turn out not to be, huh?

It was meant to be more general - like be really really careful about getting involved with any Gemini.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
^^^ just like Aries girls shouldn't hitch their heart to Geminis who say they are single but turn out not to be, huh?

Wow, what an A-hole he is for doing that to you! I had a Gem boyfriend jerk me around and cheat on me, but he never lied to me about what he was doing. Not that I felt any better about it, but at least all the cards were on the table and I knew what I was working with. He lied to the other girls, though, and told them we had an open relationship.

I would still go out with a good Gem, though, if I was in the dating scene.

Whimsy - you stayed with a guy who cheated on you——?? what the hey?

why did you stick with him?

I am not having a go at you - I am just curious to know why girls stay with guys who cheat/lie/jerk them around...obviously I am fairly hard line in the devotion/loyalty department and don't think I could "work" with someone like this.

All the cheating happened within a relatively short period of time after we had been together over 3 years. He was trying to get me to agree to an open relationship, and when I balked he just went ahead with it by himself and told girls we already had one. He was my first long-term relationship and my first...you know. I was young and inexperienced and tried to keep an open mind and work it out, but I did leave him soon after that.

I am starting to think guys are really weird....what is it in their brain that says "ok - I have got this really great girlfriend (wife/partner/whatever) who adores me and everything is going really well so why don't I go and root some random other chick to see how badly I can hurt the girl who really adores me."

It's the bizzarro world. I love guys, but I just don't get it.
Off to pick up some pamphlets my my local lesbian recruitment agency.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
I am starting to think guys are really weird....what is it in their brain that says "ok - I have got this really great girlfriend (wife/partner/whatever) who adores me and everything is going really well so why don't I go and root some random other chick to see how badly I can hurt the girl who really adores me."

It's the bizzarro world. I love guys, but I just don't get it.
Off to pick up some pamphlets my my local lesbian recruitment agency.

LOL! I think he truly believed that we were SO meant to be together that I would put up with absolutely anything. It might have even been an experiment to see how far he could push. He was astounded when I left...called me crying for 10 years after until I got married and he finally got a clue it was over.

Well, he could still be moping, but he could also hold a grudge that you spite him. He is also probably figuring out that you actually have a lot of things going against you since you are still married, lied to him and so on and so forth.
I think most Geminis' get annoyed to say the least when others try to lie - it's insulting our intelligence, and I find it to be degrading. But than I think most people would, but any Gemini I know has a natural allergy to others lies.

I used to take them back ex bf back after their lies...not so much in the last 3 years. I find that once lied to now by someone - I never trust again. Just don't want to. Don't want to waste my time. There is no second chances, and I find that that door closes pretty fast, unless I really like someone and they give me a perfectly sound and honest reason - which is not an easy thing. I usually see past through it or just feel that things are off.

if you really like this guy - I would call, it's been 4 days, he may think: ok, she may like me a bit and feel guilty. If you wait too long, I would think in his place that you lost interest. Just because he is talking to others does not mean that his attention is turned away fully from you, but you don't want him to get so busy with someone else who can stir up his interests. But than I'm a woman, so I work differently.