I've come to the realization

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That I still love Scorp. Regardless of the fact that he doesn't deserve it.

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck!

Wow that sucks

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Sigh.

Yeah.

Sometimes you have to learn things the hard way. I recently let go of a person that I wouldve done anything for. Similarly, he didn't deserve anything I gave him but I'm walking away from it now.

Not sure why you're staying, but it really doesn't matter, whatever makes you happy. Just remember that your wants and needs deserve attention too. Here's an interesting article on emotional dependency. Check it out if you're interested.

http://www.howtoforgivepeople.com/how-to-overcome-emotional-dependency?fdx_switcher=true

Thanks, Magenta.

The Scorp is my husband. We have been separated since April. During this time, Ihave tried to fill up a strange void with several other men. For a while, it seemed to work with some..But, eventually, I've come to see I'm fighting a futile battle.

I need to let go of him.

Its just really depressing.

Posted by 037
Thanks, Magenta.

The Scorp is my husband. We have been separated since April. During this time, Ihave tried to fill up a strange void with several other men. For a while, it seemed to work with some..But, eventually, I've come to see I'm fighting a futile battle.

I need to let go of him.

Its just really depressing.

There's always that moment when things get quiet, and you realize that the change is real.

But you need more than 90 days to heal.... in the meantime, be nice to yourself.

The time and the distance (time, really) will allow for better perspective-- regardless of what

you ultimately end up doing.

??_

Posted by Libralula
Aw so I guess the mountain dude thing didn't work out?

😢

Hope things get easier for you though hun

Mountain dude is the reason why Ive come to this realization. He is still very much around. :-)

??_ Monty

Thanks so much. That helps a lot.

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by 037
Thanks, Magenta.

The Scorp is my husband. We have been separated since April. During this time, Ihave tried to fill up a strange void with several other men. For a while, it seemed to work with some..But, eventually, I've come to see I'm fighting a futile battle.

I need to let go of him.

Its just really depressing.

Why the need to 'fill up the void with several other men".. Can't you just use this time To mourn the relationship and use it for self discovery of a new you? I don't understand why people need others.. Just spend time on your own!!!

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Yeah, because everyone is perfect like you.

Posted by seraph
Is reconciliation with him still on the table?

if not, do you want it to be?

While I don't agree with the way you're filling up the void, at least the results thereof are telling you that that isn't the way to find resolution.

If reconciliation is not an option (or not one you want to make happen), then getting back into a relationship with yourself, outside the context of any other kind of relationship, might do a lot of good for you, though it might not be easy at first.

- I don't think reconciliation has ever been on the table. He left us, Seraph.
- At first, I did. I wanted us to work out. I pled for it. Now though, no.
- I'm imagining you think this void is sexual. Granted there's a part of me that wants that, but most of the reason no one is qualifying for the one weekend agenda is because I'm missing my best friend. I miss playing on the balcony, sharing our day. I am trying to find that person with the instant knowledge that I would rather stay in and cuddle than run out having 'fun'.

I want my best friend back. My Dominant who laughs at our mistakes. My brother to complain about my foiled orders to. My boss to tell me my work is a mess, but my assistant to bring me coffee while I sort the mess out. my lover to make me feel like the only woman in the world, but my friend to say not to get in over my head.

He's gone. Like he almost always likes, he's gone again. Does it matter to him that I'm stranded, or that my feet hurt because I'm eight months pregnant and need to sit, but also pee every 10 secs?

I think we would still be together if I hadn't gotten pregnant. That's when all our troubles began.

I'm not pregnant again.

Sorry. I slipped into the past like it was the present. Its just a profound memory from a little before Virgo was born. I can't get over it - and I re-live it every time I think about it.

But, on talking to Scorp: I'd rather not. I've begged enough.

Impulsiv. you might be right. Though, we both need to make some serious adjustments if we ever decide to reconcile.

I cant stand being abandoned anymore.

Monty is very right. It didnt hit me till Cancer mentioned I was unconsciously barreling through men because I was looking for him(Scorp).

I'm just gonna relax and let this wash over me. And if I end up loving him to my dying day, at least I know what's up.