Forgotten

My ex called me today after over a year since we broke up and really didn't say much and it's not of her nature to be that way, she's usually the other way around. I sort of could feel in her voice that she didn't want to be forgotten. It got me wondering, wanting to ask ... what are your thoughts on being forgotten?

That is my biggest fear Ray's Heart. It's hard for me to come clean with that because it's so egotistical. I hate that but I want to think that once I've come and gone from a person's life that there will be something about me that will always remind them of me. The smell of my perfum or the way my hair smells or just the little things. It's stupid and shallow I suppose but I'm human 😛

i think we all want to be more than a brief, vaguely remembered episode in someone's life -especially if that someone meant a great deal to us.

jd, your ex must have been thinking about you a lot lately and missing you.

Posted by Gingerscorp
That is my biggest fear Ray's Heart. It's hard for me to come clean with that because it's so egotistical. I hate that but I want to think that once I've come and gone from a person's life that there will be something about me that will always remind them of me. The smell of my perfum or the way my hair smells or just the little things. It's stupid and shallow I suppose but I'm human 😛

I see ... lol@the smell of my perfume, that's funny. I'm a bit different myself, I have a strong need to be felt and feel useful when I'm there, I'm pretty intense when around but when it's over, I have no problem breezing away and be forgotten. I sort of want people to forget me when things don't work out. It's weird. It could be the Libra influence in my chart. You have a lot of Scorpio in your chart too, both sun and moon in Scorp can be quite demanding.

Posted by tamara
i think we all want to be more than a brief, vaguely remembered episode in someone's life -especially if that someone meant a great deal to us.

jd, your ex must have been thinking about you a lot lately and missing you.

Maybe Tamara ... whatever it was she called and was very quiet, It gave me sort of a bad feeling inside. She's really far from quiet. She called first, I answered and didn't hear anything, she called again and we spoke. We spoke for about five minutes and hearing that I was driving during the conversation, she said I'll let you go and said goodnight.

Hmmmm..whiskey

Something is really bothering her and she wants to talk but is scared to verbalize it, you guys were close, right? call her if you can and see whats up with her she needs to communicate with *you* its very important to her.

I think she still loves you whiskey and enjoyed the connection you shared and the memories has come back hard and strong towards you.....and maybe she felt that she has lost a part of your heart. She's sad and lonely.

A quiet lioness isnt good at all, that means she has alot on her mind and only the right person will get it out of her.

Thanks for your insight Chocolate ... I don't have her phone number anymore, I thought she didn't have mine any longer either and I don't know about going back like that, she can be quite dramatic and opening that page again will bring back a whole other history. She's very cancer in nature (moon and venus) and Leo (sun,mercury and mars). I know who I am as a person and if I open up to her concerns, I'm most likely to go back. I tend to be protective of the people around me and I don't have much of middle area, I must admit. So it's either, I am there or not there at all. So I don't know. I was just wondering but thanks anyway.

she can be quite dramatic and opening that page again will bring back a whole other history. She's very cancer in nature (moon and venus) and Leo (sun,mercury and mars).

Ohh,i see now. so maybe thats why she chimed in for you to rekindle the torch she still carries. And cancer so shes clingy in some sort and manipulative eh? Her emotions probably wears you out?



I know who I am as a person and if I open up to her concerns, I'm most likely to go back....Yeh sometimes old habits are meant to stay old and not refurbished.....she will chime back in, her mind is fishing but not yours. So stay where you are if you do not want to go back, because then that will add more pain and confusion to the both of you. And she will start to assume that you guys are back on track of some sort.

On being forgotten>>

It depends on who the person was and if they meant alot to me, it will bug me deeply and emotionally because of the connection that i thought i shared with the person. But for the most part the people that i have cherished dearly always seem to pop in some way, through a friend or just by chance like deja vu.

And for the record its not many people that i keep close to be forgotten....

"shes clingy in some sort and manipulative eh? Her emotions probably wears you out?"

