Aries

what can you tell me about them? I made a new ramette friend (nothing romantic) and she is my first (atleast as far as I know), so I am curious. She is very smart, charming and calm, usually a combination I like very much. I am asking this here instead of on the Aries board since you know more about them in a friendship or relationship. If I asked them, they would just tell me how awesome they are 😛.

well i was with a ram for 20 years...obviously a guy but i also have a ram daughter and close gf. as with most signs, the males and females can be very different. i guess that's mostly cos aries men run on pure testosterone.

the ladies are indeed very awesome but they are also very selfish. they share that trait with the men but it's less noticeable and you can find yourself 'serving' a ram lady without realising it. my daughter and friend are princesses in every sense of the word and although they can drive you to the point of insanity with their constant demands, there's something so engaging about them that you don't mind one iota.

they can be very blunt. if they think something, they say it within a nanosecond and so if you have a tendancy to be sensitive you might find that difficult to cope with.

but the best thing about them is that they are FUN!!! and funny as fuck too which is a BIG bonus. sometimes my daughter's one-liners bring the house down and she's only 13!!

and as friends they are fiercely loyal. they won't have anyone talking shit about you or showing you disrespect which is the way you can see that they hold you in high regard. they stay friends with you forever. my ex husband and gf still remain in contact with people they met at kindergarten and they're both in their 40s!!

oh yeah and in friendship they are totally dependable. in romantic relationships, less so because they're actually very insecure at their core which makes them defensive with their partners if they aren't demonstrative about their feelings.

and also in romantic relationships, they tend to feel their partner is an extension of their own image. they like you to look immaculate. they want you to draw attention from the opposite sex...without you making eye contact of course...DON'T make eye contact with someone looking at you lustfully cos a ram's jealous rage is not a pretty sight and it is very easily sparked.

that's the gist. i know loads about rams lol!! i could whinge on for days about the men in particular, lol!!

Thanks for that input, appreciate it very much. So just a little bit about me and some interaction I had with this girl. She is British and I met her at a conference, we got very friendly and quite quickly. I have a big personality and dominate most meetings, conferences etc. I am a very airy, fiery crab (other than my sun in cancer I have no water placements). We had long discussions particularly about politics because both of us are interested in this area and she worked in an advisory role for one of the UK ministries. I have political ambitions and yesterday over a beer she just bluntly said, "I would work for you, if you go into politics let me know". Later when I left the conference I told her how much I enjoyed talking to her and that we should be friends and she told me outright that she sees that happening.

I was very impressed by a few things:
- Her words and actions were always congruent.
- She always seemed to remember something I told her and made sure that I got it.
- She was very calm in expressing her opinion without going over the top emotionally and
- She is very competitive.

i don't know too much about these rams, so wondering if these are their normal traits. Are they so forthright? Does she see something really positive about me to make an offer like that or do you think she was just flattering because i shared some of my knowledge with her?

Cheers!

rams generally say what they mean and mean what they say. they don't waste words.

the also have a really cute ability to remember details about people they barely know. my ex husband was always very quick to get to know people by their first names if we met them when travelling. this is why they are particularly good sales people...i've known a few rams of both sexes in sales...super silver tongued.

their bluntness can be quite sharp lol....you'll know what i mean when it happens 😉

R1g0r is dead on with most of it, of course some aspects are a bit different with dif planets and what not, but yes we are awesome!
The loyalty thing is HUGE too, we will fight to the death for anyone we love/care about.
I, myself am not selfish, I think I'm a bit TOO unselfish but that's ME, I can't speak for the entire Aries population.

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s


their bluntness can be quite sharp lol....you'll know what i mean when it happens 😉

Hmmmm...I look forward to this...so I guess sugar coting is not their thing

Posted by SyntheticAnesthetic
R1g0r is dead on with most of it, of course some aspects are a bit different with dif planets and what not, but yes we are awesome!
The loyalty thing is HUGE too, we will fight to the death for anyone we love/care about.
I, myself am not selfish, I think I'm a bit TOO unselfish but that's ME, I can't speak for the entire Aries population.

How do you guys define selfish? If it means having your own personal stuff and not sharing it, I don't care too much. If it's emotional selfishness that might be a bit of an issue...I don't like to play doormat to anybody. I am just generally curious about Rams not really particular to any person.

^^cheers, thanks a lot Seraph!

I am an idiot, my sister is Aries. The first day of aries actually (Mar 21), for some weird reason I kept thinking she was pisces. She is actually sun and moon in Aries, that's about as aries as it gets. Damn, I should have watched her behaviour more closely growing up!

Mars not moon in Aries*

Posted by incandescentcancer
I am an idiot, my sister is Aries. The first day of aries actually (Mar 21), for some weird reason I kept thinking she was pisces. She is actually sun and moon in Aries, that's about as aries as it gets. Damn, I should have watched her behaviour more closely growing up!

the love of my life was born on this day although he died. he was very different to the aries i married...polar opposites. you have to factor in the pisces influence imo.

aries are emotionally selfish although at their core, unbelievably altruistic with a deep sense of loyalty. it's difficult to fathom sometimes. my daughter is always very quick to say....it's all about you....if i mention anything without her name in the sentence, lol and she can say the meanest things but then sometimes, her behaviour catches up on her and she feels really remorseful about it and does something really sweet which compensates for everything in an instant.

they can hurt you very deeply with their words and so you have to have a strong forcefield around you to prevent their words penetrating. i spent much of the first few years of my marriage in tears and feeling like a piece of shit and after that i just withdrew into my own world of work and babies and we lived separately, but together.

you have to be supremely confident to handle an aries. not cos they are confident themselves though....for precisely the opposite reason. although they seem to be the big 'i am' on the surface, they are generally riddled with insecurities which manifest themselves as plain nastiness sometimes.

Posted by glassblowing
Some aries will run all over you and trample you....you have to stand up to them and show that you will not take their shit....otherwise they will perceive it as weakness if you don't......

I do this all the time too. Negotiations with me I have been told are constant stress tests where the other party feels under immense pressure to comply. Is this aries specific? I think this is the case with all men and women who project strength. As a rule I only respect people who hold their position under assault. I do fin Aries very interesting in the fact that they seem very action oriented, they would kick ass in execution if someone else did the planning and strategy..

Posted by glassblowing
Wow....that is interesting about what you said about respect in your view.....
I don't find that whole running over you as sign specific.....it is with other signs as well

The basis for that is quite simple, if you hold your position under stress A) You respect yourself and B) In a tough situation you will fight and not run away. I have very little patience for flaky imbeciles. I think I gained this attitude with experience, I found out that in a lot of situations my "friends" would run away when things got tough. So I kind of learnt that I have to do better in the selection process 😛. How does friendship work with Aries?

Are Aries happy doing their own thing from time to time or do they expect a friend/lover to join them in every activity that they enjoy? I want to understand the nature of the aries independence in areas where emotions are involved.

Thanks for the compliment 😉. As I get to know aries y'all are not too bad yourselves...😛