How do Leo's handle breakups?

So, i broke up with my Leo ex about a week ago, mostly due to a lot of personal issues i am dealing with right now, my mind wasn't fully into the relationship. While we were together my Leo always praised me, saying i was his ideal woman and how no one else would measure up to me and how he wanted me to be his wife so it took me by surprise how little fight he put when i initiated the break up, all he said was that he was heartbroken but wished me well, i told him i was hurt we were ending things and didn't speak to him or checked his messages for a couple of days (Capricorn moon so i needed some alone time to process things ). He did message me a few times during that period saying he wished i was ok and not mad at him, which was weird since i was the one who ended it. I replied to him eventually saying i needed my time to get over things and that we would be able to talk to each other like normal eventually and wished him well as well, he never replied. We've been through breakups before, over smaller things at the time, so i felt he only got in contact with me because he felt there was a chance, after i said i was trying to move on he basically stopped contacting me, i get that the breakup is only recent but he was the one contacting me a day after we broke up? If he did ever care he would have replied me back with a simple "Glad to know you're ok" just to be cordial since we didn't breakup on bad terms. I spoke to him last night and he was super cold, saying he understood why we ended things and saying he wished the circumstances were different. I wished him good night and he never replied back.



I am a bit disturbed by his behaviour to be honest.....He's already socializing and acting indifferent towards me, when we were together he would always say how scared he was to lose me and now this is how he acts? I feel like i was lied to and it was all sweet talk all along. I feel like completely ignoring him from now on, i feel like he never cared about me on a personal level other than being his girlfriend and his trophy. I always assumed fixed signs took time to get over someone, he has his Sun, Moon, Venus and Mercury in Leo. I have Sun, Mercury and Venus in Gemini.



Do you guys think deep down he still cares? Is he going to completely forget me? How do you guys handle breakups?

Yeeeah welcome to the other side of Leo unfortunately. One thing to know about Leos is that we are a fixed fire sign and are not great with abrupt change, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. We don't like to lose. There's nothing worse for a Leo than loss, especially if it means losing someone we care about.

Our pride/ego are quite large and are most hurt by those closest to us. We are warm people, our Sun sign is ruled by the Sun itself. So when we are on, WE'RE ON (like a light switch). However being a fixed sign, we can be turned off, which is when we remove that warmth entirely and go cold. There isn't any grey areas in the world of Leo, it's black or white. Summer switches to winter and we become as cold/detached as our opposite sign Aquarius (but not in a friendly way). That's what you're seeing now. It's quite literally the opposite of who you knew him as when you were together.

That being said, it takes a lot for a Leo to go cold, but once that happens, it's much harder to get the warmth back. Imagine a gaslamp for a moment. When we're happy the flame in the lamp is bright. When we're mad or "distant" the fire is low, but the fuel is still there to turn it up again. When we're done though, the fuel is gone and the lamp is drowned in ice water. It's much harder to turn that flame back on once it's actually out. (Note: Depending on the emotional maturity of the Leo, not all break ups end this way. So a lot of people never see a Leo go truly cold. Most people say Leos easily forgive, which can be true to a point).

Leos are extroverts, so we have a lot of expendable energy, but even we have our limits. The most taxing thing for us is losing love. We don't handle it nearly as well as some of the other signs. Like the other fixed signs it's very hard for us to let go of someone once we let you in. Unlike Scorpio or Aquarius though, we have fewer walls to keep our hearts protected. So when we let you in, the expectations are HIGH (which it appears you've already witnessed with your Leo).

The problem arises when you "fail" our high expectations of you. In our heads we shared our warmth and our world with you. We would have happily done anything for you to prove our love. Once we feel rejected, we see it as a slight. Yet we're still in love. So we chase you a bit more and keep trying with the hope that your mind will change. When it becomes clear our attempts were futile, we resent it. So we do the one thing to spare ourselves any more damage and leave.

At this point we're exhausted from all of the energy and emotion we spent on that person, so we shut our emotions off from them. We could care less about acting cordial or being civil. In our minds you didn't appreciate us when we were around, so now you'll get nothing. We focus on rebuilding our damaged hearts and egos by pursuing other outlets. We party hard, possibly drink harder, bury ourselves in hobbies/work, and put ourselves out there to gain the attention we lost. We love attention too. Sounds like is in his rebuilding phase.

Sorry to hear about your break up. In a nutshell that's what you're seeing happening with your Leo.

Posted by Smidge
he said that he is heartbroken, and i'd believe that he is.

but he's a leo, he's handling it with dignity and god damn that's hot af

lol

I believe that as well. He also said that before he went cold. At that point he was trying to keep her somehow. Leos are very vocal when we are chasing someone, especially if we're trying to get them to stay (or get them back). Also know that while Leos don't have trouble showing emotions per se, we don't like to show when we're hurt. So saying that he was heartbroken was not easy, unless the Leo's a player then he'll say whatever he needs to say. A player however wouldn't burn the bridge by going cold. That's a genuine response from having his pride severely struck.

I'm a Leo woman and I can't speak for Leo men. But from my own experience, whether I worry or care or not depends entirely on who's at fault, looking at things from multiple perspectives.

I give way too many chances and if I openly grudge, it means someone - anyone in any relationship, personal or professional - is repeating the same mistake for the nth time.

