Is My Leo Honest With Me ?! Please Help !!!

hey I neeed help to figure out if my leo has been true with mee..

I'm a Pisces sun and he is a Leo sun..

we've been together now for the past 1,5 year..

We met in our ealier days when I was only 14 and he 17 years old.. He lives abroad and when we first met it was through my relatives in my native country.. We immediately clicked and shared a great and fun connection.. when I got back home we exchanged mails daily and used to talk on msn almost everyday as well (depending on the timings).. eventually he openly confessed his feelings and told me that he was in love with me.. I was a little scared/confused and didnt really know what my feelings for him ment.. I did feel very strongly for him but I just didnt think it was "the real love".. He was very stubborn and didnt really give up.. he always told me that he couldnt just pretend to be friends with me because he had real feelings for mee and that it was difficult for him.. I hated the fact that I caused him pain and eventually I created a distance.. he didnt give up completely and kept on sending me messages on fb/mails etc but yess with the years it became less and less..

there was a time I deactivated all of my social media and lost contact with him for just a few years..

he came back in my life in 2015 and suddenly we were back to square 1 talking to eachother every single day..we talked for hours and hours everyday.. he joked/teased me about having OUR kids our wedding this and that and used to openly flirt with mee..I really felt we still had a special connection..

eventualy I confronted him about the ex he told me breifly about, the one he wanted to marry but because their parents didnt agree on it (cultural indiffrences) they didnt go ahead and decided to end their relationship out of respect to their elders.. He said all that was in the past and that he wanted to move on and not talk about it.. months started to pass and my feelings for him grew stronger and stronger yet I never admitted how I felt for him.

through a common source I got to know that he is still very much in talks with his so called ex and that they had not really ended their relationship... he admitted to me that he was still in love with her but at the same time he had been honest with me too and that he didnt lie about anything.

His argument for his behaviour was that "its hard to end a serius 3 year old relationship just over a night". and he also said that he had not been doing anything wrong meaning betraying me since I never told him I had feelings for him.. I guess, he was right to some degree but I still felt so betrayed and cheated by him and completely dropped contact with him for about a month or two.

Then after meating him again I realized and felt like I could no more deny my feelings for him.. I felt that we had something special going on.. His ex was now married to someone else as well.. I decided to confess.. He told me he loved me too and we took up contact again..

intially I understood that his feelings for his ex was not completely over.. But I didnt wanna leave him in pain either so I decided to stay even though it hurt me to see that he still had feelings for her too..

when I confronted him about what had happened in the past - him talking to both me and her - he told me that he was confused and lost and that I somehow made him feel safe in the start.. I was his first love so his burried feelings came alive again even though he intially had no intensions of taking our realationship to that route this time around.

he told me that he didnt know why but he always felt this natural attraction to me that he couldnt control and that even though he tried to not contact me during those other times and talk to me he couldnt help but to do it.. and that he was soo scared to loose me.. so he didnt wanna take the risk and thats why he never told me about his ex either.

I made him feel good inside after being heartbroken for so long. He told me he thought maybe this was the time for us and that he got a new chance of love and life... after our new relationship started I got to hear from a common friend that he had sent his ex messages / songs.. this was during one of our fights... I confronted him about it and he denied it completely.. he even swore on every possible thing that he had been honest with mee.. and that he could not do something like that to me after everything we had been trhough before.. i''m still not sure if I trust his words or not..

I told him he had lied to me about her and their relationship before so why wouldnt he do it again.. He told me that he didnt knew abot my feelings at that time and didnt really feel like he had been cheating on me since I never confessed my feelings.. anyway..I'm still confused and my gutfeeling is telling me that maybe he is hiding something.. maybe something happened during those days.. maybe they exchanged some kind of messages etc..

anyways time passed and months later he reffered to his old relationship as a misunderstanding of love and likeness.. That what he felt for me was love but that he must have confused likeness for love when it came to her...and then when I question him about it he gets weird and annoyed..

I guess, I still have major trust issues with him and I dont know if he used me as a rebound or if he really have actual feelings for mee.. I'm confused because I dont wanna keep blaiming him and hurting him if he has been honest and genuine with mee.. but I dont know if I was just a familiar love that he held onto while going through his actual heartbreak caused by his ex.. I do love him alot and I feel we have something special.. but I dont know if he still has feelings for his ex and what my part is in this..

I'm both causing him but even myself alot of pain bringing up the past all the time..I guess insecurity of how he is feeling for mee.. If he could love two women at once before maybe he still does.. maybe his love for her is still stronger... Gosh.. I need to get some clarity.

do you think he could contact her again? was it just a rebound from her... is he honest? could he have been cheating on me again those messages that the friend told me about..

