My GF doesn´t respect my freedom

This is the last post i write about my GF aries and me, and i choose to post in the leo forum since i got a couple "enemies" in the aries forum 🙂 For those, i love u, anyway. lol

Last post because it´s the same story again and again and again but for the first time i finally see clearly what´s happened.
As a leo, i am a super boring cat and an awesome cat at the same time lol. I need attention.. lots and lots and lots from my GF. But i need that when i am ok, in a good vibe and also in a bad mode. The problem is that i am very independent at the same time.

So, everything were fine, we were that couple leo aries that we read all over astrology lol. But i finished my exams last week, it was a hard time for me because the stress was high, fortunately i reach the goal that i was waiting. She helped me a lot, cooked, spend time with me while i was studying etc. I am eternally happy for that. But right after the exams, my friends decided to go out, dinner and have a couple of beers to celebrate. I was struggle myself to invite her or not because, my friend told me that it was a male thing, u know.. (long beers night) and i respect that, because if i had no GF, i would say the same thing for the ones with GF. But i felt like junk, since i want her join me in these dinners because i love her and her fellowship, and after what she did for me, it was unfair what i was doing, to not invite her. Finally i decided that i would go with my friends alone... the chaos was installed, WW3!. Basically i received bomb texts all night from her, i was always in contact with her, and she cried when i come home. She didn´t sleep all night while i was out (felt like junk again lol)
Ok, if i was her, i definatelly would understand the dinner and the time with my friends and i would facilitate her to go alone for the dinner. Now, this already happened with her going out, exactly the same, i did respect her, i didn´t bombed her all night and i slept very well, because i respect her, her freedom, and i have no fear of anything because i trust her.
So, after that, she is treating me completly diferent. The attention that i need (no problem to admit), that i mentioned above is almost none now lol.. Of course I am a kitty boy, i need her lil kisses, our time which is so pure, she needs that too. Do you know what i mean? She needs to be first, and the dinner second otherwise i´ll pay with ignorance and no kisses. :/

Aries energy is very stifling for you. I told you this.

Though, because you are a man, I thought the masculine energy from the sun will make it easier. This is not your last post about her. There will come a time when you think she is insensitive.

Posted by 037
Aries energy is very stifling for you. I told you this.

Though, because you are a man, I thought the masculine energy from the sun will make it easier. This is not your last post about her. There will come a time when you think she is insensitive.

I agree about the aries energy. But she isn´t insensitive, for sure. Her ego was burned, she can´t deal with that. but she isn´t insensitive

Posted by leo500

Posted by 037
Aries energy is very stifling for you. I told you this.

Though, because you are a man, I thought the masculine energy from the sun will make it easier. This is not your last post about her. There will come a time when you think she is insensitive.

I agree about the aries energy. But she isn´t insensitive, for sure. Her ego was burned, she can´t deal with that. but she isn´t insensitive

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Typical Cancer moon man.

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. You need to put your foot down. You are entitled to go out with your friends without her and without ww3 erupting! I have a Leo rising and a Leo moon. The problem is if she continues to be that way on a long term basis, the leo person will get fed up and look for it elsewhere. This relationship will not work without equal balance. Her aries placements is dominating you and you are letting her. Instead of being king of the jungle, she is turning you into a domesticated cat!!!! How long is this going to last?!

Why should she have an ego? You did nothing to her except go out with your friends. if she was sensitive to your needs, she would understand that!!! But she seems to control you and you seem afraid of her. Is she the man in the relationship or are you?

That´s why i went to another dinner this week with a different group of friends with no excuses. She understood finally, but i paid with the attention seek. She also went out that night and did things that i didn´t like it too much. Nothing seriously bad, but tried to make me jealous. Also she yesterday told me that she miss a friend that she stopped talking since we meet, because he likes her, see? she is threatening me, like if, i traded her for the dinners/friends and then, she miss someone that i porbably do not like it. lol That´s why the title of the post. She doesn't respect my freedom, and no one can dominate that. I can adapt and i can replace a dinner to be with her of course, (priorities) but for time to time i like to go out with my friends. It´s so good, she can´t rob me that.

weak? ok, lets start again...

oh, no. I´ll ignore instead. Have a nice day

no, i told her yes, she should speak with him if she miss him. She turned red, i saw it behind her eyes.

