should i/ can i tell leo i miss him?

so leo has decide to demote us to friends about 3 weeks ago..

after i tell him as long as he's happy.. to be in a rs or not doesn't really matter.. he came back last week came back telling me he miss me and wanted to see me but couldnt as he's working....
when he tells me he miss me, i didnt tell him the same.. all the while i remain friendly but distant with him.. texting him like a friend..

then a few days before the date, he say he cant as he has work on that day, i told him it's ok and to cheer up...

later that night he sang me a song, song lyrics is saying i have changed, not as warmed and affectionate as before..
as in he wants to be friends, so i treat him like one..

i didnt mention the lyrics, i just take it as he just wants to sing to me, which he often does..

so i told him,' gald to hear you sing, still having a nice voice' and had some friendly chat.

and so today i kinda of miss him, feel like telling him that..

can i tell him?

No

Guard your heart, sister.

At least, you know where you stand with this man now. Don't rock the boat.

Tell him?

So far, you've been demoted and had your date canceled

with no reschedule-- so...

No.

It's hard to just remain friends with someone you have feelings with. Been there before, and it's a very hard thing to go through. It's either you bare your soul and hope he feels the same, or say nothing and slowly torture yourself emotionally. Fuck it! Tell him. Life is too short not to be true to yourself. If nothing comes from it, at least you can know you tried.

'It's hard to just remain friends with someone you have feelings with.' i raise both hands to agree!!

i'm trying to be strong.. just having my weak moments now..

he knows i like him, and i know he likes me but not enough to take it up to another level.

yesterday, i posted a qoute,' it's funny how 1 truth, 1 lie,1 text, 1 song,1 person can change your mood.'
he commented,' i'm here to change your mood 🙂'

seriously i dont know what he's thinking.. just wanting some attention?

Posted by Ssupes

Posted by Montgomery
Tell him?

So far, you've been demoted and had your date canceled

with no reschedule-- so...

No.

Sounds like he friend zoned her, realized he messed up and trying to win her back.

He cant re-schedule until she recognizes his efforts.

click to expand

i dont think he feel that he messed up after friendzoning me..

more like he wants me to give him the same attention and affection like before..

because after he friendzone me, i withdraw all my attention on him and he came back a few days trying to be the same as before, and when i tell him i need time.. he reply, 'only as friend, why need time?'

tell me what he wants.. loll

of course, if he realise he has made the wrong decision to friendzone me will be great 😉
but i doubt that for now.. loll

Posted by Ssupes
Well, he did friend zone you. No doubt about that.

Now, he's pursuing you, correct?

If he is pursuing you again then what I have said should be correct, coming from a fellow Leo.

i dont think he's chasing me.. maybe he's just being friendly..

l thought leo are famous for being direct and straightforward?
in the beginning when he's chasing me, he texted me everyday.. but not now.. he cant be leaving comments just like that..

anyway, i also know that he's talking to other girls on social site..

he's a sweet guy, but i guess also a typical leo charmer..

Posted by regulus
Also, if you're basing it on sun sign alone, you're not going to really get anywhere.

i dont know his time of birth, but this is his birth chart if it helps:

Zodiac in degrees
Sun Leo
Moon Libra
Mercury Virgo
Venus Leo
Mars Scorpio
Jupiter Capricorn
Saturn Scorpio
Uranus Sagittarius
Neptune Sagittarius
Pluto Libra
Lilith Pisces
Asc node Gemini

Posted by regulus
Leo's are cats, you're the mouse.

he's busy catching other mouse now. loll

Posted by Ssupes

Posted by bullbullgirl

Posted by regulus
Leo's are cats, you're the mouse.

he's busy catching other mouse now. loll

Then your still friend zoned and he's just making sure your friendship is good. He's being nice to make sure your not mad at him.

click to expand

Most likely this is the case as he's on social chatting site..

He's so funny, though he friendzone me, he gets unhappy that I'm on the site too.
He says I must be talking to other guys, but he's the one chatting with girls if not he won't be in that site.
but I tell him, 'but you say I'm your friend.' Then he try to laugh it off and say wish me luck. Sigh.

In the beginning, he add me in fb and says will be active on there for me.
But now, he's hardly on fb and is rather active on the social site.

Sometimes, I really wish what you say is true, he's trying to chase me back.

