HappyCapper
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Would you leos lie about being jealous?
Posted by HappyCapper
Simply put, there is this guy who I have know for a long time, but the one thing I don't get about him is regarding jealousy. I think he is jealous, but he claims not to be. Normally, I think he is a very honest guy, both in general and about his feelings, but I can't help but thinking that he is lying about this one, hence my question.
What's your experience?
Would you scorps lie about being jealous?
By HappyCapper
"Simply put, there is this guy who I have know for a long time, but the one thing I don't get about him is regarding jeal..."
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by HappyCapper
Simply put, there is this guy who I have know for a long time, but the one thing I don't get about him is regarding jealousy. I think he is jealous, but he claims not to be. Normally, I think he is a very honest guy, both in general and about his feelings, but I can't help but thinking that he is lying about this one, hence my question.
What's your experience?
Yes, I posted it first in the scorpio section since I have a discussion about this guy in the Astrology section, and in that discussion it came up that it would be the guy's strong scorpio placements and aspects that would cause this potential jealousy, hence I posted it on the scorpio board first. The scorpios suggested that I should write it here instead since his sun sign is leo, so I tried that.
Would you scorps lie about being jealous?
By HappyCapper
"Simply put, there is this guy who I have know for a long time, but the one thing I don't get about him is regarding jeal..."
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@Montgomery
Yes, I posted it first in the scorpio section since I have a discussion about this guy in the Astrology section, and in that discussion it came up that it would be the guy's strong scorpio placements and aspects that would cause this potential jealousy, hence I posted it on the scorpio board first. The scorpios suggested that I should write it here instead since his sun sign is leo, so I tried that.
Yes, I posted it first in the scorpio section since I have a discussion about this guy in the Astrology section, and in that discussion it came up that it would be the guy's strong scorpio placements and aspects that would cause this potential jealousy, hence I posted it on the scorpio board first. The scorpios suggested that I should write it here instead since his sun sign is leo, so I tried that.
Posted by seraphPosted by HappyCapper
Simply put, there is this guy who I have know for a long time, but the one thing I don't get about him is regarding jealousy. I think he is jealous, but he claims not to be. Normally, I think he is a very honest guy, both in general and about his feelings, but I can't help but thinking that he is lying about this one, hence my question.
What's your experience?
Why do you think he actually owes you an answer (honest or otherwise) about this?
You aren't his mother.
What kind of a question is this in the first place? Did you actually ask him such a thing?click to expand
Yes, I asked him if he was jealous. How is that strange?
Not jealous in general, ofc, but about a couple of other guys.
@seraph
"The strange part is that you're expecting a serious reply.
We ASK such things rhetorically.
We ACCUSE (though not indict seriously) someone of this already knowing the answer.
But you're treating this like he owes you an answer/explanation about something that's very intimate, and quite possibly uncomfortable or embarrassing. You don't press someone about such things unless you have just cause to do so."
Ofc, I wouldn't have asked if I didn't have a reason to. Leo looked as if he wanted to kill the guy twice, turned up at places veeery conveniently and also gave a few remarks that suggested jealousy, and out of respect for leo I wanted to know if he was jealous, so that I could keep contact with the other guy to a minimum. Leo said he wasn't jealous, and since he is normally very honest and upfront with his feelings I don't want to go around accusing him of lying. It's just that my gut feeling tells me otherwise, so I keep my eyes open in the matter. Just wanted to listen to your reactions in the matter, and reactions I got, so I guess that's good.
"The strange part is that you're expecting a serious reply.
We ASK such things rhetorically.
We ACCUSE (though not indict seriously) someone of this already knowing the answer.
But you're treating this like he owes you an answer/explanation about something that's very intimate, and quite possibly uncomfortable or embarrassing. You don't press someone about such things unless you have just cause to do so."