"why do you put up with this kind of behaviour?" because i know that she isn´t this, she just needs to grow a lil bit, and understand that it is impractical she being my number 1 all the time. She should know that even if i am physically or geographically distant, she is my number 1. I´ll wait

Yep. Whooped. It wouldn't matter to my lioness if I threw a fit or not, if she thought I was being ridiculous, she would give me that *get a clue* look and do what she wanted and expect me to get *straighten up my act*. Lol!! Oops, does that mean, I'm whooped. :p

so, there are 2 options from now: I m gona lie to her from now. I´ll not tell her my plans since she can´t respect my space, and then during the day of the dinner or whatever she will know lastly. I am prepared for war lol

Or, i will put her again in her place and make her understand that i didn´t do anything wrong and her behaviour is bad, and i can not admit that. I will need to find attention in surf like ever 😉 luckily is coming a swell like wow! and i´ll be happy again.. it´s like sex 😉

Typical Aries .... The world should ALWAYS revolve around them no matter what .....

My parents .. Leo and Mars ... are either in continuous arguments over selfishness and control ..or in complete silence (call it passive aggressive)

I believe there are some good Leo/Aries matches out there ..but you know better if yours fit together

This man will make excuses for the girl till thy kingdom come. he is hoping for her to see his needs and attend to them.

He thinks that by doing the little things, she'll take a hint and return the favor.

what will most likely happen is that he will get tired of the war and start to withdraw from her.

This will make her more desperate and bring more war. And then he'll eventually break down and the moon crazy will start.

Like I said....

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Posted by leo500
so, there are 2 options from now: I m gona lie to her from now. I´ll not tell her my plans since she can´t respect my space, and then during the day of the dinner or whatever she will know lastly. I am prepared for war lol

Or, i will put her again in her place and make her understand that i didn´t do anything wrong and her behaviour is bad, and i can not admit that. I will need to find attention in surf like ever 😉 luckily is coming a swell like wow! and i´ll be happy again.. it´s like sex 😉

If you like that drama then great! But that kind of relationship will not last a long time!

Why the thread? You seem to like the drama?!

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Think he does like the drama - he's flattered and builds his ego. He may like the drama now, but as the relationship continues and (hopefully) they grow, the drama will get old.

Posted by 037
This man will make excuses for the girl till thy kingdom come. he is hoping for her to see his needs and attend to them.

He thinks that by doing the little things, she'll take a hint and return the favor.

what will most likely happen is that he will get tired of the war and start to withdraw from her.

This will make her more desperate and bring more war. And then he'll eventually break down and the moon crazy will start.

Like I said....

Baaahaaa!!

Yea ladies keep having fun with me. Crabygirl did u know my ex was cancer? I can judge u.. Btw i left after 2 years. Just dont ask why. I dont want to get more enemies 😉

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Posted by crabbycrab76
Yep. Whooped. It wouldn't matter to my lioness if I threw a fit or not, if she thought I was being ridiculous, she would give me that *get a clue* look and do what she wanted and expect me to get *straighten up my act*. Lol!! Oops, does that mean, I'm whooped. :p

Yes. She is fire and you are water... Hm

Fire is masculine
Water is feminine

Looks like you are going to be "whooped" for eternity!

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I hope so (hee hee) 😉

Posted by leo500
Yea ladies keep having fun with me. Crabygirl did u know my ex was cancer? I can judge u.. Btw i left after 2 years. Just dont ask why. I dont want to get more enemies 😉

No, I didn't. But I'm a cancer male. gf is a leo.

I am a sealion, lots of water but a leo, 4 august. Soon ill need to hunt.

Hunt?

Posted by 037
Hunt?

Yes, hunt. Soon i´ll need to hunt. Discover places, learn, devote to work, meet friends. The dinners and this last nightlife means that, i need that. What did you think the meaning of hunt? Girls? lol.. no.
The diference between me and a leo (pure) is that this one will search everything he wants and will show that at the time. Me since im a sealion, cancer moon, and venus in virgo, i will put all priorities first, but soon, it´s like food, i will need to do the same, search and create because my sun sign is leo.

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Posted by leo500
Yea ladies keep having fun with me. Crabygirl did u know my ex was cancer? I can judge u.. Btw i left after 2 years. Just dont ask why. I dont want to get more enemies 😉

No, I didn't. But I'm a cancer male. gf is a leo.

