Revelation from a male Lion

I've just recently linked up on facebook with an old friend who I grew up with. I woke up one morning and decided to look him up and add him as a friend. He responded immediately with lots of flattering remarks and how happy he was to connect with me again. He travels the world as a chef to rich people on their yachts...what a life! Anyway he has been doing this for nearly 20 years.

Our mothers were best of friends as we grew up, I think we were around 4 & 5 when they met and so we spent alot of time in each others company as our mums played the single parents and dating game. Of course like in most cases we had our times of curiosity playing games like kiss chase but nothing serious and we even went out one night when I was around 18 & he 17 and ended up kissing..nothing more. When I turned 19 I started going out with my future husband of 20 years. My friend stayed a friend throughout all those years, when he came back home from overseas he always looked me up and as a family friend I helped out when there was a tragedy in their family and always remained in his families life. I mean his mum was like a 2nd mum to me.

Now he has hit me with, he's been in love with me all along and held his tongue because I was married-I'm now separated after 3 1/2 years. It has taken me completely by surprise and I'm not sure exactly how to feel. We are really good friends & theres alot between us but I'm not sure if it goes further. It's possible... He has asked me to come to Spain, travelling Europe is part of a plan for me at some stage. He says things like we could be good together as we know each other well etc. And has been more verbal about his feeling than any man I've met, even saying, have I told you I love you. That may have been a comment not a statement though given the context of our conversation at the time.

Anyway what I want to know is Are Leo's like that? Do they let go of all their feelings, if they think they love someone. He is a very popular man with the ladies but never one to settle down, I thought. Are Leo men & Libran women compatible?

Do they let go of all their feelings, if they think they love someone.

YES....YES....YES, we are all about love, we desire it, we crave it, and we do achieve it!!

Dont think to much about leo/libra just go with it and see if its a connection or not. Just use the basics of astrology dont let it detour you from dating whomever you might fancy, no matter if they say you are not a good match, try it and see.

Give yourself some time to think it over and how you may feel about him. Maybe you should get together over dinner or something and have a chat, then you can base your decision after the two of you have talked a little more and come to some understanding of what you want or dont want.

Thanks lovage, my initial assessment will be through internet as he is in Spain and I in Australia...so far although the conversations are interesting I've picked up on the me me me!

He does have a lovely way with words and flattery and I'm lapping that up but also women throwing themselves at him and that would never sit with me, too insecure with that from previous relationships.

Something else he said made me wonder if he is looking to just fuck me because he's always wanted to and wants to scratch that itch...

I dont know, confused, but it's not something I'd do without really feeling secure about and wanting to. I think the fact that we have been good friends all our lives is making me as a Libran really weigh up the situation as he would be one of the last people I'd want to hurt.

Yes that's where I'm at, I dont want to spoil the friendship we have over a fuck!!! Not sure if he is NOT going with other women at this stage, we have only just in the past 2 weeks been talking online and I wouldn't expect him to stop living with nothing solid. He is making suggestions that if anyone can make a relationship work it is people like us that have a solid friendship base 1st then lovers 2nd.

He's tops when it comes to most of what I like in a man, educated, funny, travelled, easy to talk to and very familiar but it's hard getting past the almost brother/sister feelings. That may never happen...

so the real truth comes out, men just dont know when to keep their mouths shut, instead of him just trying to get to know u..his dick is doing all the talking for him actually. so he wants to fuck u and then what?

i agree with the both of u, the friendship isnt worth it because once u cross that path it might not be the same u might lose one another.

sweets, how do u know he has alot of women? are u curious about him, not in a romantic way but just friendship way? i tink he stirred up something within u..he has u thinking about him 🙂 keep communication open maybe another time or place..

Lovage, I dont think I've explained clearly.

I've grown up with him since we were 4 & 5. We were together every week several times a week in fact through til we were about 14 and our mother's parted ways, but we lived in the same neighbourhood and often bumped into each other. As a teenager, he was very popular with the ladies and ever since I have known him, he has been. He used to tell me about the girls he was with (through high school years) and when he visited from overseas, (in his 20's) has stayed with one gf at our place( my husband and I.) I haven't seen him in 10 years now.

On his facebook, I've seen lots of comments from girls that he has met during his travels pleading for him to come back and visit. (of course I dont know the reason why they have asked...but think it's fairly obvious)

His revelation, stating he was in love with me all along has caught me totally off guard as I never picked up on anything but friendship! My intuition is saying I dont think he would be just wanting to fuck me..this is what he wrote

And hey, I always thought great things about you .....I was so in love with you for
sooooo long but you were married and so I kept it too myself. I don't think there is
anything wrong with that.....but you can take it as a true compliment xxxxxxxxxxxxx
from an old love. I think there was a great spark between me and you xxxxxxxx
ok bed time good night !!!!!x


However, 1. I'm not sure and 2. Can a man that has lead such a life ever really settle down.