Ofc, I wouldn't have asked if I didn't have a reason to. Leo looked as if he wanted to kill the guy twice, turned up at places veeery conveniently and also gave a few remarks that suggested jealousy, and out of respect for leo I wanted to know if he was jealous, so that I could keep contact with the other guy to a minimum. Leo said he wasn't jealous, and since he is normally very honest and upfront with his feelings I don't want to go around accusing him of lying. It's just that my gut feeling tells me otherwise, so I keep my eyes open in the matter. Just wanted to listen to your reactions in the matter, and reactions I got, so I guess that's good.
Posted by Impulsv
Question? Is it done to guAge his interest in u?
Are u feeling not sure where he stands with u?
The question was not directed to him to guage his interest in me. Honestly, I think he is interested, and I am in him, but there is nothing either one of us can do about that atm, for reasons out of our control, so I don't even want to have that discussion with him atm.
I know he likes me; he is my best friend. We call each other almost every day and see each other often. The question about if we should get back together again(yes, he's an ex) is quite scary to me, because I don't know if that can ever happen and neither does he, so we don't discuss it. I don't know where he stands in the way that I don't know if he has given up or not. And it wouldn't be fair for me to ask, since I couldn't do anything about a "yes" answer now anyway. I really don't want to string him along.
@Seraph
""Leo said he wasn't jealous"
Why would you expect him to admit that he is? You said you want to be respectful by asking whether he's jealous, even though it's a disrespectful thing to ask in the first place.
I would have hoped that he would admit it if he was, yes. That's why I asked. Still don't understand why the question is disrespectful. I don't like playing games, I don't want to assume things that may or may not be true, so I asked him straight up. I understand that the topic may be sensitive, which is why I wouldn't even blame him for lying about this. But I still would like to know the answer, so that I can act accordingly.
"Leo looked as if he wanted to kill the guy twice, turned up at places veeery conveniently and also gave a few remarks that suggested jealousy"
Then do you really need to ask?
Yes, that's a very good point. I just trust him so very much and to doubt his word would be accusing him of lying which I don't want to do lightly.
You might tread with a little more care and just ask how he feels about it. Or how he feels about *you*."
I can't ask him how he feels about me, for above stated reasons. When you say that I should ask how he feels about it, do you mean how he feels about me seeing(NOT meaning dating) this other guy?
""Leo said he wasn't jealous"
Why would you expect him to admit that he is? You said you want to be respectful by asking whether he's jealous, even though it's a disrespectful thing to ask in the first place.
I would have hoped that he would admit it if he was, yes. That's why I asked. Still don't understand why the question is disrespectful. I don't like playing games, I don't want to assume things that may or may not be true, so I asked him straight up. I understand that the topic may be sensitive, which is why I wouldn't even blame him for lying about this. But I still would like to know the answer, so that I can act accordingly.
"Leo looked as if he wanted to kill the guy twice, turned up at places veeery conveniently and also gave a few remarks that suggested jealousy"
Then do you really need to ask?
Yes, that's a very good point. I just trust him so very much and to doubt his word would be accusing him of lying which I don't want to do lightly.
You might tread with a little more care and just ask how he feels about it. Or how he feels about *you*."
I can't ask him how he feels about me, for above stated reasons. When you say that I should ask how he feels about it, do you mean how he feels about me seeing(NOT meaning dating) this other guy?
Posted by seraphPosted by HappyCapper
When you say that I should ask how he feels about it, do you mean how he feels about me seeing(NOT meaning dating) this other guy?
Just ask him how he feels about the situation.
If he's your good friend but you don't intend for it to go further than that — but he does — then at some point you'll need to have a discussion about it anyway.
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I am very interested in him, but I can't do anything about it atm and taking that discussion may give him hope that we could be together. But for reasons outside of our control, I can not promise such a thing, which would make that line of discussion a bit cruel, imo. So I have to be just his friend and avoid any questions of the two of us together. Not exactly what I would have wished for, but I don't know what else to do atm.
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