Gemini woman and Leo Man

Hello All,

I am a gemini woman. I have a child with a leo man. In the beginning when I was pregnant the situation was very rocky needless to say he was not around. He finally came around to spend time with his child and he's been in her life ever since. We have even rekindled the flame between us to the point that he has introuduced me to almost all of his family (close and far). Everything has been going really great except for lately, he seems a little distant. for the past 2 months he's told me his other childs mother wants him back. he says he just wants to be friends with her and I'm not sure if i believe him or not. For the past month we only talk when I take him to work and occasionally on the phone normally on his days off we would get together atleast on one of his days off as of lately im lucky is he answers the phone. So i had a little too much to drink this past weekend and told him wanted to see him he said he would call me back he never did. i told him if he didnt call i was going too. Well i ended up calling him and he rushed me to voicemail i called a few more times sent a few nasty text messages and went to bed. he was supposed to get our child the next day i call he didnt answer i sent a text letting him know i was on my way. i get there he's not home. he calls at the time of my appt. to say he just got in. i pretty much told him dont worry about it its cool. I didnt contact him at all the rest of the day. he calls me in the morning, the first time i didnt answer the second time i didnt it was real brief and i just hung up without saying bye. my question is what is really going on? I'm not contacting him at all.

@tiki33 i know you're a expert in this area I could really use your wisdom.

Where are your boundaries?

Why are you using up your precious energy and time driving him to work? You're not a taxi cab driver nor are you his mother. Let his grown ass get a ride to work from someone else.

So not only is he using you for rides, he's not keeping up his side of communication with you.

Take a big step back to regain a level of self control over yourself because chasing him is unattractive behavior and it comes across as desperate and although he's the father of your child he is not that important that you lose all your dignity and self respect.

It appears he may have taken advantage of your eager willingness to allow him back into your life.

He mentioned the other baby mama and then what followed was him being distant towards you so you add it up. He's clearly back with the other baby mama.

For the exception of allowing him to parent his child he should be cut off from the free rides, cut out the sex and stop chasing him for love attention and sex for the time being.

Have you put in a child support order yet?

Be fully aware that these type of man boys do not want to go through the courts for child support nor visitation so they PRETEND to be available to keep the mother of his child tangled up emotionally which will render her helpless to take action against b/c as long as you love him and in love with him you won't move to take action against him.

Men that come in and out don't make good father's for their children nor do they make good boyfriends b/c they tend to use women and reciprocate very little.

He will be in and out of you and your child's life for the duration of your daughter or sons life which can emotionally wound a child for life. Part of your responsibility is to look after yourself and your child first which means you have to stop allowing this to happen to you and to your child.

To give it to you straight he's back with the other mother of his child which is why he's avoiding you but I think you know this already.

Get your feet on the ground and stop fantasizing about creating a life and a family with a man that is avoiding you and then consider putting in a support order, set up visitation and get on with your life. Live life for you and your child ONLY.

The moment he get served with that child support order he'll be back in your face pretending to want you again or if he's truly a real loser he'll stop spending time with his child.

I can almost predict that his other baby mama threatened to serve him with a child support order so he ran back to her to avoid it.

@tikki33

Thank you for your wisdom!

I don't chase him majority of the time he calls me but it's just lately he's been acting funny. This past weekend was a 3 bottle of wine drunk moment and I really did get beside myself and called him like a mad woman that's not my normal behavior... I don't have him on child support if I need something he gives it too me... trust when I tell you I fell alll the way back cause I'm not having it... I told him I come 2nd to no one and I guess he didn't believe cause with the exception of my daughter there is no contact...

Gemini plenty of women are in similar relationships and have made the same errors so try not to dwell on the one moment you lost control. What's done is done so try to let it go but what you do not want to do is keep up the chasing him down, let him go because he's gone for now.

I encourage you to get the order. Even if you are or may be self sufficient and independent your child will need some of that financial support for his/her future education.

Just know he'll be in and out of you and your child's entire life if you allow it. I suggest you do something similar to Ciara and get you your own Russell Wilson. There is love after the failed relationship with your babys father. You don't deserve to be strung along and your child doesn't deserve it either.

His coming and going just doesn't effect you but eventually it will effect your child in an emotionally harmful way.

You probably want to avoid the courts but at some point you will have to reach your own conclusion that protecting yourself and your child is way more important than being with a half ass nearly there in and out type of dad.

He fooled you once Shame on him but if he charm his way back in and fool you again then shame on you for falling for it again, buying the fake family package he's peddling to you.

Posted by aquarius_beauty
You've already asked this question already. It's like you want advise but only want to hear what you wish to hear. The reality is this guy is a loser if at 40 he doesn't have a car and has 6 baby mommas and 8 kids. And you were foolish enough to think this guy would settle down with you and form a life with you. Given his track record....i highly doubt that.

7 baby mommas. She's the 7th.

What's really sad is those 7 babies will never get the full attention they will eventually desire from the father. Too many babies and not enough arms nor time in the week to go between so many children.

@aquarius_beauty I first put it in the Leo forum then when I saw the relationships and horoscope forum I thought it would be better there