Leo stood me up HELP!!

Hey guys i really need some help here

I was dating this Leo /Virgo cusp I am a Aquarius/Pisces cusp; anyways we where dating for 6 weeks maybe. He is 37 and I am 30 for the first few weeks we would talk 3-4 times a day about everything under the sun. When we first met a week after chatting the chemistry was very strong. So strong that we would end up meeting maybe once a week and it would usually end up with us making out. We haven't had intercourse and he has always been respectful. He calls me babe, boo etc. We had this one argument and he said "Maybe we should end it" i said fine he then said maybe we should try this again slowly,i said fine that was maybe 2 weeks ago we went on a date since then all was cool; ya we mad out again lol I called him on Sat and after not talking with him on the phone for 2 days and he was sooooo happy to hear from me like we havent spoke in yrs. He then proceeded to tell me how he was just talking about me to his partner he is a cop. We flirted on the phone and i mention how he should come over for coffee that night. He said he would call after his shift at 7pm. Well 930pm came around and i called and left a friendly voice mail advising to call me and give me a heads up if we where meeting that night. No call no email no text nothing....12:30am comes around still nothing. So I text him saying "Thanks for standing me up, that type of disrespect was uncalled 4 you could of called hope u find what ur looking for good journey" Its 7pm on Sunday and still no call or text or email its like he fell off the earth. What gives, what the hell happened can someone give me some insight here. Everything seemed perfect until last night. If he wanted out why could he just advise me

Actually, I would wait to hear what he has to say. I'm not saying you aren't right to be upset, but in his line of work, anything could have happened, so if I were you I'd reserve some judgment until actually having some contact with him. Goodness knows it would be awful if something bad happened. NOT saying it has, but I wouldn't get freaked out. Also, since he didn't definitively say he was coming, I really (personally) wouldn't be upset. It would be different if you had a date to go to a Broadway show, dinner, or something like that, and he stood you up, but this just sounded like a casual thing. Also, since you left the vmmsg and then the text, he could be a little perturbed. But, I guess you'll just have to wait and see what he says.....

Well he's a cop right. I believe he should be responsible and mature enough to understand the consequence of "standing people up." You should hear his explanation first, most likely something has happened...

I agree with everything ur saying however how long does it take to call and give me an explanation on what happend or should i call him? another reason on why i am upset its almost impossible to make plans with him anymore then a few hrs when we are suppose to meet....frustrated thats all

your diatribe text probably pissed him off.

I agree with Tamara, that text would of upset me (if not upset then angered me) my attitude would then be "Well fine then, I won't contact you"

- You had every right to be upset, don't get me wrong. But to me it would of been a pride thing, I get very defensive over small remarks like that very quickly.

Wait and see what he does next :o)

i hear you all, and ur all right. UPDATE!!!! He called on Monday, and i asked what happend he said something came up at work and that he knew i was gonna be pissed however he was unable to call as he was at the station. He advised me that he didnt call on Sat night or Sun as he didnt want to argue!!and wanted me to cool down not like i was wanting to argue but anyways I told him to look at the situation from a girls point of view, saying how i bought cute high heels and had candles going etc and he understood how i could get pissed off. He was at the gym and said he would call me later. During this conversation he was calling me all these nick names and i asked if he was upset and said no. He then called around 8pm on his way to work saying" I am calling u cause i said i would" but couldnt talk long as he was on his way. But that was still sweet of him and i did thank him. I get uptight and a little freaked out as i cant read this man at all. I have no idea what his itentions are. It seems like he has one foot in and the other foot out. Example..never been on a real date yet like a movie or lunch or anything....always coffee, he wont make plans with me until a few hrs b4 we meet. We dont have our deep conversations anymore more like a 5 min conversation so thats why i get freaked out. However the guy had the chance to end things with me but he didnt so i dont get him. I know it aint sex cause he isnt getting any i told him how i wasnt going to have sex with anyone until i was in a committed relationship. Ohhhh leos,.....lol....this is the first leo i know are all leos this hard to read!!!

raptor22 your already treating him like a boyfriend, your initiating dates and expecting things from him...too much pressure...allow him to initiate dates with you and honestly your already screaming needy and clingy as if you don't have other things going on in your life, the #1 thing that shows a man that a woman doesn't have much going on in her life is if she meets him when he wants her too. You have to allow him the space to stalk and hunt his prey, your pretty much losing his interest because your too available.

I would suggest no longer asking him out or asking him to come over, lean back, I mean all the way back, give him the space to initiate and pursue you because this is what turns him on, this is what keeps him interested, play with it by sometimes being available and sometimes being just too busy to give him time, he will appreciate you more when he know he can't have you when he wants it.

No disrespect but starting to sound like the naggy whiney why didn't you call me desperate girlfriend, I'm going to throw tantrums when you don't give me what I think I deserve unattractive girlfriend.

Its probably too soon to be this way with him, I'm not saying this to you to offend you, I'm saying this to you because I been there done that with a leo and I learned the hard way

I have seen the good bad and the ugly. If you can send him a vibe that I like you but I'm not going to pursue you, I'm not going to spill my heart in your lap and lay down and just let you have me and BE YOURS when you want me then he will stick around longer, you have to challenge a leo but not in a way that blows his ego but in a subtle fun way, that says maybe you can or maybe you can't, I dunno. Leo men are really not too far from the animal kingdom, they love to stalk, skulk, chase there prey but they are not the clean em up types, meaning he loves the thrill of chasing but he's not too interested in the process of cultivating and cleaning up the relationship, he becomes very bored with it and tends to run away because his specialty is being a KING, chasing, hunting, dominating, taking over his idea mate but all the other stuff is WORK and KINGS deems work as peasantry, its for the silly poor peasants.

