How much does this Leo like me?

I am in the midst of a separation from my husband. Handsome Leo Customer of my business calls me the other day. Says he needs to talk. I meet him. He did not know my situation but told me he saw I was unhappy and wanted to help. He told me he wants to support my children and I. He wants to get us a place to stay, l to help me start a new business, to send me on vacation with my kids and wants to take me on two vacations with him. I refused his help. But, I have also always found him attractive and have been in the dumps. I told him I would spend some time with him casually seeing each other. I told him although generous I want none of his money. I asked him to not bring up money again.

As I left, he told me he has emotions for me, and asked me not to break his heart. He asked me if he could buy me a plane ticket so I could meet him on the business trip he was leaving for the next day. I told him no.

Next day he tells me his trip is delayed a day. He "needs" to see me again. I tell him let me think about it. It seemed like a lot very quickly. He told me to make the decision right away. I told him he could make other plans if he wanted, but he needed to wait for my decision. I told him several hours later I would meet him.

We met. He offers spas, shopping and too cook for me (the cooking idea i actually thought was sweet) He talked all night. I listened and then called him out on some things I viewed differently. Not sure why, but I told him I feel like we really but heads. We kissed a bit and I left. Immediately received a call, "your car sounds bad, let me get it fixed." I said no. He got angry. He told me to hang up the phone on him so I did.

Sent him a text saying this is all too much for me, can't deal with his pressure. He freaks out. Tells me he needs to know if he can still see me and his feelings for me will not change. Tells me I am overreacting about accepting help. I told him I will seem him one more time after his trip and we will see from there. I told him he needs to keep it light and stop forcing his money on me.

He seems serious very quick, but he has mentioned many times already that he never wants to get married. I also suspect he is seeing several girls already. What is the deal with this guy. Does he really like me? Is he trying to buy me? Is this just how he normally impresses women. I am crazy about a different man already, but we are not together. I.just want with

The Leo. I do not want to end up hurting him if he actually really likes me.

Well... if he's paying the bill, then he has the Control.

Imo, that is where it all stems from--

And...

He is used to getting what he wants, when he wants it because he is more than

willing to pay for it.

Do not feel obliged to '... seem him one more time after his trip'-- unless you want

to be controlled by someone else, who is willing to pay for the privilege of doing so.

It isn't necessarily malicious (imo, and I may be wrong... just a guess), but it is

exactly what it is-- those are the terms.


Not a suitable arrangement for a nice bull... also my opinion. 🙂

Posted by LostBull
The Leo. I do not want to end up hurting him if he actually really likes me.

Sounds like he does like you, but the cost here is just ridiculous--

to you, I mean.


I doubt he knows how to have a truly equal, balanced relationship,

based on what you've said, so far.

Is he a bit (or significantly) older than you?

Thanks for the responses so far! This is exactly how I have been feeling, but I figured I would bring it here. I have a Leo moon, but I do not believe I have ever really known a Leo before. Did not know if maybe my instincts were off.

Yes, this guy is older than me. I usually am attracted to men about seven years older than me. I thought he was probably in that range, but it turns out he is more like fifteen older.

I am certain he is used to always getting his way. I think he is shocked that I am not falling all over him. When I made him wait from me to hear if I would see him the second night he brought it up to me. "Bold move" he said. He told me we are having a power struggle. It is funny, I thought it might be fun at first but I am wrong. I look at him and see he has already decided he is right and does not listen. 100 percent control driven. Here is an example. I sent him a message telling him I am not interested in dealing with someone in this way. I told him he is making me feel like an object and to stop it. He says he is just a giving person and what do I mean, he needs to know if I want to see him again and needs to know now. I wait three hours to respond. I tell him I will see him one more time and his behavior will determine if he gets another chance. He tells me not to throw in the towel and that he needs a yes or no answer, not all the other stuff. Asks me to answer again. I tell him I already answered, that I said I would try one more time and that he better not dare ask me the same question again. He gives me no response. Isn't this the most ridiculous thing ever?

The thing is, I thought it still might be fun to get out and be with someone during this time in my life. I wonder if there is any harm as long as I don't accept his money and keep it honest. As silly as this whole thing is, it still in a nice break from moping around the house. I tried to get a hobby to pass my.nighttime hours. I have already canned the entire contents of my backyard garden.

If he wanted to help you out of some desperate financial situation that's one thing, but let's see here, he wants to support you and your children, give you a new place to stay, help you start a new business, send you on vacation with the kids... all based on that he "saw you were unhappy and wanted to help" ?! How long and well have you known this guy? He already wants to control your whole life.

And he obviousely values himself based on what he can do for you financially, and not much else, since your interaction seems to mostly revolve around that. Do you have any common ground at all?

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. The ink is not even dry on yr separation papers and already you enamoured by the amorous attentions of another man!! I too have a taurus sun and leo moon but my goodness my head is not as easily turned as you!!

I suggest you concentrate on getting out of the mess of your separation first. You do not want to get out of a frying pan and leap straight into a fire!! Literally!!!

You need to stay focused, on your current situation, yourself and your children and spend time ALONE to be independent again before entering yet another friendship / relationship /fwb or whatever!!! You are in a vulnerable state at the present time be aware of that and of "wolves in sheep's clothing bearing gifts"!!!