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I only left her because she didn't want to join me in my academic/professional goals. She prefer staying near her family, and i needed to move for other city to pursue a career. I don´t blame her. This was 6 years ago. Today she is married with taurus and soon she will be mother. She blocked me on FB, mobile etc. As for me today i am finishing my goal that was the root of our problems, im finishing my second degree, dentistry and i do not regret anything because i am proud and happy. She is a wonderful girl, you cancers are in general, lots of jealous but u are almost perfect, no doubt, and you are ambitions like me too, don't understand quite well her needs to be with the family. Later before i left, she told me "ok, i´ll join you because i love u" and i answer her, "no, you are only doing that because he doesn't want to loose me, and u will not be happy far away".

Leo and cancer is almost perfect. U betrayed her? saw it on other post... she is protecting herself. But the fact she is with you now after that is surprising me. No mersy for people like this. GL with her

Posted by leo500
Leo and cancer is almost perfect. U betrayed her? saw it on other post... she is protecting herself. But the fact she is with you now after that is surprising me. No mersy for people like this. GL with her

Yes, yes, yes!

I mean yes to the Leo - Cancer pairing.

😄

Oh i meant parents are "Leo and Aries" ... where was ny head at?!! lol

Posted by leo500
no, i told her yes, she should speak with him if she miss him. She turned red, i saw it behind her eyes.

"why do you put up with this kind of behaviour?" because i know that she isn´t this, she just needs to grow a lil bit, and understand that it is impractical she being my number 1 all the time. She should know that even if i am physically or geographically distant, she is my number 1. I´ll wait

Your dating an Aries, she will always have to feel number 1. She knows your weakness, you NEED attention like a child 24/7 and that ego stroking. She knows that she is using it against you, there is a reason she is acting like that and I dont think its cause ahe needs to grow up. Something is causing her to to set aside her own independence, what is it?

I have been dating a Leo for almost 2 years, that behaviour would not be allowed and shouldnt be allowed, unless he did something to make me feel that way and act that way. So get to the root of the problem.

Posted by leo500
Leo and cancer is almost perfect. U betrayed her? saw it on other post... she is protecting herself. But the fact she is with you now after that is surprising me. No mersy for people like this. GL with her

Wish I hadn't done it - we were on a break, but I knew I crossed the line. Can't be undone now. Took a yr to get her back - and we've only been back together for a few weeks, so still working things out.

Your cancer - she was willing to give up being near home to be with you. Sounds like she really love you, but sometimes you gotta go with your gut instincts.

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Posted by leo500
no,

So get to the root of the problem.

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The root of the problem was the dinner i went with my friends and my doubts in taking her with me or not to respect the male dinner and drinks, that's why the post title. Thats the root. Yes she knows very weel how i am and how much atention i need but it is unfair she is doing this to me and worst if she knows that this afects me because she wants to hurt me. I will not forgive if she admits that this is true. I dont want an enemie at home. I want a woman and a friend.

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Posted by leo500
Leo and cancer is almost perfect. U betrayed her? saw it on other post... she is protecting herself. But the fact she is with you now after that is surprising me. No mersy for people like this. GL with her

Wish I hadn't done it - we were on a break, but I knew I crossed the line. Can't be undone now. Took a yr to get her back - and we've only been back together for a few weeks, so still working things out.

Your cancer - she was willing to give up being near home to be with you. Sounds like she really love you, but sometimes you gotta go with your gut instincts.

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Yes, can't be undone know but it is very hard for her. She already forgive u for sure but she will not trust you anymore. She is in war against her trying to accept and live with a guy that crossed the line. Doesn't mean she sçdoesn't want u. Trust, loyalty are the main rules mate. But everyone is diferent.. GL and treat her nice

But.. Lol u were in a break u said? Might be a chance.. But if was on a relationship forget it, she will not accepr. If she accepts it won't be the same for sure.

My girl is doing the same. She turned to second place in the dinner day and no more sex lol.. She knows how sex is important for me.. That...

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Posted by leo500

No, I didn't. But I'm a cancer male. gf is a leo.

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How old are u both?

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Posted by leo500
no, i told her yes, she should speak with him if she miss him. She turned red, i saw it behind her eyes.

"why do you put up with this kind of behaviour?" because i know that she isn´t this, she just needs to grow a lil bit, and understand that it is impractical she being my number 1 all the time. She should know that even if i am physically or geographically distant, she is my number 1. I´ll wait

Your dating an Aries, she will always have to feel number 1. She knows your weakness, you NEED attention like a child 24/7 and that ego stroking. She knows that she is using it against you, there is a reason she is acting like that and I dont think its cause ahe needs to grow up. Something is causing her to to set aside her own independence, what is it?