If the fault is on my side, I've no such a thing as ego. I would be the first to apologise and do anything in my power to make them feel good from the moment I realise that I've wronged them, really. But if the fault is on my partner's side and he leaves me, yes, I'm human and it'd hurt for a short while (severe pain for an extremely short period) and then look at me living my life - anyone would wonder how I can be so innocently happy like a little kid. Unknowingly, unintentionally, I'd attract a lot of attention from many because I feel relieved and positive, and that'd add to my existing happiness.

This indifference is genuine in my case and I don't even realise that I've forgotten that person or that I'm avoiding them till he reminds me through some means! Someone who left me is trying to gain my attention back but it's of no use anymore.

Your guy could be different. Good luck!

Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Not gonna say all but most Leos don't give a shit my lil bro is a Leo and I know couple more they all move fast.

That can happen since we also have our dark side. Leos are driven by love but many can also easily fall into lust. If a Leo doesn't truly love someone (or know what they are looking for), that Leo can jump around pretty fast.

Regardless we all will put on a strong face in the face of a break up. Whenever I've broken up with a person my friends are always shocked at how well I take the breakup. They say I get over my emotions pretty "fast". In reality it still hurts, but I actively work to not show the pain.

The other thing to remember about Leos is that we rarely lack options for love. Even when we are minding our own business we can attract someone. It's almost as if romantic partners fall from the sky or are summoned when needed. A new lover can be found in an old acquaintance, a random stranger, or even a good friend who suddenly decided they had the hots for the Leo. So it may appear that a Leo can move on fast.

Posted by Freetobe007
@SerenaS2 In brief, when our heart is attached, we feed connections and make sure they grow. When our heart detaches, we let those connections starve.

Are you feeling like you've made the wrong decision or do you honestly feel like his reaction is an attack on your ego?

I honestly feel like this is an attack to my ego tbh but not just that, i'm a Gemini with Mars in Pisces, i don't believe in discarding people completely after a breakup, if we were in a relationship i will always hold you in high regard because you got to know me better than anyone ever could. You aren't important to me just because we are in a relationship, you are important to me because i care for you as a person first and foremost, not saying we have to be BFFs after breaking up but acting completely indifferent towards someone who was a significant part of your life for almost a year is just appalling to me.

I don't think i could ever date a Leo again because to me it is all about pride, if they can't claim you, you no longer matter. It's what i noticed with my Leo ex, for him to care about something, he needed to benefit from it somehow. He was a very generous person at heart and very loving but i could always sense he wasn't very aware of others needs around him.

I am definitely not contacting him again, like you guys mentioned, Leo's don't seem to do Grey, only Black and White so it's how it shall be.

Posted by SerenaS2


I honestly feel like this is an attack to my ego tbh but not just that, i'm a Gemini with Mars in Pisces, i don't believe in discarding people completely after a breakup, if we were in a relationship i will always hold you in high regard because you got to know me better than anyone ever could. You aren't important to me just because we are in a relationship, you are important to me because i care for you as a person first and foremost, not saying we have to be BFFs after breaking up but acting completely indifferent towards someone who was a significant part of your life for almost a year is just appalling to me.

I don't think i could ever date a Leo again because to me it is all about pride, if they can't claim you, you no longer matter. It's what i noticed with my Leo ex, for him to care about something, he needed to benefit from it somehow. He was a very generous person at heart and very loving but i could always sense he wasn't very aware of others needs around him.

I am definitely not contacting him again, like you guys mentioned, Leo's don't seem to do Grey, only Black and White so it's how it shall be.

Yes it's not cool to have someone shut you out, but it's not an attack on your ego. Try to see it from his side.

You broke up with him meaning he didn't really have a say in the change in your relationship. He's hurting now and he sees you as the source of that pain. He tried being cordial with you and didn't put up much of a fight during the breakup. Then when he tried talking to you, you pushed him away and wished him well (At that point, you're right, he was definitely trying and salvage the relationship). Leos don't stick around once we feel like someone is actively pushing us out of their lives. In his mind he's not going to stick around like a sad kitty just to watch you move on without him, that would make him feel pathetic. So he decided to stop all forward advances and ghosted.

Remember Leos love HARD, so breakups for us are HARDER. Sure you can blame his ego/pride, but Leos can be very emotional. If you don't want someone who will feel for you deeply without restraint, then Leo probably isn't for you.

Astrology aside, breakups are clearly hard for both parties (dumper and dumpee alike). Sure the dumpee is hurt, but the dumper is never truly 100% sure that ending the relationship is the best idea either (mostly). In a break up the dumper pushes the dumpee away and the dumpee tries to hold on to them. The dumpee's constant need for attention ultimately turns the dumper off. In this way the dumpee's pursuit is what validates and solidifies the dumper's resolve to end the relationship. This is how the dumper naturally gets over the dumpee. Once their resolve is solidified, the dumper is steadfast in their decision. Having exhausted all options, the dumpee is forced to let go and move on, which is how the dumpee also eventually gets over the relationship. If this pattern is broken however it can be confusing to either party.

From what I can glean post, you're not entirely emotionally detached from this Leo. He left too soon for your own feelings regarding the relationship to get fully resolved. Yes you may be upset that he ghosted and is ignoring you, but if you didn't still have some lingering emotion for him, his disappearing act wouldn't bother you. He knows going from dating to friendship is impossible, it's practically a lie. There are still unresolved emotions floating between you right now that need to dissipate before a true friendship can form. Which would you rather have right now, a guy who respects your wishes to end the relationship? Or a guy who doesn't respect your wishes and constantly tries to change your mind?

Posted by DivaCanLeo
why do people dump people and then get mad when dumped people move on ...what are you looking for?

PREEEEEEEECH