I could handle her emotionally though, she always stated, that she never met a match in that sense. We were very giving to each other. funnily enough I didn't mind her clingyness, she was very caring and I say we were emotionally in sync. I didn't have a problem with her natural features alone but had a huge problem with her ways, things she built up in her life time. She's older than me and pretty fixed in her ways and I'm pretty fixed in mine as well. So I didn't see any future with her, due to that.

an emotional bond is the tough one to try and break free of but it can be done in due time. thats cool that u were in sync, could it be that subciously it is still lingering? especially since she has awaken some old emotions in you and u feel it from both ends, she sparked somethin in u to post this.

awwww so her clingyness met your needs and desires that u adored from her.

natural features? so did she bring alot of unwanted baggage that was weighing to much on ur mind/soul. did she have a balance somewhere in life?

set in those ways..i understand. no one can change unless they choose to or feel the need to make a new direction within themselves.

I know who I am as a person and if I open up to her concerns, I'm most likely to go back. I tend to be protective of the people around me and I don't have much of middle area, I must admit. So it's either, I am there or not there at all. So I don't know.


hmmm, we are alot alike in that area. Its like, if I let him poor out his all to me, I can easily get back involved. I can't go, "oh well" to real human emotions. The only way I don't care is if I have be hurt in a dreadful way -- I could care less if that guy gets hit by a bus, let alone listen to his problems.

"an emotional bond is the tough one to try and break free of but it can be done in due time. thats cool that u were in sync, could it be that subciously it is still lingering? especially since she has awaken some old emotions in you and u feel it from both ends, she sparked somethin in u to post this."

I'm at peace with what went on and I understand why we are not in a relationship. This is why I always take time off between relationships. Our issue was never emotional incompatibility. The reasons why I didn't want to pursue with her still stands as they go against my very nature. I wasn't in love with her though. We didn't create enough of a life together for me to get to attached at that level. So I wouldn't say that I have anything strong still lingering. However I appreciated the good in her for what it was and still do. Emotionally I'm passed that, I'm in a different place now. I was really surprise that she called yesterday. Out of nowhere. I thought that there could be an astro answer to it.

"natural features? so did she bring alot of unwanted baggage that was weighing to much on ur mind/soul. did she have a balance somewhere in life?"

Yep ... well the fire/water combo is not the most stable of combos, you know lol

I wasn't in love with her though. We didn't create enough of a life together for me to get to attached at that level. So I wouldn't say that I have anything strong still lingering.


Oh, so you weren't in love with her, you cared for her. Okay, well that still explains why you are likely to go back if the two of you start communicating again. Caring for someone is strong too.

"hmmm, we are alot alike in that area. Its like, if I let him poor out his all to me, I can easily get back involved"

Yes I am the same. It's sad sometimes but that's what it is. It comes a time when you simply came to understand the type of individual you are and you have no choice but to act in respect to that, if you want to get where you need to go.

"Oh, so you weren't in love with her, you cared for her. Okay, well that still explains why you are likely to go back if the two of you start communicating again. Caring for someone is strong too."

Yes but it's mostly because of my all or nothing nature. I can't just be around her as a by stander. If I'm here I will get involved in her concerns and flowing like that will get me in a relationship with her, without knowing in no time.

"That is my biggest fear Ray's Heart. It's hard for me to come clean with that because it's so egotistical. I hate that but I want to think that once I've come and gone from a person's life that there will be something about me that will always remind them of me. The smell of my perfum or the way my hair smells or just the little things. It's stupid and shallow I suppose but I'm human"

GingerScorp, you verbalized that so well. Those are my sentiments almost to a "T" and yes, it is egotistical to a certain degree, but mostly it's human nature. The odd thing is that I am pretty good at getting over people, once it's really over, it's over; however, that egotistical side of me does want certain men that I've been with to have a "feeling" about/for me, even when it's over. I'm not saying every guy I've dated, but for those that I had a really strong bond with; which would only be about a half dozen men that I've seriously dated.

Posted by Rays Heart
"Oh, so you weren't in love with her, you cared for her. Okay, well that still explains why you are likely to go back if the two of you start communicating again. Caring for someone is strong too."

Yes but it's mostly because of my all or nothing nature. I can't just be around her as a by stander. If I'm here I will get involved in her concerns and flowing like that will get me in a relationship with her, without knowing in no time.

