ARG! Pisces need some advice from another Libra,

I have lurked for a LOOONG time but I am literally so confused I felt the need to egt some insight even though he seems like a typical Libra LOL>
Here is the scoop in condensed form.
GUy that I actually forgot I knew added me on facebook. We knew each other in highschool he had a big crush on me but we were more buddies than anything . Well, He started msg me on FB and I ignored them pretty much , . Finally one night we started chatting and it seemed like we had a lot in common. It had been 24 years since I had known him from HS. He lives about 2 hr away, divorced bachelor with 2 boys. I am single with 4 older kids.
Finally met up when I was in teh same town as him and the sparks flew .. Was only there for 3 hours but seemed like we had known each other for years. NO sex just super hot makeouts. I wanted to make sure it was not a booty call. He messaged me and was super attentive nearly every day. Had to be in the same town again so we met up same result no sex but we talked and more of what happened the first time. He even said he thought he was falling in love. huh? Anyway things have been weird. I cater parttime and knew he had his kids so I had tons of food that was extra so when I was in his town I dropped it by. He was super happy and messaged me that "You rock!" We loved it" and just small talk.
I may be reading into it too much but his texts to me have been different. He will be all serious and lovey dovey, Then change to short one word answers. I have been avoiding texting or talking to him.
He has never been mean but his responses throw me off and I dont know what to do most of the time. When we are together he says how much I relax him and we really do laugh. He has talked of what "we" will do in later years months etc. but then I wont hear from him for a few days. then get a text "miss me yet?" I jsut dont know what I should be doing. He is the most confusing guy I have ever met. The sometimes when I say whats up I get a msg back " sorry busy with work and just being me" then I get another a day later " YOu are awesome" Ugh is he confused or am I ? LOL

Just to clarify I need to know how I should be responding to him or not responding. LOL. I have even told him that I was very confused by him as no other guy that has ever liked me as much as he said he does has actd like him so I didnt know how to act. DO I ignore, play hard to get? I dont want him to think I am not interested and give up but I dont want to scare him away being too pushy. He keeps saying I ahve never met anyone like you that controls my thoughts and feelings, you make me feel crazy and in love.
IDK I am sooooo confused

I dont see a problem, he is contacting you regularly..why hold back and play games. Go with it. Problem with playing games is men and women play it differently and no one can actually read the other because of this and then most of the time it ends in failure!!!

Then you are left guessing why?

libras need to feel wanted and hate to feel needed. so just give him a bunch of praise. lots of flattery. some people are suspicious of flattery, but libras aren't. he might not feel like he really deserves it, he'll probably think that you're just so sweet for saying something nice, but just keep it up. you'll get him addicted. pisces are very good at getting libras addicted.

just act sweet and he'll be pushy enough for the both of you.

Well Sweethearts, It is jsut he isnt contacting me regularly now. He was for the longest time. Nothing strange happened, I didnt sleep with him etc. He is just almost non-existent more often now. He was almost waiting for me to get online, answer texts etc, Now it seems he has gone slightly cold? IDK I amy be worrying too much. I know he doesnt have other people in his life and he does work 5 days a week it is jsut weird how for the first 2 months he was very prominent then it dropped to me having to be the one that contacted him first. He sometimes responds , sometimes not .Just weird. Seems like once he started letting his feelings show he got scared or something but he doesnt want to drop the whole idea of us being together. He also wanted me to move to be closer but I am not real sure about that either
Ugh.
I guess I will let the time pass and see if he contacts me. But I dont want him to think I dont like him either.

So is the concensus that I should not contact him but wait to hear from him or should I jsut send him a little message like hope your day was good or etc. I jsut dont want to be too pushy,

How many times have we heard this— (hot/cold) Run through all the forums...

I believe he does need reassurance, give that to him and let him know when he knows what he wants you will be there for him. But dont go playing the I will only contact you if you contact me game. Men may not contact you for up to a week and to them it's a day but to us agony...

You know it is better to have loved and lost that not at all...look at it that way, what are you afraid of? getting hurt? Wont you get hurt if you never know what it could have been like, if you put yourself out there a little?

You're not young and neither is he...things are different as you get older, you've experienced the stupidity of the silly mistakes through previous relationships...what have you learnt? Use that wisdom.

LOL That is my problem I have read too many of the hot cold posts and it left me so confused as to whether I should be contacting him or waiting for him to contact me . He doesnt act like he dislikes when I jsut send hima random, How are you but then I might not hear from him for 4-5 days. I will go online and see he is online and wait just in case he is busy and he will never message me unless I make the first move. It is so weird. i am trying to use my senses from what I have learned but he is really stumping me. I jsut really dont knwo what where when or hu about if anything he said, says is real,. Sometimes he acts like he forgot what he already said by the next conversation.
In the beginning I asked waht his intentions were, his response was he gets excited to see me and when he sees pictures and thinks we have potential. I asked potential for what? his response" I am 42 I am looking for my sweetheart lover best friend . I am tired of being single and jsut out there by myself so there LOL" Then shortly after that he said Do you Love me? And then we met again.spent the night, no sex. I left and since then the contact has been minimal. Does he need space? Or does he need for me to be pursuing him. I have never had to do this so I am so out of the loop on what to do.

Well.. He just now texted me with his new number. I will jsut file it and wait I guess

libras can be very passive. especially if they like someone. afraid to do something wrong. afraid that one wrong move will fuck everything up completely. and so they just sit there and hope that you'll come to them, and that if you don't, you didn't really like them that much.

things might not work out, but if you seem genuinely interested in libra, it won't be because you came on too strong. it'll just be incompatibility.

it seems like you're sending out mixed signals. some people like a chase. libras are lazy. stop playing games.

Ok Thanks. I know he used to tell me that he loved turning his phone off after work and seeing that I texted him a random Thinking of your or a nice comment that did not need a reply. . I guess I will just fly by the seat of my pants at this point. I dont think I will ever lose him as a friend even if nothing comes of this. I just dont want to scare him off by being too forward but I also dont want him to think I dont like him if I jsut give him too much space.
I can tell you this is the most confused I have ever been in a relationship in my life. I am serious. I have never had a guy be so vague and then the next day so very to the point about how he feels about me. then back to vague bordering on uninterested LOL. It is crazy to say the least.

Wait.

Has he come to your town to visit you? Have you gone out to on an actual date? Has me made any effort -gone out of his way- at all? If not, them just words baby.