Very important piece of information is for you to PROLONG the honeymoon stage as long as possible, this is were you will see him become vulnerable with you, this is were you will feel the full effect of love, adoration and kindness from him BUT it has to be on his terms not yours or he will soon tire of it

its great you didn't have sex but your already becoming too attached and leo men LOVE LOVE LOVE there freedom, he wants to be able to roam the earth and yet know he has a great woman by his side when he comes home, he's not going to give up his need to be free and stuck with a needy demanding woman and if your already becoming upset with him this sends a huge stay single signal to him, if you can't deal with him in the beginning stages, understand him and understand his behavior your going to have a hard time.

Take it from an Aquarius girl that also deals with a leo man for 2 plus years now

#1 key with leo men is CONTROL, control yourself, control your anger, control your need to have it a certain way

#2 if he's not doing what you want then you have to be able to make it clear without bruising his huge ego and you want get it by being angry, best method, stroke his ego first and then lay down your transgressions before him, he will react to this in a positive manner and meet your needs

#3 be responsible for your own feelings, he will not be manipulated and I MEAN never will you be able to, so if your unhappy, deal with it on your own first before coming to him with it, he isn't going to fix it because that means your demanding and blaming, thats not going to get you anything but him running away as he did by not contacting you over the weekend the incident happened

#4 confidence, gotta have it with a leo male and the more you stroke his ego, the better boyfriend you will have but never be a doormat, he HAS TO RESPECT YOU or he will neglect you, be a QUEEN at all times and QUEENS don't beg, nag, whine and chase a man

#5 if he chose you then you are the BEST and that means he will treat you well but you better treat him like a KING or he's going to stray and look for easier pastures, he needs to shine and glow and you are a reflection of him, so check that hair, body and clothing style to make sure your looking and smelling good all the time, its important

I'm sure theres more but I will stop here

Also if he's not taking you out like you would like him too, then lead the way, no more last minute hook ups, when he calls several hours into a meeting, be confident and tell him your busy but you know this great cafe/restuarant and tell him when your available, this will send a strong message that your not going to do it his way all the time and this shows him that your a QUEEN and won't accept any ol thing from him

too many last minute meet ups is teaching him that YOU will settle for what he gives you as far as his time is concerned...bad move with any man, this will bite you in the end because it sends this undertone message that your WAITING around for him and he will bore of it quickly, wouldn't you rather have one great date then 6 little coffee dates, be patient and go for the one great date when he has the patience and time to put some thought in making you happy.

I'm rambling so I apologize, its just that I know so much about this combo and I hope some of it helps you understand your leo a bit better

I agree with you bs, I was painting a picture of the dating stage, not necessarily the relationship stage, if a woman can get past a certain stage with a leo male the defenses will come down but it will depend on her reactions and responses to his leo behavior to get him to a point of going to the end of the earth for her

WOW Tiki33......your absolutley right, i thought i was doing everything right until i read what you wrote....i am coming across as a door-mat....everything u wrote really was a slap in the face. Honestly, this is the first guy who has made me weak to my knees....Normally i am the one who comes across as a bitch in relationships; he is THE FIRST guy to put me in my place...God i love it. Its so intoxicating. Ur right!! okay so do you honestly think i messed up with all chances with him or do i still have a chance to change up my game?. I cant ask him that question directly so, i guess my question is how would i know if he has made up his mind to walk away or is hoping i will change my approach!!! any advise is GREATLY APPRECIATED.......oh Tiki do you mind if i email you directly with any other concerns

Thanks so much everyone....

Great comments tiki, you made some very good points although I wouldn't go too overboard with the ego stroking. Too much is irritating, we can smell the BS and start to get suspicious.

In raptor's defense I can understand why she was disappointed that he didn't call even though they only had tentative plans. However the text message was a little too intense given the situation, I can understand his avoidance. A little drama goes a long ways with leo men.

Raptor is still very much in the game as evidenced by his apology, leos love their freedom but hate to disappoint. Just don't ever give an unwarranted ultimatum, freedom will win every time. Leo men automatically put themselves on the invisible leash in any relationship, but will run immediately if you try to make them a lapdog.

Another thing to consider is his choice of profession, law enforcement is very stressful and demanding. He may not always be able to follow through on plans. While you are angry that he is two hours late for dinner he may be scraping a child's brains off the road. A sobering reality.

Make sure that you always see the forest through the trees. Leos are usually concentrated more on the big picture than trivialities...

Thanks Softcookie.....

ur right about him being a police officer and him not working a norm 9-5 job and i did advise him that i did overreact and i am trying to adjust to his career and how he wont always be avail to contact me right away when things go wrong; i expected some sort of explanation a little sooner then 2 days after the fact. But if he saw it as me taking his fredoom away or pulling on the leash then i can see why he would run i am the same way.

Okay i am now on a mission to figure this guy out and win this game hell with all your guys advise i will be a pro, and have Mr Leo licking my paws and purrrrrrring...lol 🙂

Thanks all!!!!