I always wondered if being in love with the person you are in a relationship with makes things easier or harder. It seems as if its a mix of both really.

whiskey i know u are at peace, but she isnt and that is what is bothering her, she still feels attached in her own way and was hoping that u felt the same. she wanted to plant herself back into your mind and come back to what u guys once shared.

you have closed the door but she hasnt, shes on the *what if* boat...can we pick up where u left off. but she will get the message eventually when she realizes u dont want the past only future, present spectrum of life.

was she in love with u? probably so, eh?

🙂fire/water combo can be intense, strong wills, stubborness, ... but if u find the right person to complement you in ur life the understanding and communication can be and will be wholesome, a beautiful match. everyone has got to be on the same page. otherwise its a waste of time and someone will end up being hurt.

i think shes lonely....

my astro twin....usc

*smooches baby*

whiskey this topic serves it purpose because she is letting u know that she has not *forgotten* about u.

so i understand why u wont contact her...keep moving forward to what u truly want because to be truly in love will make ur world spin including ur heart and soul. you will find ur match and i cant wait to hear of her, because she will be so special..

😉 smooches oh lovely chocolate! Glad to see you back!
I knew that lovely lioness would come back.....hope all is well with you; remember, we have a lot to accomplish this year to live up to our Divesqueness! LOL

"Divaesqueness"

"I am pretty good at getting over people, once it's really over, it's over; however, that egotistical side of me does want certain men that I've been with to have a "feeling" about/for me, even when it's over. I'm not saying every guy I've dated, but for those that I had a really strong bond with; which would only be about a half dozen men that I've seriously dated."

Thanks for sharing USC ... It's good to know.

"I always wondered if being in love with the person you are in a relationship with makes things easier or harder. It seems as if its a mix of both really."

It think it's definitely harder to reason when you're in love.

Posted by lovage
whiskey i know u are at peace, but she isnt and that is what is bothering her, she still feels attached in her own way and was hoping that u felt the same. she wanted to plant herself back into your mind and come back to what u guys once shared.

you have closed the door but she hasnt, shes on the *what if* boat...can we pick up where u left off. but she will get the message eventually when she realizes u dont want the past only future, present spectrum of life.

was she in love with u? probably so, eh?

🙂fire/water combo can be intense, strong wills, stubborness, ... but if u find the right person to complement you in ur life the understanding and communication can be and will be wholesome, a beautiful match. everyone has got to be on the same page. otherwise its a waste of time and someone will end up being hurt.

i think shes lonely....

I think you're right and yes she was in love with me ... no I feel so bad 😢

Ray, you just seem to have such a gentle nature; as loveage said it appears that your ex is definitely trying to reach out to you, and maybe she is lonely too. Oftentimes it is in our lonely times that we are the most introspective and see the clearest too. It is through that loneliness that we are painfully aware of what we DO want and/or miss. That's not to say that it's always the best thing for us, but, the heart wants what it wants, and the flesh is weak 😉.

Posted by USCTaurusGal
Ray, you just seem to have such a gentle nature; as loveage said it appears that your ex is definitely trying to reach out to you, and maybe she is lonely too. Oftentimes it is in our lonely times that we are the most introspective and see the clearest too. It is through that loneliness that we are painfully aware of what we DO want and/or miss. That's not to say that it's always the best thing for us, but, the heart wants what it wants, and the flesh is weak 😉.

It's understood, I think you guys are right and awesome as usual. I wish things could just fix themselves up.

she was crazy about u wasnt she whiskey? and dont be shy...

did u spend quality time with her that might of gave her the impression of .......did u express urself to her that this wasnt love just friendship?

i agree with usc as well..she's weak and she feels the closest to u that is why she's trying to reach out....dont feel bad whiskey this is life and we have to learn at some point.

it is what is it.....

"I wish things could just fix themselves up."

