Advice/input on conversation with Libra ex.

He came and got his stuff today. We talked. He wants to be on his own right now, said he doesn't think he will ever stop loving me. We're going to remain friends, hang out, talk, spend the night together, etc. I brought up the idea of staying together but not living together, he didn't say no right away like he did with staying, but he's going to consider it. He agreed that it is possible that we weren't ready to live together yet. Any and all input is welcome.

Posted by beautifuldiaster
I remember that feeling.

What happened?

I'm not exactly sure honestly. We've both been stressed lately, and been arguing a lot. I'm wanting to stay hopeful about the situation and the conversation we had, but I don't want to be waiting forever.

Posted by beautifuldiaster
I remember that feeling.

What happened?

He did hug and kiss me quite a few times before he left. I don't know if that means anything either.

Please help

What's your sign?

According to the other threads here, Libra's need a lot of space - they are an air sign after all.

What was it like living together? Did you fight a lot, get in each other's way?

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
What's your sign?

I'm an Aquarius.

Incomplete story is incomplete.

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
What was it like living together? Did you fight a lot, get in each other's way?

it was pretty laid back and chill. We didn't argue much until the last month or so. We started arguing about once a week right before we broke up. That was going on about a mo.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Incomplete story is incomplete.

It's not really incomplete. That's exactly what was said when we talked.

Stay friends but I advise keeping him arms length. Don't go out of your way to call and text, don't reply right away if he contacts you. Get on with your life, as hard as it may be. Once he sees you acting as an independent, you may have another chance if he believes he may lose you personally.

Posted by Asmith2988

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Incomplete story is incomplete.

It's not really incomplete. That's exactly what was said when we talked.

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No, it clearly is, seeing as you have posted nothing about the history, hence all the questions of the circumstances.

"He came by to get his stuff and I want to keep him around like a desperate teenage girl."

Okay, well what was the issue that caused the relationship to end? Is it actually ending since you basically outlined you two are going to continue acting like a couple but not live together? But then you also said you suggested trying but not living together... so what is really going on here aside from him wanting to use you to fuck until someone else comes along?

So yes, uninformative one, it is very much incomplete. You can't come here expecting advice with such empty information.

Posted by gemguyaz34
Stay friends but I advise keeping him arms length. Don't go out of your way to call and text, don't reply right away if he contacts you. Get on with your life, as hard as it may be. Once he sees you acting as an independent, you may have another chance if he believes he may lose you personally.

That's what I'm going to do. I'm not texting, calling, messaging, or anything of the like. I'm going to make it seem like I'm ok and moving on.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Incomplete story is incomplete.

It's not really incomplete. That's exactly what was said when we talked.

No, it clearly is, seeing as you have posted nothing about the history, hence all the questions of the circumstances.

"He came by to get his stuff and I want to keep him around like a desperate teenage girl."

Okay, well what was the issue that caused the relationship to end? Is it actually ending since you basically outlined you two are going to continue acting like a couple but not live together? But then you also said you suggested trying but not living together... so what is really going on here aside from him wanting to use you to fuck until someone else comes along?

So yes, uninformative one, it is very much incomplete. You can't come here expecting advice with such empty information.

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I don't want to keep him around like a desperate teenage girl, there's no reason to be an ass. Right now we are friends. The idea came up to consider still being together, but not living together, as we both agreed that we don't think we were ready to do so yet. We agreed that was rushed. The issue is that here recently we had been arguing a lot over stupid shit that wasn't worth arguing about. We've both been stressed and trying to deal with it on our own. I know him, he doesn't use people, he keeps his word and means what he says. There's no reason to assume shit either.

Posted by Sugarfoot
I agree with gemguy whole heartedly. There's nothing wrong with being friends, but strictly platonic. If he wants to be on his own for a while, then he should be. To me that shouldn't mean that he still gets all the benefits of being in a relationship without having the commitment.

If he wants to be single, let him be single.

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She outlines in her OP that they decided to basically still act like a couple despite splitting it off.

Both need to realize they also need to be AWAY from each other for a bit before jumping into the "friendship" roles. You can't break up and just "be friends" immediately after. It doesn't work like this.

So no, OP, no assumptions are being made. You're just making a fool out of yourself with this guy. "We're just friends." Yeah. Sure you are.

He's fine with being friends and you'll end up pining for him the entire time, hoping he changes his mind. Again, take some time away from each other before trying this whole "just friends" bit.

Posted by Sugarfoot
I agree with gemguy whole heartedly. There's nothing wrong with being friends, but strictly platonic. If he wants to be on his own for a while, then he should be. To me that shouldn't mean that he still gets all the benefits of being in a relationship without having the commitment.

If he wants to be single, let him be single.

That's what I'm doing. It's not like we broke up and the next day we're friends. We haven't spoken yet, and it'll be a while before we do so. No decision has been made permanent, aside from being friends, but even then, we're taking our time with that.

Posted by Sugarfoot
??"We're going to remain friends, hang out, talk, spend the night together, etc."

I was reacting to this part of the OP. I'm not saying that you should cut him out of your life completely, but I think that hanging out and spending the night is too much like still being in a relationship. As a Libra, I'm saying that you should give him the space he's asking for. Give him MORE than he's asking for. Let him see how that feels so he can be clearer in how he feels about either being with you or being without you. He won't know until he actually experiences that. Hope that makes sense.

Absolutely. The only contact we've had is me letting him know he forgot some stuff, and when he came to get what he left. He tried to leave something else of his here, but I made sure he grabbed it. We haven't really spoken except when he came over to retrieve stuff. We haven't hung out or anything like that. I plan on keeping it that way for a while. He has seen that I'm doing ok, and I'm fine, and I'm leaving it at that.