Leo not much on personal conversation, WHY?

I'm a Libra female dating a Leo male. Never dated one before so this is all new to me. We click in every aspect except in personal conversation. He never asks any questions about me. Moves very slow and VERY calculating. Very attentive, extremely sexy, but our conversations are excruciatingly "safe". Is this normal for a Leo? What can I do to change things in a more positive direction? Thanks for your help.

I worked with a leo male who is a lot like that. He will not talk about anything controversial. He never says anything about his personal life. Never mentions faimley or friends out off office. He will go round to pub with us but never takes a stand on anything. we talk football, you can ask him a question , like what do you think Manchester united chances are next Saturday answer dont know. its the same all the time. I cant answer your question about all of them but the one I know well will not take a stand on anything.

I am a little surprised at this.....perhaps its because Leos are really egoists - they crave attention and think they are the centre of the universe.....I love leos, well the leos in my life are fabulous conversationists, maybe when they ask how you how are u doing, they just want happy happy answers.....if they delve too deep or ask too personal a question they may find you want to talk deeper about a hurt or being vulnerable and they can't really handle this...everything in a leo's life has to be happy happy speak big time. Yes, they have their lows, but it is THEIR lows....they don't really want to know about your lows...not because they are mean or very very selfish - jsut because they can't muster up the courage to deal too deeply with your problems....their problems are of paramount importance...others never quite match up!!

I don't mean to sound so negative about the Leos as I love them dearly........but I always find they don't or can;t be bothered too much with other people's problems - afterall they are the lions.....they are second to nobody:-)

Spiritwind, you nice person you ! Why cant you just ask the Leo to help you understand his particular feelings in this subject. Tell him you are very interested in hearing what he thinks, because you want to know him even better ! Do you think he is intelligent? Tell him if so, sometimes, flattery will get you somewhere, . . . course, its no guarantee, but, can it hurt?? I had a couple leo friends, and they never seemed to be at a loss for words. They were always to the point. . . . . good luck, dont give up, . . . hey, . . . accidentally let him see this site, if he cares about you, he will maybe see something, and say to himself, hmmmmmmmmm I wonder ——??

Thanks for the input guys.

To Alana: Striking a conversation with him is not impossible. He LOVES to talk about himself, his work, as long as it is never personal. And with me, he never asks any questions unless it's impersonal. All coversations are on a surface level. He acts like he wants to go deeper, but never does. I make sure I never bring up anything negative and I make sure I don't discuss my "problems". Complimenting him is very difficult, there's just so many things you can compliment on a surface level. I could really complimnent him on a personal level but it just comes out sounding "clingy", if you know what I mean.

To Polaris: I have asked him to help me understand. It has got him to open a little (very little). His response was basically not to rush things. The man is very intelligent. I believe he is scared to let himself go.

He has several "diffculties" that really make things uncomfortable for him. He found out they haven't scared me off. (amputee, disabled child and after a nasty divorce, is financially trying to get back on his feet ie: living with his parents. He received some very unsettling news last week ref: his son and has now climbed into a shell. He won't call me, won't answer my email. I give him his space, but for someone who stayed in touch on daily basis to just drop off the face of the earth? I told him I was here if he needed me. That's all I can really do for right now. Maybe it was just never suppose to be and I just need to move on.

Dearest SpiritWind (what a beautiful name you have)....

I am sorry to hear of the difficulties that your Leo friend in now experiencing. Anytime we have these situations in our life they sure can throw us off...and why is this? because we don't know what to do! We feel so lost, so out of control...helpless. What any of us needs at a time like this is "knowing" that there is someone who really cares about us and will allow us time to work though our pain, difficulties...life.

You say, "Maybe it was just never suppose to be and I just need to move on." My question to is...why are you putting a time limit on your relationship? What if you let it flow naturally and let time in it's OWN time reveal the relationship? As they say....one NEVER knows. Be there if he should need you and he just may...Leo's have a HUGE pride thingy going on....my dad is a Leo and my best friend is a leo...they do not open up with their feelings very much (I have noticed) but what they so need is to know that someone cares for them and admires them for who they are.

My girlfriend has the hardest time expressing her feelings...I don't know why but I tell her that I am here should she ever need to talk...little by little she shares and I listen...all we can ever do with anyone is give them our love and then let go...let the rest happen on it's own...this is called FAITH. Having hope in life and believing in the unseen.

I wish you my best and I hope he is feeling better soon...what a gift you are to him. 😉

Thank you so much. I believe you are right Freebird, when you said to let things flow naturally. This is what he has requested of me. There is so much this man can teach me. A new form of patience that I have never experienced before for one thing. I am generally a patient person in all things but love. I'm used to progressing at my pace. I have failed so many times in the past and this time I really do want to take things slow, but old habits are hard to break. I really do care about him and I believe he knows this now. I told him I was worried about him, that I know I shouldn't be, but could he just let me know he was okay. Well, he called today apologizing all over the place. I suppose I need to stop worrying so much about losing him and trust in the spirits to guide me and allow my Leo guide me too.
I like this board very much and will keep you informed as to our progress. I know I'm going to need help along the way in understanding my new found friend and companion.
BTW, my name was given to me by my Great Uncle

You are so very welcome, Spiritwind. Your Great Uncle seems to be a "great" uncle...lucky you!

We are also so blessed to have people show up on our lives and if we allow for the experience of them and ourselves to unfold naturally then we will receive a great gift from life. This is called, acceptance.

Yeperee Bob, stop worrying...as my dad always said, everything you worry about does not even come to pass. What you worry about are only thoughts that you have created in YOUR mind and they do not exist.

Love, is not something that we can hold onto...it comes and goes freely. If we try to contain it..we will push it away. The understanding of your new friend will come to you when you are ready to understand it. "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." All is well in your world...enjoy your ride and smile! Let the wind carry your spirit to where you need to be in each moment.

I look forward to hearing about you and Mr. Leo...hoping he is feeling better tooooo!

Freebird

i don't think he's into you...i'm a leo girl and every guy i have actually liked i asked questions to and conversate....if i'm not into him i don't ask much or if i do ask him stuff it'll seem forced...let him do all the asking...if a leo likes you, you will definately see it...if he doesn't it won't show...we don't play games...pretty what you see is what you get most of the time from what i know of myself.