You sound very controlling.

Yikes!

Lostbull, I'm sure you are a grown woman and know being alone won't prime you for new relationships. Maturity is what is necessary, and you are exhibiting that quite well.

The Leo man, on the other hand, seems desperate.

However, if at any time you feel overwhelmed or unwillingly under someone else's control, I think you should apologize for any misconceptions you may have given the man and step away from him.

In my limited experience, older men may feel insecure about their appeal and lead any pursuit of a younger woman with the money they can provide. So, I'll make the same suggestion my bff made to me, "Let him."

If you don't have any ill intentions and hope to get together with him, then let him know you will only allow his provision after you have established a stable relationship.

As for listening to you and power struggles, you must already know that is a Leo-Taurus thing.

You may wish for a more stable relationship. Of course, then you'd know to step away. But you may also wish for something more exciting too.

I think the economists call it opportunity cost?


Do know that sun conjunction moon relationships are the most intense ever. You will always feel alive.. And with life comes pain.

Macrocurvature, I suppose.

Wow, the dynamic in this forum is amazing!!!! I feel like there may be a few misconceptions about my situation. I am not looking for anything serious from this Leo. I am not going to take him up on any of his offers. Sure, I have let him buy me a drink. Normal date expenses do not make me feel like I am under his control. I have clearly stated to him that he will never make me powerless. I have also clearly told him I will not be having sex with him, so don't even try.

The thing is weird stuff has been going on with guys in the last year. I have had men across the counter at my business cry over me! Now this. I have no clue what is going on. I do not want to downgrade myself, I think I am pretty great, but I really am not that sort of special. I have been with my husband for the last fifteen years, since I was 19. Things have been bad with us the last two years. This past year I fell in love with an amazing cancer male. We have done nothing but talk. He has left me in anguish after he retreated into his crazy cancer shell because he feels guilty that my love for him is somehow his fault and he feels my husband should literally kill him. Of course, he still contacts me just enough that I can't let go.

For now, I just want a break from it all. I want to go out and have fun and get my mind off it all. Honestly, being with my current friends and my family is no help. They will just want to talk about my separation. I will deal with that as well, but I also need a little time to blow off steam. This Leo man is an opportunity. I don't care if we have a lot in common, because I just want to have fun. But, I seriously do not want to be staring into some man's tear filled eyes when he realizes he will never really have me. I need to know if this particular Leo man is strong enough to handle it. Truth is, regardless of economic status, we both know I am the one that holds all the power right now.

037, I caught your message before you hid it and it seemed like great advice. From What you said, I took away that I should go ahead and have fun until it isn't fun anymore. How could that be bad advice?

To whoever said it, I had no clue Taurus and Leo are known for their power struggles. I am super new to this Leo thing, aka clueless. My past relationships have been only with Capricorn, Virgo and cancer. I would love to learn any more about Leo that I can, especially considering my leo moon.

Busy eyes, I have seen you around. I like reading your posts because of your similar placements. What makes you think my head is so easily turned by this man? Separation papers may be wet, but my loyalty has been waning for years. I am sure, as a taurus, you understand it would take a lot and a lot of time to lose my loyalty. I am inviting your commentary specifically because I am a brutally honest person myself and love a healthy dose of my own medicine.

Posted by LostBull
For now, I just want a break from it all. I want to go out and have fun and get my mind off it all. Honestly, being with my current friends and my family is no help. They will just want to talk about my separation. I will deal with that as well, but I also need a little time to blow off steam. This Leo man is an opportunity. I don't care if we have a lot in common, because I just want to have fun. But, I seriously do not want to be staring into some man's tear filled eyes when he realizes he will never really have me. I need to know if this particular Leo man is strong enough to handle it. Truth is, regardless of economic status, we both know I am the one that holds all the power right now.

I think you probably need to go out and just have some fun, too.

But something about this character just doesn't sit well... even if there is no malice on his part,

it can't be overlooked that he went from zero to 'let me be your sugardaddy' in 3 seconds flat.

That's isn't normal... there is more that you haven't seen yet-- there has to be.

I don't think he will be sad so much as angry and defeated... and I think the effort to disentangle

yourself from this will take more energy than it's worth.

Just my opinion. 🙂

Montgomery - I suppose you just summed up exactly why I started this thread. What you are saying is my fear and my instinct as to what will happen. I have learned that there are strange things about some signs that defy logic. I think I wanted to give this guy the benefit of the doubt by asking about him here. Still, no one yet has said, "sure, no need to worry, this is typical Leo behavior. We all give to this extent and cling to women even if we are just looking for casual fun."

Appreciate your advice, and the advice of everyone else as well. He is out of town for a while anyway, so I have a little thinking time. For now, I think I will just keep moving forward with what is necessary in my separation and maybe try to find some other form of blowing of steam on my own. Thanks!

Thanks Busy. Not sure either if our egos can take it in the long run. But, at this point I am very stable. I have seen all this coming for a while in my marriage. My husband on the other hand, he is a mess. But, I gave him plenty of time and opportunity to fix things, including me making changes as well. I am ready to move along at this point. I cried it all out long ago and it is no longer my husband that pulls at my heart strings.