Am I making a mistake? Libra male with Libra femal

OK so I have recently got into all this Starsign and astrology thing and find it all really interesting. I have been looking back over all my past relationships (i'm 22 by the way) and have realised that all of them, apart from my current, have been with Libra men. None of them worked out mainly because we were both young and wernt at an age where we were ready to settle down, but I always got on great with all of them and found them really easy to talk to.

Recently I have been back in touch with my first real boyfriend (the joys of Facebook!) he was my first real love and we hadnt spoken for 6 years, we didnt end on good terms as he was horrible to me after we had split up. I recently bumped into an old friend who told me that the guy still talks about me so I decided that school was a long time ago and its time to bury the grudge.

I started talking to him again by just asking him straight what his problem was at school and if he had ever had any genuwine feelings for me which he said that he did but was just young and didnt want to settle down and always loved me as a friend, and the reason he was horrible to me is because I didnt want to be his friend after we had split (as obviously being young I was heart broken by the whole thing)and he was really offended by this. He then went on to apologise for the way he treated me and said he has a lot to thank me for and really missed me (which i took as missing me as a friend)

the more I speak to him the more I remember the reasons that I originally fell for him. He's a typical libra very good looking, charming as ever. but getting to the point he was really happy to hear from me. I know he has a girlfriend because my friend told me but he has not mentioned her to me once during our conversation. I am also in a realationship which I mentioned to him and then he didnt reply for a week. I jokingly sent him a message calling him ignorant and he messaged me back the next day.

All he ever seems to want to talk about is me and what I have been up to the last few years. when I ask him questions about him he replys to them but then just wants to talk about me again.

I've never really loved anyone as much as I loved this guy and what I am wondering is whether you think he likes me, or just feels a lot of guilt for the way he treated me back when we were younger? I'm in a realationship and would never cheat on my partener and would also not get involved with a man who is in a realationship.

But I cant help wondering whether I would be happier with the Libra guy. Is it just my indecisive nature thats making me feel this way? I really care about my current partner (he's a cancerian) we get on great together but think that maybe I have settled for someone I do not love because I dont want to be alone, which isnt really fair on either of us. I didnt realise I felt this way until I started talking to the Libran guuy again!

Sorry for the long post but would love to hear your comments

Thanks!

"All he ever seems to want to talk about is me and what I have been up to the last few years. when I ask him questions about him he replys to them but then just wants to talk about me again." It's a defensive mechanism/ they are trying to please you (seem interested, want to know) Watch out if a scorpio does that too you they are just trying to collet information to spew back at you. Anytime anyone I don't trust a 100% asks about my life I just flat out lie to them, I do the same with my boyfriend. It's no one's business just LIE.

I love libraa as friends tho!!!

Posted by Sagittarius89
"All he ever seems to want to talk about is me and what I have been up to the last few years. when I ask him questions about him he replys to them but then just wants to talk about me again." It's a defensive mechanism/ they are trying to please you (seem interested, want to know) Watch out if a scorpio does that too you they are just trying to collet information to spew back at you. Anytime anyone I don't trust a 100% asks about my life I just flat out lie to them, I do the same with my boyfriend. It's no one's business just LIE.

libras don't do that to try to please people. we do it because we don't like to talk about ourselves. well, i guess we do try to research to find out what to do to manipulate people into liking us, telling them what they want to hear, acting how they want us to act, etc.

i've had many crushes on libra boys over the years. i can't imagine the immense misery that would've been involved had i actually dated one of them.

libras are better off with somebody a little more forceful. with opinions and a personality and such. someone who can suggest a restaurant for our date, or even the idea of going to eat for a date, or even the idea of going on a date at all.

personally, i've got a thing for virgos.

(i love my libraness, but hey, we like to play devils advocate)

Thanks for your replies,

Im a Libra and I only ever ask someone a question if i am actually interested in hearing the answer (e.g I wont ask someone how they are if I really dont care.) Anyway think I'm going to not look too much into this one and jsut stay as friends with this guy. We get on really well and would love to be with him again, but we both played too many mind games when we were in a relationship together and there was far too much drama, which we both seemed to enjoy when we were younger lol.

Think I will stick with my cancerian, even though astrologically we are meant to be a bad match!

^ I think that is a good choice - look before you leap; throw caution to the wind only if you can live with the consequences!

Well, I can identify with mainly attracting Libras b/c as an Aquarius, I mainly attract them too. BUT, don't confuse getting closure & feeling good about it with still wanting/needing him. It sounds like you two had a lot of unfinished business back then & like you said, that should've been expected due to the fact that you both were young & inexperienced in the "love "department back then. I don't think that this guy wanting to talking about you both was a signal that he wanted to try something new with you. I think he was just giving you the closure & all the explanations that you didn't even realize you needed until now. He answered all those questions you'd been asking unconsciously, since the break up. Plus, don't be so terrified that you're still attracted to him in some ways. That's natural. After all, he WAS your 1st love & I'm pretty sure that he hasn't changed THAT dang on much in 6 years; it's natural for you to NOW still see some of the traits you originally liked him for from the very beginning. My 1st love, even though he's married, moved on & has a family now, at one point in time always wanted to talk about "us" every time we linked back up & had conversations. I never figured that out either. On 1 hand, he'd make it clear that he had moved on to someone else & that he was content BUT on the other hand, he'd still want to talk about "us" so much so to the point where I almost felt like he was trying to hint that he wanted another shot with me. I didn't realize it until later that Libras love talking about the past & anything they are most comfortable with, especially with their exes. It's not b/c they necessarily have some sort of hidden agenda or intention. They aren't ones to hate you & act like you never existed years later after the break up. In due time, when they've let go of the grudge, THEN they don't mind discussing what REALLY happend during the relationship. It's easier for them to give closure once they've FULLY removed themselves from people in the past

It's completely natural for a Libra to conversate with their exes years later & sincerely be interested in how that person is doing. Like I said, Libra's aren't heartless. Yes, while they may never want to be with you again, they still give credit where credit is due. They understand that regardless of the current circumstances, they can't overlook the fact that at ONE point in time, you meant everything to them. They'll always remember the good in people, thus when they come back years later to chat, it's only natural for them to only want to concentrate on the good things about the relationship. And that's why when you see a Libra years later after the break up, you can get confused. On 1 hand, they will not hesitate to tell you how beautiful you were AND STILL are, but then again they still somehow make it clear that they have moved on all in the same sentence/token. It can be pretty confusing to the ex/person talking to the Libra b/c those kind of conversations will always have the potential to open up old wounds. This Libra guy might've opened up an old wound that you thought was closed, when it fact it really wasn't. And since you may not fully be content with the relationships you've been in since him, it's only natural that when this Libran comes back, he looks 10xs more appealing than he normally would've for that main reason alone. I'm not saying that you should believe that all he's telling you now is bull BUT just make sure that you don't get the wrong impression of him & his intentions & that you don't allow yourself to emotionally re-attach to a situation that obviously wasn't meant to be. Instead of longing/craving for him specifically, take the good things that you loved about your relationship with that Libra & make sure that you look for those same kinds of things in future partners; that way you won't have to compare every new guy to your 1st love. If you keep doing that, your 1st love will always appear to be more GOLDEN than he really is.