How hard for a Leo to fall in love?

I've been with my Leo for several months now. Things have been going really great between us. Recently his friends are starting to make fun and teasing him about falling in love with me like commenting on our pictures on Facebook about it, then he replied one comment back that they can take the piss but its called having fun! which quite upsets me as it sounds like he's just having fun with me and not serious so we had a talk about it and he explained that it means he's having fun with me and loves my company then he said 'love is a strong word, i dont like my feeling get too mad, thats the way i am, hard for me to fall in love, Im a closed type of person' when i heard that, i cant help but wondering if im wasting my time with him here?

The thing is before me, he hadnt had a serious gf for 8 years since his last fiancee and enjoyed his time alone and not interested in having a relationship then we got together (we have been friends for 1.5 years before that) and he then starts to love having me around and buying me many presents, taking me on holidays (first time in 8 years he took a girl on holidays) and even called me one night when he was drunk and away on a trip that he really misses me and loves me so much which is a surprise to all his friends as they know how he was like before so that's why they are making fun of him about it now...

Question is am i wasting my time with him? I wouldnt want to be with someone without a future in it. I heard that Leo never holds back to fall in love. I do have my Venus in Leo so i act pretty much like a Leo in love (well, my rising and Mars in Leo as well!)

Well one, I think this guy kind of showed you (better than he could tell you) that he might still be emotionally unavailable. The only time people tell the ones they secretely love that they don't fall in love easily, it's usually b/c they still have some unsettled feelings about a past experience. Sure, it's dumb for fall for anyone easily. But sweety, you're not just anying. If you are really worthy of his love, and if there is nothing from his past holding him back (emotionally) then there should be no reason why the word "love" can't be added into the equation. It would be different if he told you he didn't fall in love fast/easy as a means of letting you know (to read between the lines) that YOU (in particular) are not someone he feels it'd be worthy to have a commitment with or anything past just having fun for the moment. But it's another thing if he really values your time, energy & feelings & STILL won't take that next step with you. When a man is still holding on to his past, it doesn't matter how much you try, or do "right" you'll never have a chance to get to that next level (The L word) until he's ready to let whatever is still bothering him, go.

And who knows. You might be reading into his comment to his buddies on facebook a little too deep. Him being a man (not just a Leo) might be the reason why he responded the way he did. He was feeling the pressure & jokes from his friends & in order to NOT look like a sucker-for-love, it's not suprising that he downplayed the relationship he has with you, just to please his friend. Should you be upset? Yes, b/c whenever a man truly feels that he's met his "queen" all that macho, immature, always-trying-to-please-my-boys stuff won't matter anymore.

Do I think you're wasting your time? Yes. Do I think he's a dog? No. He told you he didn't fall in love fast/easy for a reason; and unfortunately if he's emotionally unavailable, it won't matter how much he loves or cares about you b/c even HE can't control how much his heart won't detach from his ex girlfriend. His heart would have to heal FIRST & then his mind would start to be more optimistic about love; thus he wouldn't have shut you out of a chance to have him as your man before you even had the chance to prove yourself. Does all of this spending he's doing on you, or wanting to be in your company all the time mean that he loves you? No. But it's def. not a bad thing either.

And if you still feel uneasy even AFTER the fact that you discussed this with him then I think that's your heart trying to tell you something. Now, all you've got to do is just listen, & follow suit whether you want to or not; and that's the hardest part.

You can have all the love in the world for someone & be willing to jump off planes for someone but if they don't have that same kind of love for you back, it will never work. And if it does work, it will be temporary, but now a days, you should plan things so that they will benefit you in the long run just as much as it would in the short run & if you already get the feeling that this guy is just using you for the moment or for the season, then run like hell before another year goes past. The longer you engage in something that you feel uneasy about the more resentment you'll feel at the end of it all & the harder it'll be to finally move on when the truth can't hide it's face anymore.

