How to out-Libra your Libra :)

Ha ha ha! I had such a fun time with this one.....

My honey agreed to come up to my brother's house for Thanksgiving. I was *so* excited! Then a few days later I got a call from a mutual friend of ours who translates for us (he's Slavic). Turns out honey was "uncertain" -- oh God! -- because his sister had also invited him for Turkey day. He also felt, with true Libran social awareness, that he might feel uncomfortable being the only non-English speaker there.

I was very unhappy for a few moments....but I've learned how to deal with these seething Scorp emotions -- detach! I told my friend to relay with him that I totally "agreed" with him, that I felt also that he might be uncomfortable, and he should definitely go to his sister's. Of course, this was contrary to everything I wanted, but I've learned, I've learned.....🙂

Well, apparently this helped the balancing act, because he left me a sweet message saying how much he loved me, and how he was definitely coming to *my* house.

We had a blissful time, getting wasted, and making out *everywhere*!

congrats.

I'm in love.

how long have you guys been dating?

Not long. Two months. First serious guy since my divorce. So, yes, I'm over the top...but I have my kids, so it doesn't matter so much.

so are you bouncing? this is the first serious guy since your divorce? it's a cloud 9 feeling, I'm sure....just keep your head screwed on tight and cling to your heart until you KNOW it's really love.

Thanks for the warning, hon, but you're talking a Scorp, and an older one, at that. I've been through early death of my mom, death of my sister, divorce, betrayal etc. etc. I *knows* about pain. For me, it's a good thing to feel alive and innocent and hopeful...we Scorps *need* that, after all the dark stuff it's usually part of our life path to deal with 🙂

This is very true indeed Eaglegirl. I sometimes think we scorps go through so much because we can deal with it and move on... There is a bond between as scorp girl/Libra guy that others will never understand. It is this secret world where only the too of you exist. Regardless of other communication barriers. It takes time to learn these guys and them to learn us, but if both parties put in the effort it may last for a very long time.

where only the two of you exist.

hey no problem, hon.

QS, I'm sure scorps have been through a lot, but I'm not sold that your sign endures more than other signs and deals with it and moves on. I say this from experience since my medical journey continues and I've put my trust in my faith. I too have been betrayed, I've lost loved ones, and I live in discomfort almost every day of my life - but, I'm not a Scorp.

all I'm trying to convey to you eagle is you've admitted this guy is the first guy since your divorce and regardless of your age, you are still capable of heartbreak. we fall in love with the idea of being loved again and we are blinded by the "he's too good to be true" phase. it's like a cloud that grows and grows but can go either one of two ways: it could diminish over time causing heartache and possibly resentment or it could develop a silver lining that locks in all the goodness you hoped for from the beginning.

Okay, OKAY, houston peach, this love relationship could turn out to be the pits. You are *right*. Now could you please go away and let me be *happy*? Because that's what I am.

QS,

You know how to affirm what I feel! Thank you, girlfriend....Yes, it does take time to get to know these guys. He's built like a football player, and yet, there's a tenderness and gentleness that is very deep. And the whole air sign thing is causing me to ponder. There's a lightness and delicacy even in his kisses that I'm still learning about...and I sense his intelligence gathering all kinds of information about me.....and also this wisdom and spirituality about life.

aww, telling me to go away. it's funny how people who don't hear or read what they're hoping for turn very defensive to someone only watching out for them because they've "been there".

more power to ya girlfriend.

per your request for me to "go away", I'm done with this thread. Carry on with the warm fuzzies, eagle.

I will, HP. And it's not that I don't appreciate your Taurean warmth, because I do, and have two very close Taurus girlfriends. (Who also drive me crazy with unwanted advice!)

Perhaps I need to explain how important it is for us Scorp women to deeply feel the love that we feel -- take it all the way in our imagination, even through the fire. The reason? Because it's healing. Love heals any wound created by the past -- so when we find love, however imperfect, we tend to magnify it, revel in it, and talk about it.

I hope this explains, Miss Peach.

***QS, I'm sure scorps have been through a lot, but I'm not sold that your sign endures more than other signs and deals with it and moves on. I say this from experience since my medical journey continues and I've put my trust in my faith. I too have been betrayed, I've lost loved ones, and I live in discomfort almost every day of my life - but, I'm not a Scorp.***

Uhhhh, HP, that comment wasn't personal. I was speaking of Scorps women only and their connection with a libra man, as Nic and thelibran (in one thread) mentions the bond and emotional tie that exists between the two, even after they end a relationship. Not saying no other sign or person in general for that matter, has endured opsticles. I am positive there are tons of people in the world who has gone through a lot more than myself. I was speaking of our personality and endurance and how we deal with things in general.

No problem Eaglegirl, I know too well about the connection and bond that even remains after it might end. There is this connection that might take a lifetime to go away even after both have moved on.

I have to out-scorpio my libra. And I love to read stories about you and your guy, eaglegirl.. for the fact that his birthday is the same as the one I'm seeing. If only he was half as sweet to me as yours is.

Curious ... you guys don't speak the same language and have a translator? how does that work?

it's basically all about the lust. you don't need to speak the same language for that! 😉

I think this could make it more complicated and maybe more meaningful because of this obstacle.

HP, I thought your comments were just fine. GLAD Eaglegirl has found someone. You never know how it will turn out. Those ecstatic feelings are so rare.

thanks, Atom.

Yeah, celebrate your love Eaglegirl... By the sounds of it, you deserve it. There should be more ecsatic feelings of this nature in the world...

Eaglegirl,

I felt the same way when love came my way again after a difficult divorce. I think it was because the new person in our life helps give us back our self worth in a sense. After something like a marriage ends we can't help but feel like we have failed in some way no matter what the circumstances were.

A marriage is a deeper connection to another person and it feels like a substantial loss when it ends. My mother once told me that it is just as difficult to leave a good relationship as a bad one because there is always loss experienced in either situation.

Our entire life dramatically changes after the separation in so many ways and on multiple levels. We struggle to recover and land on solid ground so that we may still be able to have some security and stability in our lives. This can shake even the most self reliant persons self confidence.

The loss of love and companionship we once had leaves us feeling like nothing is forever, and causes us to question if we were actually truly loved in the first place. So for me anyway when someone entered my life again and genuine caring was displayed, it reaffirmed that I am a person that is worth the effort of getting to know better. And that life can be a wonderful adventure with the right partner.

So yes I can identify on a personal level the electric feeling of being alive again and being important to another person. We may not know each other very well yet but my heart feels so happy for you as this is a time of magic and healing, em braise it and spread your wings for flight.

TW2

Twinflame,

Thank you so much. I resonated with everything you said. I guess only if you've been through it, can you understand.