I have been dating a Leo for almost 2 years, that behaviour would not be allowed and shouldnt be allowed, unless he did something to make me feel that way and act that way. So get to the root of the problem.

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Emotional just text her saying i miss her body 😉 sorry for the scenario u might think. Put a red circle in the screen if u need lol kidding.

Told her miss her body and i will be waiting her door today to bite her neck. Somewhat violent but.. She answer: stop it, im working and i cant be home 6pm so i call it later.RBut she enjoys this i hope.. At leasrçt i am sincere, i want her today lol Rise fingers for me please guys

I think what your Aries is doing is different tho regarding the sex. I think both of you need to stop playing games with each other and sit and have a serious convo about how you feel and what each of you need from one another. Have you two had this type of convo yet?

Posted by crabbycrab76
I think what your Aries is doing is different tho regarding the sex. I think both of you need to stop playing games with each other and sit and have a serious convo about how you feel and what each of you need from one another. Have you two had this type of convo yet?

what do you mean? if we had these fights in the past? oh yes, 2 months of peace and 1 week of fight.. this is the balance usually. At least she respected me during the exams. There was peace and love 🙂

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Posted by crabbycrab76
I think what your Aries is doing is different tho regarding the sex. I think both of you need to stop playing games with each other and sit and have a serious convo about how you feel and what each of you need from one another. Have you two had this type of convo yet?

what do you mean? if we had these fights in the past? oh yes, 2 months of peace and 1 week of fight.. this is the balance usually. At least she respected me during the exams. There was peace and love 🙂

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So yall resolved the whole *she not wanting me to go out*? Idk. Supporting you through your exams, and being jealous and not wanting you to be out with your friends are not in the same arena. I feel this will become more and more of a problem as time passes if you two don't both understand each other and what your needs are.

yes. She knows my needs of course. She is using them aginst me

Posted by leo500
yes. She knows my needs of course. She is using them aginst me

This is what I meant by playing games. Are you ok with her using your needs against you?

No im not. But the root was my fault too.. Thats why i didnt disconect.. YET

Posted by leo500
so, there are 2 options from now: I m gona lie to her from now. I´ll not tell her my plans since she can´t respect my space, and then during the day of the dinner or whatever she will know lastly. I am prepared for war lol

Or, i will put her again in her place and make her understand that i didn´t do anything wrong and her behaviour is bad, and i can not admit that. I will need to find attention in surf like ever 😉 luckily is coming a swell like wow! and i´ll be happy again.. it´s like sex 😉

You seem to have an accent.
Where are you from hun?
🙂

Posted by Rambunctious76
I don't know why y'all are bothering with this guy. He posted similar issues with Aries gf in the Aries forum, and he promptly got shot down from several directions because his story had gigantic holes in them.

True enough, a PM from him to a fellow Aries (now when you insult us, do you really expect us to help you, even in private?) revealed the holes in his story.

This guy loves the drama (him having water placements is of absolutely no help in that area) that happens between himself and his gf, and every statement he has made so far about his Aries gf is just to get y'all to validate his perspective on things.

Now I love Leos to death, but like every other sign on the zodiac, you guys also have the occasional douchebag drama queens.

Leo's are drama Kangs.
If that Aries gal didn't reciprocate his drama he would have moved on by now.

Sadly reminds me of my Aries ex boyfriend. I mean, it's fine to do things and be there for your partner, but that doesn't mean that they sign their life away to you. If that's the case then rent a partner or hire someone to be your partner. I don't think Aries energy people get this. Everything has to be tit for tat. I mean, I understand that everyone needs to feel appreciated, but one dang night— My ex would act like I committed a felony or that somehow I didn't love him, etc. I also notice that Aries people have this way of trying to sound off with this big BOOM and threats of leaving their partner, etc. My cousin does this shit with a Virgo guy that she's seeing. I mean, she's like one foot in and one foot out all because he doesn't proclaim loudly that she's everything that he wants. The hell!?!!?! I don't understand it and I accept the fact that as a Pisces, I'll NEVER understand this loud clanging emo charged way of trying to get what you want. I think the best way to get what you want is to influence and wait. Aries people can't wait for rain to fall to the ground before they start with all the drama over a delay in something..particularly the company of someone that they love. In my opinion, this is NOT love.