Sure, you'll miss him & sure it's normal to not want to give up b/c after all, I'm sure you're having fun too. But the resentment, bitterness, hurt/pain & heartbreak & disappointment that you'll feel after have spending all your energy, time, body & emotions on the WRONG person is WAYYY more worse & permanent than going through that temporary "I miss him" stage

I think you're reading too much into what he said on Facebook. Any guy gets a bit shy when he's friends start accussing him of settling down....it's not the "manly" thing to do at your age. But if he's acting like a decent boyfriend, the way you describe, then why sweat it—
We do fall in love but we do like to have fun at the same time...so try not force him into this serious mode of love. He'll love you more for allowing him to fall in love with you and have fun doing it.

I don't think it is really hard per se and I don't really think you end up loving every one you date. With us leos it does take us longer than others to fall sometimes especially if we have been burned many a time before. I'm an all or nothing leo. I don't like flings or friends with benefits because I don't work that way. If I do make the initiative to get to know someone romantically and be with them it is because I see it being long term, I see a future with that person. Leos have many masks, but with ones they trust they all come off and they are loved wholeheartedly. Though some leos may not come out and say it it doesn't mean that we don't care. Sometimes actions speak louder than words..

j00 know it haha.

^ hahaha. word.

I'm a leo, i am 27 years old and still have never told a guy i'm in love with him, even the ones who have said they love me. Not because i don't have feelings because i do, very strong ones. I haven't said it because i want to say it to one person and only one. I'll give them my whole heart when i know its the person i will spend the rest of my life with and grow old with. That's not to say i haven't been in love or that i'm not in love because i have, i can fall in love in a second but would never tell anyone to their face. Maybe he's like that too? Maybe he does love you but he doesn't want to say it because it means forever to him and isn't just some term that gets thrown around and actually has meaning to him?

Leos are ruled by the heart and if he's with you and shows you love and affection and is giving you his time, it means he does love you. We speak in actions instead of words sometimes. I guess it's almost a protective thing over our fragile hearts, we are the symbol of strength and don't want to admit to weakness and our heart is our biggest one. It's probably frustrating for other people but i guess it's better than empty words from people who dont mean or act on them.

I don't understand libra_girly, you've been with him for how long (how long is several months)?

You're gonna hurt yourself if you rush ahead of yourself here... some people get to 'in love' stage quicker than some... a guy at 25 is still considered quite young, I will be surprised if a 25 yr old guy didn't do the same...
plus leos want public adoration a bit more than private I think so he has to save face externally...

The main thing he did wrong was not consider your feelings to what he will write before responding

Leo's are attractive and have lots of options. Poor things can't help being superficial and being the center. I don't know what to do about them as a cap, most times they want to be what I am minus the humility. They don't understand thats where the strength is. Love doesn't seem like an option for them. Because love is satisfied.

yes, you are wasting your time, and you know it..you questioned yourself on it atleast two times in your original post. doesnt matter what sign he is, you need to stop fantasizing about how you think he should be, and pay attention to how he REALLY is.

Since this is a Leo Libra association this should be alright its ordinarily a friendly but leadership oriented vibration I suppose; you might have to start discussing (you might already know) about what he's been doing for years before you met him, good luck. If he has become a surprize to his friends then he may have broken an old pattern.

um, ok. first of all, take the leo part out of it. instead, think like a man. when a man tells u up front that he is only in it for fun and not ready for a committed relationship, take it at face value! we have to accept the fact that men and women do think differently. women often say no when they mean yes and vice-versa. men are more simple (thank goodness!). also, the truth herein lies that ur most likely not "the one". don't be hurt by that. why would u wanna commit to someone who doesn't wanna reciprocate? we all deserve to be with someone who will. maybe it's my leo bluntness but please try to take it as a step forward. it's better to face the hard facts now so u can heal and move on. besides, there's nothing to fear. u'll be just fine and better for it in the long run. life is full of challenging, but good, lessons!