They will....they always do. Take it easy, and don't beat yourself up. You weren't in love with her, and there is nothing you can do about that,and you did nothing wrong.

usc....divaqueens we are, by popular vote

all is well and fruitful, patience is the key to everything that leads us on our wonderful way of life...

this year the both of us will hit a home run with love and business....i can smell it..

hmmm, not the love thing for me....done with that! But business and monetarily - mos' definitely! LOL.
Keep doing you, as I know you will!

lol @ usc...

i understand. u have to take a rest from things to regroup and get back what might have gotten lost...do u baby girl because that is what matters now...

lets get the businesses rolling at a nice pace...its already set up for us we just have to do the footwork..

its all good!

"did u spend quality time with her that might of gave her the impression of .......did u express urself to her that this wasnt love just friendship?"

It wasn't friendship though we were together seriously, it was a relationship. I just wasn't in love yet. She stated she was in love with me after two months. It was always quality time between us I think or if I can choose a better word, valuable time would suit better, as it wasn't always the nice romantic setting that you see in movies. Sometimes it was just her laying on my chest, releasing her worries to me. Simple as that.

"They will....they always do. Take it easy, and don't beat yourself up. You weren't in love with her, and there is nothing you can do about that,and you did nothing wrong."

True they always do, I'll just pray for her, hoping a greater being will take care of her.

"hmmm, not the love thing for me....done with that! But business and monetarily - mos' definitely! LOL."

Stop it ... don't give up woman!

and just as simple as that was...that probably meant everything to her u allowed her to release and be free with herself moreso than anyone else ever did...*comfort* u gave her

in time she will see the picture...crystal clear at that but when she is ready to deal with it.

love is crazy.....but good!

i think..haha!

Oh Ray, I am sooooooo done with relationships. I went against my better judgment in my most recent relationship, I can't do it anymore. Give me a good "physical" contact session every now and then and i'll be fine. No more relationships or even failed attempts at it! If

usc

is this because of the leo?

Sort of, but not really. I felt this way before dealing with him, but it made it worse, bec
ause I did eventually fall for him. I keep men distanced from my heart, but I am human. I have huge walls 🙂 self preservation. Sorry Ray, i'm not hi-jacking your thread! Lol

"in time she will see the picture...crystal clear at that but when she is ready to deal with it"

I believe so too ... hopefully.

"Give me a good "physical" contact session every now and then and i'll be fine."

USC please tell me you're talking about sports 😛

"I keep men distanced from my heart, but I am human. I have huge walls self preservation. "

Try not to loose yourself behind those wall lady

"Sorry Ray, i'm not hi-jacking your thread! Lol"

I know ... please release, I want to know about you, just as much as, you want to know about me 🙂


Have to get some rest, it was nice speaking to you guys ... I feel better now. Night!

I keep men distanced from my heart, but I am human.

Amen to that, but just dont stay away to long without rekindling something..somewhere...somehow you will desire it again and think of it this was as well....the next one you will be very more intuned to and you will definitely know what you want early on because you will have set of the manifestion of what type of man you are desiring for...

and as soon as you smell bs, stop it..... if you cant stop it then leave it...

~~smooches~~

"Give me a good "physical" contact session every now and then and i'll be fine."

USC please tell me you're talking about sports


hahahha..whiskey i do believe USC enjoys a good football game, i heard she's a die hard fan.

hehehe

hi lady

not all leos love attention, sometimes it will just gravitate towards us without hestitation so its not totally our fault, well ok maybe for some leos that i know of, haha!

Ummm, yeah I was talking about football 😉 LOL!
I do love my football, all BS aside!
Yeah astro twin, I hear you, but I'm really tired of some men and I am done.
Thanks Ray, you are a sweetheart 🙂

Ummm, yeah I was talking about football LOL!

hehee..



Yeah astro twin, I hear you, but I'm really tired of some men and I am done.


Just do you then and be happy your biz will keep you busy and a lil bit out of *touch* trouble

Posted by laydbak
Well she is a Leo, you know they love attention even if its to just stoke their egos abit but they are very loving people.

Yeah she likes attention, I don't know if that's the case here, as there is not much attention to give over the phone but who knows really?

" Ummm, yeah I was talking about football LOL! "

lol 😉

Hey, I said I was done with love and relationships, I DIDN'T say I was joining a nunnery! LMAO