Because, if I went down that track I'm a one man women and would surely expect the same!

its a difference between talking and really doing,,easy to say such stuff,,when it might no be the same when the everyday boredom sets in..i would consider him a nice friend and someone to sleep with,,and then just go from there

Problem there is crossing that line...I find it very hard to sleep with someone and not fall for them at somestage, which can happen very quickly with some. Maybe this could be the perfect FWB's...but it's a hell of a long way to travel for the benefit part! lol

hahah yes shure is,,but i wouldnt take it seriously,,imagine all the hussle of living in different countries.. *headache*

Yeah I've thought about that too, migrating to Auss was a biggy for me and I wouldn't want to live anywhere else permanently. Going to Europe would just be for travel & to see as much of the world as I can.

Maybe it's just something he wanted to get off his chest, idk.

Still I know we'll keep in contact and our paths will cross again at some point... I guess if he really means what he says then he'll make it happen.

sweets..

got it now, alot of history!

you should let him know that you just cant sleep with him and then call it a day...let him know that you are looking for something real and true thats meant to last..and definitely let him know that all those women will have to vanish...if he's really that smitten with u he can do it if he truly only wants u.

you set the pace and see if he bites, then if not..well stay as good friends. but de does appear to really like u and maybe he is hoping to get some kind of reaction from you..😉

but u should get together for dinner and talk...face to face.

kudos to you because you are protecting yourself and not just jumpi in....what are ur instincts teliing you to do?

Your relationship comes across as being a rather blocked taboo oriented one.

Yes ike I'm indecisive but I know I'm worth it...and he obviously has seen that. He is the well tracelled one with the pick of women from round the world! So waiting is a must for me🙂

@ Robin "blocked taboo" 2 weeks ago he was a brother from another mother and today he's asked me to consider the possiblity of a "idk"

that's what I said to him lovage, 'my head hurts trying to figure this out and seeing we are worlds apart I'll leave it til we are in the same room together...' he didnt appear to like that answer and joked about whether we would be fucking each others brains out or sipping coffee chatting and just wondering!

to which I replied the coffee and chatting has always worked in the past...

Needless to say I haven't heard from him in a couple of days although we have both been online...

Am I being too insensitive, because I cant have all the answers?

sweethearts,

I agree with others on this thread when they say that the leo/libra match is legendary. I am a leo woman who has crossed paths with many libra men throughout my life. however, the librans' tendency towards indecision could be quite exhaustive to a leo. leos are very impatient when they know what they want and are struggling to attain it, but when truly in love we will stick around (sometimes unbeknownst to you). when a leo feels rejected, it weighs heavily on their ego which may cause them to retract or appear aloof. this may be the reason why he has not contacted you online. since you and your leo have known each other for years, i would believe it when he says that he loves you. a leo has to be absolutely sure that you can match his/her love, loyalty, and devotion before even thinking about lowering their guard enough to say "i love you." my advice is to stay true to yourself, but if you really think this is someone you can potentially be with, don't make him wait too long. however, make sure his assertions are serious and not all about sex. saying "i love you" is nice, but actions speak louder than words.

Thanks slowdance, I think I will only know for sure when I see and spend sometime with him, at this stage I'm not going to be flitting half way around the world to find out, (I have commitments, ie: children, job, finances) but I think he often goes home for Xmas and Aussie is really close to NZ so he can easily come to me.

Another thing he said was inevitably we will always be in each others lives as "good karma" will throw us together, so even if I have hurt his pride a little for now I dont believe he will cut me off completely.

He is a good man and if we were together yes I think it could be good but I have to know that my love is not just a brotherly love I want to be "in love"


when a leo feels rejected, it weighs heavily on their ego which may cause them to retract or appear aloof

YES most definietly my friend, he's so use to getting everything he wants esp girls I can see this has hurt his pride but then that is the way I handle things when I dont know the answers...I just let it slide for a bit or even joke around til I can make a decision...the right decision for me.

Ok we had a chat online today, I saw him there & said hi, & he said he was just writing me a letter! ha

We have decided to meet up in NZ in Feb, he'll be there for 4 months, working holiday and building around his home. He also wants me to come to Europe when he goes back but I'm sooo overwhelmed with everything, I'm saying slow down!! Nothing has happened yet and might not! I told him I'm not the type to sleep with random guys and havent been with anyone for 6 months but he still insists when I asked if i would have my own room...you'll be sleeping with me darling! I'm really not use to someone so dominant, I've always thought I wanted that...be careful what you ask for! He didnt even flinch when I joked about him paying for me to come visit...in fact he said where do you want to meet in NZ or Europe?

It's really hard to get through to him that I'm coming to see if it might work but he's so convinced it will it's a little scary to me! I guess he can only but throw me out in the cold if I dont want to go any further but I guess that's where our friendship has to kick in!!! hahaha

How do I make this Leo slow down? He has sent me 3 songs through youtube...

I'm yours - Jason mraz
love is stronger than pride - Sade
kiss of life - Sade

All with very strong love song lyrics. The pressure to return his love is overwhelming & I'm worried if I can't and that I may break his heart! I've asked him to slow down am I saying it the wrong way? I've also said we should get to know each other again first but doing it over the net is hard as with 8 hours difference between our worlds he's awake when I'm sleeping and visa versa.

How do I get through to him without hurting him that he's scareing me?

Note the song "love is stronger than pride"...

Goddess maybe in his eyes so in saying that, that is nice, but if I say he's a turnoff then that would hurt so I couldn't do that!