How to be a tough Leo?

Dear Leos or any other sign who understand the leo,

This is a weird question, but i guess there are some leos who already ask this to yourself. As a Leo male, I am very generous, I am friendly and I believe in every one who surrounds me. Stupid? no, because of my ingenuous type I experienced the cold feeling when you believe that you are surrounded by good people but then you get hurt.
I am not saying that every Leos are like me, including me, I can smell at distance people who I dislike, and I already hurt some "girlfriends". But what I mean is that when we Leos are in love, true love, we become very sensible. It is the unique time when a Leo is vulnerable, because we completely lost our power when in love and if the partner doesn't love us, we??ll get hurt. Basically, when in love we lost that power stance and we become an inofensive cat. It's like a double personality. At the begining we are like stone, but when they catch us we lost our forces and surrends completely to her.

So my question is a lil bit complicated. I want to know how to avoid that? I want to be tough, cold and secure even when I am in love for someone. Other signs can do this, they apparently are in love but they remain "cold" as if something bad occurs in the relation, they will remain almost intact, at least apparently.

I read somewhere that the Leo sign is the most powerfull sign of the zodiac, but the other signs dosn't need to be afraid of us because we will never use it in a negative way. This irritates me, because it is true, and I don't want to be like that. This is wonderful, but only in a movie (real world, real people aren't like this, so we need to be tough). In the same article, they also said that only a few Leos use that inate power in a negative way. So, how to be like this?

Basically I want to be capable to understand that anyone is not granted for us, that soon we all go away. I want to not give myself entirely for anyone, inclusively the loved ones.

They soon will prefere someone who is tough because they already catched the big Leo, and it isn't fun anymore. I also want to remind you, that I am a very confident Leo male, I can pick almost every girl that I want, and I am not a kid, I am 28 years old. This sounds a stupid topic, but even if I look great and I am confident and bla bla bla, i can't keep any relation because of this. When I meet "her" the they love us, but then, they discover our genuine side.. and they don't want that anymor

I really want to stop being like this. At this point, I am in love with an Aries girl, and I am starting to feel like that. She doesn't realize that yet because I am damn good hiding my feelings, but it is a count down for her to discover the good lil cat in me, that I know that she dislikes. She likes the tough guy, in fact she is always telling me that, that I finally am the guy who she was waiting for, the boy who "disrespects" her (not in a negative way). That guy, was me at the begining, but I am starting to fall for this girl.. but from past experiences, I will get burn when she discover the true warm leo inside me.

Sorry for the long text

Cheers

That's what I loved about my Leo ex, don't be scared of being yourself, only reason I broke up with him was because he was a bit selfish , he was strong when I needed him and soft when I needed him to be..love is about taking risks and being true to yourself

Thanks guys,

A correction note.
When I said that I become fragil when "catched" that doesn't mean that I will never be the guy I was at the beg. I just stoped to become "selfish" and arrogant and I believe entirely on her because I love her. I am the same guy, but now I am with someone who I love, and I surrend myself to her. On the other hand I can keep my moods with her. Sometimes I will be cold, but most of the times I am warm.. I think this is the really "Me".

Posted by JustALeo
It's called "FUCK THE BITCH" if a girl can't accept you for you there just fucking leave her. Don't change yourself or your character because you want to keep someone, c'mon Leo be smarter than that.

Yep. I agree 100%

Posted by JustALeo
You aren't alone, I've been in those shoes many times and my kindness was always taken advantage of. I've learned now that I'd rather be single than to be treated less than I deserved. The right one will come along and accept you for who you are and appreciate everything you are too.

Thanks mate.

To me vulnerability isn't weakness, it's the deepest kind of strength. It's also one that I admire in water signs particularly because they're willing and able to open themselves much more easily.

As far as how a Leo in love can be... I've such a strong sense of self that I'd never compromise it. Even in the deepest passions of love I'd never let go of who I am, never lose my identity or stop taking care of my well-being.

For me, that's unhealthy. I can be incredibly connected and vulnerable with someone, but that's also because I'm most myself then. I hide nothing, I show everything. I can surrender to feelings and let go of the fear, but I don't lose myself in them.

Does that make sense?

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If you have a lot of water placements in your chart, you can keep trying until you are blue in the face to become a "tough"leo but it just won't happen.

It won't happen because it's not in your nature.

You can want it, you can wish it, you can pray for it, you can pretend...but it just won't happen.

Believe me...I've tried.

Posted by seraph

Posted by leo500

So my question is a lil bit complicated. I want to know how to avoid that?

Much more important than getting something from others is the idea here that you're not good enough.

Why are you creating problems for yourself? None of what you want to do will work in the long run. You can TRY to "be" a certain way and lead the idea you have of yourself, of how others should see you, and life itself in a certain direction. And you might enjoy a but of success with it here and there. But you'll ultimately find that putting any effort into such things won't get you the satisfaction that you want.

It might very well get you what you want. And then after all that work and tiresome self-concscious strategy you'll end up wondering what the big deal really was, and even that you would have probably been better off without it.

My recommendation:

Worry about these "issues" full steam. Because in your case even if I tell you otherwise and a thousand angels sing it with me in unison, it still won't prevent you from making a big production of it for yourself. So the solution to all this will only come with time and experience.

Go do whatever. Go strategize about how to make yourself more appealing to others and how you can get validation from life because of the fake "void" in that you only *think* that you have that needs to be filled. It isn't actually there. It doesn't exist. You put it there.

But go spend time on this self-created problem. You'll do it anyway.

Until finally, at some point, you'll stop worrying about this nonsense. Because it'll have gotten tiresome. And you'll see that what you have gained isn't actually what you wanted at all, but that, rather, you got lessons learned. In which case, rejoice, because you'll have gained something after all.

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Hmmm

I was just going to say

Maybe don't date an Aries...

😄

wow.. only good leos here? Still waiting... where are you badass leo? 😉

Hi Seraph.

Yep. I'm very sorry for my English. Im from Italy, and my english is still in the beginning. Anyway, that's one of the best sentences I read on this forum, but the last comment was really poor. I should not answer you because of that but...
Your recommendation is simply perfect because i know it's the true. On the oher hand, i am not a fake lion, I love to be myself 100% but it's in my blood to show some armor at the very beginning (maybe for protection purposes, i don't know, that's who i am). Apparently they like that, maybe only in italy, but then I usually stop being like this character when i really love them. After all it is normal, when you like someone, you usually treat them well, correct? But I've learned that in some cases if you want to keep them in your life, you need to be tough with them, that's part of the job, i guess. So my difficulty here is, and I didn't find any help yet. I really want to be tough sometimes, not always, with the people who I love, because i think this is part of the job..

Posted by seraph

Posted by Montgomery

Hmmm

I was just going to say

Maybe don't date an Aries...

😄

😉

Or that.

And congrats on wading through that grammatical catastrophe.

I reread it now, and... oyyyy.

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Ahh we'll just call it conversational typing,

and it's perfection.

🙂

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Posted by UntamedLeo
To me vulnerability isn't weakness, it's the deepest kind of strength. It's also one that I admire in water signs particularly because they're willing and able to open themselves much more easily.

Even in the deepest passions of love I'd never let go of who I am...

I am gonna dxp-wife you before anyone else can get to you.

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Can't imagine anyone better to get my feels than a Leo Sun/Cancer Moon.

So I'll consider myself DXP-bagged and tagged. 😉