I understand what you're saying about the Leo wanting attention, but yet being independent. Oddly enough, that is something about Leos that I DO understand and respect. I do understand how while you want that person to give you some affection and to dote on you that it's great if they know how to kind of like...kiss you not goodbye, but see you later type of thing. I LOVE that aspect of the Leo energy, because then I can kiss Leo energy people with a "See ya later" and have the room/space to do my OWN thing....and by my own thing I don't mean cheating. smh I mean...just something that I want to do while not considering that my partner might not want to do that.

Posted by MsTeeq1974
Sadly reminds me of my Aries ex boyfriend. I mean, it's fine to do things and be there for your partner, but that doesn't mean that they sign their life away to you. If that's the case then rent a partner or hire someone to be your partner. I don't think Aries energy people get this. Everything has to be tit for tat. I mean, I understand that everyone needs to feel appreciated, but one dang night— My ex would act like I committed a felony or that somehow I didn't love him, etc. I also notice that Aries people have this way of trying to sound off with this big BOOM and threats of leaving their partner, etc. My cousin does this shit with a Virgo guy that she's seeing. I mean, she's like one foot in and one foot out all because he doesn't proclaim loudly that she's everything that he wants. The hell!?!!?! I don't understand it and I accept the fact that as a Pisces, I'll NEVER understand this loud clanging emo charged way of trying to get what you want. I think the best way to get what you want is to influence and wait. Aries people can't wait for rain to fall to the ground before they start with all the drama over a delay in something..particularly the company of someone that they love. In my opinion, this is NOT love.

I understand what you're saying about the Leo wanting attention, but yet being independent. Oddly enough, that is something about Leos that I DO understand and respect. I do understand how while you want that person to give you some affection and to dote on you that it's great if they know how to kind of like...kiss you not goodbye, but see you later type of thing. I LOVE that aspect of the Leo energy, because then I can kiss Leo energy people with a "See ya later" and have the room/space to do my OWN thing....and by my own thing I don't mean cheating. smh I mean...just something that I want to do while not considering that my partner might not want to do that.

Perfect.

I find the magnitude of the abhorrence of Arian energy to be quite ludicrous. How many Aries have all of you truly come into contact with? Have you ever considered that there are more relaxed, fair and perhaps even submissive Aries suns out there? I think Leos and Aries can be a great match. It just depends on collective energy between the two, and the placements in their chart.
This particular Aries sounds like she's smothering you. A good Aries would not be robbing you of your freedom, as we desire it just as much if not more at times. You're such a gentle and fair moon, you may be a bit blind to how unfair she's being to you. I'm a Libra moon, so I tend to please the other person and forget my feelings as well. I get it.
You need to stand up for yourself. Throwing such a fit over a night apart is insane. She sounds uber controlling and self-centered, and I don't think it has anything to do with her Aries sun; what's her moon? Her Venus and Mars?

Aries do not try to control their partners if their other placements compliment the energy. We can be a bit sensitive, irrational at times, and every sign has their selfish tendencies. But this is outlandish. You deserve better, clearly. You seem so respectful of her whereas she is completely lacking awareness of your feelings.

Posted by xomelindabelle
I find the magnitude of the abhorrence of Arian energy to be quite ludicrous. How many Aries have all of you truly come into contact with? Have you ever considered that there are more relaxed, fair and perhaps even submissive Aries suns out there? I think Leos and Aries can be a great match. It just depends on collective energy between the two, and the placements in their chart.
This particular Aries sounds like she's smothering you. A good Aries would not be robbing you of your freedom, as we desire it just as much if not more at times. You're such a gentle and fair moon, you may be a bit blind to how unfair she's being to you. I'm a Libra moon, so I tend to please the other person and forget my feelings as well. I get it.
You need to stand up for yourself. Throwing such a fit over a night apart is insane. She sounds uber controlling and self-centered, and I don't think it has anything to do with her Aries sun; what's her moon? Her Venus and Mars?

Her placements:

Aries Sun
Rising in Virgo
Moon in Taurus
Mercury in Pisces
Venus in Pisces
Mars in Pisces
Jupiter in Cancer
Saturn in Virgo
Uranus in Scorpio
Neptune in Sagittarius
Pluto in Libra

my placements:

Leo sun,
moon is in Cancer,
mercury is in Cancer,
venus is in virgo,
mars is in capricorn,
Jupiter is in Pisces,
saturn is in sagittarius,
urannus is in sagitarius,
neptune is in capricorn and
pluton is in scorpio.