I dont know what to do.. Because I love him sooo much but maybe this doesnt mean anything to him anymore.. maybe I'm holding on to love because of old times and maybe he is holding on to me - a familiar face - feeling just to distract himself from his ex..

Can someone please help mee??

I'm sorry for writing soo much 😢

my first post though!

The minute someone starts to use you as space to feel "safe" and lies about feelings for other people or gets annoyed for you asking questions or minimizing your emotions... time to go. Doesn't matter what their sign is.

However, Leo men and women can be self-centered and use people, so, you know, this guy probably will keep talking to her if he's done it before. This seems like a classic cake-and-eat-it-too situation, and you're better than that. You deserve way better than that.

He sounds like a douche.

This sounds like a lot of back and forth with no upside on your end. Sounds like this guy is trying to keep you in his orbit while keeping this other girl around.

The first red flag:

"He said all that was in the past and that he wanted to move on and not talk about it."

NOPE. If something is in the past, then you should have the ability to talk to him about it. Also he should have "moved on" before trying to pursue you. If he's serious about you, he should be fine with opening up about his romantic/emotional past. If he still feels hurt, then he's not over that other relatiponship.

The second red flag:

"he admitted to me that he was still in love with her but at the same time he had been honest with me too and that he didnt lie about anything"

This is when you need to take a huge step back. He admitted to being in love with another person. That's not going to be conducive to starting a relationship with you.

Beyond that point once he started lying to you about the other woman (third red flag), it showed that his heart was not in the right place. It sounds like you are both young. I think you will find someone who has FAR less emotional baggage and definitely more emotionally mature. He needs to sort himself out.

Posted by 000sillylion000
The minute someone starts to use you as space to feel "safe" and lies about feelings for other people or gets annoyed for you asking questions or minimizing your emotions... time to go. Doesn't matter what their sign is.

However, Leo men and women can be self-centered and use people, so, you know, this guy probably will keep talking to her if he's done it before. This seems like a classic cake-and-eat-it-too situation, and you're better than that. You deserve way better than that.

He sounds like a douche.

I guess, I was stupid enough to beleive that we shared something special since our younger days 😢

This hurts though

Posted by Chuckcem
This sounds like a lot of back and forth with no upside on your end. Sounds like this guy is trying to keep you in his orbit while keeping this other girl around.

The first red flag:

"He said all that was in the past and that he wanted to move on and not talk about it."

NOPE. If something is in the past, then you should have the ability to talk to him about it. Also he should have "moved on" before trying to pursue you. If he's serious about you, he should be fine with opening up about his romantic/emotional past. If he still feels hurt, then he's not over that other relatiponship.

The second red flag:

"he admitted to me that he was still in love with her but at the same time he had been honest with me too and that he didnt lie about anything"

This is when you need to take a huge step back. He admitted to being in love with another person. That's not going to be conducive to starting a relationship with you.

Beyond that point once he started lying to you about the other woman (third red flag), it showed that his heart was not in the right place. It sounds like you are both young. I think you will find someone who has FAR less emotional baggage and definitely more emotionally mature. He needs to sort himself out.

I know, he was still in pain in the start of our relationship and I even said that we should take some time apart because I felt he needed to heal..

But he always came back pleading me to not leave him.. and that he would do anything..

He even started to send me screenshoots of the messages that his ex sent him.. where she was begging him to reply and call him..

I know he was not completely over her in the start..but I guess he tried to stay loyal too mee (maybe because he knew she was already married to someone else)..and that he loved mee as well..

Gosh, I dont even know why I'm still defending him..

We are over now.. and Ive told him that he should stopp giving me pain.. He sent me a few messages asking me for forgivness.. and that he will live with the guilt for the rest of his life..

I didnt reply him..

I think all the pain and hurt he put me through over the time of our relationship finally came out the other day when I really lashed out at him.. I left him speechless, he didnt know what to say.. and I could really feel that I hurt him and that I had been really harsh.. I think he finally realized how much pain he put me through..leaving me messages saying that he will never be able to feel at peace and forgive himself for what he put me though.. and that he deserved my hate (I dont hate him, I could never hate him)..

I dont know how he always manage to make me feel bad even though I havent done anything bad or treated him badly for no reason..

I guess, I was stupid enough to beleive that we shared something special since our younger days 😢

This hurts though

I'm sorry; I can imagine. But I think the old adage holds true, "The right thing to do is usually the hardest." Lots of love

Wow this is really bad.

You need to leave him

Posted by MoonshineLeo
Wow this is really bad.

You need to leave him

yess, its over now.