But I can't live in denial.

🙂

Posted by regulus
Also, if you're basing it on sun sign alone, you're not going to really get anywhere.

Ah ha!

This. 🙂

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. How long were you in a relationship? If you are unsure about the current status be strong enough to voice it out and no EXACTLY where you stand. And if being only friends with him causes you pain then walk away PERMANENTLY.. Cut ALL ties.. This is what I do but so many people are afraid to go through the pain that this kind of permanency holds so sit in 'friendzone' causing themselves even more long term pain.

He say he can't give me happiness that's why he doesn't want to carry on.

I will be strong! It's just hurt that he gives up without trying.

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by regulus
Also, if you're basing it on sun sign alone, you're not going to really get anywhere.

Ah ha!

This. 🙂

click to expand

He seems to have most of the obvious leo traits. Lol

And apparently, Leo like attention, but do not give them too much, not until they have catch u.
Is that right?

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by bullbullgirl

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. How long were you in a relationship? If you are unsure about the current status be strong enough to voice it out and no EXACTLY where you stand. And if being only friends with him causes you pain then walk away PERMANENTLY.. Cut ALL ties.. This is what I do but so many people are afraid to go through the pain that this kind of permanency holds so sit in 'friendzone' causing themselves even more long term pain.

He say he can't give me happiness that's why he doesn't want to carry on.

I will be strong! It's just hurt that he gives up without trying.

Maybe he did try but whatever efforts he made, seems like it was not enough for you ie 'he said he can't give me happiness that's why he doesn't want to carry on'!

So let him be.. Leo's need attention and admiration like the air that we breath.. Leos are warm and generous to the ones they love but if they feel they are not being appreciated or no matter what they do is enough, they will take it to someone who will appreciate them and they are never short of admirers. It's very hard for a Leo/leo enhanced person (I have leo rising and moon) to let go of someone they have chosen as their standards are usually high ie not anyone will do.. So trust me in that it is just as hard for him to have had to come to this decision.

click to expand

he cant give me happiness because his work requires alot of his times and he has no time for me and he feels it's unfair for me..
and he keep thinking that he's not good enough for me.. that i deserve someone better..
i never once put him down, i even told him why i like him..

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by bullbullgirl

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by regulus
Also, if you're basing it on sun sign alone, you're not going to really get anywhere.

Ah ha!

This. 🙂

He seems to have most of the obvious leo traits. Lol

And apparently, Leo like attention, but do not give them too much, not until they have catch u.
Is that right?

The attention you give to a Leo has to be genuine not fake!! Games are not for Leos. Genuine admiration and attention to them as individuals and getting to know their personalities will get them to warm to you. They are warm hearted being. Appreciate their warmth and genuine loyalty. Leos along with the taurus are the most steadfast loyal generous people on the planet. The type of people that you want to make an effort to keep because once you are theirs they are loyal to the core.

click to expand

he knows i'm real and true to him..

he's so warm and sweet..

if it doesnt meant to be, it's ok... i cant force anyway..

i just want him to be happy.

'Okay, so you're dealing with a Leo sun/venus. I have both of these. I'm not gonna lie. Unless I'm head over heels, I'm a little bit flaky. A realization I was reluctant to admit in younger years, but I'll own up to it now. There has to be a super deep connection. I will try at first, but if I know it's not going to work, I won't waste more than a few months, if that, in the situation. If this combo is needing some attention, they may keep coming back around out of sheer boredom. If you were friendlisted, then my guess is he came back because he wanted his friend. We may be flaky, but we're not liars, so I'm thinking you should take his word on it. He's mercury Virgo, probably a pretty hard worker, so I doubt he's lying about that aspect, either, or just using it as an excuse. Leo sun/mercury Virgo combos don't tend to communicate or get back in touch, either, unless they actually want to. That combo is known for just not responding to you, or just disappearing. Super flaky.

However, Leo sun libra mooners are going to be dreamy, optimistic, and super charismatic. Add that to a leo venus, and this guy probably oozes charm. You're drawn to him because everybody is drawn to him. He's a Scorpio mars. Mars is in it's home here, so you're going to feel a magnetic pull, most likely. Most people will be able to sense the Scorpio presence in this placement. Being that he's so charming, it's like he's going charm coming out of every available nook and cranny he's got going for him (i'll stop there before this gets gross). So it seems he does want you as a friend, he was honest there. He was also honest in his attempt to get back in touch with a friend. You're attracted because most people are probably attracted to this kid'




this is so him.. lol
i'm smiling when i read what you wrote..
you are quite spot on with him..
he is flaky when he's unsure which is me..

and he did mention before.. he doesnt really respond to his friends if the message are not important..
he will either not respond or respond days later..
but he will always respond to me.. that was before.. i'm not sure in the future...

he does seem to have that nature charm.. loll..

Posted by regulus
It seems to be his thing.

If you miss him, be his friend, if you can handle it. If not, walk away. Don't hang onto something out of hope, because my guess is while he does enjoy a chase, this guy is just being honest and missed your friendship. Don't overthink it with this one.

Also, it's very hard to say anything beyond the basics i just gave you without knowing where the signs fall in the houses, but this gives you a general idea of how he might be thinking, or why he might be acting the way he is. And as fun as all this is, take it with a grain of salt 😉 Best of luck with the situation!

guess he has already move on and really just see me as his friend..

i will do a closure on my side and try to move on..
it's just how long i take..
Taurus wear our heart on sleeves plus i have a cancer moon.. loll

🙂

Posted by Ssupes

Posted by bullbullgirl

Posted by regulus
It seems to be his thing.

If you miss him, be his friend, if you can handle it. If not, walk away. Don't hang onto something out of hope, because my guess is while he does enjoy a chase, this guy is just being honest and missed your friendship. Don't overthink it with this one.

Also, it's very hard to say anything beyond the basics i just gave you without knowing where the signs fall in the houses, but this gives you a general idea of how he might be thinking, or why he might be acting the way he is. And as fun as all this is, take it with a grain of salt 😉 Best of luck with the situation!

guess he has already move on and really just see me as his friend..

i will do a closure on my side and try to move on..
it's just how long i take..
Taurus wear our heart on sleeves plus i have a cancer moon.. loll

🙂

I'm willing to bet that Leo will give you closure if you need it.

click to expand

He will. It's not like he's stringing me now or leaving me hanging.
It's me.

And I have done my closure. 🙂

I write a goodbye poem wishing him all the best and that love someone is not to own him if that's not his wish, love someone is to set him free, and also to set myself emotionally free from him.. he read and acknowledge with a crying face.

I still likes Leos..
I have a few leo friends and they are wonderful people..

🙂

Posted by bullbullgirl

Posted by Ssupes

Posted by Montgomery
Tell him?

So far, you've been demoted and had your date canceled

with no reschedule-- so...

No.

Sounds like he friend zoned her, realized he messed up and trying to win her back.

He cant re-schedule until she recognizes his efforts.

i dont think he feel that he messed up after friendzoning me..

more like he wants me to give him the same attention and affection like before..

because after he friendzone me, i withdraw all my attention on him and he came back a few days trying to be the same as before, and when i tell him i need time.. he reply, 'only as friend, why need time?'

tell me what he wants.. loll

of course, if he realise he has made the wrong decision to friendzone me will be great 😉
but i doubt that for now.. loll

click to expand

What he wants from you.lol reminds me of this song i just heard an hour ago.


Whataya Want From Me : Adam Lambert : Lyrics!:

Posted by bullbullgirl

Posted by Ssupes

Posted by bullbullgirl

Posted by regulus
Leo's are cats, you're the mouse.

he's busy catching other mouse now. loll

Then your still friend zoned and he's just making sure your friendship is good. He's being nice to make sure your not mad at him.

Most likely this is the case as he's on social chatting site..

He's so funny, though he friendzone me, he gets unhappy that I'm on the site too.
He says I must be talking to other guys, but he's the one chatting with girls if not he won't be in that site.
but I tell him, 'but you say I'm your friend.' Then he try to laugh it off and say wish me luck. Sigh.

In the beginning, he add me in fb and says will be active on there for me.
But now, he's hardly on fb and is rather active on the social site.

Sometimes, I really wish what you say is true, he's trying to chase me back.

But I can't live in denial.

🙂

click to expand

Same Thing.

Read my long posts from the lately topic:
Leo and Aquarius roller coaster.


I'm afraid